Would this make you...

Extremely cautious/aloof/distant?

If your Sun/Moon/Mars were all Fixed signs.

Hi! New on here and was wondering if there are any Scorpio men here that would offer me their insights on my current situation.

Sun - Scorpio, Moon - Aqua, Mars - Leo, Venus - Scorpio.

Would you be extremely distant and emotionally detached with a new interest? Although Leos are typically aggressive and expressive when going after something they want, I hear Aquas are super detached emotionally and like to maintain their freedom. Combine that with a Scorpio Sun, double whammy??

It's just I am interested in a man with these placement and when we met, we had an instant connection, it was very magnetic. I have a reason to believe that we were supposed to meet (not to bore you with details of how we happened to meet but it was sort of a fated/serendipity like circumstances). However, I am not sure if he is really interested in having something serious with me as his communication has not been as straight forward as I would like or typically see with men who are interested in a woman. Would appreciate your input.

Ladies, if you've had experience with a Scorpio man with these placement, I would appreciate your insight just as much. Thank you!

Thank you, Impulsv. I am pretty much just like you when it comes to knowing. Maybe because I also have Venus in Scorpio. And I think because you have Taurus as your Moon, although it's Fixed, it makes you very grounded and prone to committing. Again, my moon in in Earth sign.

Maybe I should be wording my question differently - Would a Scorpio act/feel some sort of a contradiction of emotions having an air Moon sign? I know Scorps are very deep and crave emotional bond but isn't Aqua totally the opposite? Would it create some sort of an inner struggle in someone who likes another person? Like they want to move forward and seek that emotional connection, yet the desire for being emotionally detached and keeping their freedom would not let them move forward?

And if so, would they welcome a woman showing them her interest or even initiating communication/making it be known that she is interested in something more than a superficial and casual type of relationship?

I was recently involved with a Scorpio guy who had his moon in Libra. While he expressed some interest in getting to know me personally, he seemed to have difficulty communicating his emotions and was quick to detach if I expressed mine too candidly. He seemed to prefer superficiality because it made him feel less responsible and less vulnerable. He was also not as possessive as other Scorpios that I have befriended and been intimate with, so I assumed that he was disinterested, which he insisted wasn't the case when I confronted him.

Having a moon in Libra is different from having a moon in Aquarius but, since Libra and Aquarius are fellow air signs, emotional detachment makes both of them more comfortable. This detachment probably conflicts with the intense emotions that Scorpio suns harbor. Scorpios with an air sign moon probably struggle with understanding their emotions, which might not seem as important if their moon is ruled by an air sign. They might be less likely to create an emotional bond if it will restrict or infringe upon their freedom, too.

Thanks for your comment, Spirited. interestingly, we are sharing the same Sun and ASC, so I am curious to hear how you handled the situation with your Scorpio. Did you let him pursue your from the very beginning or did you also express your interest in him and/or initiated contact/offered to see each other?

Although I realize that each person acts subjectively and their behavior depends on many factors, I think there are some general traits that each sign carries and that are true to people. Libras are probably much friendlier and easy-going than Aquas, although I don't have any experience with either sign in terms of dating.

Because I have Venus in Scorpio, I tend to zoom in on a person of interest, lol. So his lack of contacting me, which I personally equate to a sign that a person is interested in me, doesn't sit well with me. Being Venus in Scorp, I have become pretty fixated on the connection that I felt when we first met and the intensity of the feeling that was vibrating between us. I am dying inside because I so want this man to come at me at full force but I can't let him know this as I understand it would be most likely taken as "too much intensity" - that's what typically happens with me when I meet someone and BAM, I like that person, which happens very rarely but when it does, it's like I get hit by a train, lol...anyway, sorry for rambling, hope to get more insights from all of you guys on here.

Posted by GetMisted
Look more towards the big three:

Moon Opp Mars
Moon Sq Venus
Venus Sq Mars

Lot's of stuff going on there, pulling him in every direction.

I'm Sun Scorp, Moon Leo, Mars Aqua, and Venus Scorp.

I think most who know me would say I seem rather distracted/aloof more ofter than not.. And it's damn near impossible to keep in touch with me.

Thank you, GetMisted. I will read up more on those aspects.

Would you like it if a woman approach you or what that make your run the other way? I know your Mars is Aqua, so that probably makes you act a bit of "whatever, go with the flow" and his is Leo, but still...I am just trying to figure out if I should let him come to me and initiate contact and make plans with me. Or is him being a Scorp makes him unsure, passive or cautious about going full force after a new interest?

You're most welcome, ViS! I handled my situation as best I could, but it didn't end up working out in my favor. ;P

My Scorpio pursued me from the beginning and initiated contact, but I made the plans when we talked. Often, he would spend a night with me or I would spend a night with him, and we never had sex, but we talked, cuddled, and misbehaved. When I went to kiss him after the first couple nights, he pulled away, scampered off, and sent me a text saying, "I'm not rejecting you. But I don't kiss girls unless I'm dating them. And I do not want a relationship right now."

I said, "Fair enough."

Our arrangement made me happy for the first half a year. However, I became rather fond of my Scorpio, entrusted him with my private thoughts and feelings, and he started kissing me. I was pleasantly surprised at first, then confused about what he wanted because he made it clear that he did not want a relationship. Period. I decided that I wanted to date him. With his change in behavior, I wondered if he wanted a relationship, and this is where I blundered.

