@miss_knight
16 Years
Scorpio detox
psychic --lol--
Well, first of all, you did the right thing..it's not only about being the second, it's about being a number for him, whether it was the first or the tenth, it's the same.
Scorpios do have some lasting effect, but never let him ruin your life, it's obvious he chose not to be with you, and so forget him completly and just go on in your life.
Talk to yourself in the mirror, it always help 😉
Scorpios do have some lasting effect, but never let him ruin your life, it's obvious he chose not to be with you, and so forget him completly and just go on in your life.
Talk to yourself in the mirror, it always help 😉
"it's not only about being the second, it's about being a number for him, whether it was the first or the tenth, it's the same".
What did you mean by this? I'm taking it as unless your his number 1 your just a number. Like only number 1's feelings count-- is that right?
It makes me so angry at him because he acted as though I was "no big deal" when I could swear I was. i don't think he's a player-- just a guy who wants his cake and also eat it too.
He did make an odd statement to me. He said "how come somebody can't like two people at once?" I told him they can-- it's just I can't. I most certainly can't be ----ing two people. I also said that if I am with you then I am with just you-- we don't have to be over the top seroius but come on.
He said this was unreasonable for a non-serious relationship. Is it?
What did you mean by this? I'm taking it as unless your his number 1 your just a number. Like only number 1's feelings count-- is that right?
It makes me so angry at him because he acted as though I was "no big deal" when I could swear I was. i don't think he's a player-- just a guy who wants his cake and also eat it too.
He did make an odd statement to me. He said "how come somebody can't like two people at once?" I told him they can-- it's just I can't. I most certainly can't be ----ing two people. I also said that if I am with you then I am with just you-- we don't have to be over the top seroius but come on.
He said this was unreasonable for a non-serious relationship. Is it?
oh, and why do Scorp guys try to "keep the door open" I thouhgt you were all about black and white-- no gray areas. They either like you or they don't. WTF? Very confusing.
Don't confuse with keeping the door open as they care. All that ever has to do with ego. If someone is no longer in your life I don't think you should care if they are alive or dead. Be happy, you deserve that🙂
I guess what I really want to know is (don't hit me too hard for this one) is:
I am refusing to be number 2. Now the fact that I just assumed I was the one and only well, shame on me but hey, you live and learn. I corrected the situation by removong myself your all right.
I have to say I think I shocked him when I did remove myself. He said that women always end up liking him too much. WTF— I think my saying
buh-bye kinda took him by suprise. I think he is used to doing the leaving.
So anyway my question is--- as if you already have not guessed it--
What are the chances that the guy wakes up and realizes it's me that he wants? I know what your thinking "why do you want him—"
I see it this way-- I'm not waiting around-- I do have a social life. He never told me I was the only one I just assumed it.
But I only want him if I can be number 1 and only. We don't need to be serious but I don't like to share --lol--. Should I have told him that instead of just dumping him because I found out I was one of two women he was seeing and errr ummm ----ing?
I am refusing to be number 2. Now the fact that I just assumed I was the one and only well, shame on me but hey, you live and learn. I corrected the situation by removong myself your all right.
I have to say I think I shocked him when I did remove myself. He said that women always end up liking him too much. WTF— I think my saying
buh-bye kinda took him by suprise. I think he is used to doing the leaving.
So anyway my question is--- as if you already have not guessed it--
What are the chances that the guy wakes up and realizes it's me that he wants? I know what your thinking "why do you want him—"
I see it this way-- I'm not waiting around-- I do have a social life. He never told me I was the only one I just assumed it.
But I only want him if I can be number 1 and only. We don't need to be serious but I don't like to share --lol--. Should I have told him that instead of just dumping him because I found out I was one of two women he was seeing and errr ummm ----ing?
Thanks Scorpio chic and hipnotic. I think he has my heart like you said but my mind knows better. I think what really caught me was the fact that he is so sexy. When you look at him you would never guess that he is so freaky and that's how I am too. When we met it was for work and we had an odd click as they say Cancers and Scorpio's do.
The fact that we had so much in common and also that he was like my real life male boy toy-- that just makes it all worse. I think that's why I need the detox. I don't think i'll be coming across somebody who is secretly like me without the judgements anytime soon. He was the first guy like him I have ever met.
That was one of the big things we had in common. It was like opening a letter you thought was a bill only to see it's a BIG check. I never met anybody wha was willing to do what other people talk about and he said the same about me. And I believe him. I miss that part.
I don't care what anybody says it's rare that you can find somebody thats a little "different" undercovers without judging you. It felt like he was a kind of kindered spirit.
The fact that we had so much in common and also that he was like my real life male boy toy-- that just makes it all worse. I think that's why I need the detox. I don't think i'll be coming across somebody who is secretly like me without the judgements anytime soon. He was the first guy like him I have ever met.
That was one of the big things we had in common. It was like opening a letter you thought was a bill only to see it's a BIG check. I never met anybody wha was willing to do what other people talk about and he said the same about me. And I believe him. I miss that part.
I don't care what anybody says it's rare that you can find somebody thats a little "different" undercovers without judging you. It felt like he was a kind of kindered spirit.
No Miss Knight, i didn't mean that.
What i meant is that i don't want to be the number one for my woman, nor number 2..i don't want to be a number, i want to be the ONLY one.
and this is how you should be for him too.
What i meant is that i don't want to be the number one for my woman, nor number 2..i don't want to be a number, i want to be the ONLY one.
and this is how you should be for him too.
Scorpio chic- I agree. I don't read that much into astrology. To be honest I forgot about it because it's big when your young. One of my co-workers had read me a page on a website and then showed me this board --lol-- but I do have to say-- I do see traits in me and him as they do say our signs have.
But yes, the sex was a big part of things-- but I think sex is a big part of any relationship. Most people may not admit this to be true but I think that sometimes people are intimidated to ask for what they want for fear of any number of things. Judgement, rejection, mocking, anything. He was not like that. It took a bit for he--and I to figure each other out, but when we did it was great.
