Here we go again....WTF—??

So I am getting sick of this Scorpio mans games. Why oh why do Scorpio men play games? He tells me things he KNOWS will upset me, be it other women coming on to him, OR he will say that he thinks I have moved on, I am like WTF? He knows dang well I have not. I love the man, he can be a sweetie, but this bullshit game playing is irritating me. I do love this man, and have asked him NOT to do tell me, I don't want to know about other women hitting on him, unless of course he wants to end us and go somewhere else, then of course, freaken tell me. And he KNOWS I have not moved on to another man.

So, what the heck is the deal here? WHY the games?

He is poison.

Been down this road full force for about 1 year with two scorps. A fling that lead to a total breakdown between friends or supposed friends. The second I moved heaven and earth for, and of course it only shackled me to this poison.

I bet scorpios laugh when they read complaints against other scorps. Whatever. Sorry but we have to move on and upward. You want better, deserve better, people change, and you are one of change and ability. Do it for your sanity.

Posted by heroic_guy
He is poison.

Been down this road full force for about 1 year with two scorps. A fling that lead to a total breakdown between friends or supposed friends. The second I moved heaven and earth for, and of course it only shackled me to this poison.

I bet scorpios laugh when they read complaints against other scorps. Whatever. Sorry but we have to move on and upward. You want better, deserve better, people change, and you are one of change and ability. Do it for your sanity.

thats an interesting way to describe what happened.

I tell you he is making me crazy. Hot and Cold. Somedays he blows up my phone, others its like he disappeared. I just go about my life. I want to rattle his cage. Any ideas? I want him to think, oh shit, Ive lost her.

Posted by heroic_guy
He is poison.

Been down this road full force for about 1 year with two scorps. A fling that lead to a total breakdown between friends or supposed friends. The second I moved heaven and earth for, and of course it only shackled me to this poison.

I bet scorpios laugh when they read complaints against other scorps. Whatever. Sorry but we have to move on and upward. You want better, deserve better, people change, and you are one of change and ability. Do it for your sanity.

I do deserve better. I am so sick of the games. I just don't understand why someone, anyone gets off on upsetting someone they 'love'.a But of course, when I start pulling away he comes back on with a vengance, and I mean if he were a dog, he would be pissing on trees. I try to resist, but man, I tell you, he as a hold on my heart that no man has ever had.

Any ideas on how I can shake him up abit? I'm a Virgo BTW.

That is SOOOOOOOOO not true. If the Scorp I knew was a mirror he'd be loving me back right about now.

I agree that the OP has asked how to play a game which I would never advocate, but I can tell you that the Scorp I was seeing also brought me to that point and I am NOT a game player by any means. In fact, it was when I started moving in that direction that I knew I had enough.

Bethann...I experienced the same. The guy flat out knew what would hurt me and did everything he could TO hurt me all while claiming he loves me. I walked away, he came back, I was back, he walked away. It was an ENDLESS dance.

If you're truly sick of it, let him go because there is not a damn thing you can do about it.

Posted by Shadows
That is SOOOOOOOOO not true. If the Scorp I knew was a mirror he'd be loving me back right about now.

I agree that the OP has asked how to play a game which I would never advocate, but I can tell you that the Scorp I was seeing also brought me to that point and I am NOT a game player by any means. In fact, it was when I started moving in that direction that I knew I had enough.

thats very observant of you to know that his behavior was moving you in a unhealthy direction and you stopped it.

Ellessque? You are right, I don't want to play games. When I am ticked off as I am right now, I think, dang, would I love to throw some shit right back at him, but then your right, it is a freaken game.

I am venting, deep down I would not lower myself to some Jr. High drama. Its fun to talk about doing this or that, but I am not a vindictive person by nature, just hurting right now is all - and venting. I don't understand if he loves me so much like he says, why the games?

