Scorp man's mixed signals

Hi guys! I'm new..but I've been reading the posts and can't believe how much I can relate to some of the other ladies here who are dealing with scorp men! Here's my story..see what you think..🙂
There's a guy at my work..scorp, and I'm cancer. Like magnets we were drawn! But the thing is, he's quite a bit younger then me and very inexperienced! Anyway we started emailing, flirting,etc..and I started pressuring him to go for a drink sometime. Which he kept staling with. (That's about the time I found he's inexperienced,never had a relationship before!) Anyway, it took about 3mths before he finally agreed to go,but only after I had to get fed up! ya i think he didn't like feeling pressured! lol Anyway, it bombed. We went for a drink but he was very nervous the whole time. He told me that he had a lot to say 'in here' as he touched his heart, but said he was very confused. He couldn't get the words out, was all flustered. Finally he came out with basically that he wasn't interested 'romantically'. I was blown away!! I mean, I know how to read body language and flirting signs! We constantly touched each other when I'd be at his desk, even to the point of grabbing and pressing against each other! Or just staring into each others eyes! I think he just was so freaked out by having a woman be so aggressive and forthright with him he didn't know how to handle it. Or maybe afraid of rejection if he came out and told me he cared? After that it was awkward for a bit but we couldn't stay away from each other. We started cautiously talking, then the flirting and innuendoes were back. Then we started talking on the phone at nite,4hr convo's ea time! At that point he reluctantly agreed that yes, it was more then just platonic. We go out again, and I told him that we could just keep it as friends & just talk 'at work'. He got all upset by that and insisted no he didn't want that! Said he had to tell me something. Another long drawn out few hrs before he could muster up the words, meanwhile askin me if it would bother me if he cried, huggin me the whole time..but then he pulls back, saying he didn't think he could give me what I needed! huh?!!! Ok I'll stop here for now..have I been reading the signs wrong? is this guy REALLY not interested or is he just so freaked out by his feelings he doesn't know what to do..or..— Really really mixed signals, and it's messin me up big time..! Any scorps out there want to respond? 🙂 Remember, this guy has never had a gf before! OH!! another thing..he's from India! Only been in Canada for a few yrs..maybe it's the whole culture thing too?? ..I'm confused..help! lol

Hi guys! I'm new..but I've been reading the posts and can't believe how much I can relate to some of the other ladies here who are dealing with scorp men! Here's my story..see what you think..🙂
There's a guy at my work..scorp, and I'm cancer. Like magnets we were drawn! But the thing is, he's quite a bit younger then me and very inexperienced! Anyway we started emailing, flirting,etc..and I started pressuring him to go for a drink sometime. Which he kept staling with. (That's about the time I found he's inexperienced,never had a relationship before!) Anyway, it took about 3mths before he finally agreed to go,but only after I had to get fed up! ya i think he didn't like feeling pressured! lol Anyway, it bombed. We went for a drink but he was very nervous the whole time. He told me that he had a lot to say 'in here' as he touched his heart, but said he was very confused. He couldn't get the words out, was all flustered. Finally he came out with basically that he wasn't interested 'romantically'. I was blown away!! I mean, I know how to read body language and flirting signs! We constantly touched each other when I'd be at his desk, even to the point of grabbing and pressing against each other! Or just staring into each others eyes! I think he just was so freaked out by having a woman be so aggressive and forthright with him he didn't know how to handle it. Or maybe afraid of rejection if he came out and told me he cared? After that it was awkward for a bit but we couldn't stay away from each other. We started cautiously talking, then the flirting and innuendoes were back. Then we started talking on the phone at nite,4hr convo's ea time! At that point he reluctantly agreed that yes, it was more then just platonic. We go out again, and I told him that we could just keep it as friends & just talk 'at work'. He got all upset by that and insisted no he didn't want that! Said he had to tell me something. Another long drawn out few hrs before he could muster up the words, meanwhile askin me if it would bother me if he cried, huggin me the whole time..but then he pulls back, saying he didn't think he could give me what I needed! huh?!!! Ok I'll stop here for now..have I been reading the signs wrong? is this guy REALLY not interested or is he just so freaked out by his feelings he doesn't know what to do..or..— Really really mixed signals, and it's messin me up big time..! Any scorps out there want to respond? 🙂 Remember, this guy has never had a gf before! OH!! another thing..he's from India! Only been in Canada for a few yrs..maybe it's the whole culture thing too?? ..I'm confused..help! lol

I'm not Scorp, but I can answer (if you don't care that way, then just jump below on the next post)

"is he just so freaked out by his feelings he doesn't know what to do..or..—"

Yes. That is. As you see, he is constantly changing additude. Therefore, he does not know what he want.

"maybe it's the whole culture thing too??"

Yes. Exactly.

You might read signs wrong, but your assumptions are correct.

He's scared,that seems to be the only thing to it.Your giving him mixed signals too with the friends thing so he probably sees it as a form of rejection due to the inexperiance.Your going to have to make clear of if you really want to see him first and maybe then you can *ahem* train him properly in the matters of women.If you really like him just give him a little more patience with figuring it out.

cancers are good at pampering people they like so do that to make him feel more secure.

Mixed signals??..ME?! LOL ..yaaa..I do that alot I think! Well the thing that makes all this even harded is I'm just as scared and afraid of rejection probably as HE is! I'm a cancer ferchristsakes..! emotional and guarded and scared of getting hurt..and ya I see that the 'friend' comment probably sent him back to square one but I told him that t take the pressure off so he could relax more and then he could take it from there how he wanted it to go. If he had immediately agreed with a huge sigh of relief, I would know where things stood..right? 🙂

God I HATE trying to figure out the 'other person' out..and meanwhile he's probably doin the exact same thing and both of us are probably reading it each other all wrong!..just to keep from getting hurt..!

from india? he may be slated to marry someone he has never seen yet by his family. or, he may be your girlfriend from work....heh heh

That actually sounds a lot like me especially during my first relationship. He's obviously in to you. He seems to be hesitant in giving it all away because he does not know how you will accept it yet. It seems obvious that he wants to though. On the other hand it could be that your trying to seduce him and he doesn't think proceeding is the right thing to do. Or that there are other things you need in your life he's found through your conversations with him that go beyond a boyfriend. He could want to be the answer to all that you need but that can be dangerous ground. If he finds out later after diving that he's wrong things could get ugly.

the boy is scared to be in love

He is from a traditional culture and probably feels weird about having a woman pursue him. Traditional men know how to properly pursue women.

Back off and let him lead. If he doesn't, his loss.

I have found that Scorpio men do like to be the one to pursue. In my experience, they just seem to "know" if you are the one for them or not, without you having anything to do with it! 😉 If he didn't pursue you, he may have been curious or thought he could flirt (b/c he is young), but he always knew in his heart that he could not. These guys are very true to themselves.

Even if you are not interested?

^ Yes.

It feels sexy to have someone 'sucked' into you, does it not?