Scorpio-Scorpio Confusion

Hey All-
New here and this seems like a relatively appropriate forum to ask about some mega confusion I've been having.

My boyfriend and I are both Scorpios. Probably a dangerous combination but for us it's been amazing. We're
Making plans for Valentines day which should be a fantastic time 😉. Dinner won't be the highlight, that's for sure

Anyway. We've been talking and hanging out for a few months, dating for just shy of 2 months. I
know it seems short but in true Scorpio fashion it's been damned intense from the start. I've never
felt as strongly for someone had I do for him.

Anyway, his ex started texting him recently. They broke up for a lot of reasons. And i really don't know enough
About why to make an assessment.
It's caused a bit of stress andConfusion for both of us. He's feeling like crap for even caring about his
Ex and talking to him. I feel like crap because I don't know what to do to help
Fox the issue, and I really don't like the situation that were in. I'm distrustful of exes
To begin with. This certainly doesn't help.

What do we do? Am i justified in my concerns?

It's more a mix of his ex and the confusion it's brought on. It's starting to effect us and I'm not a fan.

I understand nostalgic thoughts. I really do. However, he's already told me that if we weren't dating that he'd probably give his ex another chance.

Posted by MattGTF
It's more a mix of his ex and the confusion it's brought on. It's starting to effect us and I'm not a fan.

I understand nostalgic thoughts. I really do. However, he's already told me that if we weren't dating that he'd probably give his ex another chance.

Oh wow. He's not over her.

This issue will only get worse. Let him go.

Posted by MattGTF
It's more a mix of his ex and the confusion it's brought on. It's starting to effect us and I'm not a fan.

I understand nostalgic thoughts. I really do. However, he's already told me that if we weren't dating that he'd probably give his ex another chance.

PACK yo BAGS! That ex will plague the very air the two of you TRY to breathe. Leave while you are still sane.

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Posted by DazedScorp

Posted by MattGTF


I understand nostalgic thoughts. I really do. However, he's already told me that if we weren't dating that he'd probably give his ex another chance.

Red Flag...

Time to walk.

I'm not a Scorp, much less a Scorp male, but I have to say that I don't know about if "it's time to walk" just yet. Only because of this: "They broke up for a lot of reasons. And i really don't know enough About why to make an assessment."

So, red flag, yes. However, more than time to walk, I'd say it's time to have a serious talk before you make any decisions. What he said could go two ways: either he sincerely means it, or he said it to elicit a reaction from you.

Just throwing another perspective out there.

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those reasons werent enough to sway him away from giving him another chance.

you could do a whole lotta shit to a scorpio but their feelings run deep. they can leave you, be with someone else, and one sighting of you, thought, or memory of you can set them off.

OP, i dont think your bf was being manipulative. i think at some point most of us have had that thought about being with the one who got away. saying it, speaks it into the universe. hope.

the thing is though, he IS with YOU!

I hear the other perspectives..sometimes when we hear other things it can get NOISY. so lets not stray too far.

@OP. Imagine your Scorp inviting you to his place for the 1st time EVER. Once you get there 1st time EVER, you see..

2 Wine glasses on the coffee table in the living room. (ONE with lipstick stains)..in the kitchen: Pans on the stove, dishes in the sink from that very meal.. In the Bedroom: Bed unmade, clothes everywhere..

Lesson/Moral of story??
HE HAS TO CLEAN UP HOUSE BEFORE RECEIVING YOU
Otherwise you'll only feel like the Invited yet, uninvited "guest".

He needs to RID of her and anything residual, be it feelings emotions, attachments.. I'm telling you from experience from dealing with a Sagg who "mentally" was with me..but emotionally attached to an ex, who was still receiving texts, pics from the Ex prior to me. Nevermind that she WORKED in the same building with him..

When I brought my concerns up to him, he said I was "Insecure", "I didn't trust him" and that "Jealousy doesn't 'Become' me"...things went downhill from there. I had every right to question WHY he was still keeping in touch with her, but in the end and a crazy girlfriend later, he came slithering back trying to see where he could "squeeze" into my life. Too bad..-No Stowaways allowed on MY ship.

Its not worth the mental turmoil. TRUST me.
LEAVE and don't comeback until his house is CLEAN and Sheets CHANGED.

TaurusCancerDelight was the first one to get it.

Yep. We're dudes. But as of 6:30 this morning it's done.

He needs to "see if there's anything still there" with his ex.

I've been resisting the urge to sting all day. So I've just cried (ugh ?_ber gay moment)

Idk what to think at this point :-/