Scorpio female/Taurus male

Started seeing my Taurus male about a month and a half ago. After our first date, I was kinda indifferent...can take him or leave him.

But then I saw him a second and a third time, and each time I saw more and more things to like about him. He contacted me daily, spent a lot of time with me, being very affectionate, both in private and public. We have great conversations and genuinely enjoy each other's company.

Then a couple of weeks ago he pulled back, said he doesn't want to get too attached...am a little confused, thought maybe he was giving me the brushoff but the last time I saw him everything felt the same ... are there other scorp/taurus combos experiencing the same thing?? would love to hear from you 🙂

i'm a male scorpio currently "involved" with a female taurus, and i can kind of relate. while we have a really intense connection, it seems like she wants more from the relationship but whenever i bring it up she always pulls back and makes it sound like i'm "going too fast." this is really frustrating since as a scorp (and an emotionally intelligent guy), i know what she wants, but she won't let me give it to her.

scorp5, taurus is a very earthy and social sign. this means they have a very, very clear sense of social convention and while they might have strong emotions, their clear cut logic and honesty will always come first. your connection is probably scaring him; he comes from a place where there are lots of rules for dating and life in general, and as scorpios we tend to make our own rules and act on whatever we feel (whereas taurus acts with more controlled emotion.) when it comes to it: regardless of where the relationship is headed, he's going to be the voice of reason and you're going to be the emotional outburst. you're lucky it's not the other way around.

it's really one of the fine examples of how life sucks for us scorpios. =].

thanks for your insight scorpio_wreck...you seem to have a really good read into your taurus female.

and i can totally relate to your frustration - even though he wants to keep it casual it sure doesn't feel that way when we're together. i do feel a strong connection, and i think you're right, it's freaking him out.

altho i read somewhere that scorpio can never be just casually involved, and i def think that's true in my case. hope it's not just my scorpio nature reading into things that aren't really there, seeing as we have only been together a short time.

may i ask what rules for dating you are referring to above? are you referring to taurus people taking a long time to decide whether or not they see you exclusively?

i really appreciate your comments - thanks 🙂

p.s. funny though - i'd rather be the voice of reason than the emotional outburst. been working overtime not to let my feelings run wild coz it'll probably just lead directly to heartache.

scorp5, it sounds like we're on the same page with our early-but-intense taurus relationships -

i totally agree about the casual involvement thing. it's more trouble than its worth when you know what you want and who you are like most scorpios do. a lot of the time we feel antsy because the rest of the world just can't keep up the pace, emotionally and physically.

the main thing i see with her is that she's very into the relationship when we're together but then pulls away when we're not together, in terms of phone calls/general communication. it's like her life is separate from her relationships, or she has this clear-cut logically organized way of splitting her life up into parts. unfortunately as scorpios we have a bad, bad, bad! habit of investing ourselves emotionally in EVERYTHING we do. that means when we're making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, we can't be interrupted with the laundry and even if we switch to ironing clothes, we're still thinking about that half-made pb and j lying there on the counter and how long it's gonna take for the next load to finish. scorpios are always operating on different levels which is partly what makes us attractive to other signs, but it also hurts in relationships because of our intensity and devotion to one thing. we're like the OCD sign.

what i find hardest about being a scorpio in relationships is that on the outside we're very cold and logical people, and this attracts those signs (like, for example, taurus) who believe we're very easy-going and casual with our relationships. trouble comes knocking when they discover that, nope, we're basically a bunch of obsessively crazy bastards and they (especially the steady, logical bull) feel like they've been "lied" to. this could be what you're going through - after you open up a little, your guy may have noticed an intensity underneath your surface that he's not ready for, but when he's with you it's so magnetic that he is fascinated by it. such a complex relationship, for sure!

scorpio and taurus are a 7-7 sun pattern, which means they're polar opposites on the zodiac wheel. scorpios yearns to be everything taurus is, and taurus yearns to be everything scorpio is, which produces an intense and instant connection between the two. usually 7-7's tend to be love-hate relationships, where the good is GOOD but the bad is just ugly. i know what you're thinking - "fantastic! beautiful!" but if your taurus man saw this, he'd be like, "oh $ #@!." haha =].

