How do you know?

Stupid glitches :/ I deleted my threatd by accident.

My thread question was "how do you know if a Scorpio man is thinking about you or if there's something still there"

And my response to the posters before my topic got deleted:

It's not game playing it's self preservation.

He pursued me very aggressively at first and then pulled back when I gave in. I suppose he could have pulled back for other reasons I won't get into to avoid writing a novel. Anyway we argued because he wasn't contacting me often enough and kept beating around the bush about seeing me "soon" rather than being straightforward about it and saying hey let's do dinner Saturday or whatever. I snapped on him and told him he only wants me for sex and he said he doesn't need to be insulted because I don't have him figured out like I think.. But he also didn't really go out of his way to deny it I don't know maybe he was really offended.
I had good reasons to feel this way and it just came out in the form of an argument. We haven't talked since but I see him party of EVERY night and posting pics and living it up which hurts my feelings but I haven't reacted.

Because of the way he pulled back, I feel like it is a huge mistake to contact him. I also feel like waiting it out might be the only option because I need him to miss me and think about me.. How can he do that if I chase after him not to mention I will look like a fool after being the one to argue with him that he wasn't "tryin hard enough".. Suddenly it's me who tries again? I just can't.

I don't want to have false hope. Am I waiting for no reason? I can't stop thinking about him..

I would like to add that my best friend has the exact placements as him.

She's a Scorpio with Venus in Scorpio and sag moon (same as him) and she constantly goes back and forth on her bf of 3 years who is a capricorn.. When he disappears she can't live without him and when he's giving her attention suddenly she asks herself if he's really the one. She has also cheated on him but is actually considering marrying him one day (he hasn't proposed she was just casually talking about it)

You need to get out, if you can't stop thinking about him. He is obviously having fun and living life regardless if your on his brain.

The key is to show him that your doing great without his attention. One way to do that is to go have fun and talk to other people. Once he notices that other guys are all over you and you are happy he may rethink his decisions.

However, it doesn't seem like he was interested to begin with. He let go mighty easily. He basically said you don't know me like that to make accusations about my character so deuces.

I would move on and maybe he'll circle back.

How old are you two?

He's 31 and has the biggest ego I've ever seen but deep down seems insecure (don't ask me why I feel this but I do). I'm 5 years younger.

We are adults and should be past the game playing but unfortunately we both play games very very well.

I tried to be open with him and show him I like him but it has had a reverse affect. When I resisted he was all over me.

The story is more complicated than this because when I met him I had a boyfriend (who I broke up with). My ex came to visit me for a week and Scorpio knew this. I explained to him it was strictly for closure and nothing going on there though.. Because of this, I kept making excuses for Scorpio's behaviour thinking he was unsure about me or something but when I see him partying every night and hitting on all these women (after the argument) it's making me think that I was making excuses for him for no reason. I could go on and on and maybe if everyone knew all the details it would affect the advice I receive but my main objective was to decide if he is worth waiting for..

And yes I've been trying to go out but I'm such a homebody that I have a hard time having pretend fun. My idea of fun is a love sesh with my men followed by watching movies.. I hate clubs. I don't know how to show him I'm having fun without him.

Correction: "love sesh with my man (singular lol)" - as in I prefer staying in with a guy I'm dating and having our own fun over goin out to parties.. The prob is I'm not dating anyone.. I was seeing him and that's who I want no one else.

I didnt read the whole thing so i'm probably making incorrect assumptions 😄 , but why are you putting all your energy into this lame ass dude? Is he crucial to your existence? Live your life and stop thinking about him. Maybe he will come to you, maybe he won't.

I dunno why you're still fretting over this guy and wondering this stuff. You know he's a selfish jerk that was just using you. There's no fairy tale grey area where he "secretly" wants you.

You're also showing your age because you want to prove to him you're doing fine without him. You don't have to do that. Move along and don't bother contacting him or allowing him to contact you.

I'm sure everyone goes through a few break ups that seem a lot more "difficult" to let go of than others.. I've gotten over people quickly while others have lingered in my mind for a long time.. Usually because of unfinished business or some overwhelming feeling that the break up was the result of a lot of misunderstanding (which is how I feel right now)

Impulsiv:

I'm a Venus Scorpio myself so I know exactly what you're talking about.. Personally, I don't want to be anybody's rebound I need someone's undivided attention and their intentions must be as pure and intense as mine.. I say this because if the tables were turned I would have backed off completely for months until I felt him and the ex were no longer in contact and I was the person he wanted.. However, he knew what he was getting himself into from day 1. Why pursue me so hard only to fall back afterwards? Had he "taken his time" from the beginning, all of this would've made a lot more sense. I told him I broke up with the guy but the ex wanted to meet and talk in person and I didn't want to refuse cuz I owed it to him to give him closure (I was fine). When Scorpio and I met, I hadn't even broken up with the ex yet so the fact that I broke up with him shortly after and gave him the closure he needed should've been a good thing in scorpios eyes I don't know.

I don't want to let go yet I have no idea why.. I could force myself but I have so many fixed placements in my chart that forcing myself to do/feel anything just doesn't work for long... I have to actually believe that there's nothing to hang on to before I can let go. Right now I'm not fully fully convinced and again no clue why.

If you don't want to let go, mister up the courage to contact him or be where you know he is gonna be. So you can find out for sure if he's waste of time

I honestly know how hard it is to speak to someone you like or have unresolved feelings for and your worried about ther other party's reaction.

Posted by Chowfun92
If you don't want to let go, mister up the courage to contact him or be where you know he is gonna be. So you can find out for sure if he's waste of time

I honestly know how hard it is to speak to someone you like or have unresolved feelings for and your worried about ther other party's reaction.

She already knows he is. She's written about him before.

Posted by virlib01
I'm sure everyone goes through a few break ups that seem a lot more "difficult" to let go of than others.. I've gotten over people quickly while others have lingered in my mind for a long time.. Usually because of unfinished business or some overwhelming feeling that the break up was the result of a lot of misunderstanding (which is how I feel right now)

It's understandable as there is a period of mourning and working through the motions.

However, you need to be aware that this period is NOT the time to make any serious decisions, like getting back with the guy or attempting to. Worst time to think of doing such things.

Stick to your guns and work through it. Without him.