If you have a great guy but the sex is awful can you go without the sex? I can't. If you have a great sex life but a bad partner can you go without the relationship and only have sex? I can't do that either. I like an equil balance.
With him it felt like that equil balance was possible-- until I found out I was not his only one. When I found out he had a long term-- that he was still "with" it felt horrible.
To be honest I believe he snapped because I refused to be his "entertainment" while he was in a relationship with another woman. Like I said above I think he got from me what she would not do for him BUT they have a loooooong history which he does not have with me. BUT we clicked-- strongly.
This will be something that he has to work out on his own. His history with her VS. starting over and taking a chance with me. He can't have both. I don't know if men in general are big risk takers in the relationship department because I am not a man. I just know if I am not happy I'll walk-- even if it kills me-- like this whole situation did. I could have chose to stay, but in the end I would have lost, and I think he would have seen me as a door mat, not a woman he has to respect.
Anybody-- men, women, even children--lol-- they will get away with what you allow them to get away with.
Oh and Hypno yes --lol-- I meant the only one. I don't need to be 100% serious, or have him call me everyday, or see me everyday, if he wanted to then great, but if not I know he likes his sports, work and cars. He likes his life and I always felt confident that he liked me too so I didn't need a security blanket --lol--. But if he is going to be ----ing me then yes, I only want it to be me.
But yes, the sex was a big part of things-- but I think sex is a big part of any relationship. Most people may not admit this to be true but I think that sometimes people are intimidated to ask for what they want for fear of any number of things. Judgement, rejection, mocking, anything. He was not like that. It took a bit for he--and I to figure each other out, but when we did it was great.
If you have a great guy but the sex is awful can you go without the sex? I can't. If you have a great sex life but a bad partner can you go without the relationship and only have sex? I can't do that either. I like an equil balance.
With him it felt like that equil balance was possible-- until I found out I was not his only one. When I found out he had a long term-- that he was still "with" it felt horrible.
To be honest I believe he snapped because I refused to be his "entertainment" while he was in a relationship with another woman. Like I said above I think he got from me what she would not do for him BUT they have a loooooong history which he does not have with me. BUT we clicked-- strongly.
This will be something that he has to work out on his own. His history with her VS. starting over and taking a chance with me. He can't have both. I don't know if men in general are big risk takers in the relationship department because I am not a man. I just know if I am not happy I'll walk-- even if it kills me-- like this whole situation did. I could have chose to stay, but in the end I would have lost, and I think he would have seen me as a door mat, not a woman he has to respect.
Anybody-- men, women, even children--lol-- they will get away with what you allow them to get away with.
Oh and Hypno yes --lol-- I meant the only one. I don't need to be 100% serious, or have him call me everyday, or see me everyday, if he wanted to then great, but if not I know he likes his sports, work and cars. He likes his life and I always felt confident that he liked me too so I didn't need a security blanket --lol--. But if he is going to be ----ing me then yes, I only want it to be me.
The minute I found out I was not the only one I became deranged --lol-- insecure, my self esteem dropped and he knew that. I told him. He said it-- and he didn't like it. I lost the fun-- the intimate part was changed and I couldn't do it. I tried for a brief nanosecond but then had to end it.
I can't be secure if I feel like I am being compaired. I don't know if I was, but why put myself through all the mental anguish. Besides I don't think if I left he would ever chose. He was probably content "sharing" himself.
Ummm no thanks. I don't share very well.
I am moving on but it's strange. I was married for a long time and never was able to tell or do or act that way with my ex-husband. I guess part of me is hoping he feels the same way and decides he wants me.
I think the best thing for me is to just go out and treat myself to a ridiculous, obscene, obnoxious spa day and start fresh. The sea weed wrap will be my detox --lol-- as I bake-- I'll think-- and reflect --literally-- lmao!
I can't control how he feels but I can control how I act and feel. Well, try to control how I feel anyway.
has anybody ever had a guy come back-- or guys have you ever realized you made a mistake and went back? what did you do? How did it turn out?
I can't be secure if I feel like I am being compaired. I don't know if I was, but why put myself through all the mental anguish. Besides I don't think if I left he would ever chose. He was probably content "sharing" himself.
Ummm no thanks. I don't share very well.
I am moving on but it's strange. I was married for a long time and never was able to tell or do or act that way with my ex-husband. I guess part of me is hoping he feels the same way and decides he wants me.
I think the best thing for me is to just go out and treat myself to a ridiculous, obscene, obnoxious spa day and start fresh. The sea weed wrap will be my detox --lol-- as I bake-- I'll think-- and reflect --literally-- lmao!
I can't control how he feels but I can control how I act and feel. Well, try to control how I feel anyway.
has anybody ever had a guy come back-- or guys have you ever realized you made a mistake and went back? what did you do? How did it turn out?
This time in this world, cheating become very popular, and actually it is somehow justified by society more and more, the man who has many girls to fuk beside his wife is considered cool, and even women are like that..i once watched desperate housewives and was shocked when they took cheating on their boyfriends lightly as it makes them hotter.
i despise people who cheat, i put them right after rapers..if you wanna fuk another person, break up first with your partner.
i despise people who cheat, i put them right after rapers..if you wanna fuk another person, break up first with your partner.
Well, I don't know if I'd put them next to a person who commits rape, but I get your point 110% .
I think when you open yourself to another and this means your heart, mind, thoughts, feelings, history there is a common sense of decency that should be respected.
It's not a common way to think anymore i am afraid. Sad.
Like I said he never said I was the only one he was seeing, I just assumed that as we got closer it was just me. I hate that he let me go so easily. He didn't even put up a fight. he was just like "oh please, your too serious for me, I can't deal with you". I think he said all the snappy comments because I was dumping him.
