Male scorpio's need a responce 4 the f/ram

Hello all, I am new to the sight!

Scorpio male, I love your strenght! I need for you to let me in on some secrets if you are able to reveal. ( your choice of course) Here is my dilema.... I meet a scorpio through a business deal. He is into re-financing. Cut short, we met over the phone. As the deal was going through, he became very strong in speaking with me for no apparent reason. Well maybe one? I sent him a picture of me and he did the same. Wow we match>>> anyway I went off on him during a business conversation. I then told him the deal was off. I in return, called him back serveral weeks later and told him I needed for him to make the transition happen. He did! I couldnt understand why he did what he did next. He paided for my closing and told me afterwards to keep in touch. Well its been 2 years in the running. We met 3 times. Had an intimate experience once, he ran like his ass was on fire and we have be at it since(seeing who can hurt the worst with words back and forth. Yet if I need him to help with a situation he will respond and take action or advise me what to do. Of course some of his advise I didnt agree, and there he is saying I told you so. But yet he is willing to go at it with me again assuming I will listen this time. There has been several occasions, he has stated that he hates me and wished I would drop off the face of the earth. I have said alot of awful things back to him as well but not to the extreme. I have told him that I was really sorry. But of course he would push those button and off my mouth went. He knows everything about me because I told him. I stated to me that I was a very smart woman tnd that I could get anything I want but he was my biggest challenge. Well—?? I happent to be a very brutely honest person(If its in my mouth I will tell ya). He knows that he cannot say that I have lied to him(I am sure he would make me aware of my lies). He has said" leave me alone" dont start with me" I have to go to work" I have problems. Now his new thing, I am with my woman. I have told him that I was going to leave him alone and he has always been able to make me feel like shit. He would text me and say shut up. Its seems most of the time, If I am really happy and problem free, he seems to want to break my spirts or piss me off. I have cried and hurt. I will bend but not break. He is truly the one for me. Why? I cant control him, I will never leave if its meant to be...My question to the male stinger?? What gives here—? We are both challenged....Could it be or is it our first experience of not able to control a situation never the less have control of our inner feelings?? lay it on me?? the truth is all I ask.....

sorry to say but at this point i wish i was a male scorp and had some advice or a point of veiw but god you to have a crazy ass relationship. i hope someone can give you some good advice! good luck

Thanks angel!!!! I don't think anyone is going to touch this one!!!! So far its been really quiet between us....I will surely keep you posted if any developments.

Only a female scorpio,but it sounds like you both need to stop trying to control each other,it's not human.You already have an honest relationship all you need is to sit down and talk without the insenitivity and in a challenging way.Atleast speaking for myself although I may not show it but just said things can really hurt and forgetting or not fireing back is very hard.He could be thinking that you don't respect his opinions or what he does for you.Letting him thats not the case is one angle you could clear up to him to get him to relax.If not I don't think it could work but hey at least the sex must be intense,Ah?

Control will always be an issue for the two of you, because neither one will give it up. You'll either have to find away to distribute it evenly, or someone will have to give it up. And a male Scorp is REALLY unlikely to ever do that...so that leaves you. Sorry, not much help, but it sounds like right now this relationship is doing you more harm than good...

i have a question why is it that control is such a big issue, and yeah it is hard to release some of that control and to even try for a scorp is near impossible but you may try if you have real strong feelings for this guy
good luck and keep us posted.

