My story with Scorpio man

I am deeply in love with Scorpio man for the last 1,5 year. Our situation is very complicated but I will try to be as objective as possible.
We met at the party.He came up to me and started talking, nothing special, just casual conversation which I forgot. Then at work we met few times, he started catching my attention by bringing me small gifts from his homecountry etc.I told him very first day- at that party- that I'm married so he was aware but still I had a feeling that he was very interested by the way he looked at me and the his behavior. Few months after that he kissed me at the party-only once.It was the best kiss in my life, very passionate.Then I called him next day and explained that I feel really bad about what happened and we both agree that we can only be friends. This is how our relationship started. After that we have been talking on the phone, going out together with our friends,spending a lot of time at the workplace.We keep paging each other to meet during the lunch time to talk.We went out alone(only two of us) only few times and always had very emotional and intimate discussion but neither wanted to admit to our true feelings. He was in a very long relationship in the past and was hurt. I feel very guilty because I don't want to hurt my husband whom I will be always loving as my best friend but who was never a love of my life.
Scorpio man and me never had sex.Few weeks ago we were at another party and we danced together- we kissed in very superficial, almost friendly way. After that our relationship didn't change. This man let me into his world few times- I know very personal things about him and he knows very intimate things about me, also about my marriage. I know that he is the love of my life eventhough we are very different- we are coming from completely different cultures and we speak different language (as the first one).There is a lot of power and control issues in this relationship but overall I let him lead.
I know that my Scorpio wants to get married badly. He wants to owe someone finally and try to probe me. He never told me directly that he loves me and I can only assume but I know him and most likely he will never tell me that. My question to Scorpio men - can you guys love someone for such a long period of time (1,5 year) and don't have sex with this person? Can you be in very intimate and emotional relationship in just a friend of opposite sex?

BTW- I'm Gemini

Absolutely. It might mean more that he's not having sex with you. If it were casual, he might not have cared, that he hasn't tried to might mean that he doesn't see sex with as 'casual'.

If it's deep and he means it, only you can know it. You're between a rock and a hard place. You say 'my scorpio' so I can assume that bonding is intense. If your husband is your best friend, then, why not let the love of your life a chance?

But that's a decision that only you can make. to leave, or to stay. To cheat, or to not cheat. To just be friends.

He's sincere, if you're sincere, it'll all work out, somehow.

Gems and Scorps- it's like we can't not be together and there is always passion....from my experience with scorp- they can love for a long time without sex- they are so passionate that just that connection is an intimate as anything physical...

it can work , it can work , it can work!!!!! lol

they are so passionate that just that connection is an intimate as anything physical...

WELL SAID..

anything can work, if both are willing to do what they have to.

Thanks!🙂

your with a scorpio?

Oh yes!!! I think it's funny that people are always so shocked when they hear a gem with a scorp- but it is happening more and more often, so there must be something to it 🙂 Ha!!!

We gems like the abuse and for some reason scorps are entertained or at least have the strength to put up with us!

Before I ignore you for the rest of my life...



LMFAO!! oh man

We gems like the abuse and for some reason scorps are entertained or at least have the strength to put up with us!


this would be true.... were all warped i guess lol

hi db =)

the un-attainable factor of you being married..... is also very attractive to a scorpio...it falls under high and intense emotions...

Ah good point....

if we see this....i'm sure your scorp does to .. just my opinion... take it how you want it..

want to..not it..lol oh boy

If you cared for your husband, you wouldn't be on the boards asking a question about the scorpio...

True- looks like you have a few other things to figure out and change before you ask this question

Nina,
I'm Nina too and am amazed by the similarity in our situations. I?m also a married gemini who fell in love with a scorp. However, my marriage was already rocking, for quite a while. My husband is my best friend, I love talking to him, doing things with him, but the passion is no longer there. This scorp helped me realize that passion is important and that I want it back in my life, but I have to leave my husband for that to happen again. The scorp and I had sex, and when he realized I was getting interested he told me he liked me as a friend, but also told me that it could change. Well, he was ventured into other camps while I was away and now I don?t have any of them. My husband and I still talk often and are very good friends, but I?m feeling quite sad. I think you should go for passion and love, but be aware that this is not an easy transition.

