Would you move on if you were me?

Hello all.... I need some much needed advice from a strangers perspective; I got involved with a Scorpio man last year, things were fantastic the first 3 months of our relationship. We both opened up to each other quickly, the chemistry was out of this world. The 4th month came rolling around and insecurities from my past were getting in the way of me being able to communicate appropriately, and vice verse. Both of us had some serious unresolved issues, so we broke up for a little while, continued everything that we had done prior, hanging out, having sex, just without the label. We got back together in June, he was the one who initiated the union, things were good, until our issues crept back up, especially mine. He tried to save me, but I was having a complete break down.

He was having a break down himself, but focused only on me. The night we mutually made an agreement to break up again, which was in August, we ended up having sex a couple of hours later and from there it went down hill. He totally iced me out, barely talk to me, I did not understand it. I did something that caused him to unfriend me on FB. He went from barely talking to me, to complete silence. I went into therapy, and got the help that I needed. Once I started to feel a little better, I tried reaching out, no contact. Now we come to our latest, I had for the most part stop contacting him as much as I did before. I would send an e-mail every week, now it is just once a month. I even put myself back out on the dating scene. Things were fine until I was a high possible match with him on this dating sight, I became so pissed, that he had moved on without so much as giving me and explanation. I wanted answers, so I had one of my friends create a fake profile, in the midst of that conversation he spewed nothing but lies. I e-mailed him confronting him, and he gave me this explanation as to how he was not ready, how his ex's in the past would be capable of something like that, but he expected more from me. How he never hits anything, when he is mad, but how he became so angry, he cried, cursed and punched a wall.


Then at the end of the e-mail he states give me one good reason I should give you another chance, and if you don't then I will be the one to say goodbye because you pushed me that far. I wasn't ready before but now I am. I asked him to end it all, he still follows me on twitter and knows it. So I point blank told him, un-follow me to make this official. If you want nothing to do with me, then do it. I wrote him back,telling him how sorry I was that I have just been really hurt over the entire thing, I just wanted answers. He has still not responded and is still following me. I thought Scorpios were suppose to be cut throat. Crazy as it is, I'm still in love with him, before everything went bad it was really good.

Okay.... so it has been established that I need to move on; as far as fixing myself before I get into another relationship, there is nothing wrong with me, I am big enough to admit that yes I made some mistakes. Had he been anyone else, I would have closed the door on his ass a long time ago, and not think twice about it. I was foolish and desperate when it came to him, it is fair to say that he was the first man I ever really fell in love with. He shared in my sentiments at one point too, but between the both of us and our problems, it just amplified 10 fold. I don't ever want to go through this kind of hurt again. I admit that I need to move on, and heal before I bring someone new into the picture. That is only fair, but rest assured, he's going to leave that mark on me. I hear first loves always do, I never wanted to fall in love with anyone, and now that it has happened, it was nice for the most part. Would I love nothing more than to close the door on his face in order to get my revenge, sure, but the way he is acting right now. I highly doubt that I will get that chance. I just don't understand why he can't simply un-follow me? It's not that hard, but yet he sticks around. Why is that?

Move on

Sigh I'm sorry to say but you don't sound stable. You need to be stable and healthy to have a happy, successful relationship. It doesn't seem like you have a choice BUT to move on, as he has made it quite clear he is uninterested. Take a hint and stop using men to dictate the level of your self-worth and self esteem. It only reflects poorly on you because ultimately no one is going to want to stay with someone that does not have any value for themselves, and you show little value when you allow yourself to be desperate and needy.

Posted by marie85
but between the both of us and our problems, it just amplified 10 fold.

Seems like you found yourself in a co-dependent relationship, which is an indication that both of you have problems. I'm sorry that reads harsh I know, but if you have a history of going to therapy, coupled with a co-dependent relationship, it is a reflection about you and what you are attracting into your life. There's something toxic here and you have to find it and rid yourself of it (externally and internally).


As for the unfollow, be mature about this. You can't dictate someone else's actions. And you can't always have things your way. Learn to accept the things you cannot control.

If this man wants to continue to follow you, he can (and don't go overthinking it, thinking it means he still wants you). Many people, especially men, feel it's unnecessary drama and immature to just go deleting and unfollowing people simply because things have not worked out. I rarely delete people off of social media...maybe their numbers but rarely delete or unfollow online.

Seeing an ex's status update and photos does not keep you attached, it's the unwillingness to let go of the past, that keeps you attached.

