Need Advice for Martial Bliss w/ my Taurus Man

The countdown has begun. New Year's Eve is our wedding date. What I need to know is well, what I should know to make you Taurus lovelies happy in the long run. The do's/don'ts, give it to me straight. I know some of you have been married before so what went wrong? And in retrospect, what was really important for you in a mate?

Eagerly awaiting your replies. 😄

DO...keep communication open.
DO...make love as often as possible.
DO..give appreciative strokes, pats, and touch. Even if you can't ( being realistic here, can't spend all day in the bedroom..life gets in the way at times ) take it to another room it says "I am here, and I love you."
DO..claim ownership
DO..let those eyes light up with pride and love when you look at him
DO..snuggle in deep for arms around you
DO..listen when he's had a rough arsed day, and let him sleep if he needs too, hell go to bed with him ( hmm, seems to be a theme here..ah well, I'm a Bull.. )
DO..be supportive
DO...cook ( and even if you can't..big deal, I love to teach someone how )
DO...surprise him with something he loves to eat, if he likes flowers and romantic gestures, go with those too..just for the hell of it.
DO..let him have man time. With his buds, without his buds puttering around outside, in the garage, etc.
DO..give over trust
DO...be faithful
DO..have his back
DO...love him warts and all
DO..make him laugh
DO...sing for him, even badly..refer to laughing
DO...deliver dirty jokes
DO send him filthy texts at work, layering intensity for later
DO tell him in exacting detail what you will do to him sexually
DO be kind
DO be understanding

And most importantly, just be YOU. The woman he fell for, and let him fall over and over again.
DO keep bitching, whining, etc to a mininum..aka 'DRAMA'
DO pamper him when he's sick

And...because typos drive me absolutely insane, that should have read like this:


DO keep bitching, whining, etc to a mininum..aka 'DRAMA'
DO pamper him when he's sick

And most importantly, just be YOU. The woman he fell for, and let him fall over and over again.
🙂

And CONGRATULATIONS! —

You know, I've been giving this a lot of thought. And bear with me, it might be lengthy. What would make me happy, down to the ground happy. Here we go.
Someone that understands me, and loves me yet. Someone who finds me lovely in their eyes, because I don't care about what anyone else thinks in that regard. That knows I'm faithful, knows I'm kind and warm. That even when they cannot wrap me in their arms will tell me that they want too.
Finds me desirable. Tells me that, with no restraint. Even if it makes me blush. Is not afraid to give over themselves for me to keep safe, because I will. Makes me laugh, feel safe, protected. Wants to get to know me, the real me. All my faults, quirks. What makes me feel good, what the keys are that make me feel not so good. And does not use my weakness as weapon. Has the strength to push past all my feelings of inadequacy, rejection, past my fear of abandonment to let me know. And truly KNOW I am theirs. That I am held above all others. Friends are friends, but I am the lady at their side. Laughs AT and WITH me, has a thick enough hide to deflect my sarcasm and can be easy understanding that no matter if there is an argument, that I am still there kicking ass and taking names.
Is proud of me. Of what I do, of what I stand for. Is not threatened by the fact I'm intelligent. Knows that I am just as comfortable dressed to the nines but prefer sweats or jeans.
Hangs onto me, whether the crap is deep or not, my rock, my anchor. And back at them. Is possessive of me, to the point of lunacy to some people, but as I own, I expect to be owned.
Reaches out to me with their hopes, their dreams, how their day went. Expects to be pampered. I will serve a meal, clean up after and make sure the home is what a home should be.
Know that it isn't about *things* but more that everything is at an even keel. That even when outwardly I want to be left alone, that doesn't necessarily mean that's what I DO want. Come after me, just hold me and be still. Let me process things, let me bounce ideas off of you, give you my input, it's usually sound. Give over and let me take the wheel from time to time, literally and figuratively.

What went wrong when I was married? I would have to say in simplest terms he didn't know me very well at all. That he attacked every ideal I held dear, my parenting skills, everything about me. And like water on rock he wore me away. I lost myself, never any good.

I never truly felt safe, not emotionally, not physically. I always got the distinct feeling that if a burglar came to the house I'd be the one standing there like a warrior with a ball bat, not the other way around.
Communication got lost within layers of hurt, resentment built, and it came to the place where I got to the actual point of feeling relief when he'd go to work. He didn't value me, I rarely got affirmation for anything I did, certainly not for the person I am.

This is an ice cream moment. Definitely. 🙂 I'll go grab the Puffs too. Minus lotion, don't want anyones nose feeling greasy.

🙂

I can't thank you enough VB for baring your soul and giving such time & effort in your reply. Trying to be objective, I went through the checklist of do's and agree completely as this is how things are between us already. Something about being around him changes me. It's natural, not forced. I become more giving, affectionate, feminine and much more understanding and clued in to who he is even though he doesn't tell me what he wants. If I asked, he wouldn't really respond. So this is invaluable because Tauruses are not always vocal about their needs, especially a male. He seems to be happy but I want to be sure as I cherish him deeply and want nothing more than to make him happy.

Thanks katie for the congrats!

Oh Mistery, that is as it should be. I do wish you both every happiness. Goodness, now I need a tissue. In a good way. 🙂

Thank you for sharing that VB. You are an absolute doll.


And Mistery - I think you have got all this covered.
Blow that Taurus boy away with all your love!!!

Thank you ReallyNiceAries 🙂


*humming and bopping along to Dreamlover* 😄 Great pick cutie.

🙂 Such a joyous post.


The spelling error in the title made me giggle.

LOL I thought it quite apt really. 🙂

Congratulations 🙂

Posted by Amandus
🙂 Such a joyous post.


The spelling error in the title made me giggle.

*facepalm* Who knew one little i would make so much difference— 😛

Thanks ReallyNiceAriesPerson and Bella.

LOL I like it. 🙂

Posted by Amandus
🙂 Such a joyous post.


The spelling error in the title made me giggle.

Ha ha,I didn't even notice that! how adorably accurate 😉

Congrats Mistery 🙂

VB, now that is why we scorsagian's love Bulls. We can see that, without you telling us. Or at least I believe I speak for all of us. I swear as I was reading that I was thinking to myself 'I could easily love this person' haha.. but well sorry VB I don't swing that way.

LOL That's okay lady, neither do I. We are quite safe from one another.