Scorpio Confusion

Soooo yea, we are still friends. So anyways, A Guy asked me on a date, i told the guy i just got out of a relationship and i wasnt ready for a date. He said "Just casual with good conversation, I Love talking to you" This guy is a friend at my neighborhood watch commity. I Said "Okay,dinner and conversation and thats it because i am not ready for anything else" So my ex scorp comes over the same night "last night,monday" and asks me if i want to watch tv and hang out since he was off work. I Told him i had a dinner date just dinner. He gave me "The Look" than said "Oh okay thats cool no problem after all we are just friends" Well i told him he could come in for a bit and have a soda and talk, so as i am putting on make up he is talking to me,we had a great convo. My date calls,and i tell him i am almost ready and end the convo. Than my ex scorp said he had to go outside a minute. He came back in and we talked and talked,and i am realising my date hasnt showed up, so i call him being he is almost an hour and a half late. He answers to tell me he isnt coming because my boyfriend told him not to. What!? My scorp ex admited to sabotaging my date. Than he gets upset because i am upset and now he wont even talk to me, what the hell? Grrrrrrrrrr,,,,.......

Posted by CancerianGoddess
Soooo yea, we are still friends. So anyways, A Guy asked me on a date, i told the guy i just got out of a relationship and i wasnt ready for a date. He said "Just casual with good conversation, I Love talking to you" This guy is a friend at my neighborhood watch commity. I Said "Okay,dinner and conversation and thats it because i am not ready for anything else" So my ex scorp comes over the same night "last night,monday" and asks me if i want to watch tv and hang out since he was off work. I Told him i had a dinner date just dinner. He gave me "The Look" than said "Oh okay thats cool no problem after all we are just friends" Well i told him he could come in for a bit and have a soda and talk, so as i am putting on make up he is talking to me,we had a great convo. My date calls,and i tell him i am almost ready and end the convo. Than my ex scorp said he had to go outside a minute. He came back in and we talked and talked,and i am realising my date hasnt showed up, so i call him being he is almost an hour and a half late. He answers to tell me he isnt coming because my boyfriend told him not to. What!? My scorp ex admited to sabotaging my date. Than he gets upset because i am upset and now he wont even talk to me, what the hell? Grrrrrrrrrr,,,,.......

1 You are a strong woman for breaking up with him for cause.
2 If you are still friends with this guy, might as well go back out with him. Same for your reputation, no?
3 He wrecked your date. Oh how cute! But he also said he was your BOYFRIEND to make that happen, no?

He had 2 good reasons to hold back the truth - 1) he did something wrong and 2) he was scared of loss.
You broke up with him for one or both of those reasons.

Now he is weaseling his way back in. You need to make a decision: "Love him or Lose him"

No "friends" He will screw-up your life, intentionally or accidentally.

But if you agreed to go on a DATE this soon after you broke up with him, and TOLD him, either:

- he didn't mean much to you anyway
- you wanted to rub it in his face
- you WANTED him to screw up your date on you

Stop being a dunce and make a decision before restraining orders are needed. Just say it calmly.

You: "I cared about you, I wish we could have lasted, but the sex-offender thing just doesn't work.
It doesn't matter to anyone else what really happened, all they see is the charge again

Posted by sr1
hey cg...you can never be "just friends" with an ex boyfriend who's a scorp...it just doesn't happen...they don't do the break-up and be friends thing...

Unless they want you back in their lives, or they're up to get revenge...

actually before you get them back (if you're talking to me) I have to test again.. meaning, get even. if you pass..then you're back.. that's just how it works... loyalty is very very important to me... when i say loyalty, i mean..whatever i do, whatever mistake i did that hurt you.. you'll stay. cos i'll do the same.

Yeah, you have to completely cut a Scorpio off. Even after you do, he'll keep trying to get back in, contacting you, driving by your house, etc.

Just be prepared to stick to your guns.

