Scorpio Man Driving Me Deliciously Insane ;)

This is the first time I'm posting because this is the first time a man has driven me up the wall-- of course he is a Scorpio! I need some advice on dealing with this one. This is kind of long, sorry, but I need to get every detail out!

The circumstances of our meeting are very interesting, maybe even a little "eerie." It was 2 days before I was moving out of the city to go back home for relaxation for a few months before I start working at a law firm in the beginning of 2010. My roommate and I, newly freed from the hell that was studying for the bar exam all summer, decided to eat at a cozy restaurant by our apartment -- I had never been there before. We go, we're eating outside on a beautiful August evening, and I'm just staring around the restaurant, and I'm suddenly overwhelmed with wanting to know who the owner of the restaurant is, and I start thinking that the person who owns this particular establishment must be so happy, and is so lucky to be doing something that they love. I mention to my girlfriend that I wish I could meet a man who was passionate, maybe a chef or a restaurant owner, who would adore me & we could have an interesting, happy life -- not the life of a cold, all business no fun lawyer which is what I saw my future as (this is not the first time I've thought such a thing).

The next day I crave what I had for dinner the night before and go back to the restaurant to order take out. I order, and I'm waiting at the bar when a dark (dark eyes, dark hair), handsome, brooding man comes over to me and compliments me on my hair. After he compliments me I'm surprised & say thank you. He disappears and comes back minutes later, sits next to me at the bar, and starts to talk to me. Immediately I feel like I'm on fire. He has a sexy accent, a beautiful perfect white smile, and black hair slicked back. He has gorgeous tattoos down both of his arms, and surprisingly enough one is of a very intimidating looking scorpio (I'm intrigued instantly!). He's 10 years older than me, which turns me on. He offers to buy me drinks at the bar while I wait for my food (continued)

(continued..) He asks very pointed, direct questions like he's trying to figure out who I am and what I'm about -- which kind of threw me off, as I would expect very light questions like —Where are you from— and not —What do you think is your worst quality— lol! He oozes sex, but not in a perverted way. I'm again thrown off by it, because being an Aries, I'm usually the one who is very sexual, very forward, and I enjoy making men slightly uncomfortable with how comfortable I am with my sexuality — but for once I was insecure and unsure of myself every time he complimented my hair, or my eyes, or my lips! Eventually it comes out that he owns the restaurant, and he asks if he could take me to dinner sometime. A little tipsy by that point, I agree to dinner, we exchange numbers, my food comes out, he starts talking to patrons of the restaurant, and I say goodbye.

On my slightly drunken walk home I realize that not less than 24 hours ago I had been sitting at his restaurant wishing I knew who he was, and wishing that I could meet someone like him — and not to mention he has all of the physical qualities of a man that I was totally attracted to, tattoos included & now it seemed like my wish had been fulfilled the night before I was supposed to move out of the city — the Twilight Zone theme was going off in my head lol He texts me saying it was wonderful to have met me. We make plans for dinner the following week (I don't live far from the city at all), but they fall through, he needs to reschedule & for some reason making plans with him is difficult. He disappears for days, no word from him on the day he said he would contact me to make plans. I wait a few days, and decide to confront him — I got out of a bad relationship a year ago, and was not about to let another guy play me for a fool (continued)

(continued) Since Scorpio isn't a big phone talker, I text him, and tell him if he isn't interested in taking me out anymore, he should just say so instead of being immature about it and ignoring me. He texts me back immediately, apologizing, saying he meant everything he said to me, he just has been so ridiculously busy with the restaurant and other new ventures he's involved with. I calm down, say it's okay, I just wish he had communicated that to me. Again he apologizes for not following through, and that was it. That was it! I was expecting him to offer to take me out again, to make up for what he did, but nothing. Pissed off, I decide he's probably a whore who picks up women at his establishment all the time, and I'm better off with it not going anywhere.

A month goes by, and I start to wonder if maybe I flipped out too much, or for really no reason at all — there was so much chemistry between us the day we met, it was killing me to not know what could??ve been. So I approach him again, and tell him I know things ended weirdly, and maybe there was some miscommunication on both our ends, and that I??d like to start over if he was still interested. I was expecting him to say he??d rather just keep things the way they were, but to my surprise he accepted. We hadn't talked in person at that point in over a month, and he really was still quite cold via text messages, so I was expecting the date to be a total disaster.

But boy am I wrong! It is the most amazing first date, the most amazing time I??ve had with a man in my entire life. We have drinks and appetizers at several locations he recommended (him being a restaurant entrepreneur). While talking I learn that surprisingly enough, he owned another restaurant that I used to frequent very often, and there too I would have the same thoughts (—the person who owns this must be so??_.??) — I always had a feeling at HIS restaurants — very strange. In fact, his other restaurant had been the last place I had seen my ex boyfriend a year ago. We also discover that we get our tattoos done at the same place. Lots of coincidences here. At the second location we become very comfortable, he's sitting very close to me in a back booth, and it becomes very erotic, not dirty at all. The topic turns to the importance of sex in his relationships, things that he likes, and it's like he is testing me to see if I can keep up with him, or if I will shy away from certain thin

(continued)...shy away from certain things, but I keep up with him. The first kiss is amazing. We end the night dancing, and he invites me to his place (which surprises me because I know from our talks that he is EXTREMELY private). Nothing happens, no sex but the sexual chemistry is insane, and I leave his place feeling like I'm in a dream.

