how can scorpio men be so nasty .

I had a relationship with a Scorpi once they are all sweetness and light until they have you, then he started being nasty, he was a compulsive liar, and was married I found that out later, he lied about everything from where he lived to his cars, he once turned up in a flash motor to take me out on a date, which I later found out he'd borrowed of a mate, through someone else, he even lied about his family saying his brother was a pilot for BA, all absolute crap. But the minute I got wise to all this and questioned him about it he turned on me, needless to say I ended it. For ages after I would get random texts of him, or even a text sent to me that was supposedly for a mate. I changed my number in the end, and it was the best thing I ever did, stay away from Scorpios they have a mean streak and big ego's. I'm a Cancerian and we are sposed to get on, but I would avoid a Scorpio like the plague, just had a bad experience.

he's embarrassed because u went to the other woman and put him on blast. now he has to justify that with irrational anger towards you.

Posted by jjpinki
julyfirst
i never saw his angry side not once,when i pushed him with my words not physical he would go in his cave,he did say i didnt want to see his angry side though,ive been iced out he didnt even get mad when i went to his friend he wasnt happy but ok.so think ive escaped scorpio sting .hes gone for good now and moved on to the next woman.

good for you!

but when you piss them off... they come back. don't get too cozy...they can't stand to get called out and will somehow try to make it YOUR fault.

don't buy the BS or assume ANY guilt when he returns.

good luck!

Posted by ellessque

Posted by jjpinki
i told her my side and i did it to make him angry and let her know what he did. he still never replied.

Posted by jjpinki
...i thought hed respect me enough to leave me then move on and not just ingore me, hes 45yrs old ud think he was a teenager how hes behaved.

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^^^^ this is what I mean by not assuming any guilt or blame.

Asshole is lying to her...
She TRUSTS her intuition and goes to an outside source to confirm her suspicion... she is right

But somehow.. this is going to be turned into how SHE went behind his back and didn't respect him....even though he was disrespecting her the WHOLE TIME by lying... and sleeping with another woman?

pathetic

to me, it just sounds like she is trying to make sense of the behavior. like so many other posts that are made here. pretty common as well as common sense

there are ladies all over these boards pinning for men for months.. years. yet, you find offense that she is still thinking about it after 2 weeks? lol!

i hear what you're saying, tho..

"sit here and wallow in self-pity and place blame on someone else when you made the choices you made to be treated the way you were treated."

...i just don't agree with you. didn't get that at all from the OP

*shrugs*

Posted by ellessque

just because "everybody else" is doing the same thing across the boards doesn't mean it's the best practice. it certainly isn't helpful.

so reflecting and trying to make sense of someone's actions in a failed relationship is "not the best practice or helpful?"

nor is 2 weeks 'acceptable' to you?

oooooookay...

good luck OP! i hope you make sense of it all, in time 🙂

"he had said he was scared to get closer to me even though he said he trusted me .then he changed hot /cold ,etc txt less called less and we started falling out alot but always made up...then i had a feeling he was seeing someone he denied it even though i told him if there was someone else id leave him alone to move on even though i loved him.sorry this is long.... anyway he suddenly stopped talking calling txting and when i txt him he wouldnt reply ,i was hurt and angry and told him what i thought of him i didnt hold back,i found out he was seeing someone so why didnt he just leave me —??"


Why didn't you just walk away when the abrupt changes started? Especially...when you asked him if there was someone else and he completely stopped contact with you? Some men have the balls to tell you it's over, some men don't. You had two very telling signs that were not only disrespectful toward you, but decided that wasn't enough. Who taught you it was okay to be blown off by men, and that you should continue to chase them? Will you repeat this again if the next guy should tell you they love you and then blows you off? Command respect. (not to be confused with demand).

They are required. If they don't torment at least one mammal/bird per day or 666 insects per week, Hades sticks a hot poker up their asses at night.


Diseased things !

Posted by ellessque
so, ask herself why she attracted a douchebag.

we attract what we are ready to attract. THOSE words have been plastered "all over the boards" as well.

Trite bunch of crap.