Ok so at what point do the games stop? At what point do you figure someone out? You know the reaction...how many times do you need to see it? Why do you need to see it? Does it tell you we care? What if you ALREADY know that?

I'd like to be open to what you're saying, but its just not at ALL been my experience.

I'm throwing a curve ball right now so I'll let you know what happens. I'd still love a happy ending, but I'm quickly losing hope. There is only so much a person can take.

I have no idea what set him off. I really don't. I am working out of town and have been for a while, but I am not out bar hopping and clubbing at all - not ONCE, I am pretty low key and stay to myself here. I work with a lot of men, and he knows some of them, so he knows I am not fucking around or anything. I get hit on alot, but walk away from those guys.

He is kind of jealous at times and so am I. He is a very handsome man, and I am well aware other women find him very attractive, and he is. But it makes me crazy when he will say "Oh, so-in-so invited me for dinner" then does not say if he went or not, and I hate it, cuz then I want to know if he went, or "This woman left a note on my car" or "That women has been hounding me for a job, asking me out, and Dick (his partner) hired her after I said no" then a few days he will say that he did not hire her. Shit like that. It pisses me off. I don't get it. Why?

He knows I love the heck out of him. Why the games? am I to available? I mean I answer the phone all the time because I am either at work or home. I don't go out - not a safe town I am in, lots of wierd things going on. So I lay low. I have done nothing that I am aware of anyways.

The thing is, I am NOT doing anything. Not one freaken thing. I go to work, the grocery store, and home. That is it. I am bored stiff, but I need this job, I have a good job and in todays world only a fool would walk away from a paycheck. I watch TV every effen night, for months on end. He knows I am home, everyone knows I don't hit the bar scene EVER, not once. I don't flirt, they ALL know it and so does he, I am respected not only for my work but my behavior as well. So for him to pull this shit is immature and just plain pathetic really. At first I would get concerned, and very upset thinking about it, now? it is just plain irritating. Why? Why does hurting me make any sense. It is done for one reason, to make me jealous and make me feel badly. Well played on his part, it worked.

I do not play games, sure, when I get mad, I talk some smack, I want to do this or that, but in reality, I don't. I vent, rant a bit like I am now, then settle down and think things through. I will never make a public scene for any one, or over anyone, I simply walk away no matter how much it could be killing me inside, there is no way in hell anyone would know.


As far as he and I talking about the other guys out here? Of course we do, he knows many of them. They talk to him quite a bit, so he Knows I am not flirting with guys, and running around, he knows that I get attention from guys, cuz his friends tell him, he usually knows before I have a chance to even talk to him, he also knows that I do not encourage it, and his friends LIKE me, they tell him he is lucky. He tells me how proud he is of me, to know that I am his. I however am angry that he seems to find it necessary to make me feel like shit and try and make me insecure, well I guess not try and make me insecure, I guess I am abit. This is not some joke, or what ever, I am truly hurting here.

All I wanted to know was what the heck is with the games, and sure early on I was ticked and wanted to kick back, but I don't do that, I am hurt that is all and not to sure what to do since I have asked him to knock it off.

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Posted by Bethann
I have no idea what set him off. I really don't. I am working out of town and have been for a while, but I am not out bar hopping and clubbing at all - not ONCE, I am pretty low key and stay to myself here. I work with a lot of men, and he knows some of them, so he knows I am not fucking around or anything. I get hit on alot, but walk away from those guys.

He is kind of jealous at times and so am I. He is a very handsome man, and I am well aware other women find him very attractive, and he is. But it makes me crazy when he will say "Oh, so-in-so invited me for dinner" then does not say if he went or not, and I hate it, cuz then I want to know if he went, or "This woman left a note on my car" or "That women has been hounding me for a job, asking me out, and Dick (his partner) hired her after I said no" then a few days he will say that he did not hire her. Shit like that. It pisses me off. I don't get it. Why?

