a Taurus said 'you're too good'??

The context: I met that Taurus guy during the summer, we were chatting like two birds and he never showed interest to other girls around. (Those girls got really pissed at me). He once talked about sex but was very subtle. It was impossible not to feel attracted to him. Then he got pissed at smt and his anger was devastating. He said things that really hurt me. I didn't talk to him for some time. Then I went to him and said that I had not been talking to him bcs what he said earlier -while he was angry- had hurt me really bad. He looked at me like he couldnt believe his eyes and told me 'you're too good to me. One cannot be so good'.
What did he mean in your opinion? 🙂)

C'mon cutiebullie. tell us! 🙂

BelovedAssata thanks a lot for your helpful comment. But he didnt say he was too good for me. He rather said to me: "you are too good for me. One is not normally so good to another one" (sorry for the poor transl.)
🙂

hey no problem Beloved 🙂 i moved on then

^ messed up, need edit..

Posted by LovelyMissAries
What's even there to overanalyze? He got mad, you left, you came back and he's appreciative of it hence saying "You're too good to me." It's his acknowledgment he knows he was rude and he's grateful you're forgiving him.

This^.... He sounds humbled by the fact that you forgave him and came back.. Bet I'd prb say something similar in his spot...


That said.. Him losing his cool and saying hurtful to a woman in anger in the first place... not cool... no dice...

*clucking tongue* No post hiding TaurGuy, not allowed. Queens decree. 😛

LOL So he posts again. That's GREAT. Whoop whoop!

Thanks guys. Taurus Guy you're right. He had anger management issues. I thought many taurus men had the same issue? maybe not

"I thought many taurus men had the same issue?"

Nope... or at least the ones I know, and myself.. are VERY hard to get pissed(Outside of doing wrong to their fam or friends)

I'd love to end up like my dad in that sense.. Saw that man pissed 5 or less times in my whole life..(Trust me, I gave him more then enough reasons as a kid lol)

Almost anything that can be solved through emotional out bursts, can be solved better with a calm and clear head..


Never ok/helpful to lose your head.. especially when doing so will cause you to hurt others...




This is at least what this Taurus believes..

u r lucky then. as you can control your anger. I think the capri girl who slept with u in the first date and then left you did it bcs she must have thoought that you would never get serious abt her. although you were. must have thought she made a mistake by sleeping with u at 1st date (being easy) and she paid 'the price' by leaving you imo.

Posted by cutiebullie
well........the taurus people i knew were all arrogant and have attitude problems!!! oh and have anger issues too!!! ewww

100 per cent agreed. if they are rejected they try to hurt you by asking your bff out!

Posted by borderlinecapri
u r lucky then. as you can control your anger. I think the capri girl who slept with u in the first date and then left you did it bcs she must have thoought that you would never get serious abt her. although you were. must have thought she made a mistake by sleeping with u at 1st date (being easy) and she paid 'the price' by leaving you imo.

well thanks.. and I don't know if you read the whole thread.. but it wasn't one date then she left... this was over a span of 3-4 months of dating.. At the end I told her that I was starting to care about her, and thats when she bounced.. Another thread I had on here ("gotta love life" i think) talk'ed about her, 8-9 months later showing back up and wanting to hang out before she moved(Graduated).. I never posted it on here but we did hang out.. and it started out with us both pretty on guard from the other, since I know I still had feelings for her and I think she still did for me... As the night wore on thou (when't to play pool) without a rational thought about it, both are guards fell, pretty quick to... To the point that it was like 8/9 months of not talking have never happed.. embracing each other, kissing(She kissed me first), talking about things I would never tell other people. just so natural it felt.. And I'm guessing it she felt the same, as many time in that night she'd say things like "I don't know why I'm telling you this"(private things) or "I don't know what it is but I really feel comfortable letting you see my vulnerabilities".. The conversion got kinda heavy at one point, we started talking about why things happed the way they did between us.. She said that lately she had been self sabotaging when she started to care about someone..If that means she was starting to care about me I don't know.. But she said thats what happed.. At the end of the night I told her that I'd like to see her more, she said she'd really like to see me more too... She said she was thing about coming back here for grad school, but till then she said anytime I'm in the big city (4hr drive) to look her up.. I said if thats what she wants I could find myself over there quite often.. She said she'd really like that.. As great as it all sounds... since that night shes barely given me the time of day when I try to set something up to get together, or just say hey...

Now I don't know whats going on with her, but from my view thats not really a cool thing to do to a person. Then again, I'm a lay it on the table kinda guy.. I'm just trying to put it all out of my head.... Again.. LoL

Posted by TaurGuy
Now I don't know whats going on with her, but from my view thats not really a cool thing to do to a person. Then again, I'm a lay it on the table kinda guy.. I'm just trying to put it all out of my head.... Again.. LoL

I think there is a soulmate potential here. If you really see her as lifetime partner, just chase her until she gives in. Do not take her hot/cold startegie personal. Think that there is a wall between you and although she hates that wall she can do nothing about it. Just try to pass to the other side, be stubborn and patient with her. I m sure youll get her at the end and its worth the effort. Best of luck!

