Hi there, can anyone help me with a scorpio man?

Hello

I hope this is the right spot to post.

I've known this guy a really long time, he used to like me a lot, but I was dating...that was years ago. Then he found a girlfriend of his own, and after a while I was single again, and began to really like him. We stayed in touch as friends, but finally he seems to be single again and the other day I called by his home with my children, and he pulled me in to the house (they were busy outside in the yard) and held me a long long time, then he kissed me.

After about an hour talking with me and my children, about random stuff, we had to leave and he said 'Oh I may call by tomorrow after I am done at so-and-so' so I said' Ok, that's great, see you then.'

He never showed up.
This was last Saturday we were at his home, and it's Wednesday now.
I'm not sure what to do. Is he playing games?

I thought about calling by next weekend but then decided that I'd look silly if I chased him up. Surely if he likes me enough he will call me?

Thanks for any input guys.

"Seems" to be single?

I think before you do anything you should probably get that info. No point in wasting your time.

That being said IF he is single don't chase as of right now. Scorps like to hunt.

Thankyou Gingerscorp, I appreciate it.

Yes it's important to me to know if he is actually available or not...when I got there on Sat he said 'You've come around just at the right moment', and then just held me for ages. His recent girlfriend (together 5 yrs) lives a long way away, maybe 200km, and he was going to visit her every weekend, but he has been around more lately and hasn't mentioned her.
I wanted to know all these things but I was so taken by surprise at his behaviour that I didn't like to ask anything personal - and my children came in right at that moment so there wasn't a chance to speak about it. I felt he would tell me if he wanted me to know anything about it. But that leaves me hanging on a thread, wanted to get so excited about this new development but I can't allow myself to without knowing for sure if he wants to be with me.

He's never been that intimate while he was with her, he's always kissed my cheek, been very respectful but just a friend, so this was very different. Maybe he was just messing with me.

Anyway I'll do what you say - I won't chase after him, if he likes me he will call I guess, and if he doesn't, well I've nothing to lose.

Thankyou for your help.

Just thinking...would he do that? I mean mess with me? Is that something a Scorpio man would be capable of - I thought they were always loyal iygwim. That's one thing I like about him - he never tried any funny business though he knew I liked him, and he knows I'm not up for any kind of cheating, I just don't do that stuff. We've discussed that subject before.
So I can't think why he would have tried it on like that unless he cared...I suppose I am kind of asking if I'm allowed a little itsy bit of hope here.?

Thanks.

Keep an open mind but when it comes to questioning him being single or not be FORWARD about it. Ask him directly if you see him

"Are you single"

When he tells you the anwser keep your eyes peeled and I'd personally even check his story out to see if he's being honest.... just to be sure.
Of course you can hope but be smart about it 🙂

Thankyou! I'll try and keep my wits about me...mind you he's the only person I know that knows his (ex) girlfriend, as she isn't local...so other than watching his house to see if he goes anywhere, I think I'll have to take his word!!

You're very kind. I will ask him next time we meet. (like there's even going to be a next time, at this rate!)

Hi LucyM,

In your quote of him - he said he "may" call you. That is the operative word.

(Had he said definitively that he was coming too see you AND a date had been established AND he did not call with an explanation in a reasonable time period- I would be plenty hot and not concerned if he was playing games as his actions/lack of actions would speak volumes to me. )

Call him and keep it light.

Thankyou very much. Well, nothing so far - I don't want to call, as I've been the main instigator of contact for a while now - that is I might pass by his home, or call into where he works when I'm on an errand. (big place where the doors are always open - so it's easy to pop by for a chat).

I'm with you when you notice the 'may'. I thought it meant he would, for sure, or why say it - perhaps he got tied up, perhaps he was afraid - I keep thinking that maybe he is scared, because now there's no tangible obstacle to a real, live relationship and I don't think he finds that easy. All his other relationships have been with women way, way older than him (we're talking in their 60's) and far away, long distance, quite sort of teasing - I mean, he'd tell me that she'd said she wouldn't marry him if he were the last man on earth, things like that - while I'm much more straightforward and literal. I'm 9 yrs younger than he is too. It'd be 'real'.