He knows I love the heck out of him. Why the games? am I to available? I mean I answer the phone all the time because I am either at work or home. I don't go out - not a safe town I am in, lots of wierd things going on. So I lay low. I have done nothing that I am aware of anyways.

LOL, he probably does it to do what you're doing now.

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What do you mean? What I am doing now? What am I doing?

Posted by ellessque
Ok. This is based off of me, a scorpio and any experience I had with my scorpio ex husband. remember, we are all different and have different chart aspects. But I'll try my best.

Ok so at what point do the games stop?
They never really stop. Honest. We are so damn vulnerable because in the beginning, we really do give you everything we got. Based on your reaction (even if you pull away or act aloof for a split second) we will start pulling that info away for awhile to see if you are worthy of having it again.

At what point do you figure someone out?
Usually within the first few months. We know you inside and out. We know how you are going to react to us, we know what you are withholding. God forbid we are in tune with astrology because we will have you pegged immediately.

You know the reaction...how many times do you need to see it?
It's ongoing. It just takes one word, one sentence to set us off.

Why do you need to see it?
It makes us feel like you care.

Does it tell you we care?
Yep. We need constant ego stroking. It's not really insecurities we just need to know you have our backs. That you understand us.

What if you ALREADY know that?
We will always question it. Doesn't matter.

So, with that said. How do you STOP it.

Step up and be a complete bitch (man bitch if your scorps a woman). Tell us what you feel IN YOUR HEART and tell us WHERE YOU STAND. Then step back and STAY consistent. No wishy washy bullshit because WE WILL be watching you with a very keen eye to make sure your words match your actions.

You don't react to our petty games and we are like WTF—?!!!!! Yeah, we do a double take because we can play people like puppets. For someone to say...woah, wait a minute, I KNOW what you are doing. That will stop us dead in our tracks.

Stop answering his calls. Don't respond to his texts. Set a term and follow thru with it. Don't faulter by sleeping with his ass or entertaining his bullshit. We'll lose respect REAL fast.

Why do you think I was (still am) so hung up on that damn capricorn? Because the fucker doesn't take any shit from me. That is why.

First off...sorry Bethann, I do not want to derail your post, but maybe this stuff will help you too.

Thank you for your thoughtful answer, Elle. Love the honesty.

I've read so much about Scorpios in order to understand HIM and I

Holy mother of god...I just typed for ten hours on my tiny ass cell phone, got carpel tunnel, clicked post and that shit is gone.😢

And now i need a nap.

Sorry, there is no moral high ground from the point of the Scorpion being "that way". Everything is a mirror if you want to get so "deep". Scorpios are not trying to show you anything, nor are they give you your medicine or handing out what you deserve as you deserve it.

That would be like saying if you get decked by an Aries you had it coming.

If you love someone and give your all to them, and they slink off, or disregard you all of a sudden that isn't some all-needed reaction.

You scorpios trying to give a blanket statement that says so and so is at fault, and there is something not being said by the Original Poster, that is so rich. Who would withhold information most likely? Hardly the one jilted by a scorpio, simply put, THE SCORPIO IS BEHAVING SHADY.

Humans pine and fawn over their loved ones, big or small. That is a human and noble emotion going on. There is no shame in it. There is a way to be in love, in loving relationships and on a track of positive wellbeing in this world by moving on and upward from situations. IS IT EASY? HELLLLL NO!

Yes Scorpios of all kinds have admirable qualities, I believe we all do in this world. But people fall from grace, and behave against their better natures. And that has to be said. We can't all be screwed over by Scorpios, be forgiving, be the bigger person everytime like we do. Time we recognize what is going down, call a spade a spade and get back on track to loving our self from our true self and allow the right ones in.

It is never easy, especially now with so many going through the same situation, but we MEN AND WOMEN will persevere, it is what the best of us have done time and time again, and we will be the ones to do it this time.

Peace and love to us all.

Ooooh, YES! I too would like to know the story heroic guy! Particulary since Im always cheering when reading your posts!