That was a month ago — we've seen each once every week since then, we started sleeping together and WOW. However, in between dates he is NOT a big talker at all. Granted, the man is so busy — I know that for a fact, I??ve never seen a man more passionate about his life, his businesses, his other activities that he's involved in. We talk to make plans only, but yet when we??re together it's really nice — we go out, we talk for hours, can be very silly, have great sex — I even stay at his apartment whenever we go out. Yet I feel like he has his guard up, like things are moving SO slowly, but I can't tell what is going on — is it just sex? But then there are moments where it seems more than that. In fact, he will always have himself wrapped around me, and he says things like —You know, I want my wife to be like you...have your eyes, your hair, your skin color??_.?? which is kind of SCARY since we haven't known each other long at all but it excites me a lot because I do like him??_.but as soon as he says it, he will say or do something that would negate that thought -- he is SO confusing! He knows that I think he may be a ladies man, and that I probably don't trust the situation completely yet. He's even admitted that he used to be that way a long time ago, yet I'm still not sure??_but something inside is stirring that tells me maybe he is a good guy??_he is older, and I know he wants to settle down, but it's like when it comes to him I can not trust any feeling I have yet.

The last time I saw him this week I mentioned lightly that it was hard to get to know him — he said he knows this, but that he's just very private and it takes a while for him to let people in and he knows it can be a bad thing??_.and then he rolled over and hugged me and said —but that's okay for now??_?? it's like what!?!? lol I just laugh at him and say —Okay, you??re the boss.?? -- I never get too nagging or serious, I try to give him his space, I don't want him to feel like I feel entitled to be all up in his loft, like I'm getting —comfortable—?_I don't want him to see

(continued) I don't want him to see that I'm dying to know everything about him. He usually sleeps on the far edge of the bed, but the last night we were together he stayed right by my side, and I actually slept very well. Usually I wake up every hour on the hour when I sleep over because I'm so paranoid. Something felt —different?? or —better?? this time, but I honestly don't know — he is soooo confusing.

This is when I started reading up a lot about Scorpios (he is very into all of that and so far all of his behaviors match Scorpio descriptions to the —T??). However, it would be nice to get some actual feedback from real people, rather than just reading about it. Does this sound —normal— —Good— —Bad— Is he still cautious or angry at me for bitching him out the first time? I'm not used to things going sooo slow!! I know his last relationship destroyed him, she was very unstable and disloyal — sometimes when we have sex and we??re staring into each other eyes I'm mentally telling him that if he fell in love with me I??d never ever hurt him — I'm as loyal as they come.

I don't know what to do — I like him, I think he may be worth waiting around for, but I'm very impatient and like things to go quickly & I HATE all of this uncertainty.

ive read it all. i like the story. so how's it goin with your scorp?

^^^ how's it going with your scorp dreamy 😉

maybe u can tell me what you like about him, I recently started dating an ares girl.

what do you guys think about it when we are silent sometimes?

i actually read all that because i was bored 🙂
From what I read, your relationship seem to go well. It's totally "normal" to me.
As you mentioned, he was hurt really bad in his relationship so it make sense he want to take things slow.
He want to make sure that you are worth his trust and his loyalty.
And there is nothing you can do but be patience because the biggest turn-off to a scorpio is being rushed.
We like to take things our way, our pace and if you can't put up with that, we wont put up with you however we might initially liked you. I know that doesn't sound very fair but Scorpio do not play fair.

Secondly, the whole thing on how he ignored you for a while until you turn up to "ask him out", somehow i get the feeling that you just fell into his trap. It's not that he's playing you though. Scorpio do not like rejection so he probably was waiting for you to show up. About ditching you and the plan, he probably WAS really busy and his apology was sincere, but he probably don't want to sound "desperate" so he didnt ask you out again. He want you to ask him out because he want to know how you feel about him. In a way, it's his way to manipulate you into confessing yourselves.

And the way he dropping "hints" here and there, telling you that he want his wife to be like you, he want to test you out. It mean he want to take this relationship somewhere serious but he want to know if you are ready for it. Maybe because you are young, he thinks you might freak out at the prospect of marriage. He want to ask serious questions without being serious. That's how Scorpio get their "thoughts" out while also build a wall to protect themselves in case things might not end up the way they wanted it to.

I think scorpio men are extremely downright the seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeex.. all of my friends are scorpios. very interesting fact..