The Scorpio Male in Love —

Hi all, I have been seeing a male scorpio for a few months now, when we met it was weird, I could feel his eyes watching me from the crowd (we were in a pub - him and his mates and me and mine) then he approched me and seeked approval from my friends to talk to me (the perfect gentleman) We have been seeing one another for a few months now and its good but there is a lot of games being played with the two of us, its weird, I'm a Gemini and Ive never felt like this about any man I really respect him but this game playing is doing my nut in (when we are together we have the most amazing conversations) Is this game playing normal for a Scorpio?? How does he feel? I dont want to get hurt !!!!

Please reply Amanda Pauline xxxxxxxx

Hi Poly, it's Elizabeth. I think I totally understand where you're coming from. But what kind of games do you mean? my scorpio and me have known eachother for about a month and a week, and he has already said "I love you". It's scary, and I don't know if I can believe him, though I really care about him a lot. And I know what you mean, I feel different about him than any other guy i've been with too. it's just a really different feeling, and i don't know how to explain it. maybe i love him too... maybe not. Sometimes he'll say things to me to see how I'll react, and it bothers me. I don't know, it's really hard to explain. but, I would like to know what kind of games you mean, to see if we're going through the same thing🙂.

Elizabeth

Hi Elizabeth, thanks for replying to my message. Well is hard to explain about the game playing its like he's testing me all the time to see if I am playing with his head when its him playing with mine, He wont fone me for days but thats because I never foned him first sort of thing then one of us eventually give in and fone, its pretty MAD!! for me. If he asks to go out and I let him down and I suggest an alternative night he wont go on what I suggested (saying he has plans when I know he hasent!!!) its like he wants to be the dominant one (Well from reading up in Scorpiosite.com Scorpio's are very controlling and need to control and dominate) so thats maybe what he is trying to do with me, like "he wears the trousers" its all pretty mad at the moment, I suppose cause we are getting to know one another and dont want to be hurt by the other, He has told me he cares for me but not the L word (YET!!) And he talks to me in "future terms" like "We will go there one day" sort of thing. I suppose he doesnt want to be hurt by me and me him, and the two of us are afraid to open up.

So can you relate Elizabeth, tell me about your experiences with your Scorpio male.

You should go to the Scorpiosite.com its very very interesting.

Lotsa Love Poly.

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Elizabeth, Poly here again.

Read the Gemini message board addressed to you, I wrote it about a week ago, I'm not sure you are the same person.

If it is you then we are VERY similar its scary!!!!

Luv Poly xxxxx

I WAS WITH SCORPIO FOR THREE YEARS AND THEY PLAY THESE GAMES TO SEE HOW TRUE YOU ARE TO SEE IF YOUR LOYAL TO SEE IFYOU WILL CHEAT THEY PLAY GAME FOR ALOT OF REASONS AND REMEBER SCORPIO HAS STRONG LIKES AND STRONG DIS LIKES SO BE VERY CAREFUL NOT TO HURT SCORPIO FEELING

I WAS WITH SCORPIO FOR THREE YEARS AND THEY PLAY THESE GAMES TO SEE HOW TRUE YOU ARE TO SEE IF YOUR LOYAL TO SEE IFYOU WILL CHEAT THEY PLAY GAME FOR ALOT OF REASONS AND REMEBER SCORPIO HAS STRONG LIKES AND STRONG DIS LIKES SO BE VERY CAREFUL NOT TO HURT SCORPIO FEELING

Dear Poly,
i am a scorpio and i know what is the situation..
i have to tell ya that you might never here the "L" word from his lips..
Scorpioes never admit their love especially to their beloved..
may be you have to suffice with his love in action rather than in words
Scorpio

