scorpio confusing me...a lil help please ,

scorpio confusing me...a lil help please ,

Lol. dont beat me up yall, i was a lil tipsy when i tried to post this right after i ran into my scorpio crush at a party. Anyway, here is some background on the situation...

We met in college, he's a big known party promoter and EVERYbody knows him, and there's no girl on that campus or period that wouldn't kill to be with him or at least on his arm when he hits the scene. He's soooo fine. But he surprised me, when he hosted my 21st b-day party as a favor to his boy which was my d.j. I had a crush on him the whole school year before, but i was a freshman and did't really know anyone to get closer to him. But once i got to know who was throwing party's i started to show up at all HIS parties on purpose, i would look my absolute best and he always came up to me kissing me on my cheek and telling me how much he likes me, but the kisses were so passionate but innocent and sexy at the same time. I later found out he had a gf, so i backed off out of respect. He still pursued me, but not trying to get with me exactly. But he never let me forget he liked me. But he never disrespected his relationship, which made me like him even more, because it showed his loyalty. Anyway, so i ran into him at this party, and he told me to put my number in his phone(for the first time)
This is where the confusion begins...he calls, but he be so random with it. Over the phone he sounds excited to here from me, and he always tells me he misses me. He very passionate whenever im around him, but then he backs off. He seems into me, yet detached at the same time. We kissed for the first time last weekend after we went out together, and he seemed really into me, so im thinking we're going 2 talk more after this, NOPE...he seems distant and nevervous. Ive sent him love songs, cute lil text to let him know im feeling him, we have a mutual understanding that we DEFINITELY like each other, but im having the DARNEST time getting the scorpio man out of his shell...is this how they pursue(from a distance) whats up with this guy? im lost....anybody can respond, thanks =)

Here are our charts by the way...

HIS:
Sun Scorpio 29.51
Moon Aries 2.09
Mercury Sagittarius 13.58 R
Venus Scorpio 15.47
Mars Libra


MINES:
sun:Libra
Moon:picies
Venus:leo

Forget the charts.

Ask him out.

Give him 3 date & time options.

Take the lead ... he probably "really really" likes you
and "rather than be TOO FORWARD" and blow it
he is simply not being forward enough.

I personally have quite literally showed other "shy" guys
how simple it is to go to a new town and walk up to 100
random HOT women ( since no shame in rejection from a
hot girl ) and asked them:

Are you a single girl?
- NO = "How unfortunate for you... but we should fuck anyway"
- YES = "What's your email address?" ( less intimidating for her
than "Phone Number" ... and more chance I'll get it
........ if I get the email ... I then ask for the phone number
stating that I really don't like emailing much and that "she"
might need to wait a long time for me to reply...

At any point there is resistance ... I lay the "we should fuck sometime"
on her. ( Women really are surprised by honesty and respond favorably
since they know there is no "game" to be played. ) While the successful
OUTWARD RESPONSE rate for that is LOW ( 1 - 5 in 100 ) ... I know
the inner response rate is about 35% due the body language they show.

100% NO FEAR or loss, direct eye contact and confidence on my part
AS IF I FULLY EXPECT THAT THEY WILL ....

... but truly I DON'T CARE whether they do or not, individually.

But with someone that I DO care about and see as more a LONG TERM
possibility ... it is high-risk ... high chance of LOSS ... so it
is easier to DO NOTHING than make THE WRONG move...


... so ... help him out ... if you want him.

If he's still with someone why are you pursuing him?

Posted by AriesScorpioAquarius
If he's still with someone why are you pursuing him?

He is SINGLE girl, didn't you hear me say thats why he asked me to put my number in his phone. The whole time he had a gf, the most i got out of him was a hello, a soft warm smile, a kiss on the cheek with a compliment, "you look gorgeous" nothing more. Then he'd be out of my face. They broke up last year during the fall.

And to my other user, thanks. but i have tried telling him directly...he told me back thats how i KNOW he likes me...im just not sure if the scorpio likes me enough to pursue me all the way, like tal on the phone more go on dates etc. or do they generally jus move like snails when they really like someone. He told me, one of the things that attracted him to me, is my no-nonsense attitude in relationships. He said it took him a long time to ask for my num because he had a gf when we met and he knew i wouldn't go for that. But when they broke up, he was hoping he'd get a chance to talk to me...see! CONFUSING....because he only does every once in a while, but when he does he's all in, yet still kind of reserved...ugh

Posted by pinklibra

Posted by AriesScorpioAquarius
If he's still with someone why are you pursuing him?

He is SINGLE girl, didn't you hear me say thats why he asked me to put my number in his phone. The whole time he had a gf, the most i got out of him was a hello, a soft warm smile, a kiss on the cheek with a compliment, "you look gorgeous" nothing more. Then he'd be out of my face. They broke up last year during the fall.