It's so hard to deal with him now for work. We don't speak often but now when we do (and i keep it work only and so does he) he is so mean and nasty. He's like a pitbull snapping at me. I asked him to please treat me nicely as I am always nice to him and he said "your just a co-worker now, nothing special anymore". that hurt me so much. I wont let him know this though. i just keep acting like my same pleasent, flirty, fun self. I refuse to drop down to his level and fight with him.
I actually think he tries to make me be mean to him. It's so weird.
I think when you open yourself to another and this means your heart, mind, thoughts, feelings, history there is a common sense of decency that should be respected.
It's not a common way to think anymore i am afraid. Sad.
Like I said he never said I was the only one he was seeing, I just assumed that as we got closer it was just me. I hate that he let me go so easily. He didn't even put up a fight. he was just like "oh please, your too serious for me, I can't deal with you". I think he said all the snappy comments because I was dumping him.
It's so hard to deal with him now for work. We don't speak often but now when we do (and i keep it work only and so does he) he is so mean and nasty. He's like a pitbull snapping at me. I asked him to please treat me nicely as I am always nice to him and he said "your just a co-worker now, nothing special anymore". that hurt me so much. I wont let him know this though. i just keep acting like my same pleasent, flirty, fun self. I refuse to drop down to his level and fight with him.
I actually think he tries to make me be mean to him. It's so weird.
Stop talking to him then, simple.
What are the chances that the guy wakes up and realizes it's me that he wants?
Not many, I bet. Looks like another average jerk with plusieurs doormats especially water signs.
But if he ever does, take my word, been there know the whole garbage:
If he comes back once, dont'give him even a frown of yours and shut him off.
Let him know you're madly exicted with someone new (if you have the chance to do that casually, through someone else, never directly). not that you're in love, but that you finally are having FUN after long suffering. (it always work. scorpio are simpler than what they give us to buy. jealousy always work).
if he comes back second time be definitely rude, cold, calm and collected and ask just what do you want?. whatever he says - listen to me: WHATEVER he says, tell him you'll think about it but not now. and then disappear.
if, after that, he comes back the third time, and you stay cold and on guard for a reasonable period of time, then maybe you have a chance with this guy. maybe.
but if you skip one of these, and in the random case he comes back the first time you surrender, you fuck up the chance.
trust me, and good luck
Not many, I bet. Looks like another average jerk with plusieurs doormats especially water signs.
But if he ever does, take my word, been there know the whole garbage:
If he comes back once, dont'give him even a frown of yours and shut him off.
Let him know you're madly exicted with someone new (if you have the chance to do that casually, through someone else, never directly). not that you're in love, but that you finally are having FUN after long suffering. (it always work. scorpio are simpler than what they give us to buy. jealousy always work).
if he comes back second time be definitely rude, cold, calm and collected and ask just what do you want?. whatever he says - listen to me: WHATEVER he says, tell him you'll think about it but not now. and then disappear.
if, after that, he comes back the third time, and you stay cold and on guard for a reasonable period of time, then maybe you have a chance with this guy. maybe.
but if you skip one of these, and in the random case he comes back the first time you surrender, you fuck up the chance.
trust me, and good luck
So you're a Cancer and he's a Scorpio ... I see. I've been there and it was fukkin magic. Cancers just have a hard time letting go ...
Hi all, I have been working forever! I have read everybodys posts wow thank you
Ladymacbeth- I think you are soooooo right. He is doing a work related thing for me and as of now I have managed to keep it work 110% . He is being a real jerk with his words BUT going 10 times over what he normally had to do. Granted this will help him just as much as me-- but before all this he was never willing to do any extra. They do say actions speak louder than words.
I think if he askes me to meet up I will very seewtly with a hint of sarcasim.... decline. We have no friends in common and this work thing is all via phone and email BUT you are sooooo right. He has to feel like he "lost" me. He must "fight" to get me back interested.
I think if he ever does ask me out again, I will say something like "ohhh, that sounds like soooo much fun" (and then sarcasticly whisper) "but believe it or not-- there are actually other men who think I am pretty fantastic" and then get even more sweetly sarcastic and say "the best part is-- they don't require I compete with anybody else for their attention, in fact they're competing for mine" And end it like that.
If he comes back again, same thing... but give an eyeroll or two as well-- and say "ohhh I'd love to-- but I think it's best we just keep it work" maybe add a wink and a smile-- a very b*tchy smile.
If a third time, I'll agree, but cut it short.. very short. Maybe even before dessert (and I mean cake --lol-- not _ _X).
What do you think Lady M?
Oh and Scorp chic--- this will be after I know he is available.
Ladymacbeth- I think you are soooooo right. He is doing a work related thing for me and as of now I have managed to keep it work 110% . He is being a real jerk with his words BUT going 10 times over what he normally had to do. Granted this will help him just as much as me-- but before all this he was never willing to do any extra. They do say actions speak louder than words.
I think if he askes me to meet up I will very seewtly with a hint of sarcasim.... decline. We have no friends in common and this work thing is all via phone and email BUT you are sooooo right. He has to feel like he "lost" me. He must "fight" to get me back interested.
I think if he ever does ask me out again, I will say something like "ohhh, that sounds like soooo much fun" (and then sarcasticly whisper) "but believe it or not-- there are actually other men who think I am pretty fantastic" and then get even more sweetly sarcastic and say "the best part is-- they don't require I compete with anybody else for their attention, in fact they're competing for mine" And end it like that.
If he comes back again, same thing... but give an eyeroll or two as well-- and say "ohhh I'd love to-- but I think it's best we just keep it work" maybe add a wink and a smile-- a very b*tchy smile.
If a third time, I'll agree, but cut it short.. very short. Maybe even before dessert (and I mean cake --lol-- not _ _X).
What do you think Lady M?