the funny thing is, both scorpio and taurus are incredibly possessive, and they want the same things. taurus wants to own scorpio's body and scorpio wants to own taurus' soul, and they both have an intense yearning to settle down into an honest and committed reationship, but because their thought patterns and emotional processes are so vastly different from eachother, reaching that point is an incredibly difficult task.

i totally know what you mean by emotions running haywire. i would totally love to be a reasonable person, too, but i'm reasonable enough to know that it's never gonna happen. =]. hope this helps, and sorry for ranting! you can tell i've done way too much reading on the subject.

"we're like the OCD sign." "usually 7-7's tend to be love-hate relationships, where the good is GOOD but the bad is just ugly. i know what you're thinking - "fantastic! beautiful!" but if your taurus man saw this, he'd be like, "oh $ #@!."

LMAO!!! so true, so true 😄

no, didn't think you were ranting at all! thanks for passing on the benefits of your readings....:p

and ya, seems like we have the same experiences, lol, with regards to your comment about them having a completely separate life. it drives me nuts! if they want the same thing - "intense yearning to settle down into an honest and committed relationship" - then, pardon my french, wtf is the problem—

unfortunately, i already know that seeing things through is part of my nature - it'll drive me mental not to know where this could go - either heaven or hell, i guess. meantime i'll guess i'll be hanging out in purgatory.

thanks again - good luck on your taurus female - would love to know how that turns out 🙂

scorpio_wreck, what the hell?!!?

you got all of that stuff about tauruses just by observing her? oh wait.. you did research on the astrology stuff. but still.. damn, i can't believe you put it so well.. i'm utterly amazed.

but wait, i have a question for you -- how long have you known her / started dating her? becuz if you got that out of her by now, then that's pretty good. problems between the two are normally a lack of "true" understanding. and although you're still pretty confused as to "why" she's pulling away, you know what's going on. that's pretty good.

btw, what is your moon and hers? i'm kinda curious, becuz moons can do funky things for a relationship (even if they're place in funky aspects).

but alright.. i'm about done praising your thoughts on this lol.

venus - thanks for the praise! it's always nice to hear my crazy brain is paying off somewhere.

well, we met at a party about a month ago, and have been physically intimate on and off since then. but being my intense self, i can't take anything casually, so i'm having funky feelings what with regards to my stituation.

i don't know her moon sign, but i'm a sun in scorpio and moon in leo. i'm really perceptive when it comes to people, and i get attached pretty easily which spells disaster in most cases. but the relationships i do have and i do manage to cultivate are really amazing, so i'm not complaining much.

i'm wondering if it'd be too forward of me (always a problem, coming on too strong) if when i saw her next i gave her the "talk", ie the "this is what i want from us, what can you give me" kinda thing? it's ridiculously obvious we both are intensely attracted to each other, but leave it up to the scorpio to take something and make it an emotional issue. =].

oh and venus, what sign are you?

no prob, scorpio_wreck. your crazy brain has hit a lot of good points lol.

i see, so you've only known one another for about a month?? that's not too long yet, but i understand what you mean about the attraction. the thing is, you have to get past all of that to realize whether or not you're going make it on the long haul. but i'm not even talking about a lifetime, i'm talking about actually "knowing" one another. attraction is just the thing that brings ppl together, but it is the strength in understanding that holds two ppl in place.

and about the "talk".. i think that that *may* be a good idea, depending on what you're planning to say. if it's just about her primary intentions, then it *might* be alright (but it can also be dangerous becuz tauruses like things to flow and for them to get lost in moments without thoughts) -- but if it's about something more deep, then i would guess that it would be best if you waited for the right moment, when you guys know one another a little better.

oh, and i'm a taurus girl myself.