And to my other user, thanks. but i have tried telling him directly...he told me back thats how i KNOW he likes me...im just not sure if the scorpio likes me enough to pursue me all the way, like tal on the phone more go on dates etc. or do they generally jus move like snails when they really like someone. He told me, one of the things that attracted him to me, is my no-nonsense attitude in relationships. He said it took him a long time to ask for my num because he had a gf when we met and he knew i wouldn't go for that. But when they broke up, he was hoping he'd get a chance to talk to me...see! CONFUSING....because he only does every once in a while, but when he does he's all in, yet still kind of reserved...ugh

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1. I'm not a girl =p

2. Scorpios care cautious and don't like to play our hand until we are certain.

3. Scorpios respond best to slavish devotion.

There are two approaches I would recommend:

A: Continue to pursue him and let him know that he is absolutely amazing and other men simply pale in comparison to him.

or B: Flirt with someone in front of him. If this doesn't cause him to spring into action out of jealousy then he doesn't like you.

Posted by Samiamascorpio
So I'm taking it that you gave up on your Leo. Sorry to hear that.

Your Venus is in Leo which requires much attention and adoration, his Scorpio is in Venus. For this reason this could be a little difficult only because you want to be shown more adoration and you want to know exactly where you stand with him. My Venus is in Scorpio and my Leos Venus is in Leo and I have made many efforts to shower him with the love ad adoration he needs because I love him. Also, Scorpio in Venus... Once they/we fall in love we do so completely and utterly, be prepared for an intense love affair 🙂.

Best of luck to you PinkLibra, again I think your directness will work the best here 🙂

You posted a picture!lol, wow.Nice 2 meet ya girl.lol And yes, unfortunately im not after the leo anymore. After a while without the results i want i will tend to give up. I must say the weekend he came here was alot of fun though, he even asked me to be his sweety for sweeties day, however i'll tell you why it went nowhere from there in your inbox. Now about my scorpio we've been into one another for almost a year, but no moves made until now, since he's single. Just having problems getting him out the shell. I can tell he likes me, but it's almost like he's shy around me, but not too shy to let me know he likes me. He even kisses me like a million times, cheek forehead, first time on the lips. But he still flirts. I dont know whethe he's coming or going...


Scorpio_chic : Im not sure why they broke up. He said they argued alot, and she never seemed satisfied. Lately thats what all guy's say about their ex's. However in our 1st convo, he told me that one of the reasons he took so long to pursue me is because he was still trying to decide on whether he was going to stay in his relationship. He even admitted that they still talk on the phone, but he promised that he is single and into me. To be honest this is why i dont want to overwhelm him with my feelings of wanting a chance with him. I need him to close that first door first, or he wont truly be with me and only me for the right reason...i dunno if that makes since.

Posted by ellessque
the arguing with his ex was probably because she didn't understand his aries moon.

we are compulsive, like to have our way, love a good debate, want everything NOW and don't you dare say no or maybe later, we will say what exactly what we are thinking with no consequence.

the hardest thing of all.....is we tend to hurt feelings, especially when someone doesn't know us very well.

we don't carry grudges. we are over our outbursts in less than 10 minutes, generally speaking.

the biggest obstacle is people tend to try to carry it out longer and we've already have moved on and get REALLY annoyed with that.

if it happened yesterday or last week, leave it there 😛

It's funny how u just desribed his personality in just a few words.lol.He's JUST like that from what i can see. He went out to eat for sweeties day ~~not with me 😢 ~~ but anyway, i will bet he took his ex since they still "talk" on the phone. He said they argued the whole time, and then flirted saying he should've been with me. I flirted back saying that i'd tell him thats what he gets but no one deserves to argue on sweeties day. ~~by the way, i wasn't hurt that they went out because i was with someone else on that day too, =p ....lol~~ Anyway, he kills the convo by scaring me saying that he LOVES to argue. I hope he means a "good debate" like you stated in your post, because with me a libra i will almost ALWAYS run from negative ANYTHING, especially negative people that LOVE to argue. I hate argueing, but i will have a calm through conversation with both sides being heard and settled for both partners. but a heated arguement with harsh words being tossed around that will be regreted later, i rather drop it calm down, and come back to it...lol. but thats the libra/leo in me.lol. and my stupid piscies moon thats always quick to forgive some damn body...ugh.lol

Hey Hi!!!!!!!!!any scorpio female having commited relation with cancer male and in LDR..plzzzzzz help..i wanna know is he tells u everytime tat he luvs u a lot miss u etc. and always calls u up inspite being hell lot busy....plz tell me..my cancer never calls and only receive mine never give answer to my romantic mails but when i say i m going helds me back ..when i complain to him tat he never tells me his feelings he says tat it is a fact nd u know tat i luv u no point to say it daily...i know i shud not b complaing but i m sagitarian25/11 having scorpio venus..so find things tough to deal..kindly help me to make him very open to me...
PS we are in LDR frm 6 months and we are 1000 miles away....plz help me :-)