Scorpio Women how bold are yall?

I'm a scorpio woman and I am not bold at all. I can't hit a guy up to save my life. I have insecurities I guess.

There is this guy I liked from high school. He is handsome and I'm very much attracted to him. It's been 4.5 years since HS and I still think he's cute and would love to chill with.

However, in HS I was considered a goofball or I'd like to call myself one of a kind and kids who were cool or conformed didn't hangout with those that are off the beaten path.

I'm still one of a kind, but now I'd be considered beautiful/above average and someone a guy wouldn't pass up just bc she was the one that sat alone at lunch.

Anyway, I think my insecurities despite how much I've changed in looks still remains, because I CANNOT for the life of me contact him or try to get in touch via fb or social media. I think it's ackward and considering we haven't spoken in years and our interaction in school was minimal, it be stupid. My friends however are like no go for it. That's how you reconnect, blah blah.

I think it's bold and kind of out there. I think my chart needs to be examined to see the kinks or abnormalities, if this is considered normal.

Bold and Reckless, or Bold and Confidant (not to be mistaken with Arrogance nor Ego-driven)?


TIM6120, I believe your dilemma have nothing to do with how bold it is, rather how willing you are to but step up and let your fears go. After all, what would you have to lose by reaching out? Besides all in which you have decided to create in your mind?

Sometimes in order to be able to achieve something you must set the ball in motion first, to jump in bravely before you realise you could actually swim.


Nothing is stopping you here but your own fears, fear is often a liar. Why do you not attempt to stop feeding that beast and learn to listen to the side of you who wants so much to reconnect with that gent of yours?

Feed into the positive, to get the positives, keep reinforcing this pattern and you will slowly begin to see a change.

My fear can be look at as Smaug from The Hobbit. He is strong, forceful, wise (to me) and has only one vulnerable weak point,and if I dare to strike Id surely miss.

My one fear is that he wouldn't reach out in return and he'd talk bad about me to his friends and laugh at me for even thinking about it. It may sound silly but this is so ingrained in me that I don't know how to remove the fear.

I think positively all the time, but that part of me positivty can't reach. I guess I'd have to take a leap of faith, but someone else would have to push me.

Just add him on fb, it will be fine. But don't expect anything out of this. If you look better now he will probably go 'hey she looks much better than she did in hs!' but men these days.. They just want to fool around you know. So let's assume he is single and actually has time and energy to meet you, you should be careful 🙂 He could be just after sex. So the best scenario is that you have stuff in common and become friends. Only then you could observe his behaviour and wonder if he likes you. What I think will happen ? You guys will add each other and won't even talk that much 😛 and you will get bored and forget about him.

I didn't have a fb account until after uni and I was nervous about what people would think of my new style and my job but you know what ? Noone has time to think about what you did with your life. They are busy trying to put their shit together. And friendships on fb and social media are 99% superficial, I'm sure you know that.

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Just add him on fb, it will be fine. But don't expect anything out of this. If you look better now he will probably go 'hey she looks much better than she did in hs!' but men these days.. They just want to fool around you know. So let's assume he is single and actually has time and energy to meet you, you should be careful 🙂 He could be just after sex. So the best scenario is that you have stuff in common and become friends. Only then you could observe his behaviour and wonder if he likes you. What I think will happen ? You guys will add each other and won't even talk that much 😛 and you will get bored and forget about him.

I didn't have a fb account until after uni and I was nervous about what people would think of my new style and my job but you know what ? Noone has time to think about what you did with your life. They are busy trying to put their shit together. And friendships on fb and social media are 99% superficial, I'm sure you know that.

Yes, I don't have facebook. I assume that most are superficial since the amount of friends one has is for gratification rather than preserving actual relationships.

I'm not going to add him on facebook. My best bet would be to go where I know he'll be at and strike up conversation.


Also most guys just want to F me anyway. It's soo disheartening to find out they don't want to be my friend. They want to fuck first and all that jazz.

I always want to purse a friendship prior to a relationship to get to know someone better, but that never happens.

Those guys are d-o-u-c-h-e-bags and you're just attracted to their confidence. Next time just make sure whether he hits on all the girls around him like he hits on you. Do some research 😉

It's true finding the right guy/girl takes time 🙂

It's crazy, but true. It's like they hit on everyone until someone bites. Lmao