Its only fair that you help us all understand your perspective since you're always foaming at the mouth about Scorpios! (No disrespect...I truly share your foam. Ew.) 😄

Posted by Shadows
Ooooh, YES! I too would like to know the story heroic guy! Particulary since Im always cheering when reading your posts!

Its only fair that you help us all understand your perspective since you're always foaming at the mouth about Scorpios! (No disrespect...I truly share your foam. Ew.) 😄

Yeah! What she said 😄

Scorpios are all about power, but we are very insecure.. but we hide it really well.

So either, he's trying to see how far he can push you before you respond and shut him down.. OR.. he's insecure and he's testing to see if his insecurities are correct. Or both? I tend to go between being very self confident to the point of cockiness, to very insecure, and back. Aren't emotions fun?! *raises eyebrow*

Posted by ellessque
even innocently in conversation?

ha! i told my scorp that.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Imagine if you will.. a motherfucker who is willing to mow down an entire civilization if you piss him off.. but breaks down and cries if a girl rejected him. Thats a Scorpio 😛

*pets Skyko*

I don't know if that applies to girls, but certainly the smell better

You're hysterical. Bwahahaha!

Ok, to answer the question do I tell him about men hitting on me? yes and no, he usually knows before I talk to him, I don't throw it in his face. He will ask me about them. I tell him, we have even laughed about some.

We did talk about this last night, because he told me AGAIN about another women. I asked if he was interested, he said no, he was just being honest. So I said I don't want to know because you know it upsets me. He said she swears to much and does not act like a lady, (that is one thing he has always liked about me, he says I am feminine and he has always loved the way I dress and I am never vulgar). He said he shut her down. Then he told me it is hard for him knowing I have all these men around me, it makes him jealous as well. We did kind of laugh at that, I mean it is kind of funny, yea we are so hot HA HA HA.

We talked for about 2 hours last night, he has this way of melting my heart, and his laugh, I love his laugh. I am such a sucker for him. I can be all moody and upset and he can just wipe that away. He tells me he loves me more than anyone he has ever known, he needs me, he is lost without me, that not only am I his woman and lover, but his best friend as well. He tells me his innermost secrets and when he has problems, he tells me and asks my opinion. We get along so well. We have a smoldering chemistry, grrrr. THen he throws those tests and games at me. Men.

Posted by ellessque
Ok. This is based off of me, a scorpio and any experience I had with my scorpio ex husband. remember, we are all different and have different chart aspects. But I'll try my best.

Ok so at what point do the games stop?
They never really stop. Honest. We are so damn vulnerable because in the beginning, we really do give you everything we got. Based on your reaction (even if you pull away or act aloof for a split second) we will start pulling that info away for awhile to see if you are worthy of having it again.

At what point do you figure someone out?
Usually within the first few months. We know you inside and out. We know how you are going to react to us, we know what you are withholding. God forbid we are in tune with astrology because we will have you pegged immediately.

You know the reaction...how many times do you need to see it?
It's ongoing. It just takes one word, one sentence to set us off.

Why do you need to see it?
It makes us feel like you care.

Does it tell you we care?
Yep. We need constant ego stroking. It's not really insecurities we just need to know you have our backs. That you understand us.

What if you ALREADY know that?
We will always question it. Doesn't matter.

So, with that said. How do you STOP it.

Step up and be a complete bitch (man bitch if your scorps a woman). Tell us what you feel IN YOUR HEART and tell us WHERE YOU STAND. Then step back and STAY consistent. No wishy washy bullshit because WE WILL be watching you with a very keen eye to make sure your words match your actions.

You don't react to our petty games and we are like WTF—?!!!!! Yeah, we do a double take because we can play people like puppets. For someone to say...woah, wait a minute, I KNOW what you are doing. That will stop us dead in our tracks.

Stop answering his calls. Don't respond to his texts. Set a term and follow thru with it. Don't faulter by sleeping with his ass or entertaining his bullshit. We'll lose respect REAL fast.

