Scorpio Women? Are we hard to love? Is it hard for

Hey, I'm a scorpio woman, I was wondering if there are any opinons on whether we are just hard to love or is it that we just can't find a suitable mate? Please include you sign with your response. Thanks.

ScornedScorp,

I'm a Taurus male - Cancer rising, (35 yrs old...young =)), and I'm together with a Scorpio female - Libra rising (also 35).

To answer your question (based on experience with my Scorpio): It's not hard at all to love my Scorpio. Being polar opposites we totally complement eachother. Her strengths are my weaknesses and vice versa. She is as affectionate as I am (if not moreso...which is VERY important to a Taurus...me anyway), she is HIGHLY sexual (as I am), she is incredibly sexy, she has a wonderful personality, sense of humor, fashion sense, intelligence, she is witty...everything I've ever dreamed of in a partner...she is an amazing person inside (most important to me) and I'm not a snob or superficial or anything but she is also a TOTAL babe (very good looking woman).

She is someone you don't forget meeting, someone that has "that aura" about her, someone leaves an impression.

I will also say that we have our share of arguments which leads me to another aspect I love about our relationship: the way we communicate to eachother. I can relate and communicate to her on a level that doesn't even compare to anyone else I've been with. We've had some pretty heated moments, but with some cool down time and a talk we've always worked everything out.

She is the first Scorpio I've ever been with and I plan on making her the last woman I'm ever with (she's the one for me). If all Scorpio's are anything like her, and most Taurus's like me (I'm a Taurus to a T) then I highly recommend getting together...the connection is magnetic.

I highly recommend you look for a Taurus =). As I've stated in other posts, I would rate the Scorpio (female) and Taurus (male) an 11 on a scale from 1-10.

Spanish_Taurus

That takes two poeple scornedscorp.Not all of it means you are the one with all of the problems.Talk to ladydane,she knows all too well about the cancer men relationships,being in one herself.But the other potee has a point too,tauruses are actually easy to get along with,they don't have as many issues and secrets.

Postee-potee

Oh, Tiamat I wasn't speaking in reference to the Cancer male I was seeing. I realize its his issues that seperate us not mine. I was just wondering in general.

We have standards which is hard for alot of guys to handle.Wouldn't say that scorpio women are hard to love just an acquired taste.There are the psycho girlfriends too that would probably be thought of or is scorpios,those ones would probably be hard to love.

My few cents, since I'm stopping by almost everyday now...I'm one of the new Scorpio chicks!

I do think we're not that easy to love. Although who is? I agree with that. Not just romantic love, but family love too. But why so? That part is hard to explain. I think people who have loved us can tell better.

I really picture myself being exactly like Spanish Taurus's GF with the right person. I know I can be all that. But no one has brought that out of me yet. I definitely feel I can be very compatible, easy-going, cool, fun, spunky and sexy--but it has to be with the right partner. With someone I deem "worthy", otherwise it doesn't work. I need to respect the person before I can love them. If I don't respect someone, that person is almost non-existent...

One partner that brought out a lot of good in me was a Capricorn with Taurus rising.

Other random predictions: We demand a lot of intelligence, both emotional and normal intelligence. The guy has to see our mood and act accordingly. Has to know how to exactly behave in certain circumstances. I personally lose patience when I feel someone is incompetent in any way (in situations where it is clearly preventable--I'm not an unforgiving bitch, obviously😛). Also, emotional weakness is hard to tolerate for me. And I tend to get competitive with my partner, which is another potential problem. I have to be better or equal, not less. One other thing I hear about Scorps is that they're addicted to other people's worship. They want to be loved by EVERYONE!!! Then there's the annoying honesty--uncensored and not sugarcoated at all. Not everyone can appreciate the ugly honesty.

I don't know, I'm sure there's much more. But it's hard to be objective.

Tia,

Tell me,
I get this impression from scorps tell me if im on par okay?

Scorpios are likely not to show affection unless in comfort behind closed doors?
Scorpios are more likely to show affections after they fully trust thier partners?
If that the case i think its a good trait to have but if im worng lets discuss..

it.

I am a Scorpio man and have loved a green-eyed Scorpio woman for 35 years. Each being too strong for each other to coral we parted a few years after giving birth to a Libra daughter.

We have recently celebrated our second grandchild. We've shared single-parenting and marriages and now are both single and happy to spend some time with each other and our grandchildren.