Of course your story if very different in that your scorp is also in love with you. When I told my husband I wanted to separate, he asked me if there was another person and I could say there wasn't. I was not in a relationship with the scorp and nothing was for sure. I did that because what happen made me see what I was missing, what I really wanted. The scorp was a trigger. For you, it seems that you have a chance of being really happy.

Wow, this is pretty wild. How are you as a gemini having a 1.5 year love with someone? Why not just go for it? Don't you feel it would be better for your husband as well?

Thanks for all nice and not so nice comments. A few words of explanation. I know my husband for 15 years, he was always with me, I could always count on him (Taurus) and he helped me a lot (not going into details). I know that I am a love of his life and he would do anything for me. The only thing which he asked for in return was to marry him. It's not that passion is gone from my side, it was never there. I love him as my best friend, as my brother, close family member. I thought that this is good enough until I met this men. If I wanted to cheat on him, I would do that long time ago (we are married for 5,5 years). I am waking up every morning for the last 1.5 year, looking at him and feel so guilty that I can not even explain. You will never understand that until you go througt it. No need to be mean. I feel bad enough. I had very thraumatic childchood and it changed my perspective a lot. It is very easy to hurt people around you- the point is to go for the less harmfull choices. I would not,considere myself as "classic" example of Gemini however it is subjective of course.
Trust me, it took me a while to understand that I love this Scorpio man, it was a long way, full of suprizes. If I really wanted to have sex with him, most likely it would happened already. This relationship is very intimate and emotional. We are at the point when we understand each other just by look. There were no declarations from his or my side so I could be very wrong but I don't think so. I was not looking for anyone, not even dream about meating anyone like this man. If I could change it- most likely I would- less pain for everyone. You can judge me and think that I'm bad person who wants to cheat on her husband. Maybe I am. But keep in mind that you never know what is waiting for you around the corner. I didn't know either.

One more thing, I do not consider cheating on my husband. I mean- in a sexual way. If this relationship with Scorpio will go to this point, I will not be with my husband anymore. The problem is about "emotional cheating"- this is much worse, gives you terrible feeling of guilt. But at the same time it is not easy to hurt person who was with you for 15 years.

" Where I draw the line is when you are with your husband, giving him the impression all is well"

This is not "gray zone" situation, it will be either black or white- I will stay with him pretending that everything is fine or leave him. He can not change anything to "do better" because he is excellent person already. He just can't be Scorpio who I love?..



?My disagreement towards all of this is your comment about not wanting to hurt your husband...and this is crap...if you cared so much, you would have told him about the Scorpio...you are only concerned about yourself...and everything would be peachy if you would just admit that..."


I have never said that I am not thinking about myself. Of course I do. I believe that if we don't love ourselves we are not capable of loving others.

At the beginning of our relationship with my husband we had very interesting discussion regarding what we would do if the other one cheat. He told me that he would forgive me and as long as I will stay with him he would prefer no to know. It surprised me a lot because I am more "black/white" personality and I would never forgive.

Anyway- I know that what I am doing now is bad, no stupid excuses. Most likely I'm writing this here as part of my insecurity regarding Scorpio feelings towards me. It takes me a long time to get to know the other person. There are many things which I don't understand and I really need to understand before I make such a big decision which will change life of many people- not only mine, my husband and Scorpio but also our families.

My question to Scorpio men - can you guys love someone for such a long period of time (1,5 year) and don't have sex with this person? Can you be in very intimate and emotional relationship in just a friend of opposite sex?

I'm afraid this is a high risk situation my dear!

m&m hiiiiiiii babygirl!

good chicka!! how about yourself?

hay jack sweetie! how are you?

thats good to hear m&m =)! missin you around the boards lately!

... x's 2.

glad to hear your alright !

db's such a bad ass lol