Scorpio-Aquarius

Does this relationship work? We were on fire for 1 year and then all of a sudden my Aquariun lost interest. I am trying to woo her back but to no avail? what now?

what did you do?? What happened??

I dont know, she moved in with me and after a year she said she needs space and her feelings are not as strong as mine. it came all of a sudden. i thought initially she met someone better, but then thats not the case for sure. after her moving out, we again met a couple of times for dinner and movies, but i dont know what she intends to do. is it really over and 'lets be friends' talk or is there a chance to come back again!!! she is not too expressive or emotional like other aquariuns, so its a bit difficult to understand if i should move ahead in my life or wait for her to rethink.

Dear Lost in love or perhaps...Lost in Space? just messing with ya fella 😉 But c'mon here...the signs are as plain as day to see or maybe you choose not to see them and maybe creating excuses? First of all, do not take her behaviour personally - she is being honest with you and has expressed her true feelings to you. "her feelings are not as strong as yours." - she moved out needing space, lost interest.."let's be friends"....seems to me that she is just not that into you right now at this time. My question to you is...why would one want to "woo" someone back into their life? It is either there or it isn't. Love is not to be forced..it just happens and you KNOW it..there is no need to be having the feelings of "difficult to understand"...these feelings will emerge when the relationship is not working. It is up to you my friend what you choose to do...personally, I would move on...if it is meant to be - and it might be later down the road..one never knows..it will happen. For now, go out there and live your life, enjoy my friend!

I know what you are saying hurts but is for sure the truth, but I do love this girl very much. I was fully committed in the relationship. anyways it seems time to move ahead rather than wallow in self pity. Who knows there is somthing better round the corner!!!

Hi lost in love,

I am so sorry for what you are going through..I too have been there as I am sure so many others from this board have as well. Love does hurt especially when we have those special feelings for someone and they are not reciprocated. Now we are faced with the truth and we don't quite know what to do with those feelings or how to respond to the other. Once we accept the truth, we set ourselves free. YES...absolutely there is something better around the corner!!! Believe it and you will see it - I promise!

"If you decide to cut your losses, I suggest you create a vivid, positive vision for your future. See it, say it, meditate on it, write it down, flash on it at every red light. When you catch yourself thinking you're too old, too poor, too weak, or too needy to make a change, laugh in your own face.

Letting go hurts. But staying, once you've decided the relationship is really over, means being buried alive. Face your decision with courage, kindness, and a galloping leap of faith. Joy is waiting."

I came across this (cannot remember where) but I thought that you may find some comfort and encouragement from it...I hope it helps and I am wishing the best for you on your new and exciting adventure!

Freebird

thanks my friend, appreciate the good words!!!

more happened, and thought I should share for some advice. My Aquariun girl moved out on Sunday. I made it clear it was upto her if she wants to make contact or meet me. She calls me up everyday and in between we met a couple of times. When the time comes to leave I would give a peck on her cheek. Yesterday she called me up again and I realised it was exactly 2 years to date that we met. I took her out for dinner and then she took me back to her new apartment. I bought her a few crossword books and she started on those, i watched TV lying on the bed. around 11 i wanted to leave and after my usual pecks on her cheek, she to my surprise, gave three wonderful pecks/kisses on my neck. Can someone tell me what is happening and what is on her mind? Is she in or is she out?

by the way we are from Germany, Hamburg to be precise!

I think she may realize how great you are but maybe she is more comfortable with things being the way they are.You at your place and her place.Maybe she needs some time to deal with her feelings.

Lost in Love,

If it were me in your situation I would bite the bullet and ask her where things are if anywhere. Let her know that you are not trying to pressure her, but it would be helpful if you fully understood what she wants.

Is she undecided about continuing anything with you romantically? to see what may happen now that you are living apart. Or is she wishing to be friends with you and the show of affection is appreciation that you can still treat her with such kindness.

When the person that separates the union just wants to be friends, they are usually grateful if the other person can make the transition easy without emotional compications. Because they feel bad enough already for hurting the other person. I have always stayed away from a person for awhile if they were the one that was still in love with me. As I felt it would hurt them to much if I were around all the time. And I could not help feeling somewhat guilty even though it was beyond my control-the lack of feelings that is.

If she calls you everyday, and you still meet she is sending a message that she is not sure or just misses having you there all the time. In other words she has not let go all the way, but she is not encouraging anything intimate either. So with the two things happening even if she does not realize it she is sending mixed messages to you.

Leaving you to wonder just what is going on between you if anything. For your own emotional health, and because she owes you at least this much. You must ask her to be specific about where things stand, and just what you are to her now. Just a friend, or possible future love again?

And if she does not know what she wants, then the next step is to talk about just where things are now. The ground rules must be set and discussed or there will be problems down the road.

If she does not know, let her know you still care for her but do not want to live in false hope if things are truly over. That it is kinder to tell you the truth and not leave you to hang on waiting for something that will not be.

If she wants to still see you and other people also, you have to decide if that is something you are able to deal with. It may not be, and is she wants to see others then I would assume for the most part that things will not be the same again between you.

It is not kind for you to not know exactly what she is feeling or wants now. Ask her for the truth no matter what that is, as you dont want to be hurt down the road because you were assuming things are different than they may be.

Lost in love, even if she says what you dont want to hear the pain you will save yourself is more than worth it.

When she says her feelings are not as deep as yours, ask her to clarify that. Does she mean that she loves you just not as much or enough to live together anymore. Or is she just afraid to tell you that she is not in love with you the way she needs to be to stay and continue anything.

Well thats what my advice to you is, there are just to many unknowns here for any conclusion to be made.

My heart goes out to you, as I know this must be really hard for you. I always try to remember this saying, You cant truly lose what was never yours. In other words if she doesnt feel the same as you do, it would have ended anyway. And there is not anything you can or could have done to prevent that.

Sometimes it just goes that way, I lived with a man that treated me like a princess for a year. And I tried so hard to love him in that way, but in the end It just was not in my heart. And I had to tell him and leave even though it hurt him badly. I truly did try but like Freebird has said if it is there you just know it. And if it is not then it was not going to last anyway.

Best of luck to you, hope life gets happier and better for you soon.

TW2

Let us know what you find out ok! But let her know that you have to know, and that is only fair. Besides you deserve at least that much dont you think?

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