Scorpio seeking advice

Hi!

Scorpio sun, Pisces moon, and Virgo rising here. I recently began dating a fellow Scorpio and I'm not sure how to read the situation.

When we first met, there was a spark. He held all the traits I desired in a companion: wit, intelligence, the ability to sustain meaningful conversation, passion, and kindness. Though we barely knew one another, it felt as though we'd already established a good rapport. It was refreshing to find someone near my age who wasn't so...vapid.

Now, however, it feels like I'm being beaten at my own game. While I'm usually reserved and cautious in new relationships, I had no problem opening up to him. He's great at initiating conversation without revealing much; it seems as though he's trying to gather as much information as possible while revealing little. It's quite frustrating. I'm well aware of the vigilance associated with trust, but it's beginning to wear me thin.

There was an initial spark, but if he can't open up I'm not sure it will last. Direct and honest communication are extremely important to me. I've tried to find out more about him. He will give a little, but I'm ultimately shut down.

The problem is not that we lack communication. In fact, our conversations are amazing! The issue is that last we both seek a deeper understanding -- to know the nuts and bolts of one another -- and I cannot get past his seemingly impenetrable wall.

What can I do to help him feel comfortable enough to trust me?

You’re going to have to be patient, and let him do it on his own terms. The more you try to force the wall down, the more he will build it up. He doesn’t want to be hurt, and they hate when people try to figure them out it will only make them work harder to put up the mask. You get a Scorpio to open up by being patient and not coming off so eager to figure him and see what’s he’s bout, just let him show you

What are his placements?

Scorp guys can be more closed than Scorp women. If he's got more Scorp placements then he's likely to be even more closed. That said, just be patient and continue being open as that can often help them see you're no threat and your intentions are good.

My Scorp sun, moon, Venus, and Merc ex and also my work colleague with the same placements (but Aries moon) are/were extremely closed, paranoid, untrusting etc. Just relax, don't push or they become even more closed.

Definietly be patient... i mean when i can sense people are trying to figure me out it's a complete turn off and a wall will begin to be built but... if i sense people dont really have a motive to get inside and are more accepting of how i am in that moment it's easier for me to want to share myself. so accept it n let go a little, and give him that space to open up to you, he will in time. you've been in his shoes.. remember? you said that 🙂

^^^ agree about the cycle. It can be exhausting.

Posted by AgentP911


Scorp guys can be more closed than Scorp women.

I think all of the Scorp men I've dated would disagree with this statement.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by AgentP911


Scorp guys can be more closed than Scorp women.

I think all of the Scorp men I've dated would disagree with this statement.

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I think all the Scorp men I've dated and known would agree with my statement. Which is why I made it. Everyone is different though. Some would probably say I'm very closed but I don't think so. I would say that though as I'm biased! Š