There's no karmic relationship moderator in life; people get attracted by a variety of variables that have nothing to do with "what they are ready for".

It's not like she has "DOUCHEBAGS, LET ME BE YOUR BITCH" plastered on her forehead.

She probably attracts a bunch of people, and the problem is in her selection. Unfortunately, the players tend to be the best at making themselves seem appealing by putting up a false front. It's what they do.

For example, this Scorpiopath portrayed himself as someone committed and loving. She ate it right up, and this allowed OXYTOCIN to take over her brain.

This involuntarily happens to females!! Biology fucked women over this way.

So really, the fact that she DID get bonded to this Scorpiopath while he treated her well...shows that she DOES respect herself.

But getting off the hooks of oxytocin is not something one can just snap her fingers and do. Try telling someone that who is going on a diet. The fact that they're trying shows that they respect themselves, but they're going to bitch about having to live off of rabbit food for a while, and they will relapse, because the primal brain causes the cravings, that takes a LOT of willpower, constantly to override.

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Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
Trite bunch of crap.

There's no karmic relationship moderator in life; people get attracted by a variety of variables that have nothing to do with "what they are ready for".

It's not like she has "DOUCHEBAGS, LET ME BE YOUR BITCH" plastered on her forehead.

She probably attracts a bunch of people, and the problem is in her selection. Unfortunately, the players tend to be the best at making themselves seem appealing by putting up a false front. It's what they do.

For example, this Scorpiopath portrayed himself as someone committed and loving. She ate it right up, and this allowed OXYTOCIN to take over her brain.

This involuntarily happens to females!! Biology fucked women over this way.

So really, the fact that she DID get bonded to this Scorpiopath while he treated her well...shows that she DOES respect herself.

But getting off the hooks of oxytocin is not something one can just snap her fingers and do. Try telling someone that who is going on a diet. The fact that they're trying shows that they respect themselves, but they're going to bitch about having to live off of rabbit food for a while, and they will relapse, because the primal brain causes the cravings, that takes a LOT of willpower, constantly to override.

what a bunch of piss poor excuses.

btw, diets are counterproductive. 1987 called and they want their legwarmers back.

Do you have any actual rebuttals? Or just uncontrolled snark?

Posted by Jynja
lol Seems like Scorpio season.

SteponScorps - it seems to me that the passion with which you dislike Scorp men seems a tad too great. I'm not against hate, but it seems you have focused energy on this passionate dislike and not as much on your Aqua man. I may be wrong about my observation on this, but could you also be feeling some disappointment? Are you maybe angry your Scorp friend didn't move along quickly and you had to go find someone else? Just curious.

Virgo - again just curious, do you have a Cancer moon? You seem a little impassioned. Also, why post this on the Scorpio board and not the Virgo board? Maybe people on the Virgo board have same experiences that could reveal why "Scorpio men can be so nasty." If it is an ingrained trait as you think it is, then Scorpio 'men' might not exactly know why they are so 'nasty' because they might not think they are being nasty.
Just putting it out there.

No, I just don't appreciate being bombarded with accusations of being a "cheater", a "player", and being harassed to the point of having to change my number, having him refuse to remove all my business from Facebook, and recently, calling me at work to harass me some more! He says he's going to come confront me.

It's looking like I'll have to get a restraining order at this point, and it will REALLY piss me off to have to go to fucking COURT for this bullshit. He's making my life miserable. You'd be upset, too, if someone was purposely trying to ruin your livelihood.

@MellyMel

It's just venting. It's either I do this, or punch everyone on the street who looks like him. 😛

[[PSA:
The Libras and Aquas in my chart would like to interject, and make it clear that I don't actually think Scorps are innately worse than anyone else, and that I'll chill the fuck out once this drama is over. But until then, excuse my Jupiter/Uranus/Pluto dominant chart for going on a rampage. ]]

Ok, back to the hate: damn Scorps!!!

@Jynja

I probably would try the baseball bat method, lol - but we live far away from each other (thankfully).

Also, I have a Cancer placement: Jupiter in Cancer. So that makes me super emotional. lol

Posted by jjpinki
steponscorps
awww bless you must be going through hell ,vent away get your online baseball bat n get it out of your system .hugs .

