How to for a Scorpio with venus in Scorpio

I want to take my gentleman out for some amazing meaningful dates.
We've been on some rocky shores for a while, and I want him to know I take him and this relationship seriously.
Honestly I could gush all sorts of mush right now but will spare you folks.
I want to wow him but in a deep meaningful way.
He's not particularly fond of anything save videogames and snuggling( with the latter he's put up a wall as of late)
So I don't know where to take him really. Im thinking a getaway camping trip.

I just want our time together to be special.
I feel at a loss as a fire sign since Im pretty inept at "vibeing" with water signs; I feel like thats part of the romance.
speaking without words. Feeling each other, which is difficult if your partner has placed up walls.


"Herr Gorbachev, take down this wall!!"

If you can find something that he told you that he likes to do.. you will know what it is bc his eyes lit up/ h turned 2 instantly talking about it. He will know you are serious bc it most likely will be something That he didn't elaborate on bc he didn't think you would go for it. That will show him in action that you take him and the relationship seriously. He may protest a bit. .but keep lovingly nudging until he gives in. Then back up your actions Verbally. .look him in the eyes when you do. He will understand. Goid luck!

He's a man, he should be planning the dates, IMHO.

But if you want to do it anyway, find out what he's passionate about and then do that.

I'm not going to be nosey and ask, but the one thing that stood out to me out of all of your wonderful words was this:

Posted by evermour
He's not particularly fond of anything save videogames and snuggling( with the latter he's put up a wall as of late )

And I am wondering why that is. If (big if here) you've done something to create that reaction that needs to be addressed first. No way around it. He will see through your "plans" and it won't mean too much to him. If it's just one of his moods...the date/private time together should be just what he needs to mellow him out and show him you care.

Just a thought.

We have definitely addressed that issue :/
I was dishonest and Im also trying to show him that Im worth his trust again.

But he's prone to moping and personally I don't think that's constructive
Thats why I want us to spend quality time outside so he'll have better memories to recount on.
He's decided he wants to try. It means the world to me that he's still here, so yeah sometimes he has worse days than others.
Its been getting better I think. Just very, very slowly.

Okay, well don't force it. I think a simple romantic night in may begin to mend fences. Anything too elaborate will feel like over kill right and won't seem sincere. As you pointed out, things are getting better "very very slowly". It sounds like it may not be quick enough for you--that's not his problem.

^^^Sorry, the last little bit came off a bit harsh. Not intended.

No I definitely agree.
Of course its not to my liking. I like things lightning fast.
but I respect the fact that he needs to take his time.
If I were in his position I would too.
I definitely dont want to force things because I feel like that would be disrespectful to his position.

I just want to do all that I can to help things along. And yes have it be natural.
I just want him to be happy when we do have time together. I want him to feel comfortable with me.

Posted by MissGummyshoe

Posted by evermour

I want to wow him but in a deep meaningful way. He's not particularly fond of anything save videogames and snuggling( with the latter he's put up a wall as of late)

OK, what did he love doing when he was a little boy? Has he ever mentioned anything, even in passing? If you can't come up with anything,
are there any videogames in particular that he loves? Do they have a certain theme, etc.? Does he collect anything?

My Scorp ex *loved* Easter egg hunts when he was a kid, so I created a sort of breadcrumb-clue hunt for our anniversary. Doesn't make any sense,
I'm sure, but it's too elaborate to go into at the moment.

Try to think of things he's said and then post them on the board. I'm certain people will have all sorts of lovely suggestions.

Did you ever give him that poem-in-a-bottle?

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Hmm. He likes fantasy themed games.
He never mentioned anything particular from his childhood. thats a good thing to find out though!
He doesnt collect anything, but he loves star wars. Ive actually made him some star wars themed gifts.

I did give him the poem :]
He got much softer after.
Less pessimistic. Still unsure. But still there and getting warmer!

Posted by Ellybean
1) His brooding isn't constructive, but let him do it, just a little bit.

2) He doesn't need anything for you to do.

If it were a Scorpio Women with Venus in Scorpio, then yeah, plan a super special date, organized all around her. But the men don't need that, and a lot while they appreciate it, don't necessarily want it.

You're right, he's here, so he wants you. So just be with him. Be your own natural self, before the fight/tiff/relationship disturbance. Think of him as a feral dog or cat, keep up a calm, loving and repetitive pattern and wait for him to come back around to you. When their ready to say something, they do.

Be affectionate though. Scorp Men appreciate cuddling and small affectionate actions.

Getting out and around town might help, but don't make it a point/focus. And if you do, don't cater the outing to his likes/dislikes or yours, do something/experience something neither of you have done before. 🙂

THANK YOU 🙂

this is perfect.

Arielle- haha Yeah thats the same with my guy, you have to TRY to get him angry but when he is WHOAH, its definitely a force to be reckoned with.
But yeah sweet and subtle. 🙂

oh my goodness Im a beginner, but that would be sweet. 🙂

Im more visually talented (I paint) so I'm torn on what to make for him :p