I think Scorp BF is an alcoholic

I'm soo depressed. EVERYTHING about him is great except that I think he has an alcohol problem. He does not drink everyday, maybe 2-3 times a week but when he does he drinks so much. He knows I don't like it when he drinks but he still does it anyway. I try not to show that I am disappointed and pretend to act fine when he's like this but it's really depressing me. Maybe my emotions are just getting the best of me tonight.

I've seen a pattern in my fellow Scorps when it comes to drinking. Like everything else sometimes we take it too far. My Scorp boys get lit every weekend pretty much and they are comically ridiculous when they drink. I have a Scorp co worker (female) who gets off work every night and tells me she goes home and gets drunk.... and laughs about it. My female Scorp cousin is a very out of control drinker. She doesn't know her limit.

I'm not saying it's right by any means and I think you should voice your concerns but he's going to do what he wants to do. Drinking seems to be a really sore subject with alot of Scorps. I've seen them either be really really defensive about it and get pissed when you bring it up or laugh it off and say they are just blowing off steam and "relaxing". I have to admit that when I drink I like the relaxed feeling I get. I can be pretty uptight most of the time. It is nice to "let go" but I also am careful to not go down the out of control road. I limit myself alot and have to practice alot of self control.
At the moment I'm not drinking for a while. Too much partying around my bday 😛 Makes me feel like an alkie. LOL

My guess is you can suggest to him to stop or get help but he will only be willing to do it if HE wants to. Scorps will MAKE you accept them the way they are flaws and all. Maybe you should find someone who is not a drinker if it bothers you.

Good luck on whatever it is you decide to do. 🙂

The problem is, that if he had a choice he would probably drink every night. Even after he drinks like a fish he tells me he feels bad about it the next day. It's not only that it's that a huge chunk of money is blown excessively for alcohol. It's kind of a turn off for me. SO Yes, Ovi_Spring it might be my problem too but it's also his for the fact that he admits it.

I haven't really been up front about his drinking, but i'll joke around about how he's an alcoholic and such. But I just don't know how to confront him about it because I don't want to sound like a nagging bitch. He also claims that he feels a lot better when he's drunk. I feel he's been kind of avoiding me the past few days also and I don't know why. Maybe he's depressed about something because I feel as if I can sense when he's down. That may be why he falls back on alcohol. I think i'm usually good at giving him time to think about what's bugging him but avoiding me is really making me feel insecure. Ugh, must be a cancer thing to feel like this!

tooseriouslol - I don't mind the fact that a person drinks 2-3x a week but as long as it's not overdone... ahh your scorp listens to u! LOL!

scorpio_chic

LOL! I'm not the type to get pissed drink all the time when i'm out but did that once, had to be carried out but that was b/c I was having a hard time in my life when I didnt give a damn about myself. I also think it was because I was with those certain people so they make me feel that way. Haha! I don't regret it though!

One of my best girl friends in school (she's a Scorp) became an alcoholic. She refused help. I have not heard from her in 14 years. It's sad.

Are you expecting him to just one day stop drinking because you don't like it, or are uncomfortable with the fact that he likes to party?

You are expecting (something) to happen, and how typical of Cancer to just lay the burden of acceptance onto another person for you, for your happiness, as if this is another persons responsibility.

So, what is it you are expecting him to do for you? Clearly, no communication of it .. just your expectations that aren't identified.

He likes to party .... is he suppose to change his life around to suit you?

p-angel... since when did I say he liked to party? I only stated that drinking was an issue.

Anyway, I had a discussion with him about his alcohol problem last night (while he was drunk). He seems to have been drunk almost every night lately and it's depressing me. I think the issue here is that he has fallen into deep depression. I told him that if anything, i'm here for him and i'll be here to listen. I guess he stated the fact that he needed to seek professional help and I told him that I was not going to sit here and nag him about it because I already told him that it was an issue for me. He said that I should be the one to nag him about it so that he will quit. We'll see how this goes.

Scorpios do not handle alcohol well at all. I have been sober now for 2+ years, and can tell you that we do not or should I say CAN NOT say no to a second drink. It brings out the worst in us. Scorpios who are heavy drinkers turn into complete narcissists, being self absorbed as we are anyway, it don't get no better. If the Scorpio in question has deep seeded issues, which most of us do, then watch out. You'll end up being an emotional punching bag, and left to be responsible for all of our baggage. It sucks.

p.s don't nag him, specially in that Cancer way. OOOOOh NOOOOO!
Just love him. 🙂

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Posted by Prince_Pisces
Most scorpios have alcohol problems. . .deal with it LOL

So do Pisces and you KNOW its true lol

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it's kinda funny u said that... my best friend just broke up with his bf due to his alcoholism and he was a pisces! actually, come to think of it, every pisces i know has some sort of substance abuse dependency. however, i don't know that many and i'm not claiming it as a pisces trait. just a coincidence and observation.

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Posted by tooseriouslol
they cannot be pushed to change but they will change if a suggestion makes sense and is good for them over time.

True.. plus, like I said, we hate to disappoint the people that we love. My cap that I've been seeing doesn't drink at all, never has. And I know that he doesn't like women that drink.. I'd go out sometimes during the summer and even if I wanted to have a drink, I wouldn't because I know I'd be hearing it from him if I did. LOL We don't like to let people down at all. Not the people we care about anyway.

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mind u, i'm not putting ur man down but... that's absolute bullshit! just because ur man doesn't choose to drink doesn't mean that u can't! jeez, u only want to have a couple every now and then and there's nothing wrong with that. although, it's also kinda bs on ur part too. u knew that he didn't like women who drink and ur conforming to his idea of perfection. i feel a rebellion coming on...