In my absence she has been influenced by men that have dulled her energy levels.

I meet Scorpio women and often fall deeply into a hopeless love with them, especially if they have the same deep penetrating energy flowing through their eyes that they excite in me.

A Scorpio woman with deep excitement would be wise to seek a Scorpio man to kindle her flame.

Incitatus

Are you asking my point of views and ways or others scorpios mike?

Tell me,
I get this impression from scorps tell me if im on par okay?

Scorpios are likely not to show affection unless in comfort behind closed doors?
Scorpios are more likely to show affections after they fully trust thier partners?
If that the case i think its a good trait to have but if im worng lets discuss..it.

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Yes, Yes and maybe.

I have found that this social reticence can lead to problems of intimacy but can also be used by the Scorpio to dodge an uncomfortable rebuke because it is in our nature to guard our sensuality and only deal it out to those who are worthy of it.

We are not judgemental but we know the value of our goods.


(reticence
n : the trait of being uncommunicative; not volunteering anything more than necessary [syn: reserve, taciturnity])

Mike, I know you didn't ask me, but since I'm up...(still) I'll write in response to:

"Scorpios are likely not to show affection unless in comfort behind closed doors?
Scorpios are more likely to show affections after they fully trust thier partners?"

For the typical scorpio, all that is very true. But what do you mean by affection? Sex? Or any kind of affection?

I mean like smiling at each other,
kissing,
holding,
hugs,
flirtateous bahavior and sutch,....
I like to do that.

Because im wierd like that.

thats what i mean,
like could you almost forget there scorpio behind closed doors besides the sexyness and intenisty obvoisly i mean the cold front,
does it melt away behind teh scenes?

I should have been more direct, But i tend to run around the Obvious.

And yes tia,
let it all "hang~out" so to speak.

🙂

Im not your average scorpio im afraid,dear mikey.I have taurus moon,sag or scorp venus,leo mars and sag(or cap,identify with both descriptions)since you've mentioned chinese stuff before im also a goat(cancer).I have no problem with public displays of affection and a person doesn't have to be fully trusted to be the reciever of affection or compassion or anything else from me.Practical yeah,im not going to hand someone a wad of cash and trust them with it or anything but I have no problems with optimism and excepting new people for who they are rather than what I want them to be.They don't have to be anything but themselves anything else is dishonesty.The quiet part on my side would be im mentally focused on something more so than other peoples problems or whatever thier whining about.I don't set boundries for other people because it's sets boundries for myself as to what I could learn on any level=mentally,emotionally or spiritually,also have a tendency to flip the coins sides back and forth,even the ridges before I come to any conclusion.

I think Scorpio women go through many stages in life, and they have to live through each one and add each one in entirety to their psyche.

When I was younger:

I cared what everybody else thought; now I don't.
I had to be chased; now it's a two-way street.
It used to be just sex; now I get a lot more involved.
I had to spend time figuring everybody out; now it's just the ones I care about.

Probably just more emotional maturity on my part, but I had to go through certain experiences to get there. I one of those that you just can't tell me something, I have to do it to know.

" I cared what everybody else thought; now I don't.
I had to be chased; now it's a two-way street.
It used to be just sex; now I get a lot more involved.
I had to spend time figuring everybody out; now it's just the ones I care about."

Hmm...

ladydane,

was wonderin if i could ask you to help me with some issues...sorry mike don't mean to intrude on your discussion...

to help me understand the woman scorp better...are you game—? (yes i'm a woman, but have some issues with a scorp woman)

Tia that sounds like good traits...


and crys/tears is no problem.


🙂

As long as it's not a game (don't take me too seriously here).

I'll help if I can.

lol...not a game...jus need some advice..but i will send it via email...

lol Well, I'm a Pisces woman, but I must say I have never met a Scorpio woman I didn't instantly love. I think they have very high standards for who they will open up to and share their lives with, and frankly I think that is the best way to be. Why should they (or anyone for that matter) settle for less than they feel they deserve? It may take longer, but it will be worth it in the long run. 😉

No, you are like magnets, and you seem to understand crabs. But it's hard when you aren't out of that slutty phase yet.
I hope i end up with one.

Chances for that are slim and none.
😉 haha


so anyways where were we,....
Are Scorpios Hard to Love....

Nah, they really like me, it's cool. Them and the fishies.

