How honest are you? Honestly...!

Can't believe I've stumbled on another Scorp so quick after finalising a 18 month effort at getting a date out of my last one ... but this time I'm not keen on being brainwashed...hearing good things from this one + vibe is great - just love you Scorps!

So,going on a theme here........

1) When you say something do you mean it?

2) How easy is it for you to sweet-talk?

3) Do you base your wants on reality or fantasy?

....and if anyone knows how I can change my depressing logon name, let me know!

Yours 'no longer sufferin'!

Well,

1. Depends on what we want.

2. Depends on what we want.

3. We know both, so it depends on what we want.

Virgos for the most part enjoy a mental challenge. Scorpios enjoy both the mental and physical.

Hey Virgo S..

Here are my answers for ya.. 🙂

1) Yes I absolutely mean it, I don't really say anything unless I mean it.. lol...

2) How easy is it? I agree w/Lady D. here, depends on what I want. But usually, no, is not the answer I'll accept.. teehee...

3) I think it's an element of both.

Talk to you later!
Storm

Ms virgo? Why are you giving up after 18months. Like your self, I'll take another Scorpio as well. But, if you had true love for him, how can you move on just like that with another Scorpio at that?

I am a very brutely honest person..I cant help telling the truth because trivial pursuit does not amuse me..Straight to the point. If I tell a little lie, trust me it was for everyone involved good. I hate to lie!!! I don't sweet talk, I am just a charmer to get what I want. My wants are fantasies at first, then I make them a reality if I want something real bad.

1)yes,but i don't explain every little detail so some peoples opinion of what i mean may be differ.2)unless i mean it,no,i can be considered mean by people who know me.3)reality,but have alot of fantasys but those are just that-fantasy.

Storm

RE: don't say if if you don't mean it...what about if what you say implies you will do something, how long does it take you to do it?

Do you avoid committing to timescales?

...and why?

Callmemsram

Have read some of your other posts and know exactly where you are coming from in asking how I can move on! I have to...yes, I love the last one deep in my heart for just being him and for all the reasons you love yours and then some.

I like you are a strong person and I've been able to stop myself going into 'what's he doing, why isn't he calling' mode. Mine always called me, always talked - about e'thing - but so hard to get him to see me. The phone gave him the 'control' to keep me at arms length. Is he scared of the way I make him feel? Love to think so cos then there is a reason to hang in there. We have discussed the fact we would be brilliant together, have fun, have rows and make up with no grudges - we have gotten the practice in on disagreeing already - BUT he still never asked me out...and I was careful to avoid making it an ultimatum (know this Scorp does not do ultimatums!)

I will always be there for him and know if he did re-appear and was committed to making it with me - he starts doing e'thing he said he would - I'd likely jump ship from wherever I was sailing at the time...does this make sense?

How you 'doin with yours?

Scorpios ignore because we know that in the long run, it will hurt our intended victim even more than words can.

Hey Virgo S.

Let me make sure I've got this question down.. You're wondering if I say I'm going to do something will I do it? Yes... Is there a set time span? No... Why? It just depends on what I have going on in my life. I might have to prioritize something else in front of it. Hope that makes sense...

Storm

VS I truly understand now where you are coming from. I guess now all I would have to do is just go on with my so called love life. I do have this fear? If I was able per say, to be able to replace him, meaning if I met someone that I enjoyed and wanted to spend time with and was willing to see where it can go, if he popped back up wanting to go at it again wanting to be with me, I dont know if I could go back!!! I have never moved forward and then step back into a relationship before. I no for sure that I don't really want to hurt him. He wouldnt have all the power in this world to get me back. It definitely would turn from love to hate if he tried. I know myself very well in deed. I could say right now that I would go back because of my feelings, but if he would leave me enought rope, for sure he would not find me still hangin on the other end. Right now I dont plan on ever contacting him. I am not sure in time if he was to contact me if I will then respond. I am tired of being tested. Its not fair and I dont think my pride will allow him to just walk back after up-teen months have passed. Cant be second fiddle, its my MO. I am just praying that he will give in way before I start traveling. I really just think its been a waste to have all these great feelings and not have been able to express them for the one that really matters. You are good girl!! Right now I am just really torn!!!!

CMSM

Re: Torn + tested? A waste to have all these great feelings?

Hey girl, you got it wrong! I've been where you are and one thing my Scorp (unwittingly) taught me was how good it feels to have (present tense not past!) those great feelings of being with him, on tap, whenever I need them! I recognised I was associating losing him with losing how he made me feel. Now, instead I revel in how the world went quiet when he kissed me, his humour and warmth, how gently he employed his considerable physical strength when he hugged me, his laugh, his body language when he was wanting to impress me, the good things he did without knowing I realised, his intensity, passion, things he chose to share with me and just how damn s...y he is! These things make me feel fab...and I am one of the lucky few who really knows what he's like! How smug does this make me feel!🙂 As long as I remind myself in this way, I know I'll never lose how completely satisfied and happy he makes me - he may be gone but, one thing for sure, what he gave me, ain't goin nowhere! ...and I win! Just 'cos he won't go out with me doesn't mean I've lost him. I've gotten the chance to feel all the things I mentioned, 'cos Mr Scorp gave more of himself to me than he will ever realise...he thinks he is hurting me by not talking...he is only making me realise how much he spoiled me, gave me what I wanted and, hellfire, he can't erase these great/happy/wonderful feelings! They are mine. So there!

