Are Taureans forgiving?

A question for you Taurus folk...I have been having a thing with a gorgeous Taurus guy,until my husband who I'm separated from heard and sent him an abusive, threatening email. Gorgeous Taurus was furious and told me he didn't date married women, so bye bye. The thing is I had told him my husband and I had effectively split but are still (until our house is sold) living together and he was OK with that. But as I've no way of knowing what my evil ex has said to him he probably thinks I've lied. What I'd like to know is how long will he stay furious and is it worth laying low for a while then getting in touch to tell him I didn't lie and hope he still wants me?
If so, what's the best way to do it? I know you guys dig your heels in when pushed so how should I go about it?

"Taurus was furious and told me he didn't date married women, so bye bye. The thing is I had told him my husband and I had effectively split but are still (until our house is sold) living together and he was OK with that."

1st of all I'm surprised he agreed to date you to begin with. Us Taurus folks are possessive & don't like to share. I'm a woman but I can tell you, I wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who was separated but still living with their spouse. I would find that person still off limits & view them as someone who had baggage they needed to deal with. As a Taurus, we tend to take our relationships serious, you won't find many of us involved in meaningless relationships.

As far as the original question goes...... I'm forgiving with those I have a connection/bond with. If someone who is new in my life introduces drama/problems early on, I have no problem letting them go because once I attach myself I don't let go easily & problems early on in a relationship are a indicator for me of more problems in the future I'd rather not deal with. We're pretty logical people so if you want to explain yourself, he'll probably listen & try to understand your point of view. If I were you, I'd write him a letter though, I think I tend to like things explained better in written form first so that I can go back over it & re-read, it helps me to understand better & then I'll ask the questions I have.

even if he does forgive you he will never forget and be suspicious of everything from here on out. even if it doesn't seem like it, he is

Thanks everyone...but guess what— He's just emailed me!! A bit of a cautious message telling me to sort myself asap, but ended saying I could keep in touch-and that's all the encouragement I need!!

"even if he does forgive you he will never forget and be suspicious of everything from here on out. even if it doesn't seem like it, he is"

I agree with c-man on that. Also, it takes a long time for me to get mad (at someone I have a relationship whether it be friend or lover); however, once I'm done, I'm done. It takes a LOT for me to give someone a second chance once I've cut them off.

So what do you make of him getting in touch then? Either he has realised it wasn't my fault and I didn't lie...or (and this is my favourite theory!) he's head over heels in love with me??!

How long have you been seeing eachother Sag?

sag16-
I am a Taurus and have dated a sagittarius, who is now my very good friend of 10+ years. The thing I like about this sign is that in general they are very, very truthful--almost to a point of sticking their foot in their mouths at times. But, Taurus's can be very forgiving if they really like you. In general they'll give you several times to mess up-if they think your worth it. I don't think you should wait too long to give your Taurus and explanation and a apology (even though it wasn't really your fault). If you are sincere and truthful he'll trust you. Taurus's are very slow to trust..you really have to show them you are trust worthy and loyal. If you smooth things over quickly..explain the situation calmly and logically he'll understand. In general, Taurus's don't like huge, dramatic scenes and over dramatization. Wrap it up quick and if he really likes you there is no cause to worry--he'll definitely be back---when a Taurus likes you thats it!

Sag16-probably both! Drama introduced early in a relationship with a Taurus is a sure thing to get them to say--"im not attached, what do I need this for" and they'll walk away without a second look back--just cut you off. But, if he realized you just hadn't been clear about your situation (not trying to lie or hide it)and that you had no control of the e-mail buisness, and he really likes you---He'll stay--that's forsure! It takes alot more than a silly miscommunication for a Taurus to stop pursuiting a relationship with someone they feel they may have a real connection with or true love for that matter--since true love (besides luxury and comfort) are tops in the pursuit of happiness in the life of a Taurus. They are patient and persistant though and are willing to wait for the one that in their eyes is the prize. (They don't just fall for anybody--so you must be really special--don't worry--he'll forgive)

Im extremely forgiving...but just because I forgive you doesnt mean I'll ever deal with you again...depends on the offense

CanTaur, we have only been seeing each other a couple of weeks but but he had already told me he thought he was falling for me and that he wanted a proper relationship with me. He is quite easy-going but when he said he didn't want to see me any more I really thought that was it, so I was thrilled when he got in touch again. As far as me being honest-I am a typical Sag in that respect and made a huge point of telling him about my circumstances so I think he must have realised just how honest and sincere I was. Just as well as it turns out! I know we aren't supposed to be a great match but sparks fly and he is just sooooooooooo sexy!!