After a month of getting mixed signals from my Scorpio, I asked what he wanted. I explained that, if we were going to continue our 'thing,' we needed to make a few changes. Either the romantic gestures needed to be dialed back, unless of course he was interested in being my boyfriend, or it needed to stop altogether because I was convinced that I wanted him in a way that he did not want me. I wanted to be more than friends, but not friends with benefits.

He was surprised. He said, "We are more than friends. Of course I like you as more than just a friend. But I don't like you like a girlfriend."

This confused me. I have Venus in Leo, so my affections are straightforward. Either I desire you and want all of you, or I don't. Since I didn't understand my Scorpio, I assumed that he no longer desired me, so we talked about it. The conversation was not fruitful, so I told him that I needed my space to think and took my leave. When I thought about our situation, I realized that I could still be happy with our 'thing' as long as we continued to talk, cuddle, and misbehave. Maybe his way of desiring me was different from my way of desiring him. Due to our personal circumstances, we would only be in the same area for the next month, so I thought we ought to make the best of our remaining time.

I contacted him not too long after our conversation, and he poked his head out of his shell. We discussed

I contacted him not too long after our conversation, and he poked his head out of his shell. We discussed the situation again. I told him that I wanted our 'thing' as long as he would affirm that he desired me by telling me that he did. Although he agreed, he became less demonstrative, less willing to cuddle throughout the night or in the mornings, probably because he felt less 'free.' When I would comment that he seemed distant, he blamed his distance on minor health problems that had never inhibited his affections before.

Despite my efforts to be more playful, introducing new games and activities, indulging him in my lighthearted affections, he remained detached. On our last night together, he was considerably less talkative and more withdrawn, refused to play with me. I asked if he was all right, and he claimed that he had a terrible headache. So, I inquired if he wanted anything, and he mumbled that he wanted me to stay. Then, he rolled over. While I understood that he did not feel well, I didn't want to spend the night if he was going to wake up grumpy and emotionally unresponsive. Besides, if he felt unwell, I thought he might want his space. After waiting for an hour, until I knew he was asleep, I slipped out of bed. When I returned to my place, I messaged him to let him know where I had gone.

He received the message at noon the next day and was not happy about it.

I explained that there was no point in me spending the night and added, with a dash of unappreciated sarcasm, that he probably would have rolled over and ignored me anyway. When he loudly protested it, I knew that jab had stung. To avoid being more destructive, I trotted away and limited our conversations for the next couple days. When I ran into him later that week in person, however, he looked more bothered than I had anticipated. He gave me a painful look, which my friend had noticed. Concerned, I reached out to him once more. I sent him a message, asking him if he was okay, and we talked for hours about how he was convinced that I didn't trust him anymore.

We went around in circles until his temper started to slip and I hurled a barb at him. Then, he he cut off communication with me.

We have not exchanged a word since that night.

Occasionally, I sulk about losing him. Other than our difficulties communicating, he was pretty good company; I liked being around him. But I did not like his mixed signals. Why would he start kissing me if he only kissed girls he wanted to date? Was I not "datable?" I did not want to feel undesirable. Had we been in a relationship, I would not have required spoken affirmation of his feelings. I suspect that particular requirement might have been our undoing because, for me to feel secure, he felt restricted. Neither one of us would have felt fulfilled, though, so mostly I'm glad that the 'thing' we had came to a close.

I hope this helps!

Thanks for sharing your story, Spirited. Wow, you've got some patience! I wouldn't be able to be in the "limbo" with someone I am into for 6 months! Sounds like the guy had some emotional issues and was apprehensive about giving a relationship with you a try. But I think you being upfront about what you wanted was much better than just sitting there and hoping for things to develop overtime. Obviously, he was not ready, whatever the reasons were. And yes, it does sound like mixed signals!

Posted by GetMisted
I'm very much a "go with the flow" type of guy, but don't misinterpret that as a lack of passion.

I'm heavy water/fire (Scorp/Leo). I don't take things lightly. I have an all in or not at all mentality.

Again.. Don't focus on just one planet position being the sole cause for behavior. He has a combination of aspects that are not easily dealt with, especially given that they are all fixed.

My advice is to approach him. I myself prefer a strong woman with confidence to go after what she wants. If he doesn't show interest, or that interest deters once the connection has been made.. You should have your answer.

Thanks, GetMisted. I think I will give him a day or two to reach out and if he hasn't, I will. The reason why I asked about approaching someone who is a Scorpio, is because I've heard/read a lot that if a Scorp likes someone, they would know. But then there are those who say that Scorps are cautious and therefore like moving slowly and if someone tries to rush things with them, they become suspicious and may jump into conclusions and pass all kinds of judgment as to what is a real motive behind a person's behavior/impatience...Confusing? You bet! At least, for me, lol.

So I guess I am like lots of others who you see come to this board asking for advice because this tendency of a Scorpio when it comes to romantic relationships makes other people who abide by a healthy "I like you, let's move this forward" attitude beyond confused and frustrated.

It's like this - some say - I like confident women who know what they want and go for it and let him know that they are interested in me, and then I have a green light to proceed, which to me sounds a bit like a masculine energy on a woman's part. Then others mention something like - be patient, let him go at his own pace, be feminine...or be mysterious - and who knows what that even means in a Scorpio world 😉 So it's no surprise that when a woman meets a man of this sign, she is starting to work herself up with all kinds of questions and doubts as to whether or not he likes her.