My boyfriend's back......

Well, he came back!! I knew he would this week for some reason. He is giving up alot of himself because of his current situation. I am really upset and cried last night thinking of how he was when we first met....such a free spirit, and now, his eyes are just so sad. He hasn't been on his bike all summer, which, the summers are short up here. I just told him to hold on to who he is through all of this but, I think he is letting go. My free bird is dying......

No tinkerbell....he is not dying, he is changing and change is always for the best. Have patience, he is going through a "growth spirt"

As you know, it is when we are out of our comfort zone that growth takes place. Your "freebird" will be flying soon.

😉 Freebird

OOOOOPS...I meant, "growth spUrt"...maybe there is a hidden message in that.

I am afraid he is going to have a growth spurt in the opposite direction of me....that is scary

Some new news; he is not hitched. I am glad that I am not being lied to, with this subject anyway, and we are building some trust here. This is a good thing. I read that scorps take their time, feeling time is on their side (scorp 2s)and I see that here and also, they use very little words but expect you to know, which can make an Aries girl fret(chatty cathy's that we are). I have also read that if they keep coming around, and the longer it lasts, the wheels are turning for a long term.

Is he worth it?? You bet!!! My light is brightest around him. Although, I am feeling a sense of helplessness from him. It makes me sad but I cannot rescue him....he can only rescue himself. I can help, but it has to be from within him. Please don't die my free bird..my poor lost boy scorp😢
-Tink

No, you cannot help him Tinkerbell, just be there when he needs you and your company. There is also that saying, "if you love it let it go, if it comes back it is yours, if it doesn't, it never was", so i guess with growth spurts we have to let the people we care about go and if they come back, it means they want us in thier lives. I hope it all turns out for the best for both him AND you.

I woke up today and wrote him a letter. I do not know whether to send it or not. I just told him how I can no longer bear to watch his spiri, which I fell in love with, die and to watch someone who is so greatly admired for being in control be controlled. It is like watching an animal bang against the sides of the cage. He is such a good person and I truely admire him for taking care of his son, but, he is loosing his spirit. Did you ever feel that with someone? It is like a shroud of death when they are around; it is a blackness. My light cannot help him lift the shroud, no matter how hard I try. This makes me sad.😢 Should I send it?

Hi Tinker~

I know how you are feeling because your nature is one of compassion, caring and desiring to help. No one can really tell you what to do only your heart can do that. I know for me when I have a decision to make I listen to my heart....if it feels peaceful then I say "yes" if there is any doubt at all, my answer is "no". Because you have asked this question I feel that you may be doubting your action.

Personally, I would not send it. I would write the letter and express MY feelings because this is what is going on for you and then I would release it, letting it go and knowing the best outcome will happen.

As Libragirl said, just be there for him, be that peaceful place in the stream of life where he can come to if he needs to. We need to allow others thier path, their journey, their experiences so that they may grow in their own designed way.

Just "be", all will be fine tinkerbell.....trust that everything is happening as it should without needing to understand.

My best to you tinker.....

Freebird, You are so right. I am so Aries...and impulsive and want it to be right and now. I am dealing with a complete opposite aren't I? He is so precious and part of my soul is with him and aches when we are apart. I ask him questions about does he think of me and he says "you know I do." Oh, my little scorpion....you have taught me the art of soul speaking. When he walked into the room the other day during a meeting, everything stopped for me and all I can remember was him standing in the door way, smiling. He has this new,huge, nice, chrome Harley Davidson belt buckle on..WOW!!! He is so beautiful and when I see him, I just want to be with him. His voice and public relations are awesome!!
-I am there for him
-We are building trust
-I do not push him
-I encourage him
-I am always happy 🙂to see him, even if we don't agree on something the last time we talked.
-I please him(i tink...he keeps coming back to me)
-I submit to his deires(always)
Does this sound like the correct path to a Scorpio's heart or the path of heartache for dear Aries??

Tinker~

Remember the book you suggested? Follow some of those very wise actions. Pull back, observe, let him come to you. Aries by nature are "pleasers". We cannot and should not always be that way. Men are "hunters" they need something to go after, a challenge. Become that fox that you are and watch the magic happen.

Patience is a virtue....maybe this is what you are to learn with Mr. Scorpio. Just know that this and all relationships are a "process" that we must flow through and allow to happen as they unfold.

'Enjoy the ride......about the correct path. There is no such thing as a correct path...just a path. If the path has a heart, follow it. If not, get off the path and get on another one. This is the "adventure" of life. 🙂

Freebird, i like your saying, "there is no such thing as a correct path... just a path". I believe this is true.

Tinkerbell, I agree with Freebird. You are obviously doubting sending the letter, so I would suggest not to send it also. I have had times when I have wanted to send a letter and didn't and in hindsight, it was the best decision I could have made because I'd realised it was a 'spur of the moment' type thing. You have to be really 'sure' when you send a letter. Besides, some things are just so much better said face to face. It's a lot more rewarding that way.

I also agree with Freebird. I don't think you should be 'submitting' to his desires, I know I wouldn't be. Maybe that's where some of your boundary issues lie. No way, make him beg I say! Women are more powerful than they give themselves credit for. We live in a patriachel society and that is largely because men know WE are more powerful, fear that power, and as a consequence, try to dominate us. Just excuse my political/feminist point of view, but it's true. Never lose your power... Ok, i sound like an angry lesbian, but I'm not 😉

Best of luck to you, and I hope for the right outcome for both him AND you.

Thank you for the encouragement. I haven't sent anything but have 2 drafts on my email that I will delete. Thanks for the advice. He knows I like him..I have made that clear. I am just afraid of him using me for an outlet and not understanding that I am going for more. That is my fear. I know time will tell all but, I don't know if he is capable of understanding what he means to me.