If he decides to pop up again, honestly, like you, I'll struggle. I will remember the good times but I will also have gotten even stronger by then. He would have to do some serious chasing to get me...- note I said 'likely' in my earlier post 🙂 If yours calls you, go ahead, pick up the phone, you ain't scared of no-one! If you've tried my approach, I can guarantee you will surprise the hell out of him with how happy you are + how positively you feel about him - you won't be able to stop yourself as all along postive thinking fed your heart but, and it a JLO size butt, it didn't affect your brain! Smart cat. Go lick your whiskers.

Think of your Scorp as good for you! They are! They teach us so much about ourselves. Try it! He knows you are upset - they are buggers, they always 'know' everything. Pull the wool over his eyes for a change!

Does this help?...and are you a Scorp?

Any Mr Scorps out there prepared to comment on my advice?

Destinychild

You ignore 'cos it hurts?

How do you react when it doesn't appear to have worked...is my advice to CMSM any good? Would it work for you?

Curious...

OMG!!!!! Thank you soooooo much.....I have read your response over and over. You are deep girl, yet you are sooooo right!!!!! What he has given me is chance to really love. True to what you say, I havent lost. What I have gained is my true aspect on what love is really about(thank you again) I am not a great listener, but yet I heard and understood everything that you have said. I am not a loser in the aspect of loving someone on a very different level. He has shown me my true self and brought out the deeper feelings that I may have within myself. No one like to be vulnerable..but yet it cribbles you to be real. I can cherish all that he has done for me. Should it not be destined for us to join, I can carry this over in to the next relationship and maybe be really happy. Truth be told, my relationship always started out on a you make me so happy level. Of course the physical aspect had to meet my standards. I have been married twice and had them sized up before I said I do. I already knew if I was to ever become very unhappy in the relationship that I could get out with out a hitch. Of course by then, I knew I was in total control of the entire relationship and knew which way it could go. Not to knock my ex's, they are wonderful men, but now realizing that there was a void that they could not fill. I am in need of unconditional love that has substance. Mr. Scorpio in away, has stop me, slowed me down and to take my time and realize what's it all about. I am confused and torn, but yet after hearing your view, I truly understand my purpose. Let's just say, it all starts with whom I am as well as who they are. Should we become intimate, its truly about how we have bonded emotionally verse how we make each other feel physically. I could go on!!! I truly respect your honesty. I do know my worth and now I must allow for it to show. I have morals and spiritually, I know that maybe in this life, I might not experience what it like to really having someone to really truely love you if I don't make the necesary changes with in my self. It's one thing to be in control, but it a blessing to have love that in control of you.... I must say this, I am taking all of this in, yet part of me still wants to push the issue or per say, prove to him that I am the woman for him whole heartly. I know I must be in control of my impluses as well as being responsible for my forceful reactions. Please continue to encourage me to be true yet stay humble. I really appreciate your wisdom...Can we talk?

1. yes
2. depends on who it is lol
3. reality

DIITO!!! I heard ya!!! mutual respect MS Virgo be good!!! Its fits you!!!! agree—?

Callmem....

Soz - off line over the w.e.!...but glad to help!

If it makes you feel better it was hard for me to follow my own advice but you know, when you finally make the switch to thinking that way, you realise you just mined an inner strength you never knew existed before and boy, you can't help but smile at the day!

...and to cap it all my Scorp called! I was so nice to him like nothing had happened...and he can't stop calling...and you know, I'm happy with that. I'd rather hear than not. Not settling for seconds as it cost me nothing to answer 'his calls'. I treat him gently but am true to me - sure I'll get tired of listening to him moan about his day but hey, maybe then I will understand why we never got it together - he just knows that already!

Speak soon........?

Hi ya VG,

Did'nt expect to hear that Mr. Scorpio has come out of silence. Boyyyyy, what a turn around. Has ex- left the states? I am still following your advice and I see how your own advice is helping you as well. I don't plan on contacting my Scorp. If he where to call me, not sure if I would respond or why I would respond. I guess that time will have to come or pass. I hope my patience can stand it...Truthly, I am challenging myself to just get over it and never look back regardless what he does or doesnt do...I can't image being sloppy seconds!!!!!I am not desperate for that type of order!!!!How is it with the other Scorp—?? going.....

1) depends
2) extremely easy
3) both

initial question: "How honest are you? Honestly...!"

i'm a liar! never trust me!! honestly!!! lol

Virgo - Hummm. as a Scorpio involved with a Virgo for a while now. To answer your questions and this is strictly me:

No I am not going to lie to you. I will be brutally honest when I have to.

I will love you to the ends of the earth and back.

My fantasies depend on the person that I love, because they will include them

I want total honesty and absolutely no mind games or I'll leave you

I want sex, and I want it to mean something - not some flighty affair that has no merit.

I am loyal - sometimes to my detriment.

You left one Scorpio for another one? Why? Did he frighten you in some way?

Being with a Virgo for me has been hard and difficult, but also rewarding in many ways. I have learned many things - about myself from him actually. And probably vice versa. We are compatible in many ways - but also there are some differences.

Overall, I would say if the Scorpio is mature and sound, then you will have a loving and devoted partner for life. If something has made us not trust in you or our faith is shaken - then you will experience a dark side to our nature and we will leave without looking back.