Why do you think I was (still am) so hung up on that damn capricorn? Because the fucker doesn't take any shit from me. That is why.

Your post made me almost cry. It's like I am reading instructions on how to deal with the situation I am in. Thank you. For months I have been lost on how to do it and I keep messing up. I miss him. Thank you. When he contacts me he is

Posted by ellessque
he doesn't trust her and she knows why.

I have no idea why he would not trust me and do not believe for a minute that is the issue, I KNOW without a doubt he trusts me, and I find that statement rather odd and a bit harsh. You seem hell bent on putting this problem I am having with his games on ME ellessque, I am not a liar, and I have never been a fickle flirtatious woman, quite the opposite. If anything I am a bit standoffish with people, I am friendly, but I stay to myself.

I can be perfectly fine on my own, I make a decent living, and take care of myself, and my business. The friends I have, are life long friends, I have no use for superficial cocktail party talk and butt kissing or people who think after they have a drink or two, you are their best friend and start spilling to me all the mundane stories of their lives. I find it rather crass, and boring.

The topic of this was what is with the games Scorpio men play? and Why! THAT is the issue. I am new to this Sign thing, and find it quite interesting how accurate it can be, my question was asked in earnest to try and understand it, I accept the fact that Scorpios needs space at times, fine, go do your thing, I will do the same, and I usually do, however the area I am in is dangerous and I have no use for the trash population and their drinking, drug fueled, life style .

The question was Why— I admit I was upset and irritated yesterday, so what? This is an excellent forum to vent and discuss with out us truly knowing each other, rather a fun way to learn about things from a variety of peoples knowledge and experiences and even wisdom. I just want to understand the need for game playing and I think I get it.

Now, I have to think about how I am going to deal with the 'tests' as these games are called. It is kind of 'little boy' in its obvious ploy. That I see now, so with out damaging that little boy or insulting the man, I need to think on how I am going to deal with this.

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Posted by ellessque
he doesn't trust her and she knows why.

I have no idea why he would not trust me and do not believe for a minute that is the issue, I KNOW without a doubt he trusts me, and I find that statement rather odd and a bit harsh. You seem hell bent on putting this problem I am having with his games on ME ellessque, I am not a liar, and I have never been a fickle flirtatious woman, quite the opposite. If anything I am a bit standoffish with people, I am friendly, but I stay to myself.

I can be perfectly fine on my own, I make a decent living, and take care of myself, and my business. The friends I have, are life long friends, I have no use for superficial cocktail party talk and butt kissing or people who think after they have a drink or two, you are their best friend and start spilling to me all the mundane stories of their lives. I find it rather crass, and boring.

The topic of this was what is with the games Scorpio men play? and Why! THAT is the issue. I am new to this Sign thing, and find it quite interesting how accurate it can be, my question was asked in earnest to try and understand it, I accept the fact that Scorpios needs space at times, fine, go do your thing, I will do the same, and I usually do, however the area I am in is dangerous and I have no use for the trash population and their drinking, drug fueled, life style .

The question was Why— I admit I was upset and irritated yesterday, so what? This is an excellent forum to vent and discuss with out us truly knowing each other, rather a fun way to learn about things from a variety of peoples knowledge and experiences and even wisdom. I just want to understand the need for game playing and I think I get it.

Now, I have to think about how I am going to deal with the 'tests' as these games are called. It is kind of 'little boy' in its obvious ploy. That I see now, so with out damaging that little boy or insulting the man, I need to think on how I am going to deal with this.

good. your pissed now.

you need to copy, paste and send that to his ass.

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HA HA HA! It would be a 2 minute feeling of humph, so there.

But, I need to think about this. I believe he loves

I would gladly discuss my life.

Right now as I log in and scroll through the boards, I see at least twice a week a new post like this one about a Scorpio not being consistent, emotionally available.

