My Scorpio ex-boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, after we dated for 4 months. He had been devastated by a breakup in the past, and he was afraid of getting attached to someone new. Since the breakup he has called me twice a day, brought me presents, complimented me, confided in me, and never stopped treating me like I'm special or important. He acts like I can do no wrong in his eyes, and he freaks out if he think he's hurt me or upset me in some way. Lately I have felt like maybe he is starting to want to get back together again. Here are some signs:
- Asked me if I was dating anyone else. When I said no, he said he wasn't dating anyone either (I believe him, his medication messes with his libido) - Told me I was the most important thing in the world to him after a small argument we had - Told me I looked nice when we hung out last night - Calls me everyday to tell me about his day and ask me about mine - Said that he recently realized how important relationship are in life - Constantly worries about upsetting me and says things like, "I hate that I hurt you in the past, I never want to hurt you." - I'll catch him looking at me and smiling, he also seems really happy when I compliment him or give him affection (just hugs and stuff) - He acts jealous when I mention other guys, wants to hear nothing about them - Asked me to be the first person to read his novel when he finished it someday, he has never wanted anyone to read it
I feel like he and I are in a relationship without sex. I'm getting frustrated with this, because lately he's gotten more and more lovey dovey and affectionate, but he seems unwilling or afraid to open up about his feelings. What should I do? Should I start ignoring him? Or just talk to him less? Will that help him to realize how he feels, or will it just hurt him? I don't want to hurt him, but this is hard on me too. Should I show him *more* affection? I don't want to scare him off. Part of me think he is afraid his feelings won't be reciprocated, but the other part of me thinks that he's trying to convince himself that he doesn't have feelings at all. You might say go look for another guy, but I love this one, and I'm not giving up on this.
oh yeah,and dont ignore him after all the effort he's put in to show you he cares,as we all know how hard it is for scorpios to set aside their pride and show how they feel.i think hes showing it rather clear to you. be equally as affectionate and attentive,tell him how you feel.its going to take some time for him to open up but i think he just needs your reassurance.
The above post was in reference to TigerBallsZ up der. That was just rude. And girl, if you think that man is worth fighting for, don't ever give up. 🙂
Thanks for the advice everyone. I wonder if I am misreading him and he really just sees me as a friend. It's a weird situation and i don't understand it.
yeah hunny. i made the mistake of thinking i was "reading too much into it".. which was a BIG mistake. just kind of go with the flow, don't question what you guys think you are. if he starts talking to other females let him know that bothers you because you "thought you guys were together". do what you think you should do, listen to your heart. if its telling you to show affection, show affection.
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- Asked me if I was dating anyone else. When I said no, he said he wasn't dating anyone either (I believe him, his medication messes with his libido)
- Told me I was the most important thing in the world to him after a small argument we had
- Told me I looked nice when we hung out last night
- Calls me everyday to tell me about his day and ask me about mine
- Said that he recently realized how important relationship are in life
- Constantly worries about upsetting me and says things like, "I hate that I hurt you in the past, I never want to hurt you."
- I'll catch him looking at me and smiling, he also seems really happy when I compliment him or give him affection (just hugs and stuff)
- He acts jealous when I mention other guys, wants to hear nothing about them
- Asked me to be the first person to read his novel when he finished it someday, he has never wanted anyone to read it
I feel like he and I are in a relationship without sex. I'm getting frustrated with this, because lately he's gotten more and more lovey dovey and affectionate, but he seems unwilling or afraid to open up about his feelings. What should I do? Should I start ignoring him? Or just talk to him less? Will that help him to realize how he feels, or will it just hurt him? I don't want to hurt him, but this is hard on me too. Should I show him *more* affection? I don't want to scare him off. Part of me think he is afraid his feelings won't be reciprocated, but the other part of me thinks that he's trying to convince himself that he doesn't have feelings at all. You might say go look for another guy, but I love this one, and I'm not giving up on this.