Thanks girlie!

scorps hurt only because they hurt. I try to bring up this topic on the astrology thread. Talking about the scorp sting. He hurt u because hes hurting his self.

Posted by ellessque
wouldn't it be more productive to make sense of your own behaviour instead of his?

just because "everybody else" is doing the same thing across the boards doesn't mean it's the best practice. it certainly isn't helpful.

he's not in the picture anymore, he's a douchebag. we got that point.

so, ask herself why she attracted a douchebag.

we attract what we are ready to attract. THOSE words have been plastered "all over the boards" as well.

I agree

Posted by jjpinki
ECENT
i know what you mean BUT i was there for him in his darkest low times i gave him space when he wanted to be alone in his cave and i was loyal ,in the end i knew he was pulling away so on the very last phone call i wouldnt even let him speak i was a bitch and then hung up .i did txt him after that but he never replied since i hung up. its ok saying how scorpio man hurts but what about the ppl who have put up with every mood and he doesnt care about hurting others —. i can handle scorpio im not sure he can deal with me lol.

I not making excuses for the scorp. Believe me im not. I was making a point that deep inside they asshole cause they hurt in side.u brought up how they can be nasty.being nasty might not have anything to do with u.either way no one deserves to be treated badly

I am in the same boat, freshly coming out of a 3yr back and forth emotional roller coaster Scorpio relationship. I am a Taurus so we butted heads alot and very intensely but neither of us could seem to let it go until this last argument. I confronted him on all of his mind games, lies and other women. He wasn't very happy about that at all! I fear there is more and I want it to finally be over and peaceful, so I guess my question for this board would be do I need to worry? I don't want to look over my shoulder for the rest of my life! He is very immature and vindictive, so my gut is telling me that something is brewing....and I don't like it.

Posted by jjpinki
hello this is my very first post ,i read about scorpio men but now i need some insight ,ill keep it as short as i can but would really love honest opinions please from scorpios.im virgo and met scorpio man 13 months ago he chased me eventually told me he loved me and we were very close ,he had said he was scared to get closer to me even though he said he trusted me .then he changed hot /cold ,etc txt less called less and we started falling out alot but always made up...then i had a feeling he was seeing someone he denied it even though i told him if there was someone else id leave him alone to move on even though i loved him.sorry this is long.... anyway he suddenly stopped talking calling txting and when i txt him he wouldnt reply ,i was hurt and angry and told him what i thought of him i didnt hold back,i found out he was seeing someone so why didnt he just leave me —?? i told her my side and i did it to make him angry and let her know whathe did .he still never replied .how can he go to another woman and keep me in the dark when i was 10000% loyal loving and honest with him.we havent been in touch at all for 2 weeks and never will,i dont trust him now,but i thought hed respect me enough to leave me then move on and not just ingore me ,,hes 45yrs old ud think he was a teenager how hes behaved :0(

I may be missing something, so please feel free to fill in the blanks if I am. At any point you had the opportunity to take more control of the situation and could have left this man right, but chose not to?

Opportunity #1: "told me he loved me and we were very close ,he had said he was scared to get closer to me..."
Here you could have actually listened to what the man said, and not simply hear what you wanted to hear. There was no real commitment here. It sounds wishy washy as hell. If someone contradicts themselves that is usually a sign that perhaps you shouldn't put everything out there. Be mindful of how much you're investing until he/she can gets their stuff straight. I'm not saying jump ship, but take it slow.

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Opportunity #2: "then he changed hot /cold ,etc txt less called less and we started falling out alot but always made up..."
Here he's no longer giving you what you need. You express this and he ignores, denies and makes no attempt to respond to make things better and you stay anyway . Is this someone you really want to invest time in? I get it, you loved him. Is this what love looks like to you though? Being ignored, dismissed, unresponsive partners? Just a question.

Opportunity #3: "he denied it even though i told him if there was someone else id leave him alone to move on even though i loved him.sorry this is long.... anyway he suddenly stopped talking calling txting and when i txt him he wouldnt reply"
Here he's showing you that he has no regard for you or the relationship, yet.....

