Was this 'The Talk'? lol

We've been seeing each other for four months now. I've been trying to hold back on any pressure, not asked 'where are we up to?' or anything.

Last night he said he wanted a chat, he'd emailed me and deleted it in case I misconstrued it...

Anyway he said he was concerned because he feels I give 100% and he doesn't. (He has kids, he can't just drop everything and be with me every spare minute, nor would I want or expect him to!)

I asked if this was a problem, does he feel smothered? "No!" he said with a laugh, "That's exactly why I didn't email you! I knew you'd think I meant that and I don't! I love it when you text me, or email... It's just that I feel you give so much, and I can't always do that..."

So we talked some more. I haven't met his (young) kids yet and I respect his reasons why and agree with him. He and I have been on a short break, and are planning a week's holiday, which he's very excited about.

He ended the talk by saying, "I'm not going anywhere - you don't need to worry about that, I'm not going anywhere!"

I reported this to my daughter, who laughed and said, "Well - you've sort of had the Talk, haven't you!"

I suppose we have! I haven't done this for almost thirty years... I just wondered if this is how Scorpio guys do go about The Talk? I told him I really appreciated his emotional openness and that I know women can pressurise guys and make them feel like they're having their teeth pulled, so as long as we can check in occasionally, there's no need for soul-searching.

Any comments would be appreciated! 🙂

Thanks - his kids don't live with him, but he sees them as much as he can...

Yeah, I was sort of thinking that 'I'm not going anywhere' is the Scorp way of implying he may just be a tiny bit committed... 😉

^^ Just read your comments about Scorpio and Virgo being very similar when starting relationships. Absolutely agree. We are very, very similar - both so analytical and yet telling the other they are overanalysing! LOL Luckily we see the funny side. I wonder how many S/V couples call each other Holmes and Watson, bet there are hundreds! 🙂

Nice to hear a happy story for a change...

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Well you are inclinced to add, "So far..!" But then we have had drama behind us... And he said the other day that he didn't mean he wanted to finish last year when he said he Neede Space but he 'quite sees why I took it that way.' LOL

We are frighteningly well-suited IMHO. And fwiw I think we DID need space, I needed to go through a lot before I was ready to get to this place. And I think he did too. So good call, if not a pleasant one! 🙂