Posted by seavixen2
^ I thought the same thing myself. And I was curious as to why you would even tell him even "innocently" you had a "innocent" dinner date planned just days after breaking up...he is a Scorp, and you know what that entails and kind of unfair as he wasn't the one who gave you up (he obviously still has feelings). Lets just imagine if the roles were reversed for a minute and you got dumped for something you did as a stupid youth and he dropped you like you were nothing and then told you he was going out to dinner innocently with another female just a few days after...somehow, I think you would be posting how heartbroken you were. Was he right to do what he did to your date..nah, but for a Scorp..pretty tame. Be prepared to be iced out and amputated now.

HAHA.. seavixen, I like you, too!

Its okay pisces,.. and it was dinner with a friend, dinner and talk, sorry out here we call it a dinner date if we are going out with someone to do more than that as in get to know someone to see where it goes we call it a hook-up. I Wasnt going to hook-up.

Well i am still up, i just got home from the hospital, guess i may not have to worry about what to do with the situation. He took 50 500mg tylenol rapid release pills and a friend of his called 911. I was his emergency contact, he left a long letter for me by his bed. I went to the hospital and they told me alot of it is in his system. He is in ICU and may not make the next 24 hours. Thanks for all your advice though.

And before anyone says anything, i am actually hurt, i still love him. Only thing keeping me from him is his record. If something happened, i would be very sad, i have cried enough tonight.

I'm sorry you're being put through this, CG.

But, I have to say, in my experience, when people REALLY want to kill themselves and aren't just doing it to emotionally manipulate, they have an uncanny way of actually making it happen.

Damn...

aawww cg sweety I'm so very sorry. u need to gather ur energy back up & use ur shell to keep anymore negativity from creeping in. protect urself u've been weakened by this blow. spend some time to build up strength. light some white candles (up high away from wee ones) take a bath have a glass of wine & calm ur waters in ur element. things will be better soon.

also I have a male friend who in his twenties pick'd up a dude at a bar thinking he was at least 21 dated for months

found out he was 17 when parents filed charges

he had a record for years finally he was released from the list after years & lots of legal fees 😢 so yes I know bad things happen to good people

get strong do u for now...if this is meant to be it will just not now. the universe has a sick sense of humor sometimes...

concentrate all that luv u've got on u & the kids right now.

he should have told u prior to involvement he was wrong the way u had to find out suuuucks. u can't change the past but u can live in the now & make a great future for ur family 🙂

much luv & light chicky

Posted by CancerianGoddess
And before anyone says anything, i am actually hurt, i still love him. Only thing keeping me from him is his record. If something happened, i would be very sad, i have cried enough tonight.

*Hugs* My heart goes out to you dear heart. Pray for him and send loving thoughts his way whenever you think of him. We dont always have to communicate directly to that person for them to feel our love.

So i am back, He went into ICU,And they made me contact his family. They said he was headed toward a kidney transplant. He was in and out of it. My mother-in-law watched the kids and i never left his side. Nobody gets it, i dont care about the small shit really, My 15 mo old hates everyone,but walked right up to him and it freaked my mother-in-law out. He is great with kids,works hard,loves with all his heart. Has no family. I care for him, and he knows that because i never left his side. The rotton egg smelling liquid they gave him finally flushed through his liver and took. He is okay now and in recovery. I Am going with him to his counseling session. I Am seriously his only friend. I am not going to abandon him in this state of mind because i have a huge heart. He is going to a counseling session for people who feel the way he does and do stupid things like he tried. And i am hoping it does him good. As far as dating,.. i wont be for a LONGGGGG time. He still has my heart and even though i know it wont work. I Honestly am not ready for anyone else. So we remain friends..

I Am lame, Thats *Liver transplant NOT kidney, sorry im tired!

I'm happy for u & ur scorp friend

cg I read something regarding a scorp cancer relationship once...that we made make one another betta

I think it's true, we r the only shell'd signs there has to be more to this

wish u much luv & light

made make= make *smh* sorry

Thanks everyone, And "I Think your on to something hardcandy"