damn scorpio you right on point when you say they dont tell you they love you

I am married to a Scorpio. We've been together for almost 5 years. It is a very difficult relationship, because of all of his silly mind games. Scorpio is very insecure and in response to that, seeks control and domination. Don't expect him to change, because it's his very nature. My husband plans to seek counseling for some of his issues, but from the beginning he was straight forward about his need to dominate and control. You have to read the signs they give you and decide whether you can live with their ways. They're not easy to live with. My husband swept me off my feet. He was generous, loving, attentive, and a wonderful love maker. Within 2 months of our relationship, I had a promise ring (unexpected, I might add) and a request from him for me to accompany him on a trip out of town. It was very scary. I remember asking him if he loved me and he didn't want to answer the question. They don't like to reveal who they truly are, inside. The reason, I believe, they do this is to protect themselves from hurt. They hurt very easily and heal very slowly. Anyway, he did confess his true feelings, but I knew already simply through his actions. Afterall, love is a verb. I'd rather see love in action, than hear someone speaking mere words, without showing/expressing it. Love is a gamble. You have to take things slow and let him show you where he wants to take the relationship. Be careful and proceed with caution. Know what you're getting into. Don't disregard those nuances as things that will pass. They won't. You will have to love them just as they are, or move on. If you think you're going to change them, you're wasting your time. God knows I'm a witness and a person who speaks from a great deal of experience. Good luck.

Ladies, ladies..take it from a Scorpio female who can see into the Scorpio man's soul with a laser intensity. Not only have I dated many fellow Scorpios, I married one.
Our scorpionic energy manifests a little differently in the males, trust me. Before I plunge in, let me say that yes, there are a few decent Scorpio men out there as romantic partners. They are as rare a sighting as the Yeti, but they are out there.
Open your ears to the experiences of many other women in general, cause it ain't pretty..and there is a reason for that. Should I mention that I have and have had loads of male Scorpio friends--so I have seen how they treat their women in addition to being on the receiving end.
1) MIND GAMES extradinaire...don't like you to know what they are up to. If incapable of being open and direct with their feelings, there is a good chance A) you are being cheated on or B) taken for a ride. It gives them a real power thrill to play with your feelings knowing full well you are just their toy.
2) PASSION--its their nature but they leave behind them scores and scores of puzzled females who think they were SO important to their Scorpio man...because of the intense, passionate displays and feelings expressed. My advice ladies, wait and see how this plays out ~over time~. Like at least a couple months to a year. Sorry it means nothing about you personally, but the Scorpio man is a fiend to his moment by moment passions. That doesn't mean its lasting passion. The 12 before you probably thought that too.
3) HIDING feelings, holding them back. Scorpions hate the light, enough said. Every Scorpio man I have met has been capable of holding his feelings back to the point of dishonesty. You could for example, hurt his feelings and never know it. Then a month later he stings you for no "apparent" reason.
Another caveat: any weakness you ever show, can and will be used against you in a fight.
You know, eagle is another form of this sign and a few do try and identify with that. But enough of them are snakes for me to warn other women: Look Out.

Male Scorpions are exceptionally private people who don't believe in wasting time when it comes to relationships. Many of them don't seem to understand that they need to get to know you first and be your friend before having sex. Since Scorpio rules sex, it's especially frustrating for them to deal with women who satisfy them in bed but not out of bed! It doesn't make it easier to know that their "bedroom" eyes are hypnotic and can make girls want to undress in front of them before even knowing what they're doing! You have to be especially careful with male Scorpions and hope they'll respect you. If not, break up.

Well, when you're done with the mind games, I say you should check out a straight forward and equally exciting Aries. We'll welcome you with open arms.

Oh well,... I'm a Scorpio Male.
We are all people, no matter what our zodiac signs suggest. Being and knowing Scorpios; yes there are some common tendencies, like being quiet, kind and gentle mannered - but also jealous, hopefully romantic and in many ways cautious when it comes to relationships. But romantic relationships are between TWO people, and it takes both of them to keep it together. The games you are referring to doesn't have to be there. They most likely are because you let them. Confrontation is never a crime. I personally hate playing games, but they seem to sneak up on me anyway. I simply deal with it by talking to the person I feel is bringing it on.
It's true that we are easily hurt, but by certain things that is! I was in a relationship with a wonderful girl. She liked flirting and that's fine by me. That's not being unfaithful in my opinion. But when she was flirting with other men in front of me, that's when I felt that personal loss or lacking confidence. I asked her about it and asked how she would feel if she saw me flirting with women in front of her. She simply claimed that it wasn't the same... Now who is playing the game? Jealousy is an awful feeling to bare, and according to many 'experts' Scorpio males are often led to jealousy for very small reasons... But in the mind of a Scorpio, these reasons might not be so small after all,... We are all different, and we all care about different things.
If the Scorpio male seems unreasonable, try the Sagittarius Female...Believe me, I've dated two of them. Great game players too. One even admitted it, when I got tired of her 'mood swings'. She explained that she was missing some excitement in the relationship: couldn't she just have told me? Maybe not...I liked her just the same.