Yeah, if the offense is bad enough, even if you truly love someone and care about them, you just have to accept that things aren't right between you two and move on.

As far as your situation is though, it doesn't seem that bad. Sucks to not know what your ex-husband said to him though. Probably planted a seed of distrust and now after having taken so many steps forward with this Taurus, that text he got probably made him take just as many steps backward and a few more.

You'll probably be starting over from the beginning with his ability to trust and open up to you and then some but at least you two already know each other to a certain level which is probably the hardest part (at least for me since I'm not very sociable and approach new people).

Well I have to say, the fact that he made contact at all is a good sign, however I wouldn't be getting excited & thinking he's falling in love with you just yet. His contacting you is good because it means he's at least open to hearing what you have to say BUT you have to admit Sag that you have ALOT going on in your life right now. You have some parts of your past life with your spouse that are still open. He sees this too.

Like I said before, Taurus tend to take relationships serious so all of this other stuff you have going on is going to keep him at bay. There is no way a Taurus would allow themselves to fall in love with someone who has this kind of thing going on. We are too logical for that & at the beginning are VERY skittish. All for a reason.... When we attach ourselves to you, dig our heels in, whatever you choose to call it.....we hang on for dear life, we don't move.

So this situation isn't hopeless, I'm not saying that but after only a few weeks & some drama from your husband....he's not in love with you, we don't move that fast.

CanTaur I agree--We are very logical most of the time/and like you said even "skittish" in the beginning--but in most cases not when it comes to matters of the heart. Our senses can cloud our nomally logical judgement and we can sometimes fall head over heals very quickly. I would say if you play your cards just right..(show him you really like him, your loyal, affectionate, yet you can be a friend to have fun with but not smother him, and most of all have a good sense of humor) he'll be yours--even if its not immediately (he may wait for all the drama to settle down). But, Taurus's can quickly sense if a relationship is not worth the outcome and then their outta there, VOILA, POOF, THEIR GONE! With out a second look back/or a second thought about it.

"and like you said even "skittish" in the beginning--but in most cases not when it comes to matters of the heart. Our senses can cloud our nomally logical judgement and we can sometimes fall head over heals very quickly."

I agree with this Wagner but for me I have a tendency to waver back & forth, even though my feelings may be strong because I don't want to invest in something superficial, I have a Gem moon so maybe that why I do that but I will ride the fence for awhile when it comes to romantic relationships until I'm certain it's a good decision.

Hey CanTaur!! I have a Gemini Moon too--how bout that! I have a book that describes us so acurately I could just cry--(or laugh!). Anyway-I'll have to dig it up among the dozens of other astrology books I have acumulated over the years--but, I do remember it saying something specifically that Taurus w/a Gemini moon can be described as QUICK-SLOW-QUICK-SLOW. It has a dead on description. I'll have to share it w/you sometime. Anyway, I am a Double Taurus (my sun sign & Acendent are in Taurus) So with so much Venus in me I guess I had better speak for myself in that even though my logic keeps me in check most of the time--once I fall (can happend at lightning speeds sometimes), unfortunately, my emotions overide my logic. I knew this Taurus guy who met this girl and he was way into her right off the bat. They started dating and by like the 3rd week she had already given him crabs. Ok, she said she got them from a toilet seat--but come on--I don't know bout that one--she was kinda the wild type. Anyway, whether he believed her or not (nobody else did--but he could have cared less) he stayed with her. Now their married and living in the country with 3 kids. So, you see even though all his friends thought his girlfriend was supect--he didn't give a damn cuz his emotions had already overidden his logic.

Hey Wagner! Another Bull with a Gem moon, Cool 🙂
"Taurus w/a Gemini moon can be described as QUICK-SLOW-QUICK-SLOW. It has a dead on description. I'll have to share it w/you sometime." LOL this is soooo me! Yeah when you get the time I'd like to hear more.