Oh and Scorp chic--- this will be after I know he is available.
ok, but I would leave the sarcasm out. these men dont' take sarcasm very well, and plus, sarcasm means being still embittered, so he'll know you're still there for him, being bitter for him and so on. so leave out the sarcasm.
and I should'nt mention the part "others are competing for me", no good, not directly from you, only if you have chance to put a gossip around, but through someone else, otherwise let go.
you can be sweet, vague, and also melancholic with him, but the important thing is that you firmly stand the ground of bein ANAVAILABLE. kind of "too late, for whatever". that's what drive them crazy. trust me, I experimented this with two. it's
though, when you're involved, but just think of yourself as an actress to an audition playng the "gone" one. it works wonder.
make it impossible, wiht words and non verbal communication.
and I should'nt mention the part "others are competing for me", no good, not directly from you, only if you have chance to put a gossip around, but through someone else, otherwise let go.
you can be sweet, vague, and also melancholic with him, but the important thing is that you firmly stand the ground of bein ANAVAILABLE. kind of "too late, for whatever". that's what drive them crazy. trust me, I experimented this with two. it's
though, when you're involved, but just think of yourself as an actress to an audition playng the "gone" one. it works wonder.
make it impossible, wiht words and non verbal communication.
Lady M thanks for the input! I have read your history and your advice to others on Scorp men is FANTASTIC! --lol-- I have to admit though it's not a very good prognosis I'm afraid. That he will be interested again that is... or is it?
So far since "the incident" we have spoken 3 times and emailed twice. The first email he sent me had nothing to do with work. It was very open ended and I can tell by the way he wrote it that he intended for me to ask him a question-- to which I did not. I was very polite-- but shut him down. Gave him a nice answer that was it-- very close ended on my part.
Now like I said we have spoken 3 times and had one email. All business. He askes me only business questions and I offer only business answers. The only thing like I said was that he is going way above and beyond what he would have ever done before to help me-- but is nasty like a pit bull-- to which I have politly responded "please treat me the way I treat you" and he has lightend up BUT still it's been 110% business on his end-- and mine.
It's so weird. When we speak it feels like (to me anyway) that it's more like "who will be the first one to crack". It's strained and odd--- and at the very same time it feels like I am talking to somebody I have known forever. Like we can go for weeks not speaking and when we finally do it's like we never skipped a beat even though it's 100% work. It's strange.
It almost feels like he thinks he can have me anytime he wants-- which he can't-- he's so damn cocky. Thing is-- I can't turn him down if he doesn't ask me anything. I refuse to EVER ask him to meet me because that will give HIM the chance to turn me down-- and he does not need any further of an ego boost thinking I am in love with him or something.
How long does it take them to start to pursue you... if they are going to that is? This whole mess with him started almost 6 weeks ago.
So far since "the incident" we have spoken 3 times and emailed twice. The first email he sent me had nothing to do with work. It was very open ended and I can tell by the way he wrote it that he intended for me to ask him a question-- to which I did not. I was very polite-- but shut him down. Gave him a nice answer that was it-- very close ended on my part.
Now like I said we have spoken 3 times and had one email. All business. He askes me only business questions and I offer only business answers. The only thing like I said was that he is going way above and beyond what he would have ever done before to help me-- but is nasty like a pit bull-- to which I have politly responded "please treat me the way I treat you" and he has lightend up BUT still it's been 110% business on his end-- and mine.
It's so weird. When we speak it feels like (to me anyway) that it's more like "who will be the first one to crack". It's strained and odd--- and at the very same time it feels like I am talking to somebody I have known forever. Like we can go for weeks not speaking and when we finally do it's like we never skipped a beat even though it's 100% work. It's strange.
It almost feels like he thinks he can have me anytime he wants-- which he can't-- he's so damn cocky. Thing is-- I can't turn him down if he doesn't ask me anything. I refuse to EVER ask him to meet me because that will give HIM the chance to turn me down-- and he does not need any further of an ego boost thinking I am in love with him or something.
How long does it take them to start to pursue you... if they are going to that is? This whole mess with him started almost 6 weeks ago.
Wow! so Ok he just called me and was VERY nice on the phone it was all business BUT he told me what he did-- it was what I needed him to do plus 100 other things extra. He went above and beyond my expectations completely. I am sooooo shocked.
I said very nicely almost to a whisper "wow, thanks. I'll read it now" and then HE said "it should all be put together now so I don't think we will have to meet to go over anything, only if the client doesn't like it. If it's accepted it's all good".
I read it. I'm speechless. It's perfect. I emailed him (did not call) and wrote "It's great, even better than I expected Thank you".
I assume a good thing to do would be when he sends me over the finished product I'll send him an email saying something like "this was really fanstasic, thank you-- talk to you in April". That's when the next one will be in the hopper. Good?
I said very nicely almost to a whisper "wow, thanks. I'll read it now" and then HE said "it should all be put together now so I don't think we will have to meet to go over anything, only if the client doesn't like it. If it's accepted it's all good".
I read it. I'm speechless. It's perfect. I emailed him (did not call) and wrote "It's great, even better than I expected Thank you".
I assume a good thing to do would be when he sends me over the finished product I'll send him an email saying something like "this was really fanstasic, thank you-- talk to you in April". That's when the next one will be in the hopper. Good?
How long does it take them to start to pursue you... if they are going to that is? This whole mess with him started almost 6 weeks ago.
