Taurus and Affection??

Can anyone tell me about a Taurus being affectionate? I'm in a relationship with one and we've been dating 8 months and we're temporarily living together. The first 2 months he was very affectionate, held my hand and pulled me close when we were out. After the third month he completely stopped when I brought it up he said he backed off partly because I was pressuring him for a relationship and that being affectionate is not truly him. Part of the reason he did it was because he knew that's what I liked, we're officially in a relationship now and I've mentioned it several times that it bothers me that he isn't affectionate like he was in the beginning, his only response is things change. I heard some Taurus males aren't affectionate and are very slow to express their feelings. I just don't understand why the change and stop so early on..

As a Cancer I feel if you care for someone and you know something small like holding their hand makes them feel special why not do it? even if its every once in awhile. I guess this is where the inflexibility comes into play or is it he's losing interest because we're officially together?I feel like we're going backwards in our relationship, he was more open and laid back the first few months, now he seems more critical and blunt in the things he says. Any thoughts?

That is kind of strange for his sudden change. Did you guys have a rocky 2 months? Maybe he has uncertainty about the relationship. Otherwise, he could just be comfortable, thinking that he doesn't need to woo you anymore, leading to laziness.

I think I can get like this sometimes, and I am with a Cancer that craves constant affection. He has to call me out on it for me to actually realise that I am not being consistent with him. The only reason I am like this is because of comfort and laziness. If I feel like I have reached my comfort zone, I don't find the need work so hard. Sounds weird but we bulls are lazy and with you cancers noticing indifference it can cause conflict, with you feeling neglected and unloved and we feeling pressured.

It's not that I don't love him as much as I did before, or that I fell out of love with him, it just that I am so dayum lazy sometimes. The only time that I would turn up the notch is when he backs off or I feel threatened. But the more my guy brings it to my attention the better am doing. I try to make the extra effort of not being too lazy.

Talk to him about it... go into your shell and allow him to pursue you. I find that when I spend too much time with my cancer, I tend to slack off on the affection. But when he withdraws I try to make it up to him. You know the term distance makes the heart fonder.

Good Luck! Cancer and Taurus is a good match, especially the crab girl and bull guy combo.

He is holding back no doubt, maybe cos you wan't deeper intimacy > otherwise Taurus is ordinarily very touch touchy the sign loves to touch.

A72, I think he's just gone into his comfort zone. Happens with the tauruses I've dealt with. Also sounds like a guy who's very comfortable - shake things up a little maybe.

I don't like PDA, but in private I'll be all over the person I'm with 🙂. I dated a Cancer in college and he was VERY touchy feely anywhere, and it drove be batty. I was always swotting him away. It was too much for me, but some people like that, just not me. But I agree with the others, let him know how you feel and that you feel that you're relationship is going backwards and you want to nip it in the bud now.

"Me" batty. Typing too fast!

I don't know any Taurus men who are not affectionate.

Thanks everyone, I guess my issue is I'm a creature of habit. I'm affectionate but because he started off overly affectionate even in public I expect it, not all the time but at least once in awhile. If he would have never started it I would'nt have an issue. He does cuddle with me at night and lay on me while we're watching tv. But in public its almost like he changes, he has a wandering eye which he never did the first 2 months, it's like he has to check out every girl that walks by, I brought it to his attention and he has toned it down but he still does it. I watched very closely in the beginning and he definitely didn't do this. When we first met I told him I really didn't want a relationship just someone to hang out with to go to the movies with, maybe the thrill of the chase is what made him behave the way he did.

In the beginning I felt overwhelmed, he called me 3-4 times a day and I wasn't use to this type of a behavior and I felt smothered. I felt if I'm giving you this much of me, you need to give me something and I pressed for a relationship. Strange I know? He said that was partly why he changed with the affection yet he still pursued me with the constant calls and wanting to see me every weekend he just backed off on the affection. He did mention he had similar situations with other women he's date where he started off with holding hands and then backed off. It's hard to go in my shell now because we're staying together for another month. I'm really starting to lose interest, as a Cancer I put so much in emotionally, I make his lunch for him and a breakfast sandwich the night before he goes to work. I just feel like we're going in opposite directions, me putting in all the work and him just doing nothing. It makes me kind of bitter because when we first met I could tell he was a little shy but I really thought his behavior was truly who he was and not something he was doing to impress me. I've mentioned it to him a few times and his only answer is things change, things don't always stay the same.. I'm 36 and he's 34 and I just feel like what you start in the beginning you need to continue. The fact that we've had the discussion about him backing off and he still has made no effort to make an adjustment, shows me his stubborn side because if someone told me certain small things made them feel special and it wasn't too much of an inconvenience I'd do it without batting an eye. I hate to sound like such a whiner about having my hand held bu

I'm a Taurus with a Taurus ex & he was only affectionate when he wanted sex 🙂 NEVER was he affectionate in public. The public lack of affection never really botherd me but a little affection at home without expecting sex in return would have been nice!

As for the wondering eye........ I dunno maybe it's just me but, that kinda thing never botherd me as long as he kept his hands to himself. He's in a relationship, he hasn't lost his eyesight. We are all human & I couldn't see expecting someone to never notice the attractiveness of the opposite sex JUST because they're in a relationship. To me that's a little unrealistic. I'm in a relationship & if I see a attractive man, I do notice but I don't act on it.

ALL..... If he's still being affectionate at home then he's just grown comfortable with you, we all put are best foot forward in the beginning don't we? Having said that, If your not happy in your relationship & there are things that you've expressed to him that he's not willing to compromise then I wouldn't stick around hoping for change. Relationships aren't suppose to make you feel bad

CanTaur I understand what you mean, I have a girlfriend that was married to a Taurus for 18 years, she said he never was affectionate even at home and took forever to tell her he loved her even after they were married. It was only when he realized the marriage was in jeopardy did he completely change but it was too late, she had lost her feelings for him, they have other issues as well but his focus was always on bills and finances. As for the wandering eye, I guess acknowledging an attractive women with a casual look I think is normal, however my T will look at every woman that is shaped half way decent with a head movement from head to toe. To me that's disrespectful, I can check out a an attractive man within seconds and have my attention back with him before he even realizes I looked I think it's a respect thing. Again I think it's a comfort thing, I watched closely and he never did this early on, I think that's partly the reason woman cheat ( though I would never) they feel taken advantage of or unappreciative. With it being so early in the relationship, I just think you need to make sure you are planted firmly before you fall back in a relationship. The funny thing is when I go in my shell and ignore his calls thru out the day he'll call repeatedly like as though I couldn't be busy or if he's thinking either I'm ignoring him or with someone else. I just don't get it.

As for putting the best foot forward, I think that may be true with exterior things like keeping my hair done or my makeup on. But I usually don't give much in the beginning until I feel a person out, this way if they are not sincere I don't feel like I gave too much. That's what irks me with him because as I got to know him I gave more and more, as he got to know me he gave less and less which to me is backwards.

"his focus was always on bills and finances"

Can't blame the guy. Providing a stable and secure home and life is very important to a Taurus.

If the guy gave her a lot of affection and stuff but never took care of the bills she'd probably be complaining about the bills and not care for his affection lol.