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I feel like I've experienced the Scorpion sting??
Maybe it's just me (female Piscean)and I bring out the worst in them!
I had a best friend for nearly 10 years, and she was a Scorpio. It was pretty intense as friendships go. It was like we bonded totally, had the same sense of humor and could talk about anything under the sun - our deepest fears and our deepest desires and passions. There was a period in her life, just after school, when she was directionless and became a bit disillusoned about this, and we would talk about this. She eventually got through it and became successful and I was delighted for her. I on the other hand, went to college, but after college it was my turn to drift a little and become confused as to where I was going, and I would relay my fears and insecurities to her at times.
However she soon started to ignore my calls and exclude me from her life totally. I felt like I was too much and being too needy and felt totally guilty about this. When we did talk she would bring up my insecurities and kind of throw them in my face, when I had often sat with her when she was really upset about something and wouldn't think twice about it. She treated me fine when we were on our own,it was like we were so in tune with each other, but in her other friends company she would act like she didn;t really like me. I just felt it was very manipulative, as now the friendship is dead and gone. The thing is I confronted her about it and she started to turn it atround on me. Anyway I don't care because, I know that I was only being truthful, ansd if someone has something to say to me, I know I can take it on board, look at my faults and apologise for them if necessary and move on. I don't think scorpios can do this at all!!
I also have a scorpio brother who I got on really well with. I moved to the city he lived in as I had got a new job. I stayed there a year and he was great. He would ring me all the time to see I was ok or to meet up. Then I had to move out of my place and asked if I could move in with him for a while, like a week or two. The thing is I HATED my job so I felt it was now or never and I had to leave, which meant living with him longer than planned. But he took this as some sort of mass deception, and that I had planned it all along but just didn't tell him!! It was simply that I couldn't stay there anymore and saw this as my chance to get out and didn't think he'd mind me stayng on until I sorted myself out.
I think he is a typical Scorpio in that he is extremely probing and penetrative i.e he asks a million questions about where I've been even if I had just gone to the local store! Being a Pisces I found it difficult to answer his every question. Like if I said I'd be home at 7 and didn't arrifve until 7.30, he saw this as some form as deception also. When I probably just stopped to read a magazine in a shop or something!

I also have another scorpio friend who can be quite manipulative and controlling (maybe its because I'm so easily led) But I have ended up moving house and going place with her, thinking we would have a great time, but to learn that it was only to satisfy what she wanted to do and she didn;t really care if I was happy or not!

I feel like things will never be the same between us again, as scorpios do not forgive or back down, and once they've struck you off their list thats it! Is this true?

Obviously, I'm responding to "one side of the story", which is yours, of course. Taking it at face value, being a scorpio, I have to tell you that the negative traits of Scorpios are that they are suspicious, self consumed individuals who can be perfectly happy and content with someone as long as the relationship fits their needs. It sounds like you're hurt and upset by their behavior, but my advice to you is, if you don't feel that you've done anything wrong, don't let it bother you. One of Pisces negative characteristics, by the way, is the tendency to be a martyr. My daughter is a Pisces and tends to revert to "Poor pitiful me," when she feels that she's been wronged. I'm not saying that you haven't been wronged. Scorpios can be very cruel, but my advice is to just chalk it up to experience and let it roll off. You'll feel better about it if you let it go.

Good luck.

Hi!
Thanks so much for your insight! Yes, you are only hearing one side of the story, that is very true, but it makes me feel better to hear that yes, she WAS being cruel and unkind unnecessarily. I mean nothing really serious ever occurred between us like stealing one another's boyfriend or something.! I guess we are both just intense and over-sensitive people. I used to think I was being paranoid and imagining it because she would turn it around so often. And the thing is I have never had anyone to talk about it over with. I suppose it's because I am young and still had a 'clique ' of friends ( and I hate cliques anyway!), that I felt I couldn't talk about it with anyone, because I felt that I would end up alienating other friends in the group by 'badmouthing' her. In the end I became totally excluded from the group anyway, because she would then start planning and organising stuff for them to do, and leave me out of it totally!
I hear what you're saying also about the 'martyr' aspects of pisces also, although in my experience it has more to do with being ultra-sensitive. And for me, I would blame myself totally for everything (which I suppose is martyrish in a way!) All it takes is for someone to say 'I'm sorry, for hurting your feelings', 'or I didn't intend to hurt your feelings' , and we are as right as rain again! Forgive and forget so to speak. And I would do the same back. But she could never do that. So it made me feel like my feelings weren't validated, and they were unimportant, which was really hard to take. So I felt like I was going crazy. I felt like we had this very real friendship, but that I shouldn't feel upset about when things were going wrong, and should just throw my hands up and say 'oh well whatever'. So I suppose the reason I couldn't let it go for a long time, was because I was so CONFUSED as to what was going on! And it was a very important friendship in my life, and I tend to make long-term friends rather than superficial friendships. But she never was able to say sorry, so I could only assume that she DID want to hurt my feelings intentionally, and I think that is hard to take for anyone. So even though there are two sides to every story, I realise that she WAS being cruel.
Anyway, thanks for your insight. It has made me feel a whole lot better to fell that I wasn't just being paranoid in the way I felt. I feel like it is a period of my life I can totally put to rest and move on with now!!

To dear Pisces girl!