6 weeks is nothing.
look, miss, let's go a little deeper: it's a war. don't listen to anyone who might say scorpio are loyal, true, and honest when they trust you. it's bullshit. they can be sweet, and even true and loyal only and when and if you have first out-scorpioned them, and made well clear that you know who they are and what they are aimed at. they will first hate you for this, but they will respect you, be afraid of you and never, ever forget you. you will never be out among the hundreds puppets women they know too well how to pull the string of, and esily, too soon get bored and despise. they are liars, players, always have agendas and are really attratcted (and that is the only time they might get caught ina kind of falling in love and become vulnerable) to women they cant' control.
this said, you are doing ok, but you must make a step further: from what you write, the guy doesnt' believe you are over him. he's disappoiinted because he gets signals off, but he still believes you'll be the one to surredner, sooner or later. it's very possible he'll stop talking to you. dont' get fooled. he's there waiting for the prey to fall in the trap. so the best, and paradoxically the easiest thing do for you is absolutely doing NOTHING, and wait, being able to wait longer than him. in the meantime, you should date someone else. there's no need to tell him, beacuse they smell it. trust, it happened to me. you should strive to detach your mind a little from him, for real, not only pretending.
a war its' a war. I was there, told you, and at the end I was the one to get bored, beacuse whne you really get to know them for what they really are (child playing nasty ego games, most of the time), you might be reopulsed, as I am (dating an acquarius, thank god, marvelous seductor but life lover, open, real human being though unreliable, but in the good old times sense...), and I cant' really think how fool I was to admire that scorpio, then. but I understand they have a spell, a mysitic, a fascionation on women that sometimes (whne you are at a surface level with them) can be irresistible. It has been easier for me cause I have the help of planets, (I dont' know about you, you tell me)especially the cap moon, cause it makes me ruthless, if necessary, but here I have a point for you again: first time I couldnt' take no more bul
6 weeks is nothing.
look, miss, let's go a little deeper: it's a war. don't listen to anyone who might say scorpio are loyal, true, and honest when they trust you. it's bullshit. they can be sweet, and even true and loyal only and when and if you have first out-scorpioned them, and made well clear that you know who they are and what they are aimed at. they will first hate you for this, but they will respect you, be afraid of you and never, ever forget you. you will never be out among the hundreds puppets women they know too well how to pull the string of, and esily, too soon get bored and despise. they are liars, players, always have agendas and are really attratcted (and that is the only time they might get caught ina kind of falling in love and become vulnerable) to women they cant' control.
this said, you are doing ok, but you must make a step further: from what you write, the guy doesnt' believe you are over him. he's disappoiinted because he gets signals off, but he still believes you'll be the one to surredner, sooner or later. it's very possible he'll stop talking to you. dont' get fooled. he's there waiting for the prey to fall in the trap. so the best, and paradoxically the easiest thing do for you is absolutely doing NOTHING, and wait, being able to wait longer than him. in the meantime, you should date someone else. there's no need to tell him, beacuse they smell it. trust, it happened to me. you should strive to detach your mind a little from him, for real, not only pretending.
a war its' a war. I was there, told you, and at the end I was the one to get bored, beacuse whne you really get to know them for what they really are (child playing nasty ego games, most of the time), you might be reopulsed, as I am (dating an acquarius, thank god, marvelous seductor but life lover, open, real human being though unreliable, but in the good old times sense...), and I cant' really think how fool I was to admire that scorpio, then. but I understand they have a spell, a mysitic, a fascionation on women that sometimes (whne you are at a surface level with them) can be irresistible. It has been easier for me cause I have the help of planets, (I dont' know about you, you tell me)especially the cap moon, cause it makes me ruthless, if necessary, but here I have a point for you again: first time I couldnt' take no more bul
bullshit and have been ruthless, really, ruthless and cold as a razor blade with him, he suddenly changed, was all a cry baby, started stalking me ,playing the victim, denying having ever been nothing but a good old boy so innocent (god, he was diosgusting!!, believeve me, and that is precisely where I cut him off my life. couldnt' admire him or respect him, because he was ACTING, just out of sturbonness, pride, and (only as athird option )beacuse he liked me (not love me. liked me, which is different.
so, go on with the game, the war, and have fun, but go also a step further: you should try to detach a little, in your mind. because they smell it if you are mentally still so caught up. start dating someone, no need to tell him, he will feel it. then if he falls, you'll consider the thing whne it happens. if not, you'll be out, but you'll be out as a queen, not a puppet. be strong, enjoy other things, and keep this war on the side, it can be thrilling but don't rely on this for happiness.
good luck, and keep informing us.
so, go on with the game, the war, and have fun, but go also a step further: you should try to detach a little, in your mind. because they smell it if you are mentally still so caught up. start dating someone, no need to tell him, he will feel it. then if he falls, you'll consider the thing whne it happens. if not, you'll be out, but you'll be out as a queen, not a puppet. be strong, enjoy other things, and keep this war on the side, it can be thrilling but don't rely on this for happiness.
good luck, and keep informing us.
sorry, I repeated something btu the post was too long I had to divide it, and I got lost in job and shifting from page to page, but you got me, miss. ciao!!
of course I am. Bitter, I mean. And, yes, I had the upper hand when I had suffered, beeen deceived, disilluioned, and deluded, translate= when it was too late and I had moved on.
and yes, it is a negative picture, and if I can use my experience and observation to help a woman who sound open, enthousiastic and sweet from being manipulated whne she deserve better,I will paint an even more negative picture.
and I dare say that yes, everyone supposedly has agendas, but scorpio hide it better.
you know, it's not a victory, having the upper hand whne it's too late and you found out that the man you thouhgt a man, for good and for bad, (because he "presented" himself as man) is a little kid ,only taller.
whimsical, nasty, insecure and... boring. maybe my aqua venus? who knows. and: I will never be content. I strive for perfection, but I am aware (I am a ballet dancer. I was trained to strive for perfection. it's not my fault..
and yes, it is a negative picture, and if I can use my experience and observation to help a woman who sound open, enthousiastic and sweet from being manipulated whne she deserve better,I will paint an even more negative picture.
and I dare say that yes, everyone supposedly has agendas, but scorpio hide it better.
you know, it's not a victory, having the upper hand whne it's too late and you found out that the man you thouhgt a man, for good and for bad, (because he "presented" himself as man) is a little kid ,only taller.
whimsical, nasty, insecure and... boring. maybe my aqua venus? who knows. and: I will never be content. I strive for perfection, but I am aware (I am a ballet dancer. I was trained to strive for perfection. it's not my fault..
correction: evryine has an agenda, but scorpio PRETEND they dont'. that's the point.