When being THIS concerned with which sign people are, it's far more likely that you let these things take off, further than necessary.

I personally don't care if you are this or that for a Zodiac sign, if you are honest, kind and charming, you got my attention.

Scorpio Male

why does it post three times I wonder....

I've been a Scorpio male for 3 years now and I can tell you that we do not play games lik you think.

Roxi... We're waiting.....

She knows because she was my doctor... And of course I'm a man.

...Now 😛

"Roxi... We're waiting....."

I don't think that's very appropriate for the boards unless it is writen in another "erotic art piece". 😉

Yeah, I'm fairly new in here... Is that alright?

"It was changing from nice to annoying" Wow... I know love relationships doesn't always consist of adult behavior, but one persons opinion is often another persons burden.
When I get into conflicts I always find that you can never change other people - only yourself. And that will most often give you a better perspective and opinion on the person you are dealing with.

Reading all kinds of analyzes of the Scorpio male, it seems to be a default that they/we are a very intense and changing personality that are best treated with care and respect. Maybe... I don't know... generalizing a wide group of people because of their Zodiac sign seems to me a little harsh. I'm a firm believer in that all people are different. Furthermore I think it's unfair the way people in here seem to judge and blame us for being what we are.

Maybe it's just the modern society: "I'm" right and in center and "I" deserve respect and honesty etc. It doesn't appear to me that anyone in this forum ever stopped to think if they made the right choices.

(Dude, I'm going to hell for this one... hehehe)

Damn right I am?

What exactly did you bring to this conversation that was so constructive?

Anyway.

"Is then RESPECT a one way street?" I believe not. One can't just sit around and wait for respect.

I'm not judging anyone for their stories, but from all the confusion I find very little forgiveness.

When I mention making the right choices, I know it is harsh. But I'm dead serious. And by the way, which is better: a month of happy and deep romance or 7 years of frustrating unsatisfying marriage? I know and know of so many people who get married for one reason only: tradition. Some of them at a very early age, barely finished school if any education at all. Some are still married and some are divorced. Where am I going with this? Well, choosing to get married is a VERY serious matter, and hopefully it should last till death do them part. Again - in this modern day society, divorce rules death. And I think it's obvious why: Because people know, that no matter how deeply involved you get with each other, you can always legally call it off. When that simmers in the back of your mind the whole time, it is very tempting when things go a little uneven. And divorce attorneys are the strongest weapons after all.

Oh... and one more thing. When being this concerned about the Scorpio male and if you are compatible and such. Why not check it out and see if your individual sign is at all compatible with the other. I know according to skyviewzone.com that Scorpio male and Taurus Female should swing well... hmm... maybe...
Just remember that astrology was invented by man (human, yes yes) - life isn't.

I totally agree with Roxi. Except for the "Scorps with Scorps" part. Well atleast in my one, maybe two experiences (Once involved with a Libra/Scorp - Like Blingstah!) As a scorp woman, we do like our space. The scorp man can give it at times, but be waaayyy too intense and smothering at other times. It is like they are always suspicious. Always want to keep tabs. That doesn't go well with me at all.

***Funny you should say that Rox...but Scorp men want to get into your head when they're in a relationship with you.
It's when they can't that they resort to manipulation. They need to know that you love them...constantly...so if there's any doubt at some point and they can't read you...they'll manipulate you. Simple as that. ****


Woah!!! TB - This couldn't be more true.

What is with the constant "Tell me you love me" or "Oh I thought you were calling to say you love me" comments— I'm like, What——

> "And yes, astrology is a general guide and there are more factors at work in a relationship other than star configuration at the point of your birth"

Finally. Thank you.