"So, you see even though all his friends thought his girlfriend was supect--he didn't give a damn cuz his emotions had already overidden his logic."
This is also me 🙂 I'm currently with a Scorp guy & I don't think he has a lot of fans in my circle of friends & family but.....do you think I care? LOL and they all know not to go too far with the judgements because not only do I not want to hear it but I'm protective of the things I care about & I will rip your head off if you go too far with the insults 🙂So I think they've all learned to just let me do my thing.

Thanks for the info Wagner

Hell yes we do. I forgive but never forget.

Don't get me wrong though, I don't sit there and not forget so I can scheme at ways to get back at you.

We either move on completely and no longer care or we forgive but you gotta re-earn that trust.

True. I don't sit around plotting revenge...I simply move on as you are "deadtome." I think for a lot of Taureans we take awhile to get to know someone and once we do and love/trust you, we allow a LOT of leeway and can be very forgiving; however, if we see a lack of respect (continually) or simply the relationship is not going anywhere and we KNOW that, then we move on. If you cross us, it's never a good thing. Many misconstrue our relatively laid back nature as being weak, but soon they find out how mistaken they are, as Taurus are anything but weak.

So what you are all saying is, I think, the fact that he has "forgiven" me stands me in good stead? His latest is that he has said he has family problems, there is nobody else but he needs time to get sorted out. What do you make of that? I've told him as a Sag I like the truth...but I don't think he's giving it to me!

I don't think he's lying about family problems; however, it appears he needs time to sort this out, so this is a way to get some distance and sort things out without making any firm committments either way.

Hmm... can't really tell you anything for certain cause all people are different, but if that's what he says, that's all you have to go by.

Just give him time. If you want, I don't see the harm in texting him or something now and then just to say what's up and see how he's doing.

When he told me to sort myself out he told me to keep in touch, so I have, but got no reply to my emails. I got fed up (and making sure I kept it light and didn't try to push him) I sent a jokey email asking "Are you there?"! That was when he mentioned his family problems, but also said he'd enjoyed my emails and they'd cheered him up. He said he needed time to sort himself out and couldn't contemplate anything at the moment and there was nobody else on the horizon.
Is it just me?? I am fed up of him not replying but it's hard as I on't really understand what he is sorting out. Having input from you Taureans makes me realise that he probably got a bit spooked at how quickly he seemed to be falling for me and coupled with my psycho ex, it's probably enough to make him want to wait a while. But it's driving MAD!!! I want it sorted out now!!!

"The reason I split up with my girlfriend is because she was seeing her ex-boyfriends and they woudld text her. I realised that they were only friends, but I could not help myself to think at some stage their hads were over my girlfriend's body and they had sex with her... I could not cope with that "

I think it kinds of sends a message ...when Taurus has you - and maybe not even Taurus but other guys too ... they want you to be theirs and theirs only."

Nope not just guys 🙂 Ladies too, I'm like this as well, I want to know but I don't want to know & I don't want to think about it BUT I can't help but think about it & the only explanation I can come up with is that in some crazy ass way, The jealousy pisses me off & turns me on all at the same time 🙂 I know it sounds crazy....try living it! LOL

I won't speak for all Taurus peoples but I'm very, very much possessive. Which is why I said earlier on in the thread, I wouldn't give a second look to someone who was still living with their ex, I couldn't handle it, The jealousy & possession would eat me alive & cause wayyyyy to much drama for myself. Nope if your going to be with me......your going to be COMPLETELY with me. I do not share well with others 🙂

Yea, why go through the effort of putting in all the work for a relationship with someone (cause relationships are work, they don't just come effortlessly) when someone else gets some of the benefits of a relationship from that person for free?

Makes you feel stupid like, why shouldn't you be the one getting the "benefits" without the effort? If that makes any sense.

I have no desire to share with others either.

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LOL food helps just make sure it's ALL for ME. 🙂 I don't share food either, don't even THINK about reaching onto my plate to grab a french fry......I will bite your hand off! LOL wanna see the look of a killer? Try helping yourself to my food, I get vicious haha