Ok, so, here it is--
We spoke on the phone today-- all business. He asked if I was happy with everything--- I said of course I was his work was fantastic. THEN THE TIDE CHANGED
He became the most arragont, stingy, nasty man as possible. I kept my cool but I really wanted to tell him to take his end of the project and shove it up his ass! However considering I have to get this presented either tomorrow or Monday it seemed a better choice to hold my tongue. Job market is TIGHT in my field right now.
What do you think? Get it presented and once it's done (I know it will be accepted) email him and say "Thank you for your assistance with this matter. As the client will have to make his adjustments (this will take apx 30 days) I will contact you when he is finished. Please refrain from contacting me via phone as it would seem you are having trouble adjusting to your new status-- I do believe email will be a sufficiant form of communication when necessary. Thank you again, your effort was very appreciated".
OR
Just keep ignoring his shit as that may piss him off more. But I feel like he is reeeeally pushing my buttons-- on purpose!
Shit! when a Scorp likes you they are as warm as 1000 suns--- but when they don't--- it's colder than the North Pole!
I thought Scorps ignore when they don't care? What's up with all the f-ing hostility—
We spoke on the phone today-- all business. He asked if I was happy with everything--- I said of course I was his work was fantastic. THEN THE TIDE CHANGED
He became the most arragont, stingy, nasty man as possible. I kept my cool but I really wanted to tell him to take his end of the project and shove it up his ass! However considering I have to get this presented either tomorrow or Monday it seemed a better choice to hold my tongue. Job market is TIGHT in my field right now.
What do you think? Get it presented and once it's done (I know it will be accepted) email him and say "Thank you for your assistance with this matter. As the client will have to make his adjustments (this will take apx 30 days) I will contact you when he is finished. Please refrain from contacting me via phone as it would seem you are having trouble adjusting to your new status-- I do believe email will be a sufficiant form of communication when necessary. Thank you again, your effort was very appreciated".
OR
Just keep ignoring his shit as that may piss him off more. But I feel like he is reeeeally pushing my buttons-- on purpose!
Shit! when a Scorp likes you they are as warm as 1000 suns--- but when they don't--- it's colder than the North Pole!
I thought Scorps ignore when they don't care? What's up with all the f-ing hostility—
Well, "after" is a relative term. I am not after him. I am going out. --lol-- met a handsome guy last night actually. This was kinda odd-- So I'm at a clients holiday party and I am getting text from a "restricted" number all night. The text are saying "your hot" and "you look good tonight" and crap like that. I thought it was a joke so then I get a text "meet me on the terrace" and I went out there and it was a guy I have known for 3.5 years who I always thought was a real jerk. Turns out he's actually a nice guy just has a very odd sense of humor (another Scorpio-- figures!). The thing that drove me nut's was that he was texting my private cell not my work cell and refused to tell me how he got my number as I know nobody there had it-- not from me anyway.
Sooooooo back to my original topic-- as for actively being after him I am not. Also his cocky attitude is annoying me to all hell. ---lol--- but I won't lie-- in terms of what I am looking for in a man he has it. WEll, except for the other woman that is--lol--
I'm waiting--- and seeing what happens--- and in the meantime going out and having fun. Just trying to decode his actions with help from other posters. --lol-- I am one of those people who analyze EVERYTHING.
It's easy for me to let go on the outside-- but secretly-- on the inside-- I hold on for a long time. Especially if somebody was in my heart. I'll just never, ever let them know.
But like I said when I was on the "good list" he is as warm as 1000 suns. It's a great feeling. I can't lie, I miss it-- and I miss him.
So-- no, I'm not actively "after him" but yes I am actively "wanting him" --lol-- if that made sense.
Sooooooo back to my original topic-- as for actively being after him I am not. Also his cocky attitude is annoying me to all hell. ---lol--- but I won't lie-- in terms of what I am looking for in a man he has it. WEll, except for the other woman that is--lol--
I'm waiting--- and seeing what happens--- and in the meantime going out and having fun. Just trying to decode his actions with help from other posters. --lol-- I am one of those people who analyze EVERYTHING.
It's easy for me to let go on the outside-- but secretly-- on the inside-- I hold on for a long time. Especially if somebody was in my heart. I'll just never, ever let them know.
But like I said when I was on the "good list" he is as warm as 1000 suns. It's a great feeling. I can't lie, I miss it-- and I miss him.
So-- no, I'm not actively "after him" but yes I am actively "wanting him" --lol-- if that made sense.
Ok so i have not heard from random Scorp texter (aka RST) --lol-- but I dropped in at the office and saw his partner who said "RST was aking about you all night... oh, by the way you know he is married right?" UGH! No I did not know he was married!!! WTF AM I AN F-ING MAGNET FOR ATTACHED SCORPIO MEN— Deleted RST as soon as it was confirmed.
as for my original Scorp as soon as I found out today the client accepted the project (I knew he would) I emailed him saying thank you and just a quick "by the way" if he talks to me like I'm shit on his shoes again... I'll personally string him up the f-ing flag pole so high that it will take 100 firemen to get his ass down--- and I am not kidding.
Havent heard a word back from from him yet.
ahhhh--- what would it be like if men actually shared the same mind set as women? I wonder.
as for my original Scorp as soon as I found out today the client accepted the project (I knew he would) I emailed him saying thank you and just a quick "by the way" if he talks to me like I'm shit on his shoes again... I'll personally string him up the f-ing flag pole so high that it will take 100 firemen to get his ass down--- and I am not kidding.
Havent heard a word back from from him yet.
ahhhh--- what would it be like if men actually shared the same mind set as women? I wonder.
Hi. He responded. First he text me a long text that the reason he has been so nasty to me is because he has met another woman who is perfect for him. She makes him happy and he really likes her. I did not respond because I was thinking about what to say.
