Ignoring Scorpio

I work with a Scorpio man with whom I have an intense connection. I now know he has a girlfriend and therefore we have both acted respectably ever since. I've tried to be acquaintances with him but I still like him and can guarantee that he knows this only by making eye contact with me. It's not working, so I started to avoid his physical proximity and create distance. He's been walking past my desk since, even though the shorter way to where he's going would be not past my desk. I've pretended not to notice and now for three days have flat out ignored him which I realize is a big "no no" but nothing else is working.

Today he tried to "connect" with me across the room and I noticed but would not return it. The part that really bothers me is that his two male friends behave similarly and even seem angry at me for treating him this way. The weird thing is that both of his friends are married and I know they would never be the type to promote him cheating/flirting with someone who is not his girlfriend. I'm telling myself that it doesn't matter; that if my not fulfilling a taken-man's emotional needs makes me a bitch, than I guess I'm a bitch.

Am I doing the right thing? Will the Scorpio man leave me alone once and for good? Believe me, I don't want him to but I will never be someone's other woman and as a Leo, I will also never be someone's second choice.

Maybe the Scorpio is a narcissist who is so used to getting attention and is upset that you're ignoring him and then he goes and gossips about it to his married mates because married Scorpios basically become gossip girls.

Oh God, this sounds like me. I had to leave the job sorry to say.

Why that dude still want to flirt with u after he has a gf.... I felt sorry for his girlfriend

I don't feel like he's flat-out flirting with me anymore. Whether he already had the girlfriend back when he did, I don't know. Now it's more like he's trying to reignite the connection but I'm not playing.....

To answer the above questions: He flirted with me for two full weeks, then caught me flirting with another guy (harmlessly from my end, besides I'm the non-taken one), and flipped out. I brought him a small gift three days later, he avoided me for a week, and then, right when things were just what I would consider "normal", we walked into a room together and another female co-worker said "hey, how is your girlfriend?"....which was the first I ever heard of it.

His other friends are a Scorpio and a Gemini.

Do you like this guy enough so that being indifferent to his presence will be a problem? If you were just having a little fun that's one thing. But I had to deal with a full-on crush that wasn't going away, for a year. Finally just got too much and I had to bounce.

Oh, it's a full-on crush. I didn't want to get into the entire drama of it all but last year I was married (in a not-so-great relationship but not looking for anything) and as we passed in the hallway, I received what I now know as the "Scorpio Look"....the whole "time has stopped and he can see down to my bones" even though we barely knew each other. I have NEVER had a guy look at me like that and thought it was only for the movies. I don't think he knew I was married at the time (because we had basically just met) and we were both equally horrified and ignored each other for at least a month.

Then something flipped and he didn't care that I was married and he started coming around. I realize this sounds insane (because it is insane) but it was almost as if we could read each other's minds. I could tell he was going to walk past my window at work before it happened....even if I was facing the completely opposite way and he was coming from behind a solid wall. I can still feel when he's about to walk past me when he's still 20+ feet away (my co-worker can confirm this and doesn't understand but has consistently witnessed how I'll start twitching as he even rounds the corner, before I could ever see he's there).

Anyway, after several months of this, I decided enough was enough. I was leaving my husband for many, many reasons, but in order to do so, I needed to severe this "connection" and do so for the right reasons, not because some guy was making googly-eyes at me. I did just that and I know I hurt the scorpio...but I also know that he understands what I was going through at the time.

I don't consider him to be the cause of my now divorce (it was going to happen and if it wasn't, I never would have noticed him to begin with), but he was absolutely the catalyst. I actually appreciate this as I would rather it happen when I'm younger now than 20 years from now.

So, I guess we've always had this bizarre chemistry (for 15 months now) and nothing has officially ever come from it.

@ Reincarnation: Thanks, I like that. I'll try it if I ever even get the chance.

Yep, sounds all too familiar. Like I said, I had to leave. It was a good job, my dream job. But the whole thing was becoming much too distracting and uncomfortable.

I still think about him alot. Definitely something that has never happened to me before.

@ Reincarnation: That makes me want to do it all the more.

you should just have a private conversation and be completely honest and direct.... That will force him to do the same esp if you two have such a strong connection... who knows what may happen but at the very least suppressing it has gotta suck and you may regret now hashing things out with this scorp...

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Posted by SassyKiwi
Maybe the Scorpio is a narcissist who is so used to getting attention and is upset that you're ignoring him and then he goes and gossips about it to his married mates because married Scorpios basically become gossip girls.

Except he's not married and we don't know the signs of his friends.

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Oh right. Idk why I thought wife. I also don't know why on earth I thought him and his group of friends were ALL married AND Scorpios. Wtf? Sleep deprivation man. My words still stand tho. Group of married Scorp men = gossip girls. Tis coot.

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Posted by SassyKiwi
Maybe the Scorpio is a narcissist who is so used to getting attention and is upset that you're ignoring him and then he goes and gossips about it to his married mates because married Scorpios basically become gossip girls.

Except he's not married and we don't know the signs of his friends.

Oh right. Idk why I thought wife. I also don't know why on earth I thought him and his group of friends were ALL married AND Scorpios. Wtf? Sleep deprivation man. My words still stand tho. Group of married Scorp men = gossip girls. Tis coot.

Group of Scorp men is kind of an oxymoron.

Scorp men rarely hang out with each other.

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Hush. Do you just swat every little innocent fantasy one has?

This is married Scrop men except 10x more emo and probably holding sharp objects idk.

Posted by Reincarnation
Dumb Oz broad.

I don't understand this new age language you kids use but it seems salty. Please go hydrate yourself.