scorpio woman - cancer man

man, you seem to have it bad over this dude

seems like most scorp women on this board don't seem to much like cancer men.

Nah I avoid them like the plague..any man who takes about 10 years making up his bloody mind as to whether he likes someone or not..is definitely a miss in my book..I can't stand people who dilly dally with making a decision..

that's weird. are you saying cancers have problems with identifying their feelings? seems like liking someone would not be reliant on someone making up their mind about it--can't really control that, can you?

Honestly, just let this thing go slow. How long have you known him?

Hi Kate,

I'm new to the forum...a Scorpio lady who's divorced from a Cancer man. I've been reading your posts with interest...the saga sounds so much like my own.

From the outset of our marriage, Mr Crab always seemed to have one foot in and one foot out. I tolerated this for a while -- after all, this was a first marriage for both of us. But when he refused to have children with me, I left him.

Odd thing was, he was crying in the attorney's office, and outside, after we had done the deed, he turned red-eyed to me and sniffed "I never wanted a divorce." Yet every argument we had ended with him screaming at me "I want a divorce!"

Sex was cozy and satisfying. Sitting around together quietly -- the ultimate. Our artistic interests and temperaments -- the same. Yet finally I had to get in my own face and say "Can you live with the uncertainty the rest of your life?" And the answer was "No."

Five years later, I'm a single mom with a beautiful adopted daughter whom I cherish. How I love the experience of motherhood. My Cancer has not found anyone else -- I know I was his one true love, but he let it slip away. Maybe they just don't crave the relationship as much as we intense Scorps do. And yes, Mr. Crab is very content to live in a world of dreams, where nothing disturbs his peace. Often, he has been hurt by life....I do believe they are ultra sensitive.

As for me, I am eyeing both a Virgo and a Gem. Nothing serious, just enjoying the flirtation. It took a long, looooonnnng time to get over the divorce....because I truly believe he was my soulmate. However, I believe in moving on and enjoying life.

Eaglegirl

I know what you mean about living in fantasy worlds. On topic, maybe he'll open up more if you make him come to you. Try isolating yourself and do things alone (not to say you aren't). He'll notice this and it might make him open up a little more.

Best of luck!

LOL @ EG...well I think the long post there covered most of it..my friend went through a nightmare year with this cancerian guy..I swear to god, I wanted to have his guts for garters..he messed with her head soo much that she's an emotional wreck..Is that how you identify having feelings for anyone?

Seriously those guys are a few sandwich's short of a picnic

LOL @ "sorry, my cat stepped on my keyboard.........."

HAHAHA...Love the random comment..

cancers are conservative by nature and as a conservative, one hates change. there is security in staying where you are, and there's security in the failure of a relationship because we all know that kind of pain. but to move forward to something that could be better? that's the scary part of it, and it could be that he's scared of what it could mean--it's quite a life altering decision, and not one that a cancer will take lightly if it means being with THE one, because you kind of see it as the end of his life as he knows it. i know it scares the hell out of me, anyway.