Then a few minutes later he text me again and responded to my email that he is being a jerk by saying he really didn't meet anybody. He's been thinking. He is sorry for being mean but he is trying to be a better man.
I guess a better man to her? Work on their relationship? I don't know.
I responded back by telling him that I have no bad feelings anymore and that I am glad he is trying to work on his relationship with her. I also told him this was a good learning experience because it has showed me what I really want --a man who will be madly in love with me-- and only me-- and I don't want anything less.
I futher told him that by working together it seems to be putting a strain on his life and that's most likely the cause for his poor behavior toward me. I told him that if he wants he can leave the team with no bad recourse and I would get a replacement and all would be fine.
(truthfully I have no f-ing idea who i'd get to replace him --lol-- his job is hard and it stinks. You really have to want to do it and not many people do)
He has not yet responded but i'm ok with it.
Then a few minutes later he text me again and responded to my email that he is being a jerk by saying he really didn't meet anybody. He's been thinking. He is sorry for being mean but he is trying to be a better man.
I guess a better man to her? Work on their relationship? I don't know.
I responded back by telling him that I have no bad feelings anymore and that I am glad he is trying to work on his relationship with her. I also told him this was a good learning experience because it has showed me what I really want --a man who will be madly in love with me-- and only me-- and I don't want anything less.
I futher told him that by working together it seems to be putting a strain on his life and that's most likely the cause for his poor behavior toward me. I told him that if he wants he can leave the team with no bad recourse and I would get a replacement and all would be fine.
(truthfully I have no f-ing idea who i'd get to replace him --lol-- his job is hard and it stinks. You really have to want to do it and not many people do)
He has not yet responded but i'm ok with it.
Just wanted to know what happened to your Scorp? I have been reading these boards for the past 6 months trying to find a situation like mine and yours is pretty dang close! I met my Scorp thru a friend at work, and we started a sexual relationship shortly after meeting. He said he was recently broken up with his girlfriend and wasnt looking for anything serious. We proceeded to text me all day long for weeks but only seemed to have a few moments here and there to spend time with me. This guy texted me from 6 am until 10 pm, but no actual phone calls. I saw him once a week for passionate sex, at his convenience. I finally got wise to his games and called him out on it; he of course still denied having a gf. He drove me mad trying to figure out why he was so selfish with his time! Well, i did enough digging and decided to stake out one of his favorite "hiding places" to see if he came in after work. I wasnt sure what i was going to find, but i had a strong intuition that something was going to happen. Lo and behold, he comes in, goes over to a short hispanic woman matching the description of his "ex" and puts his arm around her. He then sees me, and quickly walks back outside after excusing himself. A few minutes later I walked outside, and he acted surprised to see me, greeting me with an awkward hug. I asked about his "ex" and he said he was just dropping by to say hi, cuz her sister was in town. Mmm hmmmm, sure!!! Well, he never went back inside.... He left without telling her, and texted me to say it was too loud in there and he wanted a "mellow night". I usedthat opportunity to go up to the woman and ask if she was still involved with him. She said "yes, for 2 1/2 years now, why?" So, I told her that he and I had been involved for the past 6 months and that he told me that they were not an item anymore. Well, she told me that he wasnt a big priority to her, and she is kinda ok with it all. She then told ME that I deserve better than that!! What a case of irony!!!!! The girlfriend, consoling the other woman!!! I told her I was done with him and she could make her own choice to keep him. She decided to stay with him. Go figure.
I texted him and told him that I talked to his gf, and basically to treetruck himself. I was done. His reply? "sorry i hurt u, sorry". Well, tit for tat my friend. At least i did my job in telling the unsuspecting gf what her wonderful bf was doing behind her back. And she WAS unsuspecting.... Cuz he spent EVERY night with her
I texted him and told him that I talked to his gf, and basically to treetruck himself. I was done. His reply? "sorry i hurt u, sorry". Well, tit for tat my friend. At least i did my job in telling the unsuspecting gf what her wonderful bf was doing behind her back. And she WAS unsuspecting.... Cuz he spent EVERY night with her
Continuing....
I am really just mad at myself for sticking around for so long, hoping for him to open up to me. I really did think "he is a mysterious scorpio" so that is why he is taking so long to get to know me. That his "time" is special ~ so he doles it out sparingly. What a bunch of bs! We both have a crazy work schedule, so i let him get away with it for a while. And after a while, i decided that i wanted to see this out to the very end, because i am an ever-curious gemini. I knew i was going to find something, because my instincts are pretty accurate. I have been the gf that gets cheated on, so i had to find out the truth about him. The sad thing is, i did develop an attachment to him that is hard to shake, since we communicated daily for months. I thought he was feeling the same way that i was. After meeting his gf, i was surprised at how very average she was. I wonder if the reason he stays by her side every night is because she DOESNT worship him, but instead considers him at the bottom of her priority list? She must still be a challenge to him. I guess I will never totally understand what i meant to him, but it felt like more than just a sexual fling. Ah well, time to stop obsessing about what might have been.... Time to move on to greener pastures!!!! I am a gemini after all, and we bounce back pretty quick 🙂
I am really just mad at myself for sticking around for so long, hoping for him to open up to me. I really did think "he is a mysterious scorpio" so that is why he is taking so long to get to know me. That his "time" is special ~ so he doles it out sparingly. What a bunch of bs! We both have a crazy work schedule, so i let him get away with it for a while. And after a while, i decided that i wanted to see this out to the very end, because i am an ever-curious gemini. I knew i was going to find something, because my instincts are pretty accurate. I have been the gf that gets cheated on, so i had to find out the truth about him. The sad thing is, i did develop an attachment to him that is hard to shake, since we communicated daily for months. I thought he was feeling the same way that i was. After meeting his gf, i was surprised at how very average she was. I wonder if the reason he stays by her side every night is because she DOESNT worship him, but instead considers him at the bottom of her priority list? She must still be a challenge to him. I guess I will never totally understand what i meant to him, but it felt like more than just a sexual fling. Ah well, time to stop obsessing about what might have been.... Time to move on to greener pastures!!!! I am a gemini after all, and we bounce back pretty quick 🙂
Oh, an update --lol--
We have had some slight communication about work all initiated by me. Then one night I sent him off a text that said I was bored and asked him whats up.
