I can't get this Scorpio out of my head!!!

Before I begin my story, let's go over the synastry aspects that I know of. I don't have his exact time of birth so im not sure about his houses or Asc,sorry. His birthday is Nov,11,1983 and I was born July,12,1987 at 11:48pm in Nj. I'm a cancer sun and he is a Scorpio. Our moons are conjunct in Aquarius. Both of our Venus to Mars sextile each other,my south node and psyche in libra conjuncts his Venus & Mercury in libra, his south node in Sagittarius conjuncts my Saturn.His Venus in libra falls in my my 7th house, his sun and Pluto in my 8th (Scorpio ). Our psyche to Eros sextile and trine both ways... I feel addicted to this man but I JUST met him! It feels completely silly and irrational yet I can't help it. I've had dreams about him , I can't get him out of my thought process. Unfortunately, I find him a bit scary too. His N.node conjuncts my Chiron in Gemini and his Neptune in sag conjuncts my Saturn. All I keep reading about the last 2 aspects are nothing but gloom and doom,"seperative",bad news bears etc.

Ok, let's start from the beginning. I met Mr. Scorpio via a dating site. He reached out,I found him attractive and funny,we exchanged numbers but unfortunately I blew him off for a couple weeks due to school and other obligations. The day of the date, I came ridiculously close to cancelling because I was having a "fat day". Yes,seriously. My bff talked me out of it and so I got myself together and off to the date I went. Our date was at a rooftop in midtown Manhattan and we literally came out of the elevators at the same time,making it sort of romantic comedy awkward. I found him cute but extremely quiet,semi awkward and inexplicably magnetic. After about 15mins of awkwardness we settled in to the lounge area and things seemed to take off. I felt like I knew him,understood him, wanted to hug and kiss him etc. Yes,this was our first date. Our date started at 6:30pm, we shut the place down till 2am. We laughed like crazy,spoke about our families,friends, business aspirations and my recent trip to Berlin. He explained that he has a friend not too far from where I stayed and is going for his birthday this year. We spoke about everything under the sun. I was attracted to him but in an unconventional way.In true Scorpio fashion,He kept staring me down when he thought I wasn't looking. We've been on two dates, on our 2nd date we got stormed in his house and I spent the night. Nothing happened except for some cuddling and making out but it was very intimate,not really because of that but just our conversations and the level of comfort and familiarity I felt. We discovered that we enjoy a lot of the same random shows and laid in bed watching "what would you do" on his phone the next morning. I knew him not to have an Instagram acct as that's what he told me when I initially asked. so, being a new IPhone user, I immediate pointed out the icon when I noticed it under his frequently visited when he opened his browser. He asked me to show him what

what I was talking about because he didn't have an account so I directed him to open up his internet where I could see the icon. When he did I noticed that the poor boy didn't have an app at all,he had found my Instagram and been frequently visiting my page so the the icon with my profile username showed up on his frequently visited browser on IPhone.He looked really embarrassed and I felt bad for unintentionally calling him out on stalking me. To make him feel better,I confessed that i had done my own "research" on him via Facebook too. I found the whole situation funny because if anyone else had done that I'd probably have run out of the house screaming stalker! Ok,maybe not but you get the idea ‚! I liked everything about him, he was so open and almost a bit vulnerable for a Scorpio. He's 31 and I'm 28. When we spoke of families, he mentioned that his parents were having a hard time (remember this part,it's important)

Ok, so fast forward to the morning after,he texts me a hour after I left to make sure I got home safe, we briefly spoke the next day then he starts to withdraw. I reached out to him 5days later and he text me immediately but then fell off all cold again. I spoke to him 2days after that and basically asked him where he disappeared off to. He said his parents are getting a divorce and it's distracting. Not to be insensitive but he's 31 and no longer living at home or even in the same state as them. I understand it may be distracting but is it really an excuse to disappear if you like someone? I told him that I was sorry to hear that and if he felt like he was no longer in the headspace to pursue anything with me or just wasn't interested in me in general that it was totally cool. I was lieing of course. He responded with a wishy washy "yea,idk. It's not that I'm not interested. It's just hard to even think about with all this going on right now. Makes sense? My heart sunk but I'm extremely prideful so I immediately texted "makes sense,take care". He responded with "u do the same and I deleted his # immediately. It's been almost two weeks and there hasn't been ONE day that I haven't thought of him,looked up some aspect in our charts, had dreams about him...it's frustrating.

I just need him out of my psyche! Speaking of psyche, mine to his Eros trine, his to mine sextile and my psyche in Libra conjunct his Venus! I hate that I feel so inexplicably drawn to him! So, I guess my question is this, what do all these aspects say about a potential relationship if we meet again? Is my Chiron conjunct his north node in Gemini and his Neptune conjunct my Saturn in Sagittarius enough to ruin all of the other good aspects we have? I no longer have his contact info and if he's anything like me he probably deleted me too but our chemistry was sooo out of this world, I can't imagine never running into him again...I almost feel pain...like my heart is broken. Yes,I know how silly that sounds after having technically gone on two dates but I can't help but feel like we'll meet again...or at least , I hope so...somehow,someway... I pray. P.s his moon falls into my 12th house

Didn't you post about this a few days ago?

