..to tell or not to tell.

scorpio friends, i have one question for you...

i've been on and off with this scorpio lady for almost a yr. we oended things twice. the first time, she run away because she got scared of how close we were getting, apparently and the second time, she got 'duistracted' w other people, while managing to string me along, which of course caused me to get out of it all and want to move on with my life. now i don't know how many people she was seeing or for how long that second time, i just told her recently that i just wished she would have been honest w me to which she said "i was, i am just secretive sometimes". she is quiet the sweet talker sometimes, but i also know deep inside she feels something very special for me.

anyway, we have reconnected since then even though i moved to a new city. i tried to say goodbye inspite of everything she had put me through and she would refuse...but once i left, she woudnt stop trying to contact me and reach me, until eventually i gave her a chance to be back in.

i am fully aware of her unpredictability and unreliability. so i am keeping myself at an arm-length. i am still the same honest person, but i am a bit guarded than before because of everything i went through with her.

she, othe the other hand, has been opening up a lot to me lately, has repeteadly apologized, saying she realized her mistakes and learned lessons...and does see a future with me. we are so far away now...and yet so close at times.

once thing we both agree upon is to stay very honest from here on, unlike when she was hiding things. i have tried to forgive and forget and move on, successfully, yet of course my guard is still a bit up...because of all this and other factors that would be hard for us to overcome. however, i do value her in my life. the sparks are still very vivid within me. i am not giving in fully, just beause i don't know if she is ready and/or if she will once again run away soon or get distracted again.

ths scorpio girl knows ive been in dates but knows that i am not in any serious relationship, which is so very true. the dilemma comes with the fact that now i have other girls here who really want to go out and an ex who wants to meet talk. but qu are these things i should share at these point? the scorpio girl may come to visit soon (or so she says) so i want us to grow in trust. i want to remain honest, but i dont want to lose her by making her upset. should i share any of these situations yet or not at all?

My response has zero to do with this girl being a scorpio.

The only way she would need to know something is if it came to a situation where you became serious with someone else, and had to explain why your relationship with the scorp girl had to change (explain to the scorp girl I mean).

You aren't in a relationship with her currently. You aren't in a relationship with anyone else currently. You are merely dating around right? If she asks about anything, you owe it to her/yourself to be honest. But I don't know that it's any of her business (given the history of how things went down between you) of what you are doing in your own time, unless she wants to be in a committed relationship with you.

deezie,

thank you so much. i needed some feedback. we aren't exclusive yet and who knows if we will. i wouldn't be close to that, i would have to think about it...feel where she is at very clearly, given everything we went through you know? but at the same time, i meant what i said about honesty. i want that from her and so i expect myself to do the same. so i think what you said is very true. if she asks, i will tell her. when she did (because she did ask not too long ago) i did tell her the truth, but as of today people came on saying things...and so i didn't know if she needed an update. but you know, people will say things/want thing...that doesn't mean anything is getting serious or that i will be in a serious relationship with anyone anytime soon. i was just so committed to that scorpio girl during the times we dated, that is almost automatic for me, to think that once we talk...i am back into keeping things out in the open, even situations of epople trying to be exclusive with me or trying to get back with me.

if she asks, i will tell her and if something becomes a big thing, i will too. in the meantime, i will just relax a little and enjoy the time i have with her...as we try to figure out what this might mean.

i had a connection with her since day one. if she would ever grow up a bit more emotionally...get over her fears and unpredicatability...to proove something to herself, we would be so perfect together...but that is her choice, i can only take care of my life. in the meantime, i will continue to secretly dream of us from time to time...while staying on the ground and moving on with all the wonderful things i now have in my life. i want her to reach me if i bring her happiness and if she feels this connection too...and perhaps if we both are willing to work towards something (as weve been doing so far) otherwise i will let go, as many times as it is needed, because with her i never feel at one level, i like her in many ways.

I think that's best. Focus on what you have, the current positive in your life. Let things with her progress as it is destined to do. Scorpios from what I've read, are notorious for having their own set timeline for things. And they'll be damned if someone else is going to dictate how something involving them goes.

You have a bit of an upper hand here I feel. Men seem to be better at getting on with life, and living in the present. I'd feel a lot more sympathy for you if you were a female waiting on a scorp male! lol.

Best of luck!! I hope you find what you seek!