SCORPIO MEN

i've been reading all this stuff on scorpio men and frankly, they do not make sense. has anyone else had mixed messages where one minute they are nice and sweet but the next they can be so cold and tear you to dhreds through their meanness?

I guess what goes around comes around...Their nice and sweet until you go up against them and then they go right for the throat...if you get your feelings hurt easy, then my suggestion is never do battle or be prepared to be stung like a mother f&😉(&😉*er!

You're scaring me. I've only seen the thoughtful and tender side of my Scorpio. But we haven't argued about anything yet. Guess I should be prepared, huh?

thanks for the reply (i'm completely new to this site). i guess the question that i have is that everyone says that when a scorpio likes you then you really know it, that is, they're intense and focused with their attentions, even obsessive. but then there are others who write that they are very insecure and will push you away until they are very sure. i'm a gemini (sag moon) and we are known to be flighty but our defense mechanisms are also in place so it is difficult to know how vulnerable to make yourself, especially if the hot-cold stuff is happening. geminis are also guilty of that of course. part of me wants to open up and just say how i feel but the other part feels like i've been stopped in my tracks.

What happened? What is he doing?

well, it's a long and convoluted story. we were roommates, the attraction was palpable from the start, we started sleeping together. at first he told me he wanted to be with me and then suddenly he said he didn't. i told him that i can't do the unattached sex thing. he said he didn't want a relationship bc he will be leaving town in a year. we would stop for a few days and then start again. he was always clear when we talked but got jealous of my male friends or wanted certain attention that belongs to a boyfriend. god, the number of talks we had about how difficult it was never to know what i was on a certain day, friend, roommate, or lover. he talked about sleeping with other women (which he never did but they were always dangled in front of me), and i kissed and made out with a girl once when he was out of town and i told him (which started a threesome fantasy for him--not a chance!). i even joked about becoming a lesbian mainly bc i was so heartbroken by him and past guys. anyway, i even kicked him out once but then it seemed like we would work on things. and then we got close and he went away for 2 weeks, called six times, and said he missed me. but when he came back i said that i missed him and he asked my why, that it would be more realistic not to. finally, i said, you gotta go. i have feelings for you and i can't be what you want and act like i don't have them just bc you don't want a relationship. based on the jealousy i thought that he really did feel something, or that he eventually would want to be together (if i was nice enough, fun enough, kind enough). his line was that he would be leaving town once his job finished up and that he wasn't in a position to give anyone stability. he's still close with an ex and i met her when she came to visit bc she had a lay over in town. she's sweet but i keep thinking that he idealises her (based on how often he would mention her and say nice things about her. i know that they did not do anythinh when she was here). he has always been vociferous about how there is nothing between them and i can see that--to a point. (they broke up a year before he met me--on his initiation. it just faded is what he said after 2 or 3 years, they've known each other since high school. he's 28)) but i've been really nice and sweet to him, esp. as a roommate and friend. he even said, after i thought that i could handle sex with himagain since it was clear it was just sex that it would be immoral and that if we wanted stg. long-term that can;t be an option, at least for a while. he wanted to hang out after he moved. i asked for more time. finally called him after a month and gave him an out by saying he could send me his mailing address and i would send his stuff. he wanted to come pick it up the next day and then cancelled at the last minute. i asked him if he wanted to hang out and he said yes but that i had cancelled initially. he was leaving town for an interview and said he would call me when he got back and help me move. never heard from him. finally called him a month later ( is till had his stuff)and he responds the very next day and is gung-ho about hanging out. but then i ask him to help me clean the apartment when i moved (i couldn't find another roommate) and we got cut off and later he sends me an email (after i contacted him to ask if we were still hanging out) saying his cell died. we had dinner, ( he wanted to meet at 9pm bc he was watching a basket ball game--the man hasn't seen me in 3 months!!)and i tried to figure out why he never called but all i got was that he has been so terribly busy (which i can belive to a point bc i lived with him and his company puts you thru the ringer). i even said, gosh i thought you hated me ("i'm too busy to hate"), or that i was nervous since it had been 3 months. i never confronted him and even let the cleaning slide (after a few sarcstic comments) but i could not believe that after all my anguish and misery he wa

The women can be that way too, eye, yigh, yigh!!

I guess if your a cancer, virgo or pisces, you'll have luck with your scorp and if you're any other sign---goooood luck!

I am so sorry to hear what he's put you through, i.e., what I call the roller coaster ride. He's immature no doubt, and as far as the jealousy goes, from what I understand, they are jealous no matter who it is. The best advice I could give would be to let him go. I know it's easier said than done but you really have to in order to keep your sanity. He's just not worth it. The more he breaks you down the more insecure you will become until there is practically nothing left for anyone else. Keep in mind that you could have already started a beautiful relationship with someone else at this time instead of wasting it on him. Get excited about meeting someone new,
that's always a thrill. Positive thinking!!! Leave the bad stuff behind in the dust.