wow!! I believe you ladies have hit the nail on the head. Its hard being an Aries period!!! Its our nature or as they say " that damn Mars" that create the fight within us. I am not afraid or have a fear of being controlled. It's an unconscience act when someone puts me up to a challenge. Its not just people, it involves anything and everything that I do. Bordem is the death of any Aries. We have to have something to reach. Goals, growth, intellect, ourselves. Change is a constant urge!! It doesnt have to be negative. Mr. Scorpio has brought me change!!!! Because of my inmature nature, I could'nt understand him. It has taken a little over 2 years to make me realize what it is to love from within. It's called unconditional love. I have loved many times. When my spouses have disappointed me because I couldn't change them for the potential that I saw in them, I would get depressed because of no change. Mr. Scorpio has forced me in his own way of realizing that it not about changing a person but excepting. It has always been about me, me , me and my feeling first. This man fights so hard for who he is and not for who he wants to be. His heart is the most precious thing that he has. Some of us or so willing to toss our hearts around because we believe in what we think we want. Mr. Scorpio shows, its not a thought, it all about feelings. At this point, I feel at peace and humble. I don't want to give up as in challenge to the end! I am giving in!!!! Big difference......I told him I would never shut up!! But then again, I have now learned to be quite. No more fights! I want to remain true to myself!! I am praying that he has realized that there will not be any confrontations...Just the union of two souls who well desire to become as one!! Feel me....I will not call, text or e-mail him. I have know choice but to wait it out!!! I love him very much!!!I feel emotionally bonded with this man. The time has come for me to take a step back and be the fem in a relationship...I just hope its not to late.....I will keep ya posted!!

Acceptance is the best and hardest thing to do. But how often do people change? Not very often. So one thing I have learned and try to do is just accept people for who they are. Too often we get in relationships with others and either we try to change them into something we would like them to be, or they try to do the same to us. And it just never works. To truly love someone, you have to love everything about them, even the things that irritate you beyond belief. If you ask someone to change, you're basically saying "I would love you if you were like this...so change who you are and we'll be sooooo happy." Right.

However, he would have to do the same for you, Ms. Aries. He would have to ACCEPT that you speak your mind, that you're not a doormat, and that you will never shut up (as you said above). Otherwise, it's not very fair, is it? 😉

Surely u r right!!!! I am trying to control me at this point....There hasn't been a man in my life that I wanted and couldnt have. I must admit, there where things about them that I didnt like from the door. But you know us Aries, we leap before we look and wait until after the fact. I hate this charactoristic about myself. I am very independent and I know I have got my stuff together. Not having a problem in getting a man. What has happened with my relationships is this: I find that I love them for who there are at first!(Potentially) Then I work on what I don't love about them. I have realized they love me because I am a take charge type of person. I will handle everything in the relationship.(I mean anything and everything even in the bedroom, car etc...ooops went to far..lol THE MASC...... trait that is within me(can I say this word without being misunderstood??)..lol.. Anyway I am the one who will fight fire with fire if need be. The men of my life love me because they need me.( I will push them to there potential as in careers etc...It has never failed that when they couldnt handle my force but yet wanted to keep me the famous words who be " do what you want" Never ever tell any Aries that!!!! We well do just that and more. The secret is— We think that you do care anymore!!!! I am tired of it now...Mr Scorpio is the only man that I know who will stand up for his self. He will go toe to toe. I am just having a problem with? Can he except me for being me!!! I need to listen more and keep quite..Yet I will never shut up and he knows that..I dont want to change for him or anyone else, I just know I need to slow down and let things happen on its own. Thats the only changing I could ever do. With this person, it may not happen..I do know that this relationship has brought me growth and more understanding of what it takes to be in truly loving relationship. I need for someone to step up to the plate and be a man!! don't back down from me!! But allow me to be me!!! Relationships today bore me!!Everyone is running scare and being shallow!! Not much to go on!!! I want a real loving relationship with the drama but yet knowing there is true love and nobody is threaten to leave because—? My daring nature holds me back from true love and diffinitly this mouth will shut you down if you are a weak one!!!! SEA I am going to wait to see what he will do next— I did send him a e-mail and told him that I was giving in!!! No more confrontations!!! I told him that his silence is one thing but, me being quite is golden!!! SEA...If he has feelings for me and wants to release those built up emotions, I am waiting!!! If he doesnt understand without so many words then, I'll know he isnt the one for me!!! Dont you think—?