Posted by cutiebullie
"If you really see her as lifetime partner, just chase her until she gives in. Think that there is a wall between you and although she hates that wall she can do nothing about it. Just try to pass to the other side, be stubborn and patient with her. I m sure youll get her at the end and its worth the effort."


YES, YES AND YES. As a woman, she's definitely NOT gonna chase a ***** guy who doesn't know where this is going to lead........UNFORTUNATELY, that's how these men think too.... that they're not gonna chase a woman not knowing where it's gonna lead...... BECAUSE they're freakin' messed up!!!!!! 😛

I know cutibullie!how sad though.. 10 years ago I met a Taurus just like this. He never had the stamina to chase me up. after all those years i heard he did not still find the one.

they are way too slow. One of them was seeing me more than a year and was still keeping everything to himself. I of course started to see him as a friend rather than a potential LTR. He decided to tell me when I told him I fell desperately in love with someone else. So, this might be a strategy with Taurus. telling him at one point that you are starting to like someone else. This might accelerate their opening up perhaps..

Posted by cutiebullie
He decided to tell me when I told him I fell desperately in love with someone else. So, this might be a strategy with Taurus. telling him at one point that you are starting to like someone else. This might accelerate their opening up perhaps..


-- what's the point, girlie to say these things? to make him feel jealous? what for? if you will tell him you are starting to like someone else, then you will not end up together right because you are liking someone else and not him? even if he profess his feelings after you say these.

this is just plain game playing (both you and him) if you ever try this "strategy"

I agree. I hate games too. I guess ther is no hope at all with a taurus then Lol

Posted by TaurGuy
Now I don't know whats going on with her, but from my view thats not really a cool thing to do to a person. Then again, I'm a lay it on the table kinda guy.. I'm just trying to put it all out of my head.... Again.. LoL

Women secretly want a man that will fight until the end. Fight back off and then fight to show your love and you judge her not and then back off. I'd say do that or just be a loving friend while dating others until she has enough courage to give you a chance or until you've found another person that is ready to be where you are: in a healthy relationship.

Posted by borderlinecapri


I think there is a soulmate potential here. If you really see her as lifetime partner, just chase her until she gives in. Do not take her hot/cold startegie personal. Think that there is a wall between you and although she hates that wall she can do nothing about it. Just try to pass to the other side, be stubborn and patient with her. I m sure youll get her at the end and its worth the effort. Best of luck!

Thanks for the optimism... I've never found a woman that fits me like a glove like this before.. But I am aware that thats just my side of the coin, and as much as I feel I fit her really well to.. Thats obviously her call...

"just chase her until she gives in." I have absolutely no problem with that...

Posted by cutiebullie

YES, YES AND YES. As a woman, she's definitely NOT gonna chase a ***** guy who doesn't know where this is going to lead........UNFORTUNATELY, that's how these men think too.... that they're not gonna chase a woman not knowing where it's gonna lead...... BECAUSE they're freakin' messed up!!!!!! 😛

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Maybe I'm the odd one out in your vast male Taurus experience... But this Taurus is just as old fashion as a Cappy, and yes, the man's place is to be the aggressor.. Of course I have no idea where its going to lead as there are two minds at work here, and who knows maybe along the way something gets uncovered that kills it.. Again maybe odd one out... but not knowing where it will lead has absolutely nothing to do with if I would go after it... If I waited for everything in life to be a sure thing... Think of everything I'd miss out on.. Heres one of my favorite quotes..

"In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn't fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you have to recognize it, stand up, and put in the time and work it takes to get to it."

Posted by borderlinecapri

I know cutibullie!how sad though.. 10 years ago I met a Taurus just like this. He never had the stamina to chase me up. after all those years i heard he did not still find the one.

As a Taurus I absolutely have value for putting work into something.. I fully believe that anything good in life will take work to get there... So I have no problem giving chase, and having the stamina to do so till the end.. What I fear is that once I lower my head for the charge, Once I dig my heels in from determination. That I'll start to sacrifice the capacity to pick up on cues that I might be kicking a dead horse.. I would start to lose that balance in perspective....

Posted by borderlinecapri
they are way too slow. One of them was seeing me more than a year and was still keeping everything to himself. I of course started to see him as a friend rather than a potential LTR. He decided to tell me when I told him I fell desperately in love with someone else. So, this might be a strategy with Taurus. telling him at one point that you are starting to like someone else. This might accelerate their opening up perhaps..

Posted by cutiebullie
hmm i'm not sure if it's a strategy though. in my case, we also started out as good friends but ended up nothing. everything i told him (especially when it comes to my real feelings and opinions) that are totally against his opinions and what he wanted - he take it against him - and sees it as an ultimatum that will only backfire on you - why? - because of his freakin' ISHtupidity

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Again this Taurus being the odd one out I guess.. But at no point was I surrounded by smoke and mirrors about how I felt about her, or what I wanted out of it... To the point that I outright told her that I was starting to care a lot about her.. And even in the most recent meeting that I outright told her 'I want you' (not in a sexual way, and that was clear) I know very much what I want, and I told her that....