I think all people in this world are precious and shouldn't be waiting on someone they care for.

Everyone deserves better.

Waiting months for one sexy scorpio to say hi back to you? And you aren't the only one? Yes we are here to discuss these things and bring up questions that spark more understanding like "why would they do ____". I don't have the answer on how to understand a Scorpio.

Before I ever considering sharing my Scorpio story, tell me beforehand, will the response to my "WTF" be "oh you musta done something wrong", "all the issues were yours, because Scorpios are mirrors".

I won't post in the Scorpio section unless I do decide to share my experience, or have something to say that won't offend anyone.

Thanks for speaking directly and forwardly to me. Peace out

HA HA HA! It would be a 2 minute feeling of humph, so there.

But, I need to think about this. I believe he loves me, and I him, but when he does his This woman is calling, that woman is stopping by etc. and how this women he works with is trying to get with him, and she's encouraging them to spend time together, It ticks me off, what annoys me is he acts like he is such a victim in it. C'mon, if these women are doing this, or even a portion of the women are actually doing what he is saying, he is either screwing around behind my back, and trying to tick me off enough to say drop dead, or he is trying to cover his behind, so when I do go back and possibly hear something, he can say " I told you she was after me, and she followed me here or there" I don't know, I am confused. What do you think?

I do know I am going to keep my Virgo eyes wide open, no need to spook the barnyard just yet, I love this man and this all concerns me, however that being said, we have been in a long distance thing for a while, albeit it is only temporary, I go home in a month. I will hang back, and get the lay of the land so to speak. I hope this is all just frustration on us both because of my being gone for 8 months. (he did fly in a number of times to see me) I am hoping we pick up and go on, or am I going to get my heart ripped out? What do you think?

Posted by ellessque
At that time I just thought we were both assholes.

This is priceless. 😄

I hear ya, Heroic guy, and I for one would not assume you were responsible, but I'd listen (read) with an open heart and an open mind to see as much of the story as possible. I can feel your pain/anger/resentment whenever I read your posts mostly because I feel them too.

I'm guessing that you, like me, have tried desperately to understand the two women you talked about. When you DEEPLY love someone you do everything possible to understand them to find out what they need. I don't know about you, but I can tell you that I personally am ABSOLUTELY open to hearing how I may have contributed to my situation because guess what? That means I can do something differently to change it. It means I'm not helpless. It means I have some level of control as to the direction it goes.

Of course, there is a fine line between compromising and doing your part to meet someone half way and making WAY too many allowances to the point that you are only masking the fact that you may just not be compatible.

You are right. I am a snob and arrogant, and you are also right about the doom and gloom thing, I do get that all is going to fall mentality if things are not going my way. The jealousy? I never have been before, so this is all kind of unchartered waters for me.

I do have some thinking to do about ME. I hate being in the wrong. But I will pay more attention to it. And a Nag? I don't think I nag, I speak my mind and expect the same, but I speak once, and that is it. Doom and Gloom? HA HA, not really, just when I am in a mood. I am usually pretty up beat and can laugh at myself, no one else can, but I can.

But I have alot to think about.

Posted by Bethann
I have no idea what set him off. I really don't. I am working out of town and have been for a while, but I am not out bar hopping and clubbing at all - not ONCE, I am pretty low key and stay to myself here. I work with a lot of men, and he knows some of them, so he knows I am not fucking around or anything. I get hit on alot, but walk away from those guys.

He is kind of jealous at times and so am I. He is a very handsome man, and I am well aware other women find him very attractive, and he is. But it makes me crazy when he will say "Oh, so-in-so invited me for dinner" then does not say if he went or not, and I hate it, cuz then I want to know if he went, or "This woman left a note on my car" or "That women has been hounding me for a job, asking me out, and Dick (his partner) hired her after I said no" then a few days he will say that he did not hire her. Shit like that. It pisses me off. I don't get it. Why?

