I don't understand .....

So Scorpio informed last weekend some bad news happened and more bad news. We were talking and he gets a phone call and than says he has to go get his brother at the police ....since than he says he has process his emotions. So I said I would give him some space however I will admit I don't like being shut out. I don't know what is going on. 😢 I am trying to give him his space however I will say that it is kinda making me feel insecure. I don't know what to do. Please help.....I really do adore Scorpio but I don't deal well with this not knowing and feel like I am being shut out. 😢

PD

You are being shut out, but don't take it personal. Sometimes a Scorpio really needs to process his/her emotions alone because we don't always understand our emotions. Our emotions are very intense, mixed, chaotic, & complex. To be honest you just wouldn't understand because until we process our emotions we don't even understand. That's what the processing is for. Just let him know you're there if he needs to talk & that you're there any type of support he needs. Make sure he knows you care & that you're there if needed. Then leave it alone. Don't take it too personal. You're asking for more than you think when you're asking for him to share everything that's going on in his head at the moment.

The best thing I can tell you is if it's a relationship you're trying to build. That takes 2. That takes compromise & meeting your partner in the middle. A Scorpio has needs & we're used to doing things on our own. Being alone. Processing our emotions by ourselves. BUT when we're in a relationship we have to learn that we have a partner to keep in mind. That's the point of being in a relationship. Now our actions not only affect us as individuals, but our partners as well. That means Scorpio needs to learn not to shut our partners out. Keep them relevant in our lives. Even though we might not be able to express all our emotions to our partner. We can make them feel relevant & not completely shut them out. That's the work of being in a relationship.

Try to convey to your Scorpio that you need to feel relevant. Maybe have him keep you in the loop of what's going on even if you can't help. Just to make you feel like you matter in his life. You also gotta figure out Scorpios have trust issues so he might not feel comfortable enough to vent to you. Don't take that personal either. It takes time for us to open up like that. But that's why relationships take work. Just try to let him know that you care, that you're reliable, that you're trustworthy, & that he's special to you. With effort he could somehow meet you in the middle.

BUT there is a chance he might not. It depends how bad he wants to work at his relationship. He also might not be in a space to work on his relationship when he's busy with the other issues he has going on. Again don't take it personal. There's many reasons why relationships work out & others don't. Our tendency is to blame ourselves when it doesn't, but you're dealing with another person that you have no

Our tendency is to blame ourselves when it doesn't, but you're dealing with another person that you have no control over. Another person that has their own issues. That cannot be your fault. The best you can do is to let him know that you are there for him & that you are a person that cares, is reliable, & trustworthy. Do the best you can do, but after that it's out of your hands. Just do the best you can with love. Love then let go. Easier said than done I know, but just try. If you both are willing to work at maintaining a relationship then it will succeed. If only one of you is willing to work then it won't & that is not your fault if he isn't willing to at the moment or he isn't in the space to.

And that too. He just might not trust you enough to let you in his shell & see the ugly side of his life. Again don't take it personal. You can only do what you can do. And that's to let him know you're there, you won't judge him (like LovelyScorp said), you're trustworthy (that he knows you won't use any of this against him or go around gossiping), that you're reliable, & that you sincerely care for him. After that it's really out of your hands.

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Thanks Phoenix and LS .....that makes sense. I do need to respect his space that is for sure. It is just hard ....because yes this is a new relationship......maybe I need to tone down my eagerness to be in the "know" of everything.

Thanks!!

Michelle

My scorp is finally back. 🙂 His grandfather has become worse with his terminal illness. 😢 I am just glad he finally opened up. I feel sad for Scorpio. 😢 I took the advice and I told him I understood and let him know I cared and was here for him. I shared my own grief experience what it was like caring for my mother when she had become ill with cancer and than passed. I am beginning to think it might be time to back off a lot and give him lots of space. I don't know ....how do Scorpios deal with grief? I just want to cuddle with him, hug him, and tell him it will all be okay, but part of me thinks he needs lots of space. *sigh* I suggested regardless of what happens to be gentle with himself and reinforced that I really do care about him.

PD