Posted by dayssunny
Women secretly want a man that will fight until the end. Fight back off and then fight to show your love and you judge her not and then back off.

Thank you.. I was already kinda having this though... this is probably a good path for me as it still somewhat fits the previous advice that I got from the other Cappy lady's on my first thread.. Which was giving her space, among other things.. They had some really valid points that are still ringing clear in my thoughts... But your advice also still fills my need to peruse what I feel is a one in a mil girl, and avoids the 'do nothing, get nothing' outcome that I would assume would come from just waiting....

Well you are really mature though. I hope you take cutebullie and my advice keep fighting for her. Women love that.

Posted by TaurGuy

Posted by dayssunny
Women secretly want a man that will fight until the end. Fight back off and then fight to show your love and you judge her not and then back off.

Thank you.. I was already kinda having this though... this is probably a good path for me as it still somewhat fits the previous advice that I got from the other Cappy lady's on my first thread.. Which was giving her space, among other things.. They had some really valid points that are still ringing clear in my thoughts... But your advice also still fills my need to peruse what I feel is a one in a mil girl, and avoids the 'do nothing, get nothing' outcome that I would assume would come from just waiting....

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I promise you women don't want to say this but they secretly love for a man to fight for them it shows that they are worth fighting for especially if she already has self esteem issues. Also think positive, pray or use positive light whatever it is to focus on the outcome. I think that since you two got deep enough then it's worth it. Keep fighting keep charging. You are welcome. You seem so mature

And then again one can only try so long before you have to hang up your jock. Sometimes you can try and try and try again but if one side is working and the other is not. Takes two to tango ladies. We as women need to work on reciprocating interest and setting aside games. Be honest and say how we feel. What are men, flipping mind readers? They're not, we're not, and unless something is made crystal clear, who's gonna know? "He should know these things"..erm, no he does not. He can guess, he can wonder, but does he really know that you wanted the set with the red mums and not the yellow unless you open up and say so? Nope. You can doodle his name mentally on as many glittered notebooks as you like, but will he know unless you say "Look, I'd like to be with you, YOU."? And feel free to flip this around for men as well with us. A man should yell this shit from the tallest mountain, but if he does and it falls on deaf ears, where does it go exactly?
And in all honesty I freaking adore it when a man barrels full steam ahead and takes the initiative, but offer up your time, your thoughts and leave the mystery BS in books where it belongs.
*clink clink*, my 2 cents in the piggy bank. Leave it there, it'll collect interest over time. As all Bulls know.

Posted by venusianbull
And then again one can only try so long before you have to hang up your jock. Sometimes you can try and try and try again but if one side is working and the other is not. Takes two to tango ladies. We as women need to work on reciprocating interest and setting aside games. Be honest and say how we feel. What are men, flipping mind readers? They're not, we're not, and unless something is made crystal clear, who's gonna know? "He should know these things"..erm, no he does not. He can guess, he can wonder, but does he really know that you wanted the set with the red mums and not the yellow unless you open up and say so? Nope. You can doodle his name mentally on as many glittered notebooks as you like, but will he know unless you say "Look, I'd like to be with you, YOU."? And feel free to flip this around for men as well with us. A man should yell this shit from the tallest mountain, but if he does and it falls on deaf ears, where does it go exactly?
And in all honesty I freaking adore it when a man barrels full steam ahead and takes the initiative, but offer up your time, your thoughts and leave the mystery BS in books where it belongs.
*clink clink*, my 2 cents in the piggy bank. Leave it there, it'll collect interest over time. As all Bulls know.

Yes Venusianbull it might be the ideal but men always cheat in the game. I mean, if things go sour, men tend to blame the party which had started the relationship. I always had that conversation at the end: "Do not cry. You wanted this relationship as much as I did. So, if you're hurt, it's not my fault." So, ladies who take the lead should be prepared to take the fall by themselves. Sorry but I am being realistic here.

As am I, because a lot of the times women do not take a chance. How many moments of happiness must be sacrificed, how much joy, how many damned good men are not in relationship for the same reason we are not. Fear. Fear of what? Heartbreak? Disappointment, figuring out someone is a human being and not some lofty creature on Olympus shitting gold bullion instead of actual waste? I do not believe all men do this, I firmly believe there are men in this world who ache for a good human being in their life as surely as we as women do.
Yes we take risk and chance doing so. But even if things go to hell in a hand basket the heart heals. And what if one is fully prepared to take that fall, for doing what you feel is good and right. Even if it's a spectacular failure a la Hindenburg at least you TRIED. No wondering, no what ifs, no regrets. Heartbreak as love is part of life itself. If you insulate yourself against one, you insulate yourself against the other. And life is short and unkind. There is much to be had of it.
And no need for apology madam, you are speaking your mind here.