Advice About Taurus Men

Hello all, I'm a virgin to the Taurus board. I used to give advice about Virgo men on their board, so now I've shifted over here and need a little help. So I'll make this short as possible. I became friends with a Taurus guy two years ago (I knew him from high school) and from day one we had great chemistry. We talked and chatted a lot on the phone and on facebook and etc. We were really getting to know each other and it was a mutual interest. We had one date at that time and it was wonderful! Flowers, opened my door, hugs, the whole nine yards. He was going through some things at the time,we lost contact and he deleted me from facebook.

Fast forward: Nine months ago he contacted me again (via facebook). We would chat the "hey how you doing" stuff once every few months, nothing more. Well, a few weeks ago we finally went out again and he mentioned that he was going through some things and hoped that I wasn't married, lol and he's working on some goals and etc. We flirt with each other on facebook, but for a while he states that he wants to link up again but it hasn't happened. I don't mind taking my time, and I don't want to rush anything. He is a great guy, a gentleman and kinda old fashioned...like me,lol. It's like one minute he seems interested and the next he trying to be all cool and standoffish. One thing I don't do is chase. Once in a blue moon I'll text hello and so does he. I just feel like he lost interest. From what I've stated, does it seem like it?

Hi, welcome to the Taurus board Dreamyeyes 🙂
Well, as we all know, while our sun sign is the most prominent, there are other aspects in our charts that we have to take into consideration too. So, from a Taurus sign perspective (this is a common question, so I apologize for repeating myself, as I've said this before), I am one of the Taurus folk who is apt to disappear when I am trying to handle/deal with anything. I don't prefer to divulge a lot of information to people, and I can go off the map too. BUT, what I think this may be is simply a guy thing. He may or may not be interested, but he's keeping his options open so that if/when he wants to see you, then there will have been some contact and maybe he thinks this will give him an "in" whenever he gets all of his stuff worked out. BUT, again, while I am one that prefers not to really quote books, this book completely resonated with me in a lot of places because it was straight talk, and it's "He's just not that in to you." In one chapter he discusses that if a man likes you, you don't have to wonder, ponder or question it, because he WILL be available and make himself accessbile - no matter WHAT is going on in his life. He cited some examples, but I won't go into them. Suffice to say, I believe that if a person (male or female) is interested in someone (even if they are shy) they WILL make it known in the best way they can that they are interested. Obviously, we are all human and things will vary, but more often than not if somebody likes you and is digging you, you'll know it, and yes, I've had ocassions when I questioned if somebody liked me or not, and I determined on my OWN, that they "just weren't that in to me." I wasn't mad, I just was able to move on quicker than most, since I wasn't spinning my wheels wondering if they were interested. Good luck, and hopefully others (some of our men folk *coughsTaurguycoughs *)will chime in.

Thank you for your input TaurusGal! Yea, I figured he's not really into me, he's just being friendly. I know guys are attentive and persistent when they want a woman and clearly this isn't the case, lol. I am a little crushed but I'll fall back and still be his friend.

Ugh. Friendzone. I think I am here too - at least I can keep you company!

Lol, hello AriesPerson. I didn't think anyone else would comment on this topic. But I take back what I said earlier. I can tell he's interested now. He's trying to open up a little bit more, but I think he wants to make sure that I'm fully interested in him. Well, I'm just gonna be honest and tell him that I'm interested in him and if he doesn't feel the same I'll back off. But the intensity is really starting to build. Both of us are cautious with making moves towards romance....by the way I'm a Pisces.

Oh wow. Intensity + Taurus. You are a lucky girl indeed.
If it is getting intense you are probably on the tight track.

I feel bulls are much like rams (or any animal)- be patient and kind and you will receive these gifts back 100-fold. Where I have a problem is that if an Aries thinks you are smoking hot they are likely to let you know. I am not sure how Pisceses ?Pisaceans? operate in the arena of romance.

A bull will stand back and look at you, put his head in the air, sniff the wind, take a half step towards you. Stop. Cock his head to the side. Paw the ground. Sniff. Take another step. Look around. Snort. Stretch his neck out towards you....this is all very flattering of course, but if you don't know whether he is looking for a short term grazing buddy or a paddock mate for life it gets a bit weird.
And let's face it - I am just a little ram...I got this big ole bu' staring at me and snorting and stuff and unless he scoops me up in his arms, throws me down in the straw behind the barn and starts showing me he is serious then I am just a ram getting snorted at and, well, what's the point of that?