> "What is with the constant "Tell me you love me" or "Oh I thought you were calling to say you love me" comments— I'm like, What——"

Yes, I'm like what, too... I admit that I like to here from a girlfriend that she loves me. That is indeed very pleasing. But I never saw the point in asking for it, because THEN there would be a chance that it isn't genuine, but merely way of shutting me up for a while, if we're gonna be that sinister about it.
As a matter of fact, and I believe it was written further up, I like to feel and see it rather than hear it.

Perhaps I'm not your average Scorpio male and could be there are some pussies out there who are afraid to use their ability to look deep within them selves. Which is something Scorpios apparently do better than any other... (according to website experts...)

"Scorp men want to get into your head when they're in a relationship with you"... yes, and? It's the admiration and adoration you misinterpret as annoying attitude. When we get involved with somebody or something, we want to know everything from every angle. And guess what... when we know what we want to know we feel more comfortable and then we won't manipulate to get the information we desire, and there we are, open as can be. An emotional buffet... most girls deepest wish in a man - a puppet with a hint of self esteem.

Anybody else thought about this?: Women are upset with the Scorpio male, because THEY can't control HIM... I know it's touchy... but go on.. let it hang in the air for a bit.
I'm not claiming this to be true for everybody, but it's very simple psychology; when you desire to drive the car and you are left with the passenger seat, you no longer wish to come along as much.

***"What is with the constant "Tell me you love me" or "Oh I thought you were calling to say you love me" comments— I'm like, What——"***

Thousandmph. The point is WE ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP... He has clearly and continuously stated he wasn't ready for a relationship. I honestly (as I expressed here previously) don't think we will make a good partnership in the long run, however, I do enjoy his company and hanging out with him for now. So it baffles me that he would think I would tell him I love him, in fact. I like a lot of things about him, but not love him.

If he was my man he wouldn't ever have to ask that question. I would show him and tell him continuously.

Yeah, they can dig for all kind of questions and are always so suspicious of you, but they find it hard to reveal their information. It is quite funny at times.

***QS...i understand what you are saying about not being in a relationship with the scorp guy that you are seeing, but not everyone is capable of turning off emotions as you seem to be..OF COURSE he wants to hear things from you...he is flesh and blood, has a heart and emotions and that it NORMAL...not everyone is capable of FWB type situations***

An emotion doesn't have to be turned off if it isn't ever turned on. I am flesh and blood as well and also a scorp. However, I am capable of meaning what I say and saying what I mean. If something changes I make that clear. He on the other hand, continuously states he isn't ready for a relationship (which, since I don't think we would be very compatible in a long term one thought this would be an okay friendship)therefore, he shouldn't expect the privleges of a relationship without being in one.

Ex: wanting to know where and who I am with or who I am on the phone with. Wanting to be able to just show up at my house when he feels like it. (He got offended when I told him he couldn't just pop up at my house, but agreed not to do it again) Wants me to confess an undying love for him. Who does that? Who would do that with someone they are not in a relationship with. I politely respond "Tell me you love me". Then I let it go. If he ever does that would be a problem, because then I would be forced to tell him I don't feel the same. I should stop responding that way. LOL!!!

***in fact...how normal and healthy is that to be as close as two human beings can be together and not be emotional about it?? that whole concept eludes me...***

Because it is what it is. If it is a relationship it is, if it isn't it isn't. I am sure you have seen a million people on these boards and know of a million consenting adults who have sex that are not in a relationship. Be real. If not, you have a lot to learn... It is probably why in fact you take every encounter as a relationship and get angry when you find it was just sex (hence, the scorp guy who ran from you because you got mad because you thought he made up a story about having an accident and stopped to talk to a girl - one who wasn't in a relationship with you) and yes you can have sex and care for a person. I care for and am imensly attracted to anyon whom I am intimate with. Otherwise I couldn't. However, this doesn't mean I want to spend the rest of my life with them.

Ask any Libra man, they will blatenly tell you it is very possible and they have probably done it wuite a few times in their lifetime. Lots to learn young grasshopper.

BTW, I didn't say I never caught feelings for someone who I started out in a casual relationship with. Hell, my marriage started this way. Ironically with a Libra.

