Scorpio insight

okay, so I'm with this scorp last night and he's saying that he's going to be leaving the country in 1-2 years so it would not be fair to end the relationship then and it is better to end it now unless i would be willing to relocate, yet he spends almost 2 hours trying to get me to tell him how i really feel and if I loved him, which i say what's the point of spilling my guts and never told him, he's always trying to get me over to his house and when i finally agree he accuses me of trying to seduce him when it was his idea in the first place, what gives?! Can this be anything other than him trying to play with my head or to see if he still "has me"?

Wait, did you just meet last night?

How long you've known each other?

No we met last year, and things were going kinda fast and i put the breaks on things and it hasn't been the same since, I feel as if I always have to prove something to him, as first he wanted a relationship and now he wants nothing serious

Officially met at work oct. 07, started dating 4/08, i started putting the breaks on things and we went back and forth the rest of the year

"I feel as if I always have to prove something to him"

I think at this point you do. I think he wants to know how you feel about him really. Do you like him?

Yep, I'm in love with him

He kept trying to get me to say it, what difference does it make. I think he's trying to make a case that I cannot have a casual relationship if i love him, which is true to a point but my arguement was that we all have to take things day by day to a certain extent, there are no promises in life because we don't know what the future brings and I'm not asking for a committment.

I do have a scorpio moon, i can almost see where he's going with things and when i call him on it he says i'm trying to turn words around and confuse him, but he's better at it than i am, he says i can't bullsh** a bullsh**ter

"He kept trying to get me to say it, what difference does it make. I think he's trying to make a case that I cannot have a casual relationship if i love him"

Okay, so you believe that he's assessing the future potential of your casual relationship? I think otherwise, I could be wrong but I don't think a Scorpio would spend much time planning ahead his stand with a casual partner and especially consider that partner to relocate with him. I think a Scorpio in that situation would simply disappear with little to no warning.

I think your Scorpio is assessing a life partner and not a casual one and yes hearing that you're in love with him, will certainly make a difference and help him plan a future, which is why he is planning ahead. I think he's building a life and sees you in it and needs to know for sure if you see yourself in it. I suspect that he is as much in love with you, than you are with him but you're both withholding. I'm sure there is a valid motive behind it but at the end, one of you will have to take the first step or you could be loosing something special. Then again I could be wrong but It's what I feel. Scorpios don't really spend that much time on people they don't consider and certainly won't plain ahead.

If I told him it would not be the end of the world, i just question his intention, the relocation came up once in an email where i did tell him I wanted to be with him, he immediately said how would that be possible? Would i relocate just to be him? And last night he reinterated the relocation again because he knew what i had said previously(that at this moment no not until my career was on its way). It was a catch 22, if i said no, then the relationship could only be temporary, if i said yes, then it was who is this lunatic that would follow me around the world after only dating for a couple of months

And about the feelings he says he doesn't believe that a conncetion could be made in such a short amount of time(i told him i feel a connection to him) so to me, him pushing me to tell him more is very suspect, if he couldn't wrap his mind around "connection" what's he gonna do with the word "love". He wanted to know how/why i had a conncetion to him, he asked what did he do? why him? He has said repeatedly that he can't resist me(sexually), it would be too hard a year or 2 down the line when we are more attached, so maybe he does have feelings but he said yesterday having them and acting on them are 2 different things

Okay, I see ... you said things were going too fast at the beginning and you put a break to it and since then things weren't the same. He wanted a relationship then and now he doesn't? What happened exactly? How old is he? Off course, if you don't mind me asking.

I'm 38, he's 25 and he pursued me in the beginning thousand dollar spa packages and flying me out to his meetings and calling and texting several times a day, well then he started to get really busy at work and with his businesses and I panicked and pulled away and then changed my mind but the damage had been done and when we were back together it became way more casual from wanting to see me all the time to just renting a movie& sex, and i guess i wanted more, he said his focus was on his business, i know he's young, he has said I'm the type of woman he wants to marry but he wants to travel and live in europe and japan, he seems to want to pick up later on, but i can't wait for him to do his thing and just be there, it was just so special

Scorpio men (rolls eyes) always causing trouble 😛

TG,

I see, I think if he saw you as a life partner then, he is seeing you the same way now but since you pushed him away, he's not too sure anymore and needs more reassurance from your part now, than he would have needed then. At this age he may not be too clear on his love life and may not feel comfortable putting himself out there again unless sure that he'll be getting something from it. The question for you now is, does it worth it? The age difference between you two is considerable and are your life style s compatible? Honesty is needed on both sides for sure. All is possible if you want it bad enough but one thing for sure is that, he is assessing a long term potential with you and not a casual one.

Thanks Ray, you're definitely on to something, we have similiar life style s but I know he has issues with advice he's given me about my career and business that I haven't taken, and he mentioned that I was content to stay here while he was not going to work a 9-5 and see the world, I have every intention of doing so but am much cautious than he is, he has a lot in the stock market and continues to make money, gives me tips and I don't take risks when it comes to money

At 25, I'd question the motive of his committment. He does want you for the long-term, but is it because he doesn't want to be alone when he goes abroad or because he wants to marry you? Does he have friends or family overseas? How long is he planning to be there? Is he going to support you the whole time if you don't/can't get a job? YOu said "sEx and a movie" is what your relationship has beoome now? Sorry, I guess I'm looking at the age difference -- 13 years. I know it's just a "number" but it means different things for women as it does for men. I'm not sure if you want to get married/remarried, or is he just an affair to remember?

He is trying to get into your emotions, though. It doesn't stop

I know people say that age is just a number and i really believe that, but the two people have to be compatible, i have dated younger and wasn't planning on it again, he thought i was much younger and I thought he was much older, he says that he wants to stay in europe for a year, japan for a year and i know he doesn't want someone at home that he's supporting carrying around the world, my business will take me all over the world so it would be compatible, he wanted me to follow all of his advice and get my business running like yesterday, but i had some bad business dealings and now i am dragging my feet. He does have family all over the world so i don't think its that, I do want to get married eventually but not in the near future but not 10 years away either.

On the emotions thing, I was just suprised that he tried that hard to get me to say what he wanted to hear

TG, as far as you last post describes, you have it together. So it seems like all things are compatible between you and him. If it gets serious, then that's great, if it doesn't, you will have had a great time of life. Does an opportunity to travel with somone so dynamic and loving to you come along often? I'd go for it! Life is too short.

If you don't answer his question about how you feel about him, he may hold off the subject for a bit, but he's not going to quit asking you. It is something he needs to know. If your response is favorable, and he's in love with you, he will eventually reveal his love for you. Maybe not always verbally, but it will be in ways you can understand and trust.

I think Ray's heart said it right that we're both withholding but who wants to be the first to say something like that? Ah well you only live once 🙂