venus - thanks a lot for your comments. you're very insightful about relationships - if you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

the thing with me and the taurus girl is that we're both 19, and relationships at this age don't necessarily follow any kind of "organized" pattern. i feel like being young is causing me to get too caught up in the attraction because it's so strong, and it's hard to keep an eye out for the "future" when i don't even have any guarantees that she's going to call me back, ever. so this means that whenever i see her, i want to just make the best of it however i can, and becasue i'm a scorpio and i'm so emotional, this means staying true to myself and my integrity and telling her how i feel. i feel like the attraction is so there but the communication is really lacking.

i absolutely know she wants something more than we have right now. i can totally feel it whenever i'm around her - she's always talking to me about past relationships, what went wrong in them, what she's looking for, etc. she even mentioned how she misses having a long term relationship. it's just that for some reason she *really* pulls back whenever we're apart or whenever i bring it up, and it's frustrating because i know what she wants and she won't let herself have it with me. how do i go about proving to her that i'm capable of being there? i feel like this weekly thing of staying over at her place has just got us both mixed up.

thanks so much venus - you're my hero. =].

"the main thing i see with her is that she's very into the relationship when we're together but then pulls away when we're not together, in terms of phone calls/general communication"

scorpio_wreck, i had posted this thread on the taurus board also (there's some interesting stuff on moon signs on there you may want to check into)

was just saying on there how my Taurus guy has been away on a biz trip for a week and a half now, and no communication. at all. so weird to have it cut off so completely when you're used to daily contact. and of course all my scorpio thought monsters are working overtime. this is def. purgatory. yes, i know i can call him, but since he's the one who wants it casual i don't want to be doing the pursuing - call it pride, whatever - prefer to think that i'm respecting his space and not forcing myself on him.

Venus asked me if this was worth the risk - i thought so just a few days ago...now am not so sure. of course when he gets back in a week i'll scope out the situation then. for now, am kinda discouraged.

p.s. agree w/ Venus - "damn, i can't believe you put it so well.. i'm utterly amazed."
- can't believe you're only 19!!! you're more emotionally clued in than most 30+yr men i know 🙂

hey scorpio_wreck,

so you guys are both 19? yeah, that's a pretty young to be at when talking about serious relationships, but whatevers -- age ain't nothin' but a number lol, so if you're gonna start maturin', then might as well start when you know you're ready!! --am i right or am i right?!!? ;P

lol well, it really depends, but you've got more heart for a 19-year-old than any other dude i know, so perhaps the maturity thingy on your part is beginning to develop.

oh, and i'm 19, too.. so you can kinda see what i'm goin at.. puhahaha.

but yeah, my boyfriend is actually 18 (turning 19 in mid-november), so i'm OLDER than him lol, but ain't that weird?!!? but then again, we have a lotta weird things going on in our relationship anyway, so that's definitely no more than some icing on a cake.

he's like my little pet though.. such a little fart. AWwWWwWw. HAHA.

..gawd, i could swear that it's my moon that's making me say some of these things. i'm either strickly professional, or simply mushy.. sometimes even gooey. just weird.

but ok, back to your story..

"i feel like being young is causing me to get too caught up in the attraction because it's so strong, and it's hard to keep an eye out for the "future" when i don't even have any guarantees that she's going to call me back, ever. so this means that whenever i see her, i want to just make the best of it however i can, and becasue i'm a scorpio and i'm so emotional, this means staying true to myself and my integrity and telling her how i feel."


it doesn't all have to do with age, but age does play an important role in relationships. i think the word "experience" would make more sense here. age does hinder experience, but you can never judge a person from their age -- that just wouldn't be fair. and some ppl simply mature faster than others (prolly the whole female population LOL j/p (?) HAHA), but that doesn't mean that anyone has the right to determine who knows what or who is where in his/her life. age is just age. wisdom may come with age, but the real question is -- what age, and for whom?

but i know what you mean about trying to make the best with the time that you have with her. i love getting lost in the moments.. ahhhhh.. it just feels great when you're just flowing. i mean, to live for a purpose brings happiness, right? and we all know that happiness is a journey -- not a destination (OMG i love that quote..), so if you're able to spiritually live in the now and let your mentality go towards the direction you want it to, then you've succeeded in beating gloom while receiving happiness as a by-product. lol it's a weird process, i know.. but i hope i didn't confuse you.. ??