I'm not gonna even touch the rest simply because that was all emotional noise. I would like to stick with the title of your thread. Did he act like a douche, yes he did. However in addressing your statement I notice that you (and a lot of folks) act as though these things "just happen to them" and they have no power in the situation. I don't understand the issue here other than the fact that you chose to stay in a situation that you saw and felt was sour, yet he the only one to blame, he's so "nasty". Take some ownership. It isn't cool that he strung you along, lied to you, etc. But where do you start to ask yourself why you didn't listen to yourself when you felt something was wrong and weren't getting what you wanted/needed? Of course it's your prerogative to post whatever you want here, but how is posting how much of an ass he is gonna serve you now?

Posted by CluelessCancer
Do you see that worm you accidentally stepped on fighting for its life right next to the puddle. That's how you should always treat a Scorpio man. Like the sh!t they are. One Scorpio who was my BFF and whom everyone thought we would end up together, kept me on the shelf for years...years...wanted to talk to me about everything in his life..but not put a ring on it..so he got some other chick he can control..and now is engaged to be married.

The other Scorpio iced me out and now is trying to get back with me..lol nope!

anyways...my point is that they aren't worth sh!t...well except my brother who is my BFF.

This is a fair assessment and not laced with bias at all I'm sure.

Here comes the mud slinging. I'm just gonna stop reading the rest..... I gave my . I sincerely wish you the best of luck jjpinki. It really wasn't meant to be an attack, just food for thought.

Posted by ellessque
wouldn't it be more productive to make sense of your own behaviour instead of his?

just because "everybody else" is doing the same thing across the boards doesn't mean it's the best practice. it certainly isn't helpful.

he's not in the picture anymore, he's a douchebag. we got that point.

so, ask herself why she attracted a douchebag.

we attract what we are ready to attract. THOSE words have been plastered "all over the boards" as well.

+1,000,000. Okay, I just needed to add that.

I'm confused. Not being sassy, but just pointing out things that seem contradicting. You said you caught him chatting w/ her, so you knew he was seeing someone? You went over his head to his friends because you suspected he was seeing someone? Your ex friend came to you and told you about her?

How long did you two actually date, as a couple kinda date?

I'm going to play the devil's advocate, and am in no way condoning that he was hookin up w/ some chick. However, I don't believe that you are all innocent in this. You THINK you are because of the severity of how he went about ending things. You've already admitted that you had no problem before telling him your thoughts and feelings, and didn't care if he liked it or not. You've shown the extent to what you'll do and how far you'll go to prove your point by making sure his dirty laundry was aired (which yes can be normal, however not mature), so I'm sure when you had told him in the past your thoughts that you weren't talking to him rationally let alone like an adult; more or less, possibly, for as particular and needing things to be right/their way,very meticulous, your heavy HEAVY virgo placements wanted let alone demanded that you were right, and he was wrong. Your way or the highway.

With that said, (A) no one likes to be told what to do or think constantly. It eventually breeds resentment. (B) Unless the guy is a doormat, no man wants to date a woman who can't control her emotions or thought process day in and day out let alone not take their (men) thoughts, needs, etc. into consideration..not saying anyones has to come first, but at least considered/thought of. (C) You say you would've rather had him break it off or tell you (which yes, in a perfect world..but one we don't live in) but I don't think that you've reacted any differently then you did now. He couldn't tell you and he knew that. It doesn't make it right, it doesn't make it less painful, but it's reality.

Is it completely a shock that someone would go to the extent you did to find out? Nope. I would've done the same. But what is a shocker is that you are mystified by the fact that you aired to everyone what he did, that you screamed at him without letting him get a word in edgewise over the phone, that you hung up on him... again before he could say anything let alone explain anything OR maybe even tell you that he WAS seeing someone else and it's over, but then wonder why he didn't return your text? Nor that you haven't h

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Nor that you haven't heard from him. C'mon girl!