@AriesPerson, Lol, I love the way you described the bull. Very funny! I can see that my bull is observing me. I can see his horns pointing towards me but he's looking for the "green light" (which I've already given him). I'm highly flirtatious when I'm interested in someone and he's been very flirtatious with me. The chemistry and heat is there! But I'm just being cautious just in case he's just being friendly....lol, but my gut feeling is telling me differently. 🙂

He seems a little flaky. You guys went out and had a great time, but he deletes you from his Facebook account? Then he suddenly reappears, stirs up your emotions, and stops contact with you again? That's an annoying male Taurus trait. You should also find out where his Venus and Mars are...that would help to get a better understanding of him since the Sun sign isn't all that's to a person's chart.

@houstonpeach Yea, he deleted me back in 2009. But I just sent him a message just now and told him flat out about his mixed messages and backing out on me. I told him that I'm interested in him and if he's not then just tell me so I go my own way. I'm tired of him planning things with me and backing out. But when he sees other dudes chatting with me on facebook he jumps right in. Well, I'm giving up on him, he's too wishy washy for me and we're too old for that. He treated me like a lady when we went out a couple of times and he is a very nice guy, but now I'm weary of him. Oh well, I give up! Lol

He's already hinted to you that he's had some personal issues going on in his life. It sounds like he's allowed those personal issues to hinder him from seeing where things go with you.

If this is the case, you have decide whether or not you're willing to continue waiting on him to finally get past whatever issues he's going through. That's a risk you may/may not want to take

On the flipside, you're right. A man whose truly into you will be consistent.

If you're feeling a sense of disconnect from him, listen to your guy

Sounds like you're prepared to & perfectly willing to walk away from him, but yet something about him is keeping you around. If you're not yet ready to fully let him go, that's fine but atleast take a step back emotionally until he can show you via his actions that he's truly interested in you

Come straight out & ask him. He probably has no clue how his actions (or lack thereof) are affecting you. And if he really cares, it'll hit him like a ton of bricks & he'll do all that he can to make sure that you don't feel left out or disconnected anymore. And if he doesn't care & continues to be inconsistent, welp there's your answer

*Listen to your GUT

@krysenee7 Thanks for your input. Another thing he kept he's been asking me to come to his house for some wine and food. We've talked me coming over but never made an official time. Plus I NEVER go to a man's house unless I am completely comfortable with him and I'm his woman. So now he knows how I feel about how he's been acting. He may reply back or he may not. Either way his actions will show what his intentions were.

well @dreamyeyes I am the same way---i'm a aries/tuarus cusp--pisces ascendant--and theres this one girl whos a pisces and she is super sweet,but when there is no communication i stop trying to go aftewr her...for what? i will never waste time with anyone so (yes right now i am trying to see if she is interested because if she isn't time could have been saved...(do Pisces women love to be chased?) thats something that would help..she plays impossible to get..t told her i like it but playing chase is easier said than done when you are thge one used to being chased.

Amen to Starfish. I'll be the first to say I love bulls. But we sometimes have to step back and realize that we're not just zodiac signs, we're people too.. and what do you really WANT in a relationship? What you allow is what you'll get.

Oh wow, I didn't think I'd get anymore replies. But thanks ladies, I've decided to leave him alone. I can't deal with wishy washy people regardless of their sign. I know some people think I'm impatient with love (which I am) but when I "feel it" for someone, I go for it. I just don't understand why he even contacted me again after a year if he wasn't ready to date. I know he was hurting about his ex at the time in 2009 and I can sense that he still is. But either way I refuse to wait for someone going thru a heartbreak, dating phobia or whatever. To me things like that is out of my hands and only they can over come those things. But as a Pisces, I always move on to whoever comes next; we're always looking for our true love. 🙂

@theineffablemind It's not that Pisces women liked to be chased, but we like it when a man is trying to pursue us. We do not chase! Most of us are pretty old fashioned in the dating department and would rather the man to make the moves. But if I may ask, how are you trying to see if she's interested? Have you told her? Being straightforward with her is best.