Posted by Mystik_Enigma
Didn't you post about this a few days ago?

I did in a different area but I got no real responses and figured I'd try the Scorpio section since that's who I'm asking about

you said you had a 'fat day'. I notice that scorpios hate to be fat or date fat people in that sense they are very shallow. I also read something on linda goodman that the ones that like curvier girls are saggitarrius and taurus but not scorpios.

Posted by LibraGirlLove
you said you had a 'fat day'. I notice that scorpios hate to be fat or date fat people in that sense they are very shallow. I also read something on linda goodman that the ones that like curvier girls are saggitarrius and taurus but not scorpios.

This is definitely not true. If you look these men up, they look beyond the physical of a woman, they are deep like that.They can look at a supermodel and see that she's ugly on the inside and want nothing to do with her.They say you can win these men by being in tune with your feelings being confident about the things you feel, and being comfortable in your own skin especially in your sexuality it's very appealing to them. I have scorpio friend he is "big" and so is his girlfriend, but women are attracted to him because he's comfortable in his skin, he's confident and so is his woman. I know another Scorpio thats athletic in his build and his girl is very sloppily put together, like her shape is messy to me, but he's truly smitten by her, which tells me she's making love to his mind not just his body.

To the OP , I’m confused as to why you told this man that it would be fine with you if he didn’t want to continue pursing something with you if that’s not what you meant.
I get that you didn’t want to put yourself out there or let him know it would hurt or bother you if he didn’t want to continue pursuing because you didn’t want to feel like your all on his jock. But to a Scorpio, what you said might have turned him off and made him feel like you don’t care. Remember they are very fragile even though they come off hard, you can easily hurt their feelings and you wont know it unless they want you to know. If you enjoyed spending time with him and didn’t want to lose his friendship there was a way you could’ve let him know that without being “fake” and making him feel like he didn’t matter to you.

You could’ve said “Oh wow, I’m very sorry to hear that. I hope you know I’m here if you ever wanna talk or get your mind off it. I truly enjoy our time together, so just let me know.”

It’s simple, gentle, not overbearing, not too mushy, and it’s friendly. It also lets him know that you aren’t willing to back down so easy just because he’s having a rough time. I hate to say it but it could’ve been a test on his part. Do your homework on these jokers, they test their mates. Just saying.

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Posted by LibraGirlLove
you said you had a 'fat day'. I notice that scorpios hate to be fat or date fat people in that sense they are very shallow. I also read something on linda goodman that the ones that like curvier girls are saggitarrius and taurus but not scorpios.

This is definitely not true. If you look these men up, they look beyond the physical of a woman, they are deep like that.They can look at a supermodel and see that she's ugly on the inside and want nothing to do with her.They say you can win these men by being in tune with your feelings being confident about the things you feel, and being comfortable in your own skin especially in your sexuality it's very appealing to them. I have scorpio friend he is "big" and so is his girlfriend, but women are attracted to him because he's comfortable in his skin, he's confident and so is his woman. I know another Scorpio thats athletic in his build and his girl is very sloppily put together, like her shape is messy to me, but he's truly smitten by her, which tells me she's making love to his mind not just his body.

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I should have said "most" scorpios want thin women. It is true they are shallow though. The scorpio guy I dated and know says no fat chicks at all because it would be weird since he is thin and so into health. Being the jerk he is he cheated with an online date who turned out to be a fat girl. He said he didnt like she had no curves and was fat. He seems like a nice guy to everyone and girls get crushes but in reality is a real ass. Same thing with my relative who is scorpio he dated a fat girl for fun times but never got serious and he calls me fat all the time even though im a size 8 so not fat but curvy.

Oh and that scorp guy I dated who cheated with the fat girl cheated with others who were thin, had big fake breasts, thin, but had ugly faces with over caked makeup. The 2 he fooled around with were your plastic surgery centerfolds so yes they can be shallow and appear nice etc but are really not. In contrast though I am curvy not fat and not enhanced in any way so that totally made me wonder why scorpio was this shallow?

This Scorpio is not one of the most that wants real thin women.

LibreGirlLove .. He sounds like a real fuck wad ... I have a strong disliking for fake ass people aka fake wads. I've dated very petit skinny girls in the past, definitely not my preference. I like natural beauty, slightly curvy girls with nice proportionate natural breast...

Could never grow an attraction for women shaped like popsickle sticks or women with all the caked on fakeup to hide behind.

Move on. Start dating other guys.
And next time don't lie, overanalize nor do a mans thinking for him.

Speak from the heart not the head.