New to me

Hello everyone! This is my first time so be gentle.

I am somewhat confused. I've been dating my first Scorpio (DOB: 11/17) for the past few months and cannot figure him out. Not that I am trying to reach into his soul mind you, but I am getting confusing signals. Perhaps there are a few male Scorpio's out there that can shed some light on this situation. BTW, I am a Capricorn.

Part I

I will try to be as honest as makes me comfortable so here goes? I had just ended a very bad relationship and was out with some friends with nothing in mind but alcohol, numbness and whatever else the night may bring. My girlfriend told me there was a guy at the end of the bar staring at me. So he was. Well he kept staring at me until I walked over to him and started a conversation. In any event, one thing led to another and we slept together. I know it sounds bad but admit that was my goal. We've spent every weekend together from that time (December) to present.

Part II

Here it comes?I noticed he kept his emotions very close and guarded and wanted to know how he felt, so one night we were out, I had too much to drink, and low and behold, told him I was in love with him (whether or not I meant it is not the point ? alcohol induced) ? YIKES! His response was that he wasn't. Wow what a blow to the ego! And unfortunately, I have a large ego. Apparently I broke up with him that night because we were not on the ?same page?.

Part III

To make a long, long story somewhat shorter?we got back together the very next day and his emotions are beginning to come out. He tells me he misses me when he goes out of town and has done some thoughtful things for me. I actually notice a difference. My question: Is this normal with a Scorpio? Do they say one thing and mean something else for fear of exposure? He acts like he is in love with me but wouldn't dare tell me. Or, am I being taken for a ride to whatever degree.

Thanks for listening.

New to you

Welcome!!

We must have a reputation here(at this message board) for going for people's throats, but not everyone has those intentions!! With that said, It sounds like your Scorpio is quite typical; in that, he waited until he had all the information he needed from you before devulging his own feelings. They guard there feelings like Fort Knox guard money!! They don't want to be vunerable.

I have a daughter who is a Scorpio cusp and a father who Scorpio and a best buddy (male) who is too. They all exhibit those famous Scorpion qualities!!

I guess the best advise I have for you is: with Scorpios, and especially men, you almost need to be able to read between the lines. Watch their reactions/actions. If a Scorpio wants you, you won't be left wondering. You will feel alomst as if your being stalked. They just can't help it; for them it is all consuming when finding a potential mate. Some people might find that a little un-nerving. Others find the attention makes them feel good, desired. It all depends on the individual.

The Scorpio men I know all act the same. They say one thing an mean another. Although, they should never be taken lightly; just watch their actions. The saying "actions speak louder than words" was written about a Scorpio.

If you are lucky enough to find one, you will not be dissapointed!! You will be loved, cherished, and protected for always. Just keep them interested. Be a little mysterious yourself; they enjoy a challenge. Don't ever try to make them jealous on purpose; you'll lose their trust and may not get it back; give them enough space of their own without making them feel guilty about it; they like to have time by themselves to think; and make sure you give them lots of hugs they can be a little insecure at times.

Good Luck and Congratulations! Please let us know how things go, if you want to.

Sincerely,
Admirer of Scorps

Admirer of Scorps,

Thanks so much for the advice. Very good I might add. I've never felt the need to ask for help regarding any relationship prior to this one and I'm in my mid-thirties. Perhaps he means more to me than I am willing to admit (without the help of alcohol). In any event, I'll keep you updated as to the progress, if any. I will tell you this, though. I will NEVER throw that word around so carelessly again.

Any other precautions/suggestions are definitely welcome. Always like to be prepared.

Mynx

Did you throw it around (the L word) or did you not like the answer you got?

You took a chance and it didn't turn out the way you wanted, but it sounded like you told him your heart and you meant it.

At least you got your answer!

I would ask him another question. I would ask him if he was already married!

Sounds to me like he is already taken and that is why he is only spending weekends with you and that is why he told you he is interested in sex only.

Honestly, I cannot remember much of that night. Of course I didn't like the answer (that was two months ago). He's the one who wanted to get back together.

No, he isn't married. No, he doesn't spend just the weekends with me. I said EVERY weekend. We do a lot of things together. I just emphasized the importance of the weekends. No, he didn't tell me he is just interested in sex only. If he was I am sure we wouldn't leave his house.

I do appreciate your opinion, though.

Sounds like he's got his cake and eating it too.

He told you he didn't love you and you were back with him the very next day?

He's probably thinking that you'll take what ever he gives you and be happy with it.

Then again, maybe he is just saying that to test you. I don't know, you'll have to see what happens down the road. You can always run your own test. Like ask where he lives? and if you can come over to his home. If you can have his home phone number, so in case you have an emergency you can call him. Questions like that should make the real man real or the player, play!

Thanks, but I have been to his house (we go back and forth between his house and mine) and I've had his phone number from the beginning. I don't get the feeling he's a player, at least I hope not.

Okay, just a thought. Maybe it is my past experience I was refering to.

Sounds like he is maybe just a slow and cautious person!

I truly hope you have found a good one and that everything works out like you want it to!!

Take care
SA

Good thought.

That sounds like a good description of him, i.e., slow & cautious. I hope it works out too. Just a little strange for me, though. Only time will tell I suppose.

Thanks again.

Hi
What can I say I read your post and got shivers down my spine - your story is my story (except I bottled out a lot - eg my husband wouldnt let go so when I met my scorpio my ex tortured him (funny looking back now my scorpio never let it annoy him unfortunately it annoyed me and so I finished with him) I too told my scorpio (when drunk and on telephone) that I loved him and he replied I will talk to you face to face - again I bottled out told him it was drink talk when the next day he brought the subject up. I have this persons telephone number and so wish to phone him (I believe one day I will and hope that it wont be too late) just need more confidence. Anyway to you I say if he makes you feel good tell him so I know they can seem overwhelming to us caps but believe me its worst if they are not there at all. I was told once (by a scorpio friend) that because they are emotional people they seem to link quicker with people who have suffered a bad time and are vulnerable. Looking at live now my advice to anyone is this - if you are with someone you care about go for it for what else would you be doing (sitting alone at home?) if you have 1 year or two years happiness isnt it much better than none. I know the fears you have I felt them to - I feel they relate to us eg am I good enough, do I deserve such attention - yes you do and everyone deserves to be happy. Good luck to you I hope all works out well and dont bottle out hang in there!#
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