Looking for help!!

I have never posted to any forum before. Ever. I recently began talking to a beautiful scorpio woman. I am an aries. We live almost 3 hours drive apart and all of our conversation has been via text or long phone convos. We both work for the same company and have met a few times at meetings before we actually began talking. We both recently got out of semi serious relationships. The conversations have been amazing. She is smart, sexy, and had an unbelievable sense of humor. For a few weeks the whole thing seemed very promising and there were talks of us going to see one and other in the very near future. Long story short. I completely fell for her personality. Shes one of the most amazing people i have ever gotten the chance to know in a short time. She is very much a scorpio down to every characteristic, and embraces that as she is very much into astrology. I have never really followed astrology much, but she has made me interested due to the fact that it gives me some insight on why she is so difficult at times. From what i have read, its not easy for a scorpio to open up, and if they do to you its a clear sign they have feelings for you on some level. She has certainly told me things she wouldnt just tell anyone. Well, in the last two weeks talking has slowed down on her part. She still talks to me via text here and there but we barely talk on the phone. I miss her alot. She is just about all i think about and i dont know what i may have done if anything to stunt this. She has asked at the beginning of us talking what the point was bc we live so far away. I explained that a 3 hr distance is hardly far and she is soo worth getting to know. Is there any scorpio woman that may have something of an answer for me or a plan of what to do next? Let it go? Give up? I care about her so much and know if we had the opportunity to be together in person we would hit it off as we have been on the same wave length the entire time talking. Is she scared? Im nervous to say anything to her at this point because i dont want to scare or hurt her. I know i have feelings for her, but we havent been talking long enough for me to say i love her. But i might. I dont know what to do.

I want to be able to spend time with her. Look her in the eyes. But lately it seems its falling apart. Kills me.

I just feel weird telling her im up and coming to her. Although i would in an instant. Feel it may scare her.

Twirling has a good point.

It's not often a man posts asking for help with a woman! It's usually women complaining about men! How refreshing!

You're the man, take the lead. Suggest an idea and make a plan. Put the effort in and make it real. See each other in person. There's only so many emails, texts, and phone calls you can do and a visit in person would be the next logical step!

It really should be the man making that initial step although that is not set in stone of course. Three hour drive is nothing but she may not be as into you as you are into her but if you don't pursue her and move the situation forward then you'll never know.

I'm a Scorp female. I prefer the traditional approach in general. The man to take the lead and initiative as it shows he's at least interested. However, I recently took a plane from UK to USA to see a guy who I'd met previously and we had kept in touch. He was going to come here but for various reasons it didn't work out that way. It was a total disaster and it turned out he was a total loser. But hey, you don't know if you don't try. I'm returning back to my previous approach of bloke taking the initiative! It's safer!!!

What's her other placements?

Posted by lham0405
I just feel weird telling her im up and coming to her. Although i would in an instant. Feel it may scare her.

I can understand how you're feeling. However, if you have a decent connection with her then it really should be a natural next step.

I'd keep it simple and gentlemanly. Tell her you'd like to take her out to dinner (or something date related) and suggest a weekend visit.

See what she says?

Two nights would be enough. I'd book a hotel for you so you're not crashing at hers so you both have freedom. You get to take her out and spend time with each other. I made an ex of mine come to me the first four times we met. It's only 60 miles but the journey can be long due to the roads.

Thank you all. I will try that. Glad i posted.

Im a scorpio girl! Words mean nothing when we KNOW actions exist. If I were her, in my mind, I would be thinking if this guy is serious he would voice how he feels and secure the relationship. In my head.. if a guy says thats not far but I never see him - I would automatically be confused and wonder whats up. Now if that were the case, I would begin letting it go before I invest feelings and then find myself hurt - which sounds like what shes doing. We appear cool and collected however there is a lot happening inside, our feelings and emotions are right beneath our surface and easily effected by the slightest things.

To give you confidence, when we don't like someone romantically we make sure they know we arn't interested! She sounds like shes interested - just waiting for a man who takes what he wants and never lets it slip away :-)

1. Ask her why she has cooled off, if that is in fact what is happening.

2. If I had to guess, the reality of the situation (e.g. the distance) has crept in. This wouldn't matter to her if she didn't like you as well.