Overlap -- only to realize you are in love

Have you ever had an overlap?

Let's say you are seeing a girl you care about. Something is different about her, but it is somewhere in the zone when you are not quite sure of your feelings for her. Then there is your long-term F-buddy or a new girl you are in contact with. You have your routine with your F-buddy or you had some arrangement with the new girl of meeting her, which was a long while back. And you think... what the hell.. I am going to meet her. Then you have sex, but only to realize that you actually LOVE the person you are currently with.


Has this ever happened to you?

I'll tell you an example from past, Irish. Thank you for showing interest in my post, because I do believe overlaps happen but not with ill intention necessarily.

Example 1:
My ex and I had just started communicating and just physically involved for a few times. He used to see this woman he knew for many number of years. She a divorce? and my ex an old bachelor in his 40s decided to have an arrangement to meet every 2-3 months and you know... have some mutual fun. When I came into the picture, I already knew him for 2-3 months, my ex had already an arrangement with her. He was invited for Easter for a 2-3 days stay. She lived out of town. I didn't know at the time, I thought they were just regular friends. So when we were together, I somehow suspected that HE had more than just friendship with her. With my insisting, he admitted that she had sex with her, but realized that he couldn't do it anymore with her, because he realized that he only wanted to be with me. He said I thought of you all the time. He cut his visit short returning to Toronto earlier than I had expected him back.

So that was an overlap within our relationship and until then he had never told me that I was IT. Later we married.

Example 2:
I did the overlap. I was seeing a man. I cared for him more than I admitted to myself. I had this old friend who invited me one night. I already had too much alcohol. A simple hug turned into more. I found myself in his arms. Sheesh... I still don't know what went through my mind that I ended up that way. But when reality struck, I felt disgusted. I still feel appalled by the thought that I let him touch me. I also realized that I had more feelings for the person I had just started dating for the past 2-3 months. I thought it was more casual, but I realized I had feelings for him.

No I didn't call, irish. No reason to call CAP. If he has enough interest in me, he should be the one calling and getting on his knees. He is the one who has cheated on me.



My incident is a past mistake I did.


I find it relative to current situation. We all can make mistakes, but when it's out in the open, I believe the person should take on responsibility. I forgave my Virgo in the past. I was hurt but I forgave him. Everything still was very new and not defined.

the man i married i met in an overlap thingey. he was engaged to an aqua when i met him. there was much to-ing and fro-ing on his part but eventually.............well, he married me!!!

ended disastrously though 😢

what comes around, goes around.