scorpio needing time

Hello,
I am a Virgo and I have a friend who is a Scorpio. We have been friends for a few years but we got closer, like "old friends"... Well, I had been under some stress at my job and I said some things to her that I should not have. I have apologized several times and being a typical Virgo tried to make things right again. Well, I think I made things worse instead of better. She told me she needed some time and space right now. I feel so bad about this. I don't have a lot of friends to begin with and her and I just clicked. I know that I hurt her and it is tearing me up inside. Was wondering when someone, especially a Scorpio, say they need time do they really mean that or do they really mean they don't want to see you again? I hope she means it. I really wish I could continue being friends with her.

I don't have any advice...But Scorpios are very complex and frustrating.

I really can't say, I am too embarrassed. But I know I was wrong. I guess, I just was wanting to know if they say that they need time & space if they aren't just being polite or if they really mean it and that I should wait.

Parallax,
Thank you for your advice. Not totally sure what you are referring to the "c", "s" word. I am guessing on the "b" word. But I didn't call her any bad names I just said somethings that was hurtful to her. I will respect her wishes like you said. She probably does need time to cool down.

What about giving her some Forget-Me-Not's from the florist!

Hi Candle Girl,
I have already gave her a gift and apology note. She said she couldn't accept the gift. I just don't know what else to do. I have been going over and over in my head what I could do. Apparently, I hurt her bad enough that she didn't accept the gift. She just told me she needed some time and space right now.

Hey vulcan,

Sorry to say I think you got the Scorpian Sting.

Time will tell at this point, and with a Scorpio, you need plenty of that.

Have fun this weekend with your other friends, that's always a good cure.

CG

Trust me, constantly being in her face trying to get through to her will just push her away more. Not speaking for all Scorpios, but if I'm going to do something, it's because I want to, not because I'm being pushed to.

Depending on what you said, she may not talk to you again. Stopped talking to a good friend of mine (friends for a year) because she said something hurtful, about 3 years ago. We're just touchy like that.

Hi, Vulcan. This post is kind of old and I probably shouldn't reply to it, since everyone did such a wonderful job at helping you (and I hope things have worked out well for you). I just wanted to say that I am a Scorpio ... and it really does depend on just exactly what you said and how her personal feelings are regarding that particular type of statement. You see, there are some things I will forgive quickly, some things I will need time for, and some things I just won't ever forgive (sorry, but that's the truth).

FieryScorpio is correct in that being in her face will make her that much angrier... I hate to be bugged when I'm sorting through something. Your best bet when you have injured/wounded a Scorpio is to just back off. If they come back to you, you're forgiven. If they never come around again, they've made their feelings rather clear. Typically, for me, one apology is accepted (though perhaps not forgiven)... more than one, I think you're being superficial to get your own way and become highly suspect of your intentions. Time is a necessity for us...

However, I should also state that, in my experience, anytime I ever say I just need time and choose to walk away from you without discussing the matter sometime in the near future... I'm through and I probably won't call again. 😢 This may not be the case with your friend... but I hope it helps you understand, if she is like me, what has happened.

Here's hoping it wasn't something she can't forgive... I'm sorry we Scorpios are so complex and frustrating... I wish you the best of luck.

Angel

Hi everyone.

I know this post is somewhat ancient, but I'm bored, so, I'll put my two cents in. Besides, it was created on my birthday, that should count for something.

Vulcan, I don't think this is an astrological thing, I think this is a human thing. Regardless of the supposed traits of a particular sign, our commonality is humanity. I guess I'm saying, people are more alike than we often realize. You hurt a person, it boils down to two main responses, they forgive you or they don't. When someone says they need time to think, to read into that, you have to go by the person, not the sign. Not to mention, people are more than just their sun sign.

You say you two clicked well. That's the rub with things like this. In the euphoria in being open enough to care, you're also open enough to hurt and be hurt. Human beings have this innate need to click with one another, to make connections. In those connections there's a sharing, you extend yourself, they extend themselves, and you two accept one another. You take vulnerable in a sense, which always happens when one puts themselves out there. But in that acceptance, in that vulnerability, there's a trust. To inflict welts with your tongue is going to feel like a betrayal, that's one reason why it's the people you care about that can hurt you the most.

You know, someone being an a**hole that doesn't know you isn't a big thing. Someone you care about, that you see as knowing you. Understanding you. That same person that once accepted you now viciously rejecting you with sentiment and slicing words; it decapitates. In the words of Silverstein, "Once broken isn't easily fixed. When a human hurts."

I feel for you Vulcan. I've said things that came out wrong or for whatever reason was taken wrong. Connections are difficult for me to, so I value them. I passionately hate to lose connections, especially when I know it's my fault. That sucks to the utmost. You may not be able to push yourself on her, but you have to let her see your guilt, seeing how you feel speaks louder than anything you can say. You're hurting because you hurt her, that should count for something. It speaks of how much you care. You have to find a way to show that, not tell it. Whether it's enough, who knows?

(Smiling) What's wild, just by coincidence, CrossFade is playing in the background. "What I really meant to say, is I'm sorry for the way I am. I never meant to be so cold." Sorry, I "wow" over music. It seemed to fit.

My man, from one Virgo to another. I really hope things work out. You can only do what you can do. I know that's like telling someone the red car is red, but it's true. Her bearing is ultimately out of your control. I end up in similar positions driving myself crazy saying, "I can't fix it!" It's infuriating, but . . . we have not the might to un-ring bells. Apologize, try to make amends, but it's on her.

Wish you all the hope in the world.

VirgoSquared

Thanks Riders Angel and Virgo Squared for the insight. A lot has happened since then. Please, read my post "saying I forgive you" it is a follow up.

Happy birthday Virgosquared... I'll read the followup when I have more time Vulcan... Here's hoping all turned out okay (and by the I forgive you title, I'm thinking maybe it did *smiles*).

BBS...

Angel

RidersAngel,

Awwww, thank your for the happy unbirthday LOL!!

Sweetness, it's not my birthday lol. I meant the original post was created on my birthday, August 31st. LOL

My fault, I should've made that more clear. Damn I wish I could blame that on Mercury. It happens.

Vulcan, I'm estatic for you. Losing people in and of itself sucks, but the dagger is wrenched left when it's from something we've done. I'm glad you two were able to get past it.

Happy Holidays everyone,

VirgoSquared

ROFL Not your fault VS... I should have read more clearly. I think I was tired and I know I was hurrying to finish my reading before I had to get some work done lol. Well, I'm a bit early this year in wishing you a happy b-day lol. I was being a ditz at the moment anyway, as your nic CLEARLY states this month is NOT your birthday 😛 Forgive my blonde moment please 🙂 (Angel bows her head in complete embarrassment, red cheeks and all lol)

Thanks Virgo squared, I do appreciate that you are estatic for me and my friend. It is nice to be able to continue being friends with her.