Thank you for being honest with me, the hard truth, and a lot of what you guys are saying is right. I'm still in therapy, I have my good days and I have my bad days. The truth is not always easy to hear, coming from strangers it makes it tolerable because all of you are outsiders, I can't believe that I actually let myself get caught up in a man that never really deserved me to begin with. I do need to love myself first, before I can move on to something better and equal.

Posted by marie85
Hello all.... I need some much needed advice from a strangers perspective; I got involved with a Scorpio man last year, things were fantastic the first 3 months of our relationship. We both opened up to each other quickly, the chemistry was out of this world. The 4th month came rolling around and insecurities from my past were getting in the way of me being able to communicate appropriately, and vice verse. Both of us had some serious unresolved issues, so we broke up for a little while, continued everything that we had done prior, hanging out, having sex, just without the label. We got back together in June, he was the one who initiated the union, things were good, until our issues crept back up, especially mine. He tried to save me, but I was having a complete break down.

He was having a break down himself, but focused only on me. The night we mutually made an agreement to break up again, which was in August, we ended up having sex a couple of hours later and from there it went down hill. He totally iced me out, barely talk to me, I did not understand it. I did something that caused him to unfriend me on FB. He went from barely talking to me, to complete silence. I went into therapy, and got the help that I needed. Once I started to feel a little better, I tried reaching out, no contact. Now we come to our latest, I had for the most part stop contacting him as much as I did before. I would send an e-mail every week, now it is just once a month. I even put myself back out on the dating scene. Things were fine until I was a high possible match with him on this dating sight, I became so pissed, that he had moved on without so much as giving me and explanation. I wanted answers, so I had one of my friends create a fake profile, in the midst of that conversation he spewed nothing but lies. I e-mailed him confronting him, and he gave me this explanation as to how he was not ready, how his ex's in the past would be capable of something like that, but he expected more from me. How he never hits anything, when he is mad, but how he became so angry, he cried, cursed and punched a wall.


Then at the end of the e-mail he states give me one good reason I should give you another chance, and if you don't then I will be the one to say goodbye because you pushed me that far. I wasn't ready before but now I am. I asked him to end it all, he still follows me on twitter and knows it. So I point blank told him, un-follow me to make this official. If you want nothing to do with me, then do it. I wrote him back,telling him how sorry I was that I have just been really hurt over the entire thing, I just wanted answers. He has still not responded and is still following me. I thought Scorpios were suppose to be cut throat. Crazy as it is, I'm still in love with him, before everything went bad it was really good.

Sounds like you're

Posted by marie85
Hello all.... I need some much needed advice from a strangers perspective; I got involved with a Scorpio man last year, things were fantastic the first 3 months of our relationship. We both opened up to each other quickly, the chemistry was out of this world. The 4th month came rolling around and insecurities from my past were getting in the way of me being able to communicate appropriately, and vice verse. Both of us had some serious unresolved issues, so we broke up for a little while, continued everything that we had done prior, hanging out, having sex, just without the label. We got back together in June, he was the one who initiated the union, things were good, until our issues crept back up, especially mine. He tried to save me, but I was having a complete break down.

He was having a break down himself, but focused only on me. The night we mutually made an agreement to break up again, which was in August, we ended up having sex a couple of hours later and from there it went down hill. He totally iced me out, barely talk to me, I did not understand it. I did something that caused him to unfriend me on FB. He went from barely talking to me, to complete silence. I went into therapy, and got the help that I needed. Once I started to feel a little better, I tried reaching out, no contact. Now we come to our latest, I had for the most part stop contacting him as much as I did before. I would send an e-mail every week, now it is just once a month. I even put myself back out on the dating scene. Things were fine until I was a high possible match with him on this dating sight, I became so pissed, that he had moved on without so much as giving me and explanation. I wanted answers, so I had one of my friends create a fake profile, in the midst of that conversation he spewed nothing but lies. I e-mailed him confronting him, and he gave me this explanation as to how he was not ready, how his ex's in the past would be capable of something like that, but he expected more from me. How he never hits anything, when he is mad, but how he became so angry, he cried, cursed and punched a wall.


Then at the end of the e-mail he states give me one good reason I should give you another chance, and if you don't then I will be the one to say goodbye because you pushed me that far. I wasn't ready before but now I am. I asked him to end it all, he still follows me on twitter and knows it. So I point blank told him, un-follow me to make this official. If you want nothing to do with me, then do it. I wrote him back,telling him how sorry I was that I have just been really hurt over the entire thing, I just wanted answers. He has still not responded and is still following me. I thought Scorpios were suppose to be cut throat. Crazy as it is, I'm still in love with him, before everything went bad it was really good.

Sounds like you're

Unfollow you on Twitter to make it official...

Seriously...