Help with some insight on Scorpio Males?

Hi! I recently became really interested in astrology as I began to feel that it helped with relationships. I've been all over the internet trying to get insight on Scorpios and well, I figured I'd just ask you guys. I'm a Sag girl myself, living in a grad dorm "seeing" my neighor, also a grad student 2 years older. We met as I was coming out of an 8 year relationship and he had just gotten out of a 2 year relationship. We've been in a passionate "courtship" for 2 months, seeing each other almost every day (great sex, lovely home-cooked meals, movie nights, etc). He's informed me twice already (each time a month apart) that he's here to concentrate on himself and he doesn't see himself ready for a relationship or marriage. Yet, all of his actions are contradictory - he's hot and cold with sweet couple-y actions (cute nicknames, dates, romantic strolls, etc.) and at other times, just distant.

He said he has left the decision to me, letting me decide on whether to "break up" or to continue our "arrangement". Because we live next to each other, we know that a complete break-up won't work as we see each other all the time. (We'll eventually fall back together...) Only recently, I've begun to realize how much he likes me and how effective he is at hiding it. (You tricky Scorpios!) His past long term relationships all ended in the same way, his sudden desire to be "free" and find himself. Also, he will be going away in 8 months for an international program.

So, is he afraid of getting hurt? I'm not sure what he's thinking, it's obvious he likes me a lot, yet I believe he just doesn't want to be in a relationship. Either way, I'm bound to get hurt. I don't think there is anything I can do to convince or change him otherwise. He says he wants to eventually emotionally and physically detach. Yet I'm thinking, hell we are in a "relationship"! I think, perhaps, he left the decision up to me knowing that I would be afraid to completely lose him like he is afraid of losing my companionship. So, any fellow Scorpios have any insight? What should I do? Break it up and leave angrily? Give him a little space and maintain our quasi-arrangement? I'm curious as to what he would think of me in either situation. Thanks so much for your help!

Thanks for the consolation Seavixen. I know, it's a difficult sitatuation (damn student residences!) That's what I can't decipher about him. He will say these things about not wanting a relationship and then go and act completely different from that (taking the trash out, spending time fretting about a birthday gift, saving my first text message, etc.). And they say women are crazy?!? Either way, I need to rest my heart and accept what is. Thank you!

fractalcosmos

As i was reading your post i thought about the time I left a scrop guy. I was distant for a few days I knew he would call and all during that time I was thinking about what I was going to say. I detached from him for a few reason. He was to nice I would have took advantage of his kindness was the main reason I left. I thought with another scrop guy (normally I don't date scorp guy) but he was older so I gave it a try. 3 months into it I was bored, I looked at him and realized I did not want him.

So when he called he questioned my actions and I went to see him. Got in his house and told him I did not want to see him anymore, and then sexed him and left the next morning. LOL it's funny to me because I never thought I would get away with it. We are still friends but he told me "I respect your honesty" that sealed it and I knew we would be friends. I still talk to him very sparadically mainly via email.

I am not going to tell you what to do...... you do what you feel is best for your emotional state

Just keep in mind that he detached himself, this was an arrangement and he's not ready for a relationship he's there to focus on him which you should do also. If someone told me something like that I would walk away.

he is allowing you to decide. You won't hurt his feelings he will probably be relieved.

Read between the lines

seavixen is right. We definitely aren't gonna give you too much info or let the cards out on the table which i will admit can be detrimental when it comes to our dealings with women. Him playing the situation like a relationship doesn't mean he wants a relationship it just means he knows how to treat a lady. The fact that you live next door or whatever definitely didn't help you. The access he has to you doesn't give him a chance to miss anything and din't help any prospect him seeing it as a relationship... and as seavixen the other girl said we kinda always want to drive the car and won't change unless WE WANT to.

look at it this way... at least he's letting you know and letting you decide either we can keep are friends with bennies thing or you can end it. You know he could have easily took the string you along/or-do-just-enough-to-make-you-think-it's-gonna-be-something-more selfish approach - which i'm thinking would hve hurt much more. And just by reading what you said he could have successfully took that approach...

You have to ask yourself can you handle the decision you make and be strong enough to stick with it because believe me he'll make himself handle the decisions he makes - whether he's hurting or not.

Thanks for all of your comments! The drama has concluded. The said person decided that it would be best if we made a clean break. It was the exact thing I was thinking myself, yet I am still hurt, disappointed and feel rejected. He hopes that we can be friends. It's difficult considering we're still neighbors and see each other daily. We maintain friendly contact, we still occasionally wear the things we have given each other, but we maintain a good distance and have not contacted each other or discussed the matter since. I don't try and think about if he's hurt, sad or whatever. I think I've said everything I needed to say. The fact is, he never gave us a fair chance..and I deserve a lot better than that. I'll nurse my broken heart quietly and just get over it! Something nov5male said really made sense....so thanks for the insight you have all given me. I think I've learned more about myself and how to better deal with other people!