I hope no fishes like you.....its a sad thing....if they do....
I know i dont.
You seem arrogant but were talking through computers so i dont know the scope of you arrogance.
could be small ...could be large....

im gonna go back to the pisces board now dont follow me....

Lol, I might only be saying this because I just had a confrontation with a Female Scorpion about a half hour ago, but yes..yes indeed..Scorpio Women are hard to love.

Of course it's funny, I never feel hostility toward other Scorpios nowadays, I'm not intimidated, and I'm not caught surprised by their monstrous passionate anger anymore, I have way too much Care for Scorpios to hate them for hating! That's what I've realized just now. I just can't be angry at Scorpios anymore, not even the least of us all, all I can do is Understand and Care for us, which is what disables the hostility in me that normally would be ready to claim lives haha.

So I guess what I have just seen, is that Scorpios are never unlovable if you Understand them fully, and feel the pain that they feel, and care for a Scorpion regardless of her relentless ways! Never Unlovable! (See I said it, never).

I Can ALWAYS Love A Scorpio Woman, EVEN THOUGH it IS Haaard - it's obvious to me now that if you Understand ANYONE with the logic of your mind, the heart and emotions in your empathy, and the proper Respect required - you can Love them. See, I learn something even from my bitter coflicts and misunderstandings! Haha (My night has been half great, and half utterly ugly lol)

MIKE,

I dunno hey...I am a very affectionate person...I am also an outragous flirt...maybe it's my moon in Pices...wot u think?

Were not hard to love at all. People love us! Men at least do! Ha Its just that I think all Scorpio women are very smart, cuz we aren't easily bemused by our emotions or other tactics people try to pull on us. At least I'm not! I also think its hard for us to find a right mate because, usually I meet allot of guy and we all know there looking for is one thing! Yeah if they had alittle game then it would be all good, but I'm always turned off by unintelligent men and I seam to run into a lot of them.
I just always look for a guy who has something interesting about him something mysterious. But you know once you start talking to a guy of course he's going to front you for a minute ( not show his true self) and if you can hold out for a minute then usually you see what there really like! ha-ha they usually get inpatient, then there true self showz.

Scorpio Women of high self control and intelligence!

'Were not hard to love at all. People love us! Men at least do!'


Hahaha, see that's very true, but it's only on a superficial level. When a relationship between somebody and a Scorpio Woman becomes almost DANGEROUSLY Intimate, they're probably the hardest to love in the whole Zodiac, yet they're the ones who can pull you in closer than anyone..even Scorpio Males.

When I was 8 I played gynecologist doctor with one girl of the same age. I'm not that innocent 🙂

I am not a native Scorpio, but I have a Scorpio ascendant and a bunch of planets in Scorpio (including Mars - ooooh la la). I can relate to a lot of what's being said here, especially about extreme high standards. I don't want to waste my time with anyone that I don't think is up to snuff, on any level, emotionally, romantically, intellectually. Man that makes me sound like a hard ass! But I'm not really, I just take care of myself first, and appreciate that quality in someone else, which is why I think I also get on great with Taurus. They seem to protect and take care of themselves and their own first, which IMO makes them very strong and reliable people, and makes their affection extra special if you are lucky enough to receive it.

Your never innocent Haffo,lol.

Haffo...At 8, I didn't even know what a gynocologist was!

Elliot...You may be right about being hard to love. I've been told that.
Isn't there a good match out there for everyone though? I believe so.

It's hard being a Scorpio.

"Your never innocent Haffo,lol."

lol

"Haffo...At 8, I didn't even know what a gynocologist was!"

Neither did I. I just did what I did and named it later.

She also threatened me: "If you do not continue to play with me in that way, I'm gonna tell this all to my mother". Bitch.

However, I would say this all experience helped me well in medical school. lol.

Women aren't that much different even today....

I agree kafka! No other sign could be a Scorpio well haha...

Of course there's a good match!! In general, Cap's LOVE us! Scorpio 'makes the grade', pushes through 'the contract', destroys the contractions, pierces the boundaries, steps over 'the line', pulls the 'last straw' (and eats it), flies over or travels under the mountain (and the mountain goat), hahaha all things that Capricorn adores and wants!

Caps represent The Knee and also The Human Skeleton..so of course Scorpio makes a Capricorn's body weak and knees wiggle lol..that's the way it's supposed to be.