Take care.

I know what its like to love and want a scorpio but from all you say it would be better for you if you stayed away from this person. He sounds like a very selfish person who doesnt seem to care whether he hurts you or not. You are worth more than that - go find someone who wants you, truely wants you for all your good and bad. Good Luck

You're absolutely right! There ARE Scorpio men who are good, and even if they're difficult to find, they exist.

Be grateful, VERY GRATEFUL, that this man is leaving town. Your relationship with him was a definite yo-yo without any future, but I understand your emotions. Like the previous posts, I must agree that you would be much better off without him and if he's out-of-sight it will be soooooo much easier. Try to resist the temptation to call him, that will just keep you hooked and hoping.

I know it's not much consolation to be told that there are other, better men out there and that you should just forget this guy, when your heart is yearning for him. I'm currently in a similar dilemma and I can feel your pain. I wish I could leave town or that he would. It would be so much easier. So, count it a blessing that your object of affection will not be around to constantly pull at your heart strings.

I second 204's great advice. You deserve someone that is worthy of you, and who has the ability and desire to fully recriprocate the matters of the heart.

he is very insecure
he cannot commit (its not because he is leaving)... its because he is scared. yes there is attraction between the 2 of you. but it seems that this scorp man is only close to you because he has slept with you.
let him go, because once he lost you he will regret everything... im a scorp myself and i know the feeling.
he does not know what he wants.

once they know that they cannot have you. they will want you back.

Very very true. I fell in love with another Scorpio in high school, 14 years ago. It was very intense, but he dissed me and eventually married another woman, has a family with her and everything.
So years later, he tracks me down full of regret about how he lost me. I am divorced and only open to available men and it drives him crazy to see what he lost, now there for others.
He has said that he is going to divorce his wife (we'll see)but otherwise, I keep him at an arm's length. And he is one tortured soul. Hhahahahha!

Ooooooohhhh, spoken with all the vengence of a true Scorpio!!! It is sweet isn't it??

one tortured soul...hahhahah

thanks so much everyone. it is nice to have people to talk to. he called this friday wanting to hang out (he left a message) and i have not and will not call him. it's just that i am so hurt that anything he says or does will rip me to shreds. i'm even scared of answering the phone if it's him. it's so sad that any closeness he feels is bc of sex. it's sadder still that after 11 months of living with someone you mean nothing to them. i'm toying with the idea of not giving him his deposit back bc he did not help at all with the cleaning. the cable bill was in my name and he paid for all of it but was late to the point of it being disconnected. it was as if my credit didn't matter. anyway, maybe it's petty revenge but i feel like i should do something to let him know that he can't walk all over me.
well, i'm left with the feeling that i wonder what it was that his ex-girlfriend had that i don't (my petty side was like she's not even attractive!)and well, it sucks.

best to all with heartache right now.

It's not just the men that are that way. i am a female scorpio and i am not afrid to admit thati am the same way. We can be very loving, compassionate and make you feel like your number one. but the minuet you cross us prepair to do battle

hi i am a scorpio male and i sometimes am not sure of what i do and it is hard for me to connect with people (let them in to my life) but when i do they get all of my love and affection and i sometimes try to cut my losses to stop from being hurt but end up hurting the person that i care for because of being unsure that is how he might be just giving my opinion here.....🙂

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about his exgirlfriend.... hummm..im a scorpio too. he still has this enchantment with her because he cannot have her. i bet that she broke it offf. don't worry there are other men worthy of you. this time don't grab an insecure man. sex may be great, but sometimes you want intimacy and closeness with your partner... it took me time to realize that.

actually, he told me that he broke it off because it just faded, after 2 or 3 years. that's a history i can't compete with since they've known each other since high school (he's 28). this is so hard though. i remeber watching their eyes meet when we were all at lunch ( i actually took her out to lunch! he joined us later) but then when he came back from florida after his trip with her he said that nothing happened. i don't think he's lying. i try to think that it is his insecurity or the timing but it all just comes back to me feeling like crap. he hasn't contacted me again and i'm hoping he won't. i decided to just mail him his deposit (once i get it) and that is that as at this point it has taken me so long to get to a reasonable state that any further interaction will only upset me.

I am a scorpio woman , and besides the usual cancer and pisces guys ....what are some other signs that you gals had it going on with ? Is libra a possibility , and what about Aries ? I'm curious because lately I seem to hit it off best with the unusual, and I'm not complaining. I would love to hear all your juicy stories girls...