Although initially he wasn't emotionally involved. I got emotional first then he followed suit. LOL!!! When I got emotional I told him I no longer wanted a casual relationship with him, because I was becoming emotionally vested. Thinking he would agree and we end it. He stated. Okay, if you are interested in a relationship. Let's do it. Dated, moved in together, got married, had a daughter, was happy for 6 of the 8 years, got divorced. Life.

Ok... I'm speaking in a very general sense and not aiming directly at you Queenscorpio. But I can't stress it enough: People are different. Because he's born in a certain part of the year doesn't necessarily mean anything. I've met Cancers males who acted like Sagittarius and Geminis who acted like Libras. It doesn't matter. It's very personal and also a matter of upbringing and environment.
I can't stop thinking that maybe age has got something to do with it... I understand you are 77 years old. When a man turns that age, something happens. I'm not sure what, 'cause I'm not halfway there yet, but I've seen things happen. My grandmother had a 'boyfriend' after her husband died. He was a gentleman and a Libra, but was totally broken when he couldn't get any closer than friendship. Kept calling at weird times of the day, kept insisting on romantic trips around Europe. My grandmother just wasn't set for that kind of a life anymore.
A mans purpose in life dies when he's not expected to reproduce anymore.

> "I personally dont feel the need to control a Scorpio male because I know I can if I want to. I'm plutonian and an 8th house person."
Cool! But what does that say about you exactly? That you are clinging on to everything that has to do with astrology? Plutonian... try Earthling.
Taurus female is a very strong character. They have an amazing ability to get done what's on their mind. But unfortunately, that also means that they (like a bull) don't look twice at anything before charging. This often leads into quite embarrassing moments when she fails. The thing is; she is not embarrassed, because looking back is not a feature well executed by the Taurus.

Maybe I'm wrong, but it says 77 under her profile name. I personally wouldn't lie about it... but that's her choice.

*** think that the one that supposedly truly does not want a relationship, love, whatever the situation...should be the one to step away, otherwise they are using the other person. if the other party is obviously more emotionally involved then it is not a situation that is on an even keel...the person not emotionally involved should be the bigger person, do the right thing and walk away...not continually critize the other person's and their growing attachment...that borders on cruel in my eyes..***

I agree, as I am sure you aren't referring to me, since when the scorp guy got attached in previous posts I stated we are just friends. Why he keeps asking if I love him and we aren't intimate is what baffles me. So me being the unemotional one did walk away. We are friends, because of me not him. He is probably confused like you said or doesn't want to admit the truth, so I called myself making it easy for him and remaining friends, because I care for him. So, your point is again?

I am 36 for those of you who must know. I didn't fill in the age and that is the number that it added to when filling out the profile.

***I understand you are 77 years old. When a man turns that age, something happens. I'm not sure what, 'cause I'm not halfway there yet, but I've seen things happen. My grandmother had a 'boyfriend' after her husband died. He was a gentleman and a Libra, but was totally broken when he couldn't get any closer than friendship. Kept calling at weird times of the day, kept insisting on romantic trips around Europe. My grandmother just wasn't set for that kind of a life anymore.
A mans purpose in life dies when he's not expected to reproduce anymore. ***

LOL, I am 36.

thousanmph, no one is saying astrology is the root of every humans actions or personality, but there are always some resemblances in their actions related to their sun sign. Everyon understands that everyone is different and it isn't all about astrology.

Sorry irish libra that you can't remain friends with exes or people who took a relationship out of context. I can... My ex hubby and I actually get along now than our last year of marriage. It is about being a secure individual.

So yes in both paragraphs you can see I care for him, as I do all my friends and I enjoy being a friend to him. No where does it say we are intimate. Where is the BS—

Take notes, this might do you some good and prevent you from going phsycho on the next guy who crosses your path.

What is the BS, this is exactly what happened in my situation, hence the ending of the FWB and now the friendship. It is clearly what happened.

I knew she wasn't really 77.

> "What does it say about me— That I understand astrology a lot better than you. You're clinging onto my sun sign. Astrology is not only about the sun sign. And by the way...I don't charge into anything. I'm an observer."

TB, you just proved my point.

> "I knew she wasn't really 77."

*Applause

Oh... Scorpius_,

I take back the "*Applause" thing. I didn't read it right. That's the problem with text, you never really know how certain things are meant to be read.

