Are We Asking Too Much fo the Crabs?

I notice there are a lot of Cancer/Taurus relationships on the boards...I've also found that they're more off than on and when they're on there are intense feelings but many kinks. After consulting with close cancer friends, I find that it comes to a point where the Taurus is sayign "come to me come to me pleeeease" and the Cancer is saying "but I dont want to end up looking stupid"...can a Cancer ever overcome the fear to tkae the risk? Can Taurus some how help them reach this point?

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I think Taurus and Cancer is a wonderful match.

Currently I'm in a Cancer/Taurus relationship. I found in the beginning my Taurus was basically chasing me, calling all the time, being really affectionate and catering. Then when he got comfortable he pulled wayyy back. I was devastated and felt tricked, because half of the reason I decided to continue dating him was his easy laid back nature and his affection. But as time went on I see he's only laid back about certain things and this is not his general nature, he's very picky and critical about a lot of stuff. He was in a long term relationship that ended with his ex cheating and after 4 yrs of being single, I'm his first girlfriend afterward. I suspect some of what I'm going thru might be because of his ex cheating and he's leary of giving too much because he doesn't want to be rejected or feel like a fool if I change or it doesn't work out.

"I've also found that they're more off than on and when they're on there are intense feelings but many kinks."

Very True! I think that the kinks are mostly due because of the Cancer's battle to make everything in their lives perfect. If the relationship is great, finances may be an issue for them, or something else that may be going on at that time. So they deal with those other emotional things while trying to balance the relationship, and the Taurus person may feel neglected or may not be getting the full force of the Cancers affections. But once things are good with them overall... I don't think there would be much kinks. It's all about timing. If the timing is not right for the Cancer, the Taurus will suffer with unstableness.

"can a Cancer ever overcome the fear to tkae the risk?"

I highly doubt this. They will always be very cautious and will always question their current situation.

my two cents.... crabs love u tauruses immensely but there are times we question: reason being there are times when we fall short ...(who the hell doesnt) you either say nothing,hide something(fear of hurt or negative response)or just feel like giving up. We cancers are very persistant ,we will chase u until u say yes,lol.and yes we know u want us but there are times you dont display it. We want to settle with you and will be ready to commit once we know you are comfortable, safe and secure. We will sacrifice alot to ensure u happy. Hope u taurus understand. ANd i know u tauruse4s are spoilt,lol. Dont waorry we dont mind spoiling u time to time. BUt one thing i do notice u like persons who save for the future. Dats me.

thanks for all the feedback, its been helpful and insightful

"ANd i know u tauruse4s are spoilt,lol. Dont waorry we dont mind spoiling u time to time. BUt one thing i do notice u like persons who save for the future. Dats me."

Yes we can be spoilt and I know you Cancers love spoiling us... that's why we love you!

Saving for the future is very important. Stability and security a big turn on 😉

lol

reading this has hit a note with me.............my cancer/taurus relationship has ended it has been a friendship for atleast 4 years always with a sexual attraction just below the surface......adn when it started it was great.....it was shortly after spending a holiday together with friends and then getting back home and our busy working lives keeping us apart I started to freak out....I was unsure how she felt...and my fears came into the bedroom and cuased things to come far to quick an evening making me even more insecure to the point where then (now I can look back) I pushed and pushed her away in I guess an attempt to have her run back at me saying listen damnit I love you and then show me....it's all I wanted...but know I know I acted in a way that didnt show her in anyway I loved her and now she is gone.....I think more than often it's us cancers that screw it up...I should have commited to her like I now want to....atleast if she never takes me back I know how not to mess up another relationship with a taurus.....

anyway....I think it's us crabs not knowing what to do when we get what we really want.....and seemsmost taurians provide that in buckets and we dont trust that getting what we want is real