why do scorpios hurt themselves

Here Here! Candlegirl, you have quite a grasp on this one. Even a Scorpio couldn't have put that one better. No wonder you have such a wonderful relationship with your hubby. 🙂 Best of luck hun.

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Angel

LOL Well, that's a given, right? Everything with Libras and Scorpios is intense, isn't it? 😉

16 years with an Aries huh? I'm so sorry you were hurt so badly, but I'm very happy to hear that you have found your soulmate. Best of luck to you & your hubby hun!

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Angel 🙂

I'm involved with a scorpio. We've been together for 3 years. He's been burned badly. Because of it we have hard times. He obviously cares but damn is it hard. When he has a hard time everyone around him feels it. I try to give him space. But it's hard when he calls me up and takes it out on me. He always apologizes later once he's cooled down. I'm not one to take it lightly and I end up firing right back after so long. Any advice or am I doing the best by trying to give him space?

Thank you. It's a very intense relationship.

Pisces03, Candlegirl is right... Scorpios cannot tolerate weakness and we can sense it a mile away. We're strong people generally and we tend to completely despise any and and all weaknesses, and even if we love the person, we will (frequently unknowingly) exploit those weaknesses *ugh - I hate admitting to the bad sides of my personality lol*

I had some trust issues when I met my fiancee and we went through some rough times because of what happened to me in past relationships. I can tell you that it paid off for him that he was patient. I was afraid to relax and take the relationship for what it was - for fear that I would allow myself to be hurt again (My guess is that is where your guy is right now). I don't tolerate weakness in myself at all - and the thought of getting hurt again and having to feel weak was something I could not bear. It took him a while to teach me that I could trust again. BUT, he never let me push him around (I'm not violent, but I can be pushy - I am a perfectionist and I tend to try {whether I realize it or not} to perfect everyone and everything in my life. My daughter always says, with me, it's my way or the highway, but he never let me do that to him and I respect him more for it today.) It takes a strong person to love a Scorpio and stay with them. Hang in there and don't give up if you love him... In the end, he'll respect your persistence and love you even more for your patience. 🙂

Good luck!

Angel 🙂

It's been a wild ride. Whenever I get fed up and start to leave he always hangs on. 3 years and we're still trying to get a handle on our situation. I see the whole disliking weaknesses in others. He hates it when I cry, slightly whine, or even get that hurt look face.

Well, that sounds like something he'll just have to adjust to- because you have a right to be who you are hun and a right to show your emotions. I said we didn't like weakness - I didn't say we were right to judge others because of their feelings/emotions. 😢 Please don't change who you are... Just be aware of what might happen when he detects those differences.

~sigh~ I feel so bad for all of you who have to deal with us... I know we have a lot of good inside of us, but geesh, we can be intense and difficult sometimes. So, for the lot of us - I apologize... and wish you luck in dealing with us. 🙂

Thanks. I'm a true pisces and have the ability to overlook any faults he has. Any insight as to why despite his complaints he still hangs around?

maybe because he sees you as you really can be......but you haven't seen it in yourself.....yes pisces are sensitive to their enviroment.......but be very careful a negative trait of the sensitive and empathtic pisces is manipulation....stand back and look at whats wrong and be very honest with yourself and make changes..... stay positive....and feel the currents the world gives you......and stop being a doorstep for the love of.....mmmmm...life you choose how and who you live it with.....take care.....pisces females....my sisters....

Thanks. I'm working on it. So far so good. He's responding very well. I think the submissivness was a turn off. It'd be a turn off for me as well. That is not how I want to carry myself in this relationship.

remember....there are 2 ppl in a relationship.....and both of your feelings and needs are expressed through you....never forget you need to sort out what you want and need .......thats when you will be happy......find your happy place.....