(wtf, why am i all philosophical all of a sudden?!!? ugh, alright.. time to change gears now, honnayy)

"i feel like the attraction is so there but the communication is really lacking."


you feel that? well i don't know if that's a good thing, and i don't want to lie to you and tell you that "it's ok" when it might not be. truth of the matter is, i really can't say how things are going to turn out, and i know you can't either. but everything here is already in front of you. it's up to you whether or not you want to press foward and take a chance, not anyone else's. all i can do is give you a few pointers if you'd like me to, but the bottom line is -- i'm not going to give you any false hope by trying to soften it up, just to let you know.

but yes, i'm not totally sure about what you mean by that. is it that you don't talk often becuz you're always touching each other (LOL), or is it that you can't get along communication-wise? becuz there's a difference there, although i'm not sure which is worse, becuz they both lead to different ends.


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"i absolutely know she wants something more than we have right now. i can totally feel it whenever i'm around her - she's always talking to me about past relationships, what went wrong in them, what she's looking for, etc. she even mentioned how she misses having a long term relationship. it's just that for some reason she *really* pulls back whenever we're apart or whenever i bring it up, and it's frustrating because i know what she wants and she won't let herself have it with me."

you know what, i can assure you that a part of her does want to let you in.. but then another part of her may not. (a taurus's personality is really contained.) i think she does really like you, but she may not see you as a lifetime partner just yet. i've gotta say that taurus's really DO just have one, HUGE goal in mind, and that goal is to find their soulmate, or at least someone they could eternally connect with in a deep and loyal way. and once we make up our minds about a potential, there's no changing it; we're set before you even have a chance to do anything about it. so every relationship that a taurus has is kinda like a test to see if his/her partner is marriage material (i'm guessing), and sometimes marriage itself might turn out to be a test as well -- who knows (cuz i sure don't). all i know is that she's probably confused herself, becuz she's scared -- and the only reason she is scared is becuz you're on the right path to win her, yet you haven't quite gotten there.

"how do i go about proving to her that i'm capable of being there? i feel like this weekly thing of staying over at her place has just got us both mixed up."

wait, so all you guys do is GET IT ON when you guys are together?? LOL damn geez, you pathetic animals.. HAHA. ;p then why are you stressin' so much if it's only the SEX that's happening, ehh?? haha what silly kids you are.. lol.

well since i don't know for sure yet about what's going on with you two, i'll just say that the intimacy that goes on between a taurus and scorpio is supposed to bring emotional fulfillment and wholeness. that's why they say it's so good between the two -- it's not just pleasuring, it's emotionally satisfying. that's probably the bliss that you're feeling. so let me say this: don't let the sex fool you. the sex can do a lot, but if you guys can't appreciate one another when you're fully clothed (lol), then i don't think that it's a good idea to GO AT IT all the time. i think i'll just leave it at that for now, becuz i'm sure that a smart guy like yourself would know exactly what i mean.

and also.. why do you want to prove to her that you're capable of being there?

are you even sure that you want to be there? i mean c'mon, you've only known her over a month, am i right?

but yeah, the most important tip of all from a taurus like myself, is to not to make any empty promises. if you say something, you better as well stick to it -- becuz we're just so damn honest that things like empty promises would simply ruin our hopes for any partnership we're in. so yeah.. please deliver what you say you will, or simply not ever say anything at all -- simple as that. but i know how you'd work, and you'd want to say a lot about how you feel and what you're feeling at the moment, and trust me, that's FINE. it's just the part where you "say you're gonna do something and not do it" that spoils everything. try and remember that.

and LOL, i doubt that i'm your hero, but thanks for that little sentence anyway.. haha.

i hope you understood what i wrote and didn't get confused with all the words that i threw up in your little scorpion FACE. ouch...... HA! lol

but i'm just playin'... ;p

venus - wooow. damn, girl, you got some crazy brain in that head of yours. seriously! i sent you a PM, and if you read it, i'll be your friend forever.

and again, thank you thank you thank you. peace outtt.

You guys are making me d@mn nervous.