We slightly chit chatted a bit but when he tried to turn it into sexting and I wouldnt bite-- he blew me off.
Last week I had some work to discuss with him and sent him off an email. I kept mine all business (nice, but business) and he responded. At the end of his email he told me he was moving out of his house.
I was like wtf when I read it. I responded back that I was not really certain what to say but that I hope he's not too sad and also that I understand as I have just went through a divorce. I further told him that I feel bad because with my seperation it was my idea and with his seperation he was trying to make it work. (I dont know if that was true but it was a "dig" on my part-- he really hurt me).
He never responded. Then two days later sent me an estimate about work that was much more than his usaul price. (STING!) I guess I gave the wrong answer to his email. To be honest I couldnt bring myself to say more than I did for fear of rejection. He's made me gun shy.
The wind up:
I asked him to not be so indifferent in his emails to me about work because 1. I dont fully understand his work and 2. it hurts my feelings.
He became soft again and accepted my request for payment arraingments for the new project.
This past Friday I emailed him the payment schedule and at the end I wrote "I was thinking of bugging you, but I decided against it as I know you must have a lot on your mind. Besides it's no fun to go shopping if I cant buy anything".
Never responded back.
I'll keep you posted.
We have had some slight communication about work all initiated by me. Then one night I sent him off a text that said I was bored and asked him whats up.
We slightly chit chatted a bit but when he tried to turn it into sexting and I wouldnt bite-- he blew me off.
Last week I had some work to discuss with him and sent him off an email. I kept mine all business (nice, but business) and he responded. At the end of his email he told me he was moving out of his house.
I was like wtf when I read it. I responded back that I was not really certain what to say but that I hope he's not too sad and also that I understand as I have just went through a divorce. I further told him that I feel bad because with my seperation it was my idea and with his seperation he was trying to make it work. (I dont know if that was true but it was a "dig" on my part-- he really hurt me).
He never responded. Then two days later sent me an estimate about work that was much more than his usaul price. (STING!) I guess I gave the wrong answer to his email. To be honest I couldnt bring myself to say more than I did for fear of rejection. He's made me gun shy.
The wind up:
I asked him to not be so indifferent in his emails to me about work because 1. I dont fully understand his work and 2. it hurts my feelings.
He became soft again and accepted my request for payment arraingments for the new project.
This past Friday I emailed him the payment schedule and at the end I wrote "I was thinking of bugging you, but I decided against it as I know you must have a lot on your mind. Besides it's no fun to go shopping if I cant buy anything".
Never responded back.
I'll keep you posted.
He finally responded back. He emailed me about business only and asked me to "contact" him to discuss it. I answered back with an email only about business--- I'm still scared to get hurt. He responded back with only 1 out of 4 answers to my questions. I never responded back to him. If he wants to talk to me he'll call. I am following Lady Macbeth's advice.
Even if he calls I'll be letting my voice mail pick up. he can leave a message, or better yet mail a letter.
If I jump or run it will be too easy for him. Gotta make him work, plus it will give me time to see the real motive. Sex? Love? Nothing? who knows. But it's always better to look before you jump.
Even if he calls I'll be letting my voice mail pick up. he can leave a message, or better yet mail a letter.
If I jump or run it will be too easy for him. Gotta make him work, plus it will give me time to see the real motive. Sex? Love? Nothing? who knows. But it's always better to look before you jump.
I'm freaked out. I had the EXACT same situation with my scorpio man, who is from california but working here in australia. I've been with him 2.5 years, and of those the first 6 months he was with his ex, trying to break things off, and told me only 4months down the line. He eventually broke it off with her, but I've never gotten over it till very recently
We were workmates too.
He had other overlap exes he hadn't told me about, thought they didn't overlap with me.
Unfortunatley I though tI was the one who had the *awesome connection* with him (his words, not mine) - till I read the inside of a book that one of his exes gave him and realised - he makes EVERY girl feel that special. That unique. That connected.
pls pvt message me if you wish - hope i can help. i broke up with this man 1 week ago, and dont intend to go back. its for real this time.
We were workmates too.
He had other overlap exes he hadn't told me about, thought they didn't overlap with me.
Unfortunatley I though tI was the one who had the *awesome connection* with him (his words, not mine) - till I read the inside of a book that one of his exes gave him and realised - he makes EVERY girl feel that special. That unique. That connected.
pls pvt message me if you wish - hope i can help. i broke up with this man 1 week ago, and dont intend to go back. its for real this time.
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I had to let him go after 9 months because I was not his only scoop of icecream on the cone --lol--. It hurt because he was my only guy and I was one of two that he had. I just assumed that he gave her up and one day I asked-- and he was honest. So I walked away.
What bugs me is that he said I got too serious. I didn't-- I have too much on my plate with work and kids to get too serious (so does he). I told him I didn't get too serious I just refused to be #2 and he never responded back.
This is my issue-- I still have to occationally contact him for work-- but we don't work together(luckly). He is still with the first girl-- they have a loooooong history-- but I still refuse to be a second choice-- f-that!
I don't know why but I can't seem to move on. If I meet another guy it feels like I am cheating on my ex Scorp AND he always seems to pop up when I start to meet another guy. Like he sees into my head and "just knows" that I met somebody. We have no friends in common, live far enough away not to bump into each other, don't work in the same place.
It's easy to say F-ck it he has somebody else move on. I do this everyday. WTF? How does he know when to call, text, or email. Are all you Scorpio's physic— How to detox?