Astrologically the Perfect Marriages Are:

Pisces & Taurus (Perfect)
Aries & Gemini (Perfect)
Cancer & Virgo (Perfect)
Leo & Libra (Perfect)
Scorpio & Capricorn (Perfect)
Sagittarius & Aquarius (Perfect)



Now of course, ANY relationship can work because we all have all these signs in us and any relation can cultivate love!

Scorpio Women are Amazzing remember!

itz hard though.. the constant inner turmoil because of the intensity of your emotions itz hard trying to keep it all under wraps because when people see say just the tip of the iceberg their even like whooa where did that come from...

does any body else feel this way? sometimes i get scared of my own intensity

^^ That's practically me to a T! I'm a Virgo Rising, sometimes I can appear cold, aloof, and shy in social situations to others, and then I go crazy with passion and get forceful and take control of the attention, and people are never sure what in the hell Possesses me hahaha.

I learned to control it as a teenager,now it's not even an issue really,it's as if it all nullified through being contained for so long.I've forgotten what intensity that intense is unless it's something beyond just the little "feelings" moodswing stuff and unless it's actually something I feel strongly about physically.Do still have some moodswings but it's not as crazy as I can remember it being when I was younger.

hahaha yeaaa so it lessens over time... i would be quite grateful for it to... because it really overwhems me once im passionate about something or someone it jus overwhelms and consumes me... i really struggle not to act on it... and i really hope no1 can see it but my eyez give me away (typical scorpio) hahaha so iv opted to wear sunnies!!! lol itz crazy... but thankz elliot im glad to hear you know what im feeling... now can i ask u a queation say if i have a libra moon and a aries rising how will that effect me? in relation to a scorpio sun?

I don't know about Aries Rising, but Libra Moon will make you a very Loved person one way or the other lol. You won't be so quick to disturb the peace for your own gain, unlike some Scorpios. It seems that we are sometimes at odds with ourselves, more than usual, because Libra Moon and Scorpio Sun are constantly getting in each other's ways..haha and I STILL don't know the cure for that!

hahaha thankz hun! you seem like one of the beautiful scorpiosz out there.. hope life is treating you well! mind you it sounds like it iz..

Being a Scorpio woman - I find that I am very secretive. I don't mean to be, but somehow I can't be as open as I would like to be. I have been seeing a Virgo male for sometime now - and him being analytical - I am sure he was confused. But we were so drawn to each other and have been for several years now. It wasn't until earlier this year - I begin to be more open with him. And I have seen how he is relaxed and comfortable now than before. I keep a stoic facade I guess and never let on to what I'm thinking most of the time. I don't know if I am hard to love or not. The Virgo had the courage to stay. Scorpio females have a deep emotional need and that brings on intensity - most men shy away from that. Because I guess we give off that ALL OR NOTHING aura. We keep emotions sometimes repressed for fear of being rejected somehow. At least that's what I think.

Being with a Virgo has helped me a great deal and it's the first time that I defined myself with someone. I know that sounds hokey, but I did. He's the first man that made me feel that I had found the other side of myself. I had the hardest time telling him I loved him. I just couldn't get it out. So I had to write him to tell him. He was so shocked - and so was I. I loved him and didn't know it, I guess. Then after a few years of seeing him, I figured it out. Boy what a crazy time for me. Thank God him being a cautious Virgo - helped. I think the first year - we sat around and just looked at each other. LOL.

I think it's a bad idea. Feelings for each other are bound to be a bit raw even though it was a mutual thing.
If he continues to bat his eyes at you, then talk to your friend about it first, and if she gets upset, then you have to choose. A) go for it and lose friend or B) stick with your friend.

It's definitely not wrong lol! Aries is the ONLY sign that is fast enough to keep up with Gem lol. Shortest attention spans of the zodiac! ..plus how could it be wrong?? Astrologically these ARE the Perfect Marriages. Of course, no one is pure aries or pure gemini, so they're not neccesarily going to mesh well together if it's just a sun sign aries and sun sign gemini. But I've thought a lot about each of them and they're definitely correct. Plus there's a pattern to each of those marriages that makes them click well on all levels.

Well if that's been your experience, then I do not doubt what you're saying. I Believe that both of thse signs go well together though, just because they both LIVE for Fresh Experiences. Both of these signs LOOATHE boredom, and these two could do anything together, and do it well the way I see it.