in response to a message by Autumn majick about Di

This is in response to Autumn Majick's input on the disappearing acts of her scorpion ex love--could someone please offer me some trait insight?
I'm a libra female--a bit shy and kinda committment phobic (basically, because i've been there, done that--precaution cursor---i'm working on improving this precaution)..
*Once, a scorpion/m and I hit it off..so much so he suddenly gave me one of the most pa**ionate kisses I've ever had 2 weeks after we'd first met--of course I was blown away by him--mentally and physically--and yet because of certain things about his nature (secretiveness, intensity---and his openess about his bedside manner that excluded neither gender) --I showed reservation--even though I still saw him as a beautiful man underneath the madness---
I didn't exactly pull away from him, but rather waited for him to make a serious move-like call (if he really wanted to be with me). Then a span of 2 months lapsed and girlfriend #1 came...and now there is girlfriend #2. The unfortunate part is that I could feel him trying to make me uncomfortable or jealous with both ladies--I wasn't--just completely floored that he'd try to manipulate me.
Despite it all--i still think him a lovely man underneath...After several months of talking to this fellow (between girlfriends, or so I thought)--i eventually had to cut off communication with him after girlfriend#2 popped up--although he still wanted to be friends. We are still friends--I guess-haven't talked w/him since, but the opportunity for a relationship with him as a boyfriend at this point is nil--and then maybe that's what he really wanted eventually.
Real question: despite the obvious message here---did he really even care about me? if so, why didn't he make a move to even call me (early when we first met and before I cut contact 2 mos ago) when I really wanted to hear how he really felt?
PS-no, we were never "intimate"--unless that pa**ionate lip-locking is considered a home-run. dang sure felt like one!!!!! also, I got most of my information about how HE felt about our "awesome connection" from one of his closest galpals.

Hi Shae,
I felt compelled to respond to your message regarding your "scorpion male" and your experience with him! Let me begin by saying that I am a Scorpio-female" and have had a similar relationship with a Scorpio-male in the past! Here is my insight, as I see it! Scorpio men, as you know, can be very secretive with their feelings but along with that enjoy tha mind-games that come along with the "chase" of a NEW relationship! This to them appears to be more important than the capture of a relationship! They are also HUGE exaggerators of their "feelings"! They do not do this for gain, however, (ex: for money, or sex etc...) but because they are idealists at heart! They seem to be unaware of how their "blown out of proportion-words" effect those that they are aimed towards! It is sad really, because imagine if they could place all of the energy they spend on this negative activity and pool it into something positive-they would by far be the most interesting of parteners! Unfortunately, my dear friend, Scorpio-males are not good parteners, lovers, husbands or friends!!!
These, of course, are just my oppinions and are based soley on my own experience!
Luck to you!
Deb

Thank you SO much, Deb, for your response. I rarely post such things, but I was really getting paranoid about me being the only one's who's been there, ya know? I understand that people are who they are and you can't go solely by traits, but your insight as a scorp is way helpful! I must admit, it is sad that the negatives in--both our prior relationships-- has to be the ruling quality...because I'm sure--like you have said--if the negatives were turned more towards some positives....some of the more deceptive scorpion males would have awesome relationships that would blast off the charts!
(thanks again Deb--it's nice to bend a positive and realistic ear!!)

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Ok I was having some on-line trouble and that was a check! This is extremely karmic and meaningful ladies! I usually ~never~ come back to same message board twice. But I ended up back here by some odd impulse-note that "response to autumn magick" was the first note I read!
First, trust your own instincts and live your own life. Refract from scoundrel behavior. Maybe there will be a fundamental emotional connection that needs to be worked out later, maybe it will just fade. You will be fine irregardless of what happens.
Here is some more scoop from my own experience. It is correct that some Scorpio men do exxagerate their feelings, love conquests, and make you feel like you are the only one in the world, when quite the opposite is the truth!
Take it from me ladies, in my younger years I myself was dating two at once (; The spiritual eagle that has come back into my life and another one who I fell real hard for. Then he too faded like the wind. Know what though? He became an unhappy alchoholic who messed over all his lasting relationships by cheating on everyone. What a loss..NOT!

But the same thing happened to me as to you. Very pa**ionate words and kisses. Lost in the moment..sometimes Scorpio men get lost in the moment of pa**ion. At the time maybe it was meant.

These same shaningans and a multitude of headgames were going on with eagle in the early years(when he was still crawling) and damaged soooo much future trust. To this DAY I still have moments when I wonder if all this is based on true love, or yet another one of his elaborate mind games. Its just made his path rougher.
The answers come to me from my own sense of intuition and my heart. He is being very open and honest about his feelings this time-a RARITY for scorpio men(in my experience). Before he was way more secretive and hid his feelings. I also did not know how much some of my own behaviors hurt him. He did not tell me. He tells me know LOL!
We are not formally back together by any means. But I feel all this spiritual incredibly intense spiritual energy, and feel us becoming a "team" to help others heal. The energy he has directed at me has been so healing.
Anyways, I recently asked him about his dalliances--he is just such a stud I know him too well. Cheap one-night stands. At first he started joking and pleading the fifth amendment.

Then he just easiely admitted that he wasn't one to overlook an "offer" (he has a lot of women throwing themselves at him--groupies is a good term for it. I also call it his "harem whores.")

I started challenging his manipulations and unethical behavior seducing innocent women, and his point was that he did not even have to manipulate because they were offering freely. That he was only "screwing with their bodies not their feelings." And they should "know better about sleeping with strangers."
Immediately he asked if I was jealous, and I did NOT take the bait! I responded with the unvarnished truth:"No, I am not jealous of cheap and tawdry exchanges."
I did ponder it in disgust however and think about how all this inflates his ego. It was like he read my mind (probably did knowing him). He asked if this hurt me, saying that it was not for his ego because he has enough ego already(yeeeeah)-- its all just a cheap thrill. He could take it or leave it basically is the attitude he expressed and that I percieved.
He also asked if I wanted him to stop. I said I don't care, but both he and I know if he wants to move this into a lasting relationship this activity will cease. Its the ninth life for this cat!

There is one final thing about Scorpio men, that more than a few of us astrologers have observed(get this we both have a strong grasp of occultic arts-its helps two scorpios in love and way lmao)He thinks I am too caught up on sun signs though.
Archetypically speaking(which does not mean for everyone), the scorpio man persona has a "queen of his drea

Sorry, two corrections to make.
1) this is Autumn Magick responding
2) I don't usually ramble on and make glaring typos like a blathering idiot, its just the hoodoo that this guy has put on me lol.

Take Care and Good Luck to everyone,
~Autumn Magick~

Hello Autumn Majick...
This is Shae..the original postee.
(Hmmm....i guess I could say that I needed you to read it and could only hope that you would...mysterious )
I can't explain how much I appreciate your response. You are indeed a very spiritual individual. I'm not particularly sign-savvy, but you provided insight beyond sign traits--a kind of spiritual bond and spiritual healing that most people would kill for in any kind of relationship-successful or not. I figure most men have this kind of "KD" (King's Disorder)-- assuming the mind of a King with the ego & intimate relations & stockpiles of a mad jester! Enjoying the company of many maidens and relishing (a little too much sometimes) in the glory they assume this brings. Demanding unyeilding and unspoken jealousy and praise and abstinence of his court...mind games galore...and yet, waiting...for the imperfectly perfect Queen...
You have enlightened me...thank you.
I have, now, a clearer understanding of the last statement in your response...

Is your friend considering a relationship with you at this point--would you want a relationship with him?

Shae, this male Scorpion is dysfunctional, and you deserve respect. Too bad he's incapable of giving it.