Now onto the Scorpio man aspect. Scorpio men are not cut and dry, and that may not be an aspect that you can handle in a relationship, which is okay because you need your needs met too. BUT, what you see and what really is going on in the mind of a Scorpio man are two different things. That's the first thing and lesson. Second, is he's pissed for the lack of respect when you didn't let him talk, and he's pissed at the lack of respect that you hung up on him. Very normal of most people, true enough, but he's now showing you where the outcome of your behavior got you. You're feeling his ice out, and it is just the tip of the iceberg.

Now, here's the twist. If you say you don't care, if it doesn't bother you that he's gone, if you can't handle his up and down emotions, then he's not going to want to be with you. That shows lack of depth in you to him, that you will never get or understand him or this feelings, let alone his thought process(es). That you couldn't have ever really cared about him if you don't care now that it's over. However, if you now say though to us that you DO care and it does hurt like hell, you've now lied to 'us' and to yourself. See how everything gets twisted around to be about YOU? So with this comes a life lesson. And if you don't come out of a relationship with a Scorpio man learning something about yourself, he will have no respect for you as a person or woman. And if you don't stand up forself with dignity and tact, he won't have respect for you as a person or woman. He wants a strong woman, one who has an opinion, one who knows what she wants, but but not a tactless woman and one with no grace.

The knife that slit your throat in him ever showing or giving you respect ever (again), because his game has only begun, is you didn't show grace. Had you walked away..even saying he hurt you, etc. but had you said nothing to his friends, etc. THAT would've gotten to him more and effected him more, then how you went about it.

I didn't mean it that you provoked it, I meant that you were not perfect in this relationship. I also said I was not condoning what he did You had every right to be mad, of course, who wouldn't be. But you're wondering WHY you're not hearing from him? You're wondering WHY he didn't tell you? You're wondering WHY he lied? In a perfect world he would've told you, so yes, it's normal to be mad and hurt because you expected and anticipated one thing but found out another. But with that, you cannot look at him as being the sole provider to being an asshole in this relationship and paint yourself as the saint.

I know for one, I could not and would not stand for someone telling me their opinion and not care what I thought or how it made me feel. That in itself could've been enough for him to look elsewhere. I would've. Your Virgo placements has the incessant need to have things perfect, how you want things, for things and people to conform with what YOU think, want or need. You strive for perfection, which is a good thing HOWEVER it puts unnecessary strain on others and your relationships if you don't allow people to have their own thoughts and opinions that don't match yours. You can sometimes be a doormat allowing people who you love to walk over you, and that's not right of them ... but on the flip side, as a Virgo, the expectation that people will lay down for you what you say, etc. I'm not pointing fingers, I'm pointing things out.

And a point you're missing, if you're happy he's gone and you kicked him to the curb then you wouldn't care for what his reasonings were, and you wouldn't care that he didn't respond to your text the next day after you "calmed down and apologized for some of the things you said the next day. And if you didn't step over a fine line, what was there to apologize for? You wouldn't be apologizing for anything, so something you said or did has you feeling regret or guilt somewhere.

Posted by jjpinki
why is it that some ppl think the person being cheated on must have done something to provoke it ——??

my 2 cents to you...

close this thread down and move on. people are going to try and break you down psychologically. It's not intentional, it's characteral. (made up word) A thinking that is not wrong, but a bit deeper than you are/may be willing to go at this time.

If you ever hear from him again... you know what to expect.

It is a good idea to let go of trying to figure this guy out and concentrate/ learn about yourself, visit the Virgo board.

Scorpios usually come into our lives to shake us up or force us to look at deeper issues within ourselves that we may not be willing to own.

you're only going to find frustration here

good luck 🙂

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Posted by jjpinki
why is it that some ppl think the person being cheated on must have done something to provoke it ——??

my 2 cents to you...

close this thread down and move on. people are going to try and break you down psychologically. It's not intentional, it's characteral. (made up word) A thinking that is not wrong, but a bit deeper than you are/may be willing to go at this time.

If you ever hear from him again... you know what to expect.

It is a good idea to let go of trying to figure this guy out and concentrate/ learn about yourself, visit the Virgo board.

Scorpios usually come into our lives to shake us up or force us to look at deeper issues within ourselves that we may not be willing to own.

you're only going to find frustration here

good luck 🙂

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good advice