Bethann
@Bethann
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Just some clarification on Scorpio men
she wants to get back together. cheating shmeating
hell to the no.
i was being sarcastic.
i was being sarcastic.
Posted by oldskoolflavor
people love to be sold dreams, I swear
its the passion, the passion, the passion. and the awesomely good connection that keeps people going back to scorpios regardless of what they do.
dammit, it is hard not to be cynical on this board.
I loved my scorp to. I still do. It is that she just couldn't stop hurting me.
He cheated once, he will cheat again. As I wrote in another scorp thread, there seems to be a bit of S&M involved here. Inflict pain on another, observe. Inflict pain on self as penitence, repeat.
He cheated once, he will cheat again. As I wrote in another scorp thread, there seems to be a bit of S&M involved here. Inflict pain on another, observe. Inflict pain on self as penitence, repeat.
Posted by Bethann
My questions are: 1) How could he do that to me if he loved me so much? 2) If he really wants me back, what will he do? and 3) should I give it another chance?
Well that's the problem honey, he clearly did NOT love you as much as he'd said he did. Love is an action moreso than it is a word. Without his actions both in front of AND behind closed doors indicating that he "loves" you, there is NO such a thing as love on his end. And if THIS is his version of "love," are you sure you're ok with that? Are you sure he's the 1 you oughta be giving a 2nd chance to.
If he really wants you back, what will he do? Honey, some of the most NON-sincere people go to the BIGGEST/GREATEST lengths to get someone back. Abusers are a good example-although they may slap you around town, they'll be the 1st ones crying, hootin & hollering to get you back. Just b/c someone goes crazy doesn't mean that they loved you. Some people are more sad that they got caught, moreso than they regret whatever it is that they did..the reactions you see can be moreso the result of someone who hates getting caught OR losing out on the benefits (you) that he didn't truly earn in the 1st place.
Should you give it another shot? That's up to you. If you know deep down that you'll never trust him again OR be able to forgive him any time soon, then NO you shouldn't give things another shot b/c it wouldn't be fair to him. And yes, I said HIM. If you're willing to forgive him, accept his apology & believe that he truly loves you, then it wouldn't be fair for you to jump back into the relationship & yet hold it over his head every 5 seconds. If you can't do it, don't.
Trust me, it hurts/sucks alot MORE to be WITH someone & hurting than it does to be alone & hurting. Hence the saying, "You can do bad all by yourself."
I hear you. I was moving back to the city and I decided to help my ex move stuff to the car. It had been 2 or 3 weeks since we spoke or seen each other. The mere 1 hour or so of crossing paths that hour and then seeing my ex pack the car up was like a flash back to when things were good. Of course we were showing our best sides, and that was a plus, but I can see how you can absolutely hate some one with so much passion (your Scorpio), then when you have a quiet moment with them and things are just calm and peaceful and you see into their eyes now and again and watch them carry themselves it definitely washes over you strongly.
I choked up when we parted ways that day, because I noticed how far I had gotten over the hurt and was beyond the "why us/why me" emotions. As far as a Scorpio doing wrong and you trying to pin that on them, HA!!! My scorpio doesn't tolerate being blamed for anything you would blame just anybody for. And I understand that, Scorpios are so careful with what they do, how can they really mess up on even accident. But even with cheating or emotional cheating, they have a story that "excuses" their behavior and an alibi for the photo on their phone/computer etc.
And damn if you don't get a full list of how extremely wrong you were for anything you slipped up and did, and I have noticed that list gets brought out while you are trying to discuss your hurt feelings about what they did.
I don't know if you should be back with your scorpio. That is between you and your higher power. Just talking to my ex after the breakup seemed like that sort of question for me, and I had to search myself to even consider trusting them on anything. I say you are safe with letting him build trust with you again, but you can't let him back into your life without knowing that you can't trust everything he does/says. He has to show that he is a better person. Good luck with it.
I choked up when we parted ways that day, because I noticed how far I had gotten over the hurt and was beyond the "why us/why me" emotions. As far as a Scorpio doing wrong and you trying to pin that on them, HA!!! My scorpio doesn't tolerate being blamed for anything you would blame just anybody for. And I understand that, Scorpios are so careful with what they do, how can they really mess up on even accident. But even with cheating or emotional cheating, they have a story that "excuses" their behavior and an alibi for the photo on their phone/computer etc.
And damn if you don't get a full list of how extremely wrong you were for anything you slipped up and did, and I have noticed that list gets brought out while you are trying to discuss your hurt feelings about what they did.
I don't know if you should be back with your scorpio. That is between you and your higher power. Just talking to my ex after the breakup seemed like that sort of question for me, and I had to search myself to even consider trusting them on anything. I say you are safe with letting him build trust with you again, but you can't let him back into your life without knowing that you can't trust everything he does/says. He has to show that he is a better person. Good luck with it.
Posted by heroic_guy
As far as a Scorpio doing wrong and you trying to pin that on them, HA!!! My scorpio doesn't tolerate being blamed for anything you would blame just anybody for. And I understand that, Scorpios are so careful with what they do, how can they really mess up on even accident.
And damn if you don't get a full list of how extremely wrong you were for anything you slipped up and did, and I have noticed that list gets brought out while you are trying to discuss your hurt feelings about what they did.
^^I'm a witness to this behavior.^^
Whew, a weak moment yesterday. I will NOT ever go back to that. I will always love him for what we had, but that is long gone. He lied to me, and there is no way I could trust him again, lie after lie. It was nuts. After we split? The stories I would hear.
My biggest laugh was and get this, I was getting ready to move back, and he was trying to talk me into moving outside of town somewhere! Really? Why oh why? He did not want me cruising 'his' stomping grounds! What ever. I live smack dab in the middle of it.
Thanks to all of you for the thump to the head. Once a liar and a cheater? Always. I can do better than that.
My biggest laugh was and get this, I was getting ready to move back, and he was trying to talk me into moving outside of town somewhere! Really? Why oh why? He did not want me cruising 'his' stomping grounds! What ever. I live smack dab in the middle of it.
Thanks to all of you for the thump to the head. Once a liar and a cheater? Always. I can do better than that.
You certainly can.
Posted by Bethann
Whew, a weak moment yesterday. I will NOT ever go back to that. I will always love him for what we had, but that is long gone. He lied to me, and there is no way I could trust him again, lie after lie. It was nuts. After we split? The stories I would hear.
My biggest laugh was and get this, I was getting ready to move back, and he was trying to talk me into moving outside of town somewhere! Really? Why oh why? He did not want me cruising 'his' stomping grounds! What ever. I live smack dab in the middle of it.
Thanks to all of you for the thump to the head. Once a liar and a cheater? Always. I can do better than that.
^^I agree
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