Maybe that's just too big a deal for him right now, especially if he only just left her. But I'd like to know, because it was he who initiated the kissing and all that, last week. I'm just afraid he's not that into me, and I'm missing the big picture.

It's the weekend, again - I'll see if he turns up or something. He hasn't called me since about 6 years ago, I can't imagine it somehow!

Thanks again for listening, guys.

hi again. Just an update.
I was going nuts so I called him on the phone.

He answered right off. 'Hi Lucy, what you ringing me for?'

'Would you rather I didn't?'

'Yeah, well my girlfriend's coming to see me, she'll go crazy'

'Oh, I didn't realise you still had a girlfriend'.

'Yeah, sorry to lead you on, but yeah I have, still be friends and all that, anyway, how are you doing, Lucy?'

I just hung up without saying anything else. I'm so gutted. What a b*stard.

You showed up on his doorstep unnanounced, with children in tow, what did you expect him to do, since the two of you have stayed friends all this time .... tell you to fuck off and slam the door in your face?

Why be so gutted? Alls he did was hug you .. my husband hugs all his girl friends.

wtf?

You chased a man to whom you ((((((((((((((((hoped)))))))))))))) would want you .... you've been rejected, deal with it .. every man on this planet has to deal with it on a continual basis.

No, he didn't just hug me, he kissed me, which I usually take to mean more than a hug.

Plus he said he had led me on, and apologised for it, vaguely. Which would tend to imply he knew he was leading me on.

Hey there, thankyou guys...yes, he remembers every little thing I have ever told him, which means it was never going to be the case that he just forgot - I reckon it was just a plan he had going all this time. There are some strange people in the world, for sure...it just makes me very glad, now I've calmed down, that I never went out with him in the first place. I'm certain Iw ould have done something during the course of the relationship that he would have been angry about and taken 'revenge' for, somehow...perhaps worse than this. And I'd have given him a whole lot more, in a relationship.

Thankyou for listening.

Posted by LucyM
Hey there, thankyou guys...yes, he remembers every little thing I have ever told him, which means it was never going to be the case that he just forgot - I reckon it was just a plan he had going all this time. There are some strange people in the world, for sure...it just makes me very glad, now I've calmed down, that I never went out with him in the first place. I'm certain Iw ould have done something during the course of the relationship that he would have been angry about and taken 'revenge' for, somehow...perhaps worse than this. And I'd have given him a whole lot more, in a relationship.

Thankyou for listening.

Glad you found something to pin this on .. an excuse as to why you were rejected.

Heaven forbide that it be because you threw yourself at him, which he picked up on in the moment ... and that the very energy in which you asked for came to you. That couldn't be the reason, it has to be because he wanted you so badly and was so gutted that he couldn't have his Princess that he now took the ultimate revenge on you.

Yes ... a hug and kiss .. how horrible of him, how evil of him to harm you like this with his terrible, wickedness. A hug and kiss, omg.

The truth of the matter is .... you showed up on his doorstep unannounced, with kids in tow, hoping that he would want you. You WANTED that hug and kiss, that is why you chased him. You wanted it so bad that you used the term "gutted" to express how you felt.

When in reality .... by you going there and doing that .... you sent vibes to him begging him to kiss and hug you.

so, instead of trying to come up with a reason for why he did this, like for instance, him punishing you .... you should be looking at this outside of the deluded bubble. He did that because that's what you wanted him to do, it's WHY you went to his flat.

Seriously ......... you need to know that because if you show up on people's doorstep, hoping they will want you as a girlfriend .... then you're going to be in a constant state of denial, for quite some time.

You do have children who will be watching you, you know.

I think you better move on. He just liked the attention. You filled a need he was having at the moment. I'm a scorpio woman. When we like you, we would knock our dead grandma down to get to you.