***No where does it say we are intimate......


right here..............

Which is more likely not to get attached during casual sex? Scorp male or female?

I vote scorp female. Males can get waaaayyyy attached, possessive and emotiional waaaayyyyy tooo soon."***


First, this is a statement and doesn't say we ARE intimate... We have been but aren't. Past and present get it?

***I knew she wasn't really 77.***

I don't think anyone is on this board. Did anyone think Bling was 109?

I actually think he is in his mid to late 20's. Which is it blingy—

I need serious help with this cause I really am losing my mind with this Scorpio encounter!! Well here is my story, November of 06 I went to a wedding with my now ex boyfriend. The wedding was my ex's best buds and at these events, usually my eyes tend to wonder around and there he was almost immediately this tall, sexy, classy guy, vibrating with sex appeal caught my eye. There was some sort of attraction there that I felt, there was something that drew me to his stare eyes. I noticed he was checking me out as well and trying to make sure that he caught my eye. He even sat at my table and had a brief 2min conversation with me and a third person and that was the night.

10 months after, I receive a voice msg, I was very flattered to hear his voice again, it was awkward for him he said, he didn't know what to say but wanted me to contact him back. I was wondering where he got my number! later i found out how.

After 3 weeks I returned his call with a txt msg pretending I didn't know who he was, trying to keep cool and play the "game" we got acquainted and after long conversations on the phone and loads of txt msgs disclosing his deepest feelings for me. He even confessed that he's been looking for me for 10 months and couldn't stop thinking about me since that wedding. The feelings he shared were surreal and overwhelming, I had my guard up. Couldn't believe this person had this big crush on me!!! It was a heavenly feeling.

2 weeks after we eventually met and started dating. In the beginning I wasn't that open emotionally, I was being cautious, however, he was uncontainable. Things moved real quick, the relationship was intensifying sexually and emotionally, he started speaking of love and marriage and how much he loves and wants to be with me, at the same time I started showing my affection and opened up and as I was starting to enjoy his company.

On the 5th month he started to be distant, withdrawing himself. He is starting to be mysterious, not letting me in on things he does or things in the past that I didn't know of. He says that he is going through family issues and he has a lot of things on his mind that are occuping him, things are not quite going his way, so he is in a frustration stage. And now he would often be in an irritable mood and dukes it out on me with a cold, dry conversation. so, I try as much as I can to give him his space but I keep wondering how could things turn around so quickly, makes me feel so alien

alienated and I start assuming things and asking is it really family issues or is it something else?

Now on the 7th month we don't see of each other that much and whenever we do its just a fullfillment, I don't feel the love, affection and care that I felt in the beginning, however, he still says he loves and cares about me. I am starting to think maybe the sex is the only bond that is keeping us going. I am in a limbo, sometimes I just want to end this and keep myself sane or keep going with this and see where it will go. -- Any thought on this would be appreciated thnx 🙂

***i have to tell ya that you might never here the "L" word from his lips..
Scorpioes never admit their love especially to their beloved..***

Sorry, in my experience, my scorpio friend sprung the L word on me after a couple months and we have never been in a serious relationship. He says it often too. Maybe because I am a scorp. I dunno. QS

Liah, he may have another love interest. You should ask or find out yourself. It sounds very strange for a scorp in love to act this way.

True, they can have some hidden secrets like AM said.

hi. I'm kevin I'm a Scorpio male and I was so intrigued by this I read all five pages and registered on my itouch to post a short reply. Male scorpio are deep and insightfull in their own mind. I am seeing someone at the moment and the very fact that you can brand a person on their zodiac sign is ignorant and biased. I share some qualities of scorpios because I'm deep and emotional. But I get up every morning and tell my girl friend that i've been seeing for 11 months I love her. She is a Scorpio and I tell her I love her and I put my hrleart into it because it's true and I want her to know and I know she wants me to tell her.you can't brand people on a birthday that makes you ignorant and cuts down a selection a guys that could be perfect for you because of their character. If you base a generation of people off of a few experiences your biased and need to wake up and smell the coffee. Love is not a one way street you have to work for it because if youlike someone enough to love them: love is compromise