I have a quite similar situation myself at the moment. Well, I would say its becoming like that. I have a scorpio friend myself who I know for about 6 years now and we had the most close friendship ever well for me it was. I am gemini by the way. They say gemini and scorpio dont mix but I think its a very good combination for friendship or partnership...
Anyway, moving to the point..I feel exactly the same that now my friend totally doesnt want me in her life and she communicates with me very little these days. When we studied together our friendship was very strong and now as we are in differnt universities its completely died out and she changed totally as herself. I have always been the same to her and always loved her as a person and always there for her when she needs me. Every time I call her most of her excuses are that she is either very busy and she cant talk to me or I always call her at the wrong time. And every time I start complaining how I feel about us and that our friendship is totally different now she doesnt like that and she feels very pressured.
For instance, the same thing happened yesterday I called her and she was busy and didnt want to speak to me and said the same thing again and that really put me in the s*** mood,like why we all gona die one day anyway so why not use the time and enjoy each other?
The same night I sent her a tel message saying that I lost my bank card and I dont have any money lleft and that is the only card I have and its gonna take some time to get my card back and she didnt even bother to reply back to me.
The conlusion is that now I have a s*** friend who doesnt give s*** about my life at all and there is nothing I can do about it...
And I think I have been stung myself and dont know what for—??.. Maybe because I gave her too much attention thats what it is and she likes to have her own space as she says.

Anyway, I better finish its getting very long.
Basically try to move on with ur life and try (its hard) to think of her less..
Kisses Dashka
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Hey Dashka!
My conclusion is exactly as the Scorpio mom put it herself. They can be cruel. And they can finish with people in their lives if they are not useful to them. I totally believe that. So I guess she is right also in saying that you just have to chalk it off as experience. It's still a rotten and manipulative way to behave to a person though don't ya think!! We are only on this earth a short while as you say, why not just get along with one another?? My situation was the same in that we went to different universities. I mean we had separate lives, so it's not like I wanted to see her all the time. It just would have been nice to have been treated nicely when we did meet up from time to time. The only conolation you can take from it is that you would never treat someone like that
and you are the better person for that!
Sorry you had to go through it too!

Stay true
All the love!
H

I am so sorry this has happened to you, Pisces girl and Dashka. It totally sucks when you're blind-sided by something like this. You guys aren't alone; this has happened to all of us at some point in our lives...yes, it's even happened to us Scorpios!

Pisces girl, I would like to give you some words of (hopefully) wisdom, and this comes from a Scorpio girl. Stop calling your Scorpio friend completely. Do not initiate ANY contact with her. Let her come to you. And when/if she does, she will undoubtedly ask you why you haven't initiated contact with her. When she does, it is your ideal opportunity to let her know that you are a human being who is deserving of decent treatment, and that you will resume your friendship with her ONLY if she fully understands this, and agrees to begin treating you more kindly. Only do this, however, if you really want the friendship back. Now, the reason I think that this is what you should do, is because a Scorpio will sometimes trample over others' feelings--IF THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT AND/OR PERCIEVE THE OTHER PERSON AS WEAKER THAN THEY ARE. You must, must, must show her that you can fight fire with fire, and if you don't take this opportunity now to do so, it will send a clear message to the Scorpio that you are easy to walk on. And if she's worth your friendship at all, she will actually RESPECT you standing up for your own needs in this way. Try this, if you want to get your friendship back. And if she doesn't want to agree to your terms, she doesn't deserve you.

Thanks so much for your kind words. I hear exactly what you are saying, and in hindsight realise that is what I SHOULD have done! I actually ended up contacting her and trying to figure out what was going on, which in the end only made me look the weaker person even more.Unfortunately, I only realised this when it was too late. She did perceive me as the weaker person and she did trample all over my feelings and get away with it. It was only after not speaking to her for a long time that I realised what a sap I had been!! In all the times that I was contacting her and trying to work things out with ther, she never contacted me, and looking back it was so obvious that she didnt; want anything to do with me! But I'm glad I did, and I know it won't happen again! So it has gone beyond any sort of repair, and I don't even think about her as a frienbd anymore. I have some really good memories, but that's it. All I want to do know is get my self-respect back. And I no longer care if she likes me or not, or if she wants to remain friends (she doesn't anyway)and have chalked it up to experience!
And I know it can't all be attributed to being a Scorpio - I guess we ended up just bringing out the worst in one another. I guess I just wondered if they ever changed their mind/opinion about someone, or do they never forgive?
anyway you are not all that bad!
Take care

Pisces girl,

You are welcome for the kind words, but they are true. You sound like the kind of friend that anyone in their right mind would feel so lucky and grateful to have. And though that particular Scorp saw you as weak, or an easy target, do not let her lame opinion of you alter your opinion of yourself. Being a sensitive person is not something you need to apologize for, even if only internally. I happen to prefer the company of sensitive people! And I'm a Scorpio! : ) But anyway, I think you are right to chalk this up to a learning experience, as sometimes a friendship disintegrates over time (as painful as that can be--I know because I've been through it more than once) and I personally believe everything we experience happens for a reason; to teach us something. You are likely better off without the stress of trying to repair things. Now you can move on, confident that you will be able to recognize the signs of an unhealthy friendship in the future. And I am glad you are smart enough to not be completely soured on Scorpios because of this chick! Good for you--we are NOT all so self-consumed as this girl was.

Good luck, and I wish all the best for you!

Heather

Woops, I forgot to respond to something!

"I guess I just wondered if they ever changed their mind/opinion about someone, or do they never forgive?"

My experience as a Scorp, is that it takes A WHOLE LOT for us to actually change our opinion of someone or to change our mind about something...though we are so moody, it can seem as if our opinions of others/opinions on issues are constantly changing. Personally, I find it easy to forgive someone for something...but ONLY if I know in my soul that they are truly sorry and never set out to hurt me. : )