For the men to answer

What would make a man tell his wife of ninteen years that if she had a affair he would not be angry as long as she never brings the man home. Is it that he just does not care or could it be he does not want to be single agin and have to start dating all over agin. His wife is very pretty so maybe he is just afraid of losing her. does the fact that he is a pisces have any thing to do with having such a passive attitude towards cheating.

I must think on this one, anymore information?

he is almost 40 very set in his ways he has only been with one other woman besides his wife. He told her he loves her very much and he knows they have grown apart but he is willing to forgive her unfaithfulness because he thinks its just a phase shes going through, she has told him she is filing for a divorce as soon as she finishes college. She has no desire to ruin him . Is it a mans fear of the unknown, starting over maybe he feels he is too old.

When is his birthday? He sounds like he is going through a midlife crisis.

His birthday is 2/28. he's my brother-in-law so I know him very well. I always thought men had more pride than to just look the other way and let the wife cheat how can this be better for him than to be single. Is it because they have a 19 year history together I think the reason he is willing to over look this kind of behavior is he has gotten used to be taken care of by her and he does not want to break in someone new any one have any answers for me so I can tell her. She is having a hard time moving on because of guilt he is making her feel as if she is selfish and abandoning him. one more thing she has not been involved with anyone she just feels that so much of her personality is his she does not recognize herself any more.

treetrunk if I know on this one.

james tate I really need a mans point of view would you tell your wife she could sleep around as long as she is home in time to make supper

He sounds like alot of 40ish year old guys that I know. I bet he is cheating on her and to "ease his concious" he is giving her the permission to do the same. These water signs are very sensitive and will not open up and let their partners know when they feel neglected so they will usually swim to another part of the pond to spawn, if you will.

The 19 years is an investment in the relationship and guys fear growing old. If they stroke out or have a heart attack, who will feed them and diaper them? This is a real concern for them when they hit a certain age and watch their fellow commrades fall. I have a scorpio friend who is going through this. It is sad because people get hurt during their crisis but sometimes our responses enable certain behaviors so tell your sister to confront him on the statement and watch for other signs....working late, getting up early to "go fishing or to the grocery store", unexpected business trips. She will be able to figure it out. She could be exposing herself to STDs if she doesn't. Some guys fly without their jump suits and the STDs aren't always visable so please encourage her to confront him. -Tink

I'm not a scorp, however I couldn't let infidelity just slide. I'm loyal to my partner and monogamous, I would expect the same in return. I wouldn't be kosher with some other guy banging my wife. It takes two to tango, and it looks like she doesn't want to dance with him anymore. He doesn't mind dancing but just can't make the spark she's looking for anymore.

no glory I would not, it would be over, I flirt and I am bad about it, but I would not expect my woman to put up with me treetrunking around and I would not put up with her doing it. They need to get apart. unless it impotence nature's way of saying no hard feelings. In that case he should get to a doctor. They can take care of that. I can think of no outher reason.

I have to say thank you for the responses most of all from the men I will show this to my sister it has helped so much agin thanks