Someone explain her actions tonight?

I got the 'lets just be friends' from this girl originally of which I played it off cool. We were part of an extensive social circle and I disappeared for a bit knuckling down on things. Essentially during that time, I'd changed; got a 6-pack, dressed nicer and overall become someone I'd say date-able compared to who I was previously. She must have noticed because when I resurfaced, we got really close again. We'd always been quite chummy but now it was so much that her friends were really noticing it. They were treating me as if I was her boyfriend in making decisions but I wasn't.

The other day, I went to a social gathering that she was at. I was the center of the party because that is my personality type. She was your typical interested girl; twirling her hair as she stared at me, pruning herself etc. Soon enough she was drawn in and beckoned me over (as she always does). So it was game on.

But then a male friend of mine walked past and as she completely ignored me for the next few minutes, she started talking to him. This was longer than the general greetings type of chat you'd have before you return to whom you were with. Well I thought f*ck it, I am not sticking around for this and left. Now when I want to be, I can be the biggest flirt and I was. For the next few hours, I flirted, picked up numbers and did everything imaginable and I could always feel her keeping her eyes on me. I just got back to enjoying the party and giving her space.

Now here is the kicker. I got a cold shoulder colder than the arctic circle for the rest of the night from her. Her typical touchy self around me, leaning on me and smiling was gone. Later on in the night, I'd go back and talk to her but again she was not happy, short answers and the likes. So I left it. I don't get it?

She left early that night (as she said she'd had a tiring last few days) and I could almost pick out she was almost in tears. She'd normally give me the most tightest long held hug when we part ways but she simply walked off.

Later on I got cornered by her friends. Obviously the typical questions of which I happily admitted I do like her and have feelings for her but I wasn't going to stick around and be treated like a doormat. They themselves admitted they were confused because she'd say she didn't like me but her actions showed something vastly different and the silent treatment I received tonight was weird for someone supposedly who does not have feelings.

So ladies what gives? First off we are not a couple, secondly hence why ignore me for the rest of the night?

She was pissed that you were flirting with other girls instead of her .

Thank you Sultrykitty! but was that not what she was doing hence I walked away? I mean we are not a couple or anything and I know I have feelings for her and maybe she does too but if they're not reciprocated, why am I expected to hang around?

She was trying to play hard to get (something an aquarius guy doesn't get). When you walked away you essentially told he you weren't interested. Girls generally want to he chased, and the less you chase the more confused we get.

How about manning the fuck up and not acting like a total retard? Imagine actually liking a girl and then being direct about it instead of pissing about with childish games like flirting and getting numbers from girls you clearly have zero interest in. Sure, it might make your dick feel big for a few seconds but what purpose does this 'number harvesting' serve? None.

You like her. You have feelings for her.

Why would you not just tell her and see if the feeling and intention is mutual, and see what she says?

Posted by elllesque

Posted by sultrykitty
She was pissed that you were flirting with other girls instead of her .

with all due respect, this is the reaction I would think a leo woman would have.

I am willing to bet the scorpio was observing him that night....didn't really care for his "look at me!" behaviour....and you have to be honest, he kind of sounds like a douche.

I don't think it was jealousy. I just think you gave off a too flashy vibe.

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Yeah, I didn't realize what board this was posted on before replying. She could have a fair bit of fire in her though.

Thanks guys. But that is the thing. I did chase initially and I got the 'lets just be friends' talk. I tried the direct approach and prior to tonight that approach still had her beating around the bush with me regardless if her friends think her actions showed differently to what her words say. A 21st birthday (special around these parts) message was never replied to prior to this that I sent that left me wondering if there was anything let alone being friends enough that she'd reply.

Now I tell you this and that is I refuse to be disrespected. I've been a doormat for so long. I hope she didn't expect that if a guy approached and she'd spend 3 minutes + flirting or talking to him instead that I would still stick around. I too saw her flirting with other guys afterwards. And no I did not act over the top but I just treated her as she had originally thought of me as; that being 'lets just be friends'. This is generally me at a party; I drift and play the crowd.

I'm tired of playing the nice guy. I really am.

Posted by Aquaunanswered
Thanks guys. But that is the thing. I did chase initially and I got the 'lets just be friends' talk. I tried the direct approach and prior to tonight that approach still had her beating around the bush with me regardless if her friends think her actions showed differently to what her words say. A 21st birthday (special around these parts) message was never replied to prior to this that I sent that left me wondering if there was anything let alone being friends enough that she'd reply.

Now I tell you this and that is I refuse to be disrespected. I've been a doormat for so long. I hope she didn't expect that if a guy approached and she'd spend 3 minutes + flirting or talking to him instead that I would still stick around. I too saw her flirting with other guys afterwards. And no I did not act over the top but I just treated her as she had originally thought of me as; that being 'lets just be friends'. This is generally me at a party; I drift and play the crowd.

I'm tired of playing the nice guy. I really am.

This one might not work out for you. But I will tell you that Aqua guys really are the hardest to figure out. You tend to act in a way that's very contradictory to the conventional rules of dating. I love you guys, but it has taken me years to really understand you.

The girl likes you,but I wonder why she is playing hard to get.No woman will get jealous if she doesn't have feelings for you.Although I think u went a lil too far,but she didn't act right herself.

The girl likes you,but I wonder why she is playing hard to get.No woman will get jealous if she doesn't have feelings for you,that is Jealousy.Although I think u went a lil too far,but she didn't act right herself.I also think you played the nice guy long enough your actions on this particular night is either gonna push her away or bring her closer.Goodluck

Maybe she's the one being a fucktard. It does happen! If you've expressed all as you say and she's still pissing about then there's little you can do. I agree about the flirting though. A big no no for a Scorp.

Posted by Udylaw1
The girl likes you,but I wonder why she is playing hard to get.No woman will get jealous if she doesn't have feelings for you,that is Jealousy.Although I think u went a lil too far,but she didn't act right herself.I also think you played the nice guy long enough your actions on this particular night is either gonna push her away or bring her closer.Goodluck

Agreed no one gets jealous unless there are some kind of feelings there even if she's hiding them.

If you give no fucks about someone and they are only a friend you'd be happy for them to be getting action not respond in a jealous manner