He knows I love the heck out of him. Why the games? am I to available? I mean I answer the phone all the time because I am either at work or home. I don't go out - not a safe town I am in, lots of wierd things going on. So I lay low. I have done nothing that I am aware of anyways.

I haven't read past this yet but... why the games? Because he enjoys them and knows he has you wrapped around his finger. You ain't going anywhere. You'll get mad and holler but then he comes back and acts sweet or whatever and all is good again. If there was an apology it was fake. A sincere apology leads to a change in behavior, all your getting is lip service. If you don't want him to treat you this way, stop letting him.

Posted by exoskeleton
bethann, i used to do the same thing your guy is doing. by letting you know about all the women who hit on him with these stories, he's reminding you that he is desirable and could be with someone else. it's basically a subtle, passive-aggressive warning for you not to fuck up.

I get what you're saying but I have a problem with the logic. Why do you (whoever is doing this) feel that I need to be reminded you're desirable? Of course you're desirable... I desire you or else I wouldn't be there either. Don't forget there are two people involved in the relationship. The other person isn't just a toy to make you feel good (psychologically, psychically, emotionally, whatever).

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Posted by ellessque
he doesn't trust her and she knows why.

i'm not so sure she knows why, unless there was some unresolved issue she hasn't mentioned. my scorp knows i won't cheat, but he still worries. i asked him once if i actually ever gave him a reason not to trust me or feel insecure with me and he admitted no, but knowing that other men chase me is enough to set him off sometimes.

Want to know why he has that fear planted in him? It's from this kind of stuff...

Posted by exoskeleton
though sometimes if he was pissing me off or i had been feeling insecure with him, i'd go on and on with the stories just to get a rise out of him.

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This quote was immediately followed by your saying that deep down he knows you would never cheat but... no he doesn't. He may trust that you won't but no one ever knows what another person will do. Planting these seeds is where those insecurities come from.

And even though I've quoted you a couple times in a row here I'm not picking on you. Just giving and opinion from the other side of this coin.

Posted by ellessque
shadows, you totally got me. I was like WTF— that doesn't sound like bri.

hahahahahahaha 😄

Hehe, I feel like a total jackass. I'm just teasing her in the Mark Zuka-whatever the hell his name is on the Misc. board. I got myself trapped cause if I take it down she won't understand my posts to her in that thread!

I'm just waiting for someone to start whispering sweet nothings in my ear thinking I'm her! I don't want to impersonate a true original! 🙂

Posted by ellessque
also...take note that exo is with another scorp. those are conversation two scorps HAVE to have to stay together. Exo has clearly let down her guard and has given up control. That is the ONLY way two scorps will EVER make it. It doesn't necessarily have to be the woman but it has to be one of them. That is why I said they had a healthy relationship. Not on this thread alone...but on the consistency of her posts.

That's why I added the "this isn't at you" to her. I didn't want anyone getting defensive or thinking I'm attacking them or their relationship, I'm not. I've seen exo post before too. I don't have anything against anyone here really. I was just pointing out how people's behaviors can create things they may not realize.

Frequently telling your partner about all these people that hit on you and dragging out stories to make them jealous (I'm intentionally exaggerating here cause it really isn't about exo) will plant seeds of insecurity in even the most secure person. Eventually you'll be sitting there one day with a partner who doesn't trust you even though you've never broken that trust.

You know, not for nothing, but I think part of me sees him telling you these things as a good thing. I know damn well my Scorp gets hit on ALL the time. Not just for how he looks, but because of what he does. I never heard a peep about it which made me wonder what he was hiding. If he ever told me some woman hit on him, I might feel flattered by the fact that he told me. That may sound crazy to you, but just keep in mind there is more than one way to see something.

And as a sidenote...I once jokingly mentioned some ho who was clearly hitting on my Scorp on Facebook and he said, "Just because someone likes